Ngokuchanekileyo INDLELA YOKUTHEMBELA Omnye umntu kwakhona: Iindlela ezili-10 zokuFunda ukuthemba abantu

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Wonke umntu ukhe weva iintlungu kwaye wonzakala ngaxa lithile ebomini bakhe. Sonke siziva ngathi ukuthembela kwethu kuyekisiwe, kwaye siyazibuza ukuba singaze sikwazi ukuthembana kwakhona.



Amava anokuba buhlungu kakhulu, kwaye iimvakalelo ziqheleke ngokupheleleyo.

Usoyika ukuthemba kwakhona ngenxa yokoyika iintlungu ezizayo. Iyavakala….



Ukungcatsha ngumntu omthandayo uzisa ezinye zeyona ntlungu zinamandla onokucinga ngazo.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuthembana sisiseko sabo bonke ubudlelwane obunentsingiselo, kwaye awungekhe utsiba nje.

Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba wena unako thembela kwakhona.

Kodwa…

Inyaniso elusizi kukuba unokuphinda wenzakele ngenye imini.

Ukuthemba isigqibo omele usenze usazi ukuba akusayi kubakho siqinisekiso sokuba awuzukuziva ngale ndlela kwakhona kwikamva.

Ke, unale nto engqondweni, ungabuza ukuba ungafunda njani ukuthembela komnye umntu kwakhona?

Ilula. Kuneke u yenza ukhetho utsibe ubuye ungene. Kuya kufuneka uyeke ukhuseleko lwakho kwaye uyeke uloyiko.

Akululanga, kwaye ngekhe kwenzeke ngobusuku obunye. Kuya kufuneka usebenze kuyo.

Nazi ezinye iingcebiso onokuzilandela ukukunceda ukhethe ukuthembela kwakhona emva kwamava abuhlungu.

1. Bamkele ukuba sesichengeni

Ukuba sesichengeni yenye yezona zinto unamandla kuzo.

Njengabantu, sihlala sikholelwa ukuba sibeka emngciphekweni kakhulu ngokuzibeka phaya kwaye sibe sesichengeni, kodwa okwahlukileyo kuyinyani.

Ukuba awuzibeki phaya ngaphandle kwaye uthathe umngcipheko, ugcina ulahlekile kakhulu. Ubomi bumdaka, kodwa kufuneka bube njalo ukuze ubulungele ukuphila.

Ukwakha iindonga zokuzikhusela ukufihla ngasemva-ukuthetha ngokweemvakalelo-kunokuvakala ngathi ngumbono olungileyo, kodwa ezo ndonga azicaluli phakathi kweemvakalelo ezilungileyo nezingalunganga.

Ubomi obuqinisekisiweyo ukuba bukhululekile ekungcatshweni buqinisekisiwe ukuba bukhululekile eluthandweni. Uthando ngu ukhetha ukuthemba umntu ngentliziyo yakho.

Unokuziqhelanisa nokubonisa ukuba sesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo kwindawo ekhuselekileyo. Thetha nelungu elisondeleyo losapho okanye umhlobo olungileyo kwaye uvuleleke kubo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.

Unokubathemba ngokungagungqiyo, kodwa isenzo sokuvula sibonisa oku ngendlela yokwenyani kwaye yomeleza inkolelo engqondweni yakho yokuba ukuthembela kuyinto elungileyo.

Mbini. Funda ukuzithemba

Ukuze uthembe omnye umntu, kufuneka uzithembe kuqala. Thembela kwisigwebo sakho kunye nokukwazi ukwenza ukhetho olulungileyo.

Kungenxa yokuba umntu omthandayo wakukhathaza, oko akuthethi ukuba ugweba gwenxa, okanye wenze impazamo ngokumngenisa.

Ithuku lakho linamandla, kwaye akufuneki uzithandabuze ngokwakho ngokusekwe kula mava. Naka ingqalelo yakho kwaye uzithembe namhlanje, ngomso, yonke imihla.

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Umsebenzi olungileyo ukuzama ukuba ufuna ukwakha ukuthembana ngokwakho kukujonga zonke izigqibo ozenzileyo ezibe neziphumo ezilungileyo.

Qala ngokukhetha kwakho ukuphelisa izinto nomntu owakwaphule ukuthembela kwakho. Ukuba ubusazi ukuba awusoze uphinde ubathembe kwakhona, ukushiya ubudlelwane ngokuqinisekileyo yayisisigqibo esifanelekileyo sokwenza.

Kwaye jonga ubomi bakho obanzi kunye nazo zonke izinto ezihamba kakuhle kuwo. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kwenza ukhetho olukhulu oluneziphumo ezilungileyo.

Ukhetho olufanelekileyo lwezezimali, ukhetho olufanelekileyo lomsebenzi, ukhetho olululo lwempilo, ukhetho oluhle lobuhlobo-yenza uluhlu kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba zomelele kangakanani iimvakalelo zakho.

3. Khetha ukuxolela

Uxolelo lubalulekile. Akunakukhetha ukuba uxolele umntu okuhlukumezayo (nangona oko kunokuba yonyango), kodwa ubuncinci uzixolele .

Yindalo ukuzibekek 'ityala ngokuvumela umntu ukuba akwenzakalise. Unokucinga ukuba wawuyisidenge ukuyivumela okanye ngewawazi ngcono.

Khumbula ukuba ube nesibindi Zivulele ukuba sesichengeni ekuqaleni. Awunatyala ngezenzo zomnye umntu.

Wenze ngeenjongo ezilungileyo. Ubambe ukuphela kwakho kobudlelwane bempikiswano.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, usenokungavumelani neqabane lakho kwaye ubenomsindo ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa ubungafanelanga ukuba ukuthembana kwakho kuphulwe.

Alukho ulwalamano olufezekileyo. Wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukwenza eyakho isebenze. Musa ukuzixelela ngenye indlela.

Zixolele.

4. Vumela ixesha lokuba buhlungu

Ewe, ukwenzakaliswa ngumntu kufuna ukuba uqhubeke nayo yonke inkqubo ebuhlungu.

Ulusizi ubudlelwane obenabo naloo mntu. Umenza buhlungu umntu obucinga ukuba uyamazi, kodwa wajika waba ngumntu owahlukileyo.

Uyabukhathaza ubomi obunabo kunye nobomi obucinga ukuba uya kuba nabo kwikamva.

Ukuba buhlungu kubandakanya oku kulandelayo Izigaba ezi-5 : ukukhanyela, umsindo, ukuxoxisana, ukudakumba, kunye nokwamkelwa ekugqibeleni.

Sukulwa naliphi na kula manqanaba njengoko eyindalo kwaye ebalulekile.

5. Musa ukuqhubeka uzibhalela ukuba uliXhoba

Kulula kakhulu ukuba uzive ungalunganga ngenxa yokwenzakala. Ngelixa ungadinga usuku okanye ezimbini ukuze uhlale ebhedini usitya i-ayiskhrim kwaye ukhalela kumabali othando alusizi kumabonwakude, zama ukusonga ngokukhawuleza.

Ayizukukunceda ugqibe iintlungu.

Ungazivumeli ukuba uziqhekeze kulwamvila lokungcatshwa. Ukuba ujolise ngokupheleleyo ekugxekeni umntu obandakanyekayo, uzenza ixhoba.

Kwaye, ewe, banokuba benze ngeendlela zokukwenzakalisa kwaye baphule ukuthembela kwakho, kodwa kuko konke oku kubo - ayinguwe.

Awungo yabo ixhoba. Awungo i ixhoba. Awungo ukuya ixhoba.

Ukuba uyayivumela, imeko yexhoba inokungena kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho. Inokubangela ungazithembi kwaye uzixabise.

Ndiyamkhumbula kakhulu kubuhlungu

Ngaba uyafuna ukunika omnye umntu olo hlobo lwamandla phezu kwakho naxa engasekho ebomini bakho?

Yenza umgudu wokuyoyisa. Ewe ungoyisa. Unolawulo ngakumbi kunokuba ucinga. Zinike ityala.

Thina ngokwenene Ndicebisa ukuba uzame le hypnosis elula ekhokelwa njengoko inokusebenza ngokukuko ekutshintsheni i-mindset yakho ibuyele kwinto elungileyo.

Inyathelo elilandelayo kuku…

6. Gcina ulindelo lwakho luphezulu

Kungenxa yokuba wonzakaliswa ngumntu omthandayo, awunyanzelekanga ukuba wehlise ulindelo lwakho kwixesha elizayo.

Ngapha koko, kuya kufuneka ugcine ulindelo olufanayo okanye uphakamise ibha!

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Musa ukwamkela inkohliso yexesha elizayo okanye ukungathembeki kuba uye waba ndindisholo kuyo, ucinga ukuba uyifanele, okanye uyithathe njengenxalenye yabo bonke ubudlelwane.

Yenza izimvo zakho ngokuthembakala zicace kuye nawuphi na umlingane wexesha elizayo kwaye ubazise ukuba awuyi kunyamezela nakuphi na ukwaphula oko kuzithemba.

7. Shiya elidlulileyo ngasemva kwakho

Qaphela ukuba eyakho idlulileyo yahlukile kunekamva lakho. Ukuziphatha kakubi komntu omnye akubonakalisi kulo lonke uluntu.

Ngelixa kububulumko ukuphepha iintlobo ezifanayo zabantu kunye neemeko apho ukuthembana kwakho kwaphulwe, akufuneki uvumele amava akho adlulileyo angcolise ulindelo lwakho kwikamva.

Qaphela indlela oziphethe ngayo kwaye uhlale uthe qwa kuyo nayiphi na imiqondiso enokuthi idlulileyo ibe nefuthe kwindlela ophendula ngayo ebantwini ngoku.

Musa projekthi iimvakalelo zakho Ukungazithembi kumaqabane amatsha anokubakho okanye kungenjalo unokufunda izinto kwihambo yabo engekhoyo kwaphela.

Khumbula: kufanelekile ukuthanda umntu kwaye bafanele ukuthenjwa nguwe.

8. Cinga ngenye indlela

Cinga umzuzu malunga nokuphila ubomi ngaphandle kothando kunye nobuqabane. Ngaba ayivakali inomtsalane kakhulu, andibi kunjalo?

Mhlawumbi esona sizathu sokufunda ukuthembela ebantwini kwakhona kungenxa yokuba enye indlela imbi kakhulu. Ngaphandle kobudlelwane obunentsingiselo, ubomi buphulukana nokudlamka kunye nokuqaqamba.

Jonga phambili iminyaka engama-30 kwaye uzivelele wedwa kwaye usagcwele imicimbi yokuthembana. Cinga bonke abantu abanokuthi bafike kwaye bahambe ngeli xesha, kunye nabo ngebehleli ukuba nje ububanike ithuba.

Oku kuyakukunceda ukuba wamkele ukuba ukubanakho kothando kufanelekile kumngcipheko wokuphazamiseka kwentliziyo. Ngapha koko, izikali azilingani kude-zibotshelelwe ngokuqinileyo ukuthanda.

9. Qwalasela Onke Amathuba Anokwenzeka Kwixa Elizayo

Ngokuqinisekileyo, umthande umntu wokugqibela. Kodwa ngokucacileyo ikamva linesicwangciso esahlukileyo kuwe.

Kunganzima kuwe ukucinga ngoku, kodwa kukho umntu okhoyo olunge ngakumbi kuwe.

Gxila kubantu oza kudibana nabo kwixa elizayo. Mhlawumbi olunye ulwalamano luphelile ukuze kuqale olunye.

Khawufane ucinge zonke izinto zokuqala eziza kuza: ixesha lokuqala ubeka umntu emntwini, amagama okuqala, amabhabhathane okuqala, ukwanga kokuqala, umzuzu wokuqala owuqondayo usiwa ngabo .

Zivumele ukuba wonwabe zezi zokuqala. Imincili yitonic esebenzayo uloyiko. Iyakutshayela uloyiko ecaleni ikuzalise ngethemba kwaye ukuqiniseka ukuba kukho umntu othile okhethekileyo ndilinde ukuba udibane nabo.

Imincili iya kukukhuthaza ukuba wamkele ithuba ngomzuzu ngamnye kwaye ikuvumele ukuba uvumele abanye abantu basondele.

Ukuba ukhetha ukungathembi kwakhona, unokuphulukana nomntu ongakholeleki ngokwenene. Njengoko sonke sisenza, ngenye imini uyakujonga emva kwaye wazi ukuba bekukho isizathu sokwenzeka.

10. Balisa iBali lakho

Ngenye imini, xa umfumene loo mntu ugqibeleleyo, kwaye uziva ukulungele ukubathemba, qiniseka ukuba unxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo malunga namava akho angaphambili kunye noloyiko lwakho lwentliziyo ebuhlungu.

Ayisiyonto iphilileyo ukunxibelelana ngokunyanisekileyo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane obutsha, kodwa unokufumanisa ukuba umntu omtsha unebali elifanayo kunye noloyiko.

Ukufunda ukuba sesichengeni kunye nokuzithemba kwakhona emva kwentlungu enzulu kunokuziva kunzima ngamanye amaxesha. Ungacinga ukuba kungcono ukuhlala wedwa kunye nomntu onokumthemba ngokwenene.

Nangona kunjalo, ubudlelwane bubalulekile kubomi obukumgangatho. Ngaphandle kwamaxesha okulinga, asinakuze sikwazi ukuwaxabisa amaxesha amnandi. Ke kungcono ukuba khetha ukuhlala uvulekile kwaye uthembele nasemva kokuba ungcatshwe kwaye wonzakala.

Uthando lungakhokelela kwezinye zeyona ntlungu zinokwenzeka, kodwa isenokuba yeyona nto inkulu owakha wayifumana. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, akukho namnye owathi uthando luzakuba lula.

Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungamthemba njani umntu kwakhona? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.

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