Inye kuphela Inkqubo yokubuyisa gadalala uyakuze ufune.
Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi.
Wenzakaliswe ngumnxibelelanisi kwaye ufuna ukubalimaza. Iyaqondakala loo nto.
Ufuna ukuguqula iitafile kwaye uzibethe kumdlalo wabo. Ufuna ukubacaphukisa, ufumane ukuziphindezela kwakho, kwaye ubaphule njengoko bezama ukukuphula.
Okanye mhlawumbi ubukele njengokuba i-narcissist ilawule kwaye yaxhaphaza omnye wabahlobo bakho okanye obathandayo kwaye unqwenela ukubatshabalalisa kwaye ubagxothe.
Iyaqondakala loo nto.
Umnqweno wokulungisa izinto ezingalunganga ezenziwe kuwe okanye kumntu omkhathaleleyo uhlala evakalelwa kakhulu. Ufuna ukwenza isitya sakho ngekarma.
Kodwa linda.
Ungathini ukuba ndithe ndakuxelela ukuba naziphi na iinzame zokuphumeza ubulungisa bakho zinokubuyela umva?
Ngenxa yokuba lo mngcipheko owuthathayo xa uzama ukwenzakalisa i-narcissist. Uba semngciphekweni wokuphela kwenzakala nawe.
Ukudlala kwizandla zeNarcissist
AbakwaNarcissist bathanda umlo kwaye inkwenkwe bayalwa imdaka.
Ukuba uyazithatha, kungcono ulungiselele ukuba yonke into iphoswe kuwe.
Amathuba okuba baya kukhupha ulwazi oluninzi kuwe okanye malunga nawe malunga nolwalamano lwakho (nokuba nibe nithandana, niyintsapho, nisebenza kunye, okanye niyazana ngenye indlela).
Kwaye ukuba abazi nto ngawe, aboyiki balala ngamazinyo abo ukuba iyabanceda ukubetha.
Baza kusebenzisa olu lwazi, okanye 'inyani' yabo yokuqhekeza ukuvula amanxeba osenokuba ubuzama ukuwaphilisa.
Baza kuyisebenzisa ukuzikhusela kulo naluphi na uhlaselo onokuthi ulunyuse. Bayakukhanyela into oyithethayo, bayinyelise ingxelo yakho, kwaye bahlwayele amathandabuzo ezingqondweni zabantu besithathu.
uya kubuya nini uFinor balor
Ngapha koko, ii-narcissists zikulungele ukuphatha abantu, banokuphumelela abanye babahlobo bakho kunye nabadibaniselwano kwaye babajike babe iinkawu eziphaphazelayo eza kukuhlasela.
Baza kudlala ixhoba ukuba kufuneka njalo. Bazokwenza kubonakale ngathi nguwe onengxaki nguwe oziphethe ngendlela enetyhefu kwaye eyenzakalisayo.
Ngaphezulu, i-narcissist iya kuyonwabela yonke loo nto kuba, entlokweni yabo ejijekileyo nejijekileyo, bayayonwabela imbambano. Ibazisa ebomini kwaye ibanike imvakalelo yenjongo kunye namandla.
Ke xa uzama ukukhupha i-narcissist, uyabondla. Uba yinxalenye yomdlalo wabo.
Ngokwenza njalo, i-narcissist iziva ichanekile kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo nakwindlela abakunyanga ngayo nakwabanye. Ibaxelela ukuba, ngokuziphatha ngendlela abenza ngayo, baya kuqhubeka nokufumana ukubonelelwa nge-narcissistic.
Intlungu yabo iyakubangela ukuba Wonzakalise wena
Ngaphambi kokuba uqalise uhambo lokuziphindezela, gumba amangcwaba amabini. - UConfucius
Ukwandiswa kwezi ngongoma zingasentla, ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuthatha i-narcissist kwi-bid ethile yokubenzakalisa, lungela ukujongana nokwenzakala okwakho.
Ewe ungaphumelela ekufuneni uhlobo oluthile lokuziphindezela kubo ngokuhlasela i-ego yabo kwaye ubathathe isikhonkwane okanye ezimbini, kodwa baya kukubetha okwabo.
Xa benzakele, baya kubhabha bangene Ingqumbo ndize kuni nonke ninemipu.
Ngaba ukulungele oko? Ngaba ucinga ukuba unokumelana nengqumbo yabo?
Okungakumbi kwinqanaba, kutheni ungafuna? Kukunceda ngantoni ukuzibeka esichengeni?
Ingcebiso yam: bayeke kakuhle.
Sele bengabantu abenzakeleyo ngokweemvakalelo abaphethwe ziidemon zabo. Ukuziva ungaphantsi, ukungazithembi kunye nokuzithemba kuxhaphakile kwi-narcissist (nokuba awufane uyibone).
Ngelixa ungafuneki velana nabo , unokuba nemfesane kwaye uyeke ukongeza kwintlungu yomphefumlo wabo.
Ukuzibandakanya kwakhona sisiCwangciso esiNobungozi
Ukuba nguwe owakha wonzakaliswa ngumnxibelelanisi, uthathe isigqibo sokuphinda ubabandakanye ukuze ubatshabalalise ngumzamo oyingozi wokuthetha okuncinci.
Amathuba okuba usenokonakala ngokwasemphefumlweni nasengqondweni emva kokubandezeleka Ukuphathwa gadalala .
Ingozi kukuba uya kuphinda udibaniswe nabo ixesha elide kunokuba unqwenela.
Ufuna ukungena, wenze into efanelekileyo (emehlweni akho) yokuziphindezela, kwaye uphume. I-smash kunye ne-mission yokuzibamba ukuze uzive ungcono (nokuba awunakukwazi, esiza kuza kuwo ngomzuzwana).
Kodwa i-narcissist izakuzama ukukurhola ubuyele ebomini babo ngokusisigxina.
Abayi kuma nje kwaye bajonge njengoko ubuya umva emva kokwenza uhlaselo lwakho baya kukulandela ukuze uqalise ukuhlaselwa esele sithethile ngako.
Ukuba awulumkanga, uya kuzifumanisa ubandakanyeka kwimfazwe ye-tit-for-tat, enokuqhubeka kwaye ingapheli.
Ngaba yile nto uyifunayo?
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Uyiyeka njani iNarcissist + yokuKopa kwiindlela zokuya phambili
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Awuyi kuziva ulunge ngayo
Ukuba uchitha ixesha lakho unethemba lokuba umntu uza kuva ubunzima ngenxa yezinto azenzileyo entliziyweni yakho, ke uyamvumela ukuba akwenzakalise okwesibini engqondweni yakho. -U-Shannon L. Alder
Ukwenzakalisa i-narcissist ebenze ubomi bakho baba sisihogo esiphilayo kunokuvakala ngathi ngumbono olungileyo entlokweni yakho, kodwa akunakulindeleka ukuba uzise uxolo olunqwenelayo.
Unokuziva wanelisekile, kodwa mhlawumbi kungabi njengoko ubunethemba, kwaye ayizukuhlala ixesha elide njengoko ungathanda. Ukuziphindezela kunokuba mnandi okwexeshana, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuphela kokungcamla okukrakra.
Inxalenye yesizathu sokuba kungenxa yokuba izenzo zakho zisanyanzeliswa ngumnxibelelanisi. I-vendetta yakho iqhutywa yintlungu ove kuyo yabo hands, okuthetha ukuba usa, ngandlela thile, ulawulwa ngu kubo .
indlela yokujongana nokuphoxeka kubudlelwane
Iimvakalelo zakho zomsindo kunye nenzondo ziya kuhlala zide zide zibandakanyeke ngokwengqondo kunye nabo. Impindezelo yakho ithanda kuphela amadangatye eemvakalelo zakho ezigwenxa.
Inkqubo yakho yokuphilisa iya kugxuma kwaye iphinde ibuye umva xa uzama ukutshabalalisa i-narcissist kwixa elidlulileyo.
Ukuziphindezela YiDish eyona nto ayenziwanga kwaphela
Ke unokwenza ntoni ukuba ufuna ukwenzakalisa i-narcissist ngaphandle kokubanjwa kwakhona kumdlalo wabo?
Uhlala ngokucacileyo kubo-ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo.
Uphila ubomi bakho kwaye ubenze obonwabisayo.
Ngokurhoxisa ukubonelelwa nge-narcissistic kubo, unokubenza babandezeleke, okwexeshana ngelixa belungelelanisa umthombo / ixhoba labo elilandelayo.
Yimpumelelo encinci ngengqondo yokuba ibangele iintlungu zengqondo ye-narcissist, kodwa kukuphumelela okukhulu ngengqondo yokukhululeka kwimpembelelo yabo eyityhefu.
Inkqubo ye- Eyona ndlela yokujongana narcissist kukuya kunxibelelana. Akukho mathandabuzo malunga noku.
Sika onke amaqhina, ulibale ngokuzibuyisela kuwo, kwaye uqhubeke nobomi bakho.
Okanye, ukuba awunakukhetha ngaphandle kokunxibelelana nalo narcissist ngesizathu esithile, unokukhetha Indlela yeGrey Rock , ikwayindlela esebenzayo yokugcina umgama weemvakalelo phakathi kwenu nobabini.
Umjelo waMandla kuNyango lwakho
Eyona mpindezelo kukuphila kakuhle. - UGeorge Herbert
Ukuba ubambelele kumnqweno othile wokophula i-narcissist ezantsi kwaye ubabone besokola, amandla axabisekileyo ojolise kuwo komnye umntu.
Uthatha amandla akho, uwucoca ngokungakhathali, kwaye uwuthumele emhlabeni. Ukuba uyakwenza oku, kunokwenzeka ukuba kuya kuzisa iziphumo ezibi kuwe.
Endaweni yoko, ukuba uthatha la mandla, uwapeyinte ngokuzithemba, kwaye uyithumele emhlabeni, uya kuvuzwa ngezinto ezintle ngokubuyisela.
Ukuphiliswa kuphatho gadalala ifuna umsebenzi, umgudu kunye nenkxaso. Kuya kuthatha ixesha elide (okanye ayizukwenzeka kwaphela), ukuba ubuyisela amandla akho emva kwi-narcissist eyakukhathaza.
Ngaba iyavakala loo nto?
Ilizwi lokugqibela malunga nokulimaza amaNarcissist
Eyona mpindezelo yeyokungafani nalowo wenzakeleyo. -UMarcus Aurelius
Kunokuba nzima ngenene ukwahlukana ne-narcissist kwaye uzibone zihamba ngaphandle kokuziva zintlungu.
Ngenxa yakho konke okhe wadlula kuko, ukuziva ngathi 'bakubalekile' kukulimala kokugqibela abaza kukwenza kona (ucinga ukuba eli nqaku likuqinisekisile ukuba UNGAZAMI ukuziphindezela).
Kodwa kukho intwana yokuthuthuzeleka enokufunyanwa koku nangona kunjalo: ngelixa behamba bemka njengalowo ujijekileyo, umntu ongonwabanga, wena, ngokusinda kwintuthumbo yabo, usendleleni eya kubomi obungcono.
Akunakulindeleka ukuba i-narcissist iyakuze ikwazi ukuziphilisa ngokwabo kwaye ikhule ngaphaya komntu abaqhutywa yiloo nto.
Kodwa iintlungu zakho azikho ngaphaya kokuphilisa. Usenokungabuyeli ekubeni ngulomntu wawunguye ngaphambi kokuba udibane ne-narcissist yakho (uthatha ukuba awukhuliswanga yenye), kodwa unamandla kunye neendlela zokukhula ube ngumntu omtsha.
Okokugqibela, yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenzakalisa i-narcissist-ngokususa yonke imikhondo yokuxhatshazwa kwabo kuwe, ngokuba luhlobo lomntu abangenakuba lulo.
Hamba ngoxolo.
Jonga oku ikhosi ekwi-intanethi yenzelwe ukunceda umntu Philisa kuphatho gadalala .
Cofa apha ukuze ufunde ngakumbi.
Eli phepha linamalungu onxibelelwano. Ndifumana ikhomishini encinci ukuba ukhetha ukuthenga nantoni na emva kokucofa kuyo.
