‘Babaphathe kakubi, ubagcine benomdla.’
Iingcebiso zokuthandana ngolu hlobo bezikhona kangangeminyaka, kodwa wenza njani ukuba ungazenzi ngaphandle kokuba… ukhohlakele?
indlela yokuba yintombazana elungileyo
Yeyiphi indlela elungileyo yokubatyhalela kude, kwaye baya kunikezela nini bayeke ukuleqa?
Ukudlala nzima ukuze ufumane kugcwele ubuqili nobuqili kwaye akusoloko kulula ukuphuma kubo, yiyo loo nto ke sidibanise iingcebiso zethu ezi-8 eziphambili ukuzigcina beleqeka…
1. Yigcine idlala.
Inqaku elipheleleyo le- ukudlala Kunzima ukuyifumana kukuba wena kunye noxinzelelo lwakho niyonwabile ukudlala intwana yomdlalo.
Kwaye dlala yenzelwe ukuba nentliziyo elula!
Yenze i-flirty, thumela imiyalezo emnandi okanye i-emojis kwaye ube sisidenge ngayo.
Ungathumela izicatshulwa ezincinci zokuhlekisa. Mhlawumbi uthumele ifoto yengubo entle oza kuyinxiba ngomhla wakho olandelayo emva koko ubashiye bajonge phambili ukukubona kuyo.
Nangona kunjalo ukhetha ukuyenza, qiniseka ukuba iyonwabile kuni nobabini.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ungabaqhula okanye ubabethise umoya kancinane, kodwa qiniseka ukuba awuzilimazi iimvakalelo zabo apha endleleni!
Bamele bashiywe ukufuna ixesha lakho kunye nengqwalaselo, hayi ukufuna yiyo.
2. Zenzele wena kuqala.
Le yinto eya kukunceda ngokwenene ngelixa uthandana, kodwa inokukunceda kubo .
Ukuba unezicwangciso nabahlobo bakho kwaye awufuni ukuba kwifowuni yakho, baxelele.
Thumela umyalezo wokutyumza kwakho ukuba unento eyonwabisayo eyenzekayo ukuze ungabikho kwifowuni yakho iiyure ezimbalwa.
Oku kuyababonisa ukuba ufumene ubomi bentlalo obungaphaya kokubathumela imiyalezo, nto leyo eya kukwenza ube nomtsalane ngakumbi.
Kusebenza njengesikhumbuzo ku wena Awudingi ukubakho ngalo lonke ixesha (into uninzi lwethu olunetyala ngayo kwiintsuku zokuqala zobudlelwane!), Kwaye ubazise malunga nokulindela ukuya phambili.
Yindlela elungileyo yokubagcina bonwabile xa usenza ke emva koko uthumele umyalezo kamva, kwaye ibeka ulindelo kuni nobabini ukuba anilulo uhlobo lomntu olinda ngefowuni imini yonke!
3. Ukulinganisa imida yabo.
Ke, isitshixo apha kukufumana ulungelelwaniso phakathi kokubagcina bonwabile kwaye ubagcine beqikelela.
Kufanelekile ukulinganisa indlela abaziva ngayo kunye nolindelo lwabo phambi kokuba udlale lo mdlalo!
Ungafumanisa ukuba bayakukhathazeka ngokwenene okanye bakhathazeke ukuba awubuyiseli myalezo kwiintsuku ezimbalwa.
Ukuba kunjalo, zama ukunqanda oku njengoko ungafuni ukubenzakalisa iimvakalelo zabo.
Wenza oku kuba uyabathanda kwaye ufuna ukubazi ngakumbi, ngapha koko.
Kungenzeka ukuba iiyure ezimbalwa zanele ukubagcina bekuleqa, kwimeko apho ungadlala khona.
yintoni injongo yengqondo
Ukudlala nzima ukufumana oko akuthethi kuthi kuthintela ngokupheleleyo lo mntu ekufumaneni naluphi na uhlobo lokufikelela kuwe…
… Kuthetha nje ukuba ubagcine befuna okungakumbi kuwe - kodwa kungabi ngenxa yokuzithemba kwabo, ukuzixabisa, okanye umdla kuwe!
4. Gcina ulungelelene.
Kungalula kakhulu ukucinga ukuba ukudlala nzima ukufumana oko kuthetha ukuba omnye umntu kufuneka enze wonke umzamo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kumnandi ukufunwa nokuleqwa, kodwa hayi ukuba omnye umntu ugqiba ukucinga ukuba olu luhlobo lwakho lobuntu!
Ukuba uziva ngathi ngumdlalo kwaye uqhubeka nokwenza umgudu kunye nabo, wenza ngokuchanekileyo.
Ukuba uhlala ubashiya befunda, bavale incoko, okanye ubanike isass eninzi kakhulu, banokuqala ukubuza uhlobo lomntu onguye ngokwenene.
Awufuni ukunika umbono wokuba awusoze ube nomdla kubo - akukho mntu ufuna ukuziva njalo kulomntu abathandana naye okanye kubudlelwane naye.
Endaweni yoko, yenza umgudu, ubanike ingqwalaselo kwaye ungalindeli ukuba baziphose i-100% ekufumaneni impendulo kuwe.
Ayifanelekanga nakowuphi na kuni kwaye isenokukhokelela ekubeni bakucaphukele ngenxa yoko kwaye bangasafuni kuphinda uthandane nawe - ngokuqinisekileyo ayisosiphumo ekujongwe ukuba usenze!
5. Ngokwasemzimbeni dlala nzima ukufumana.
Ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka nokwazi ukutyumka kwakho kwaye ufuna ukwakha uxinzelelo (olungileyo!) Phakathi kwenu nobabini, zama ukubambelela ekufumaneni umzimba okwethutyana.
Oko akutsho ukuba kufuneka ubande kwaye ube nobutshaba kubo, kodwa ungabaqhula nje kancinci kunokuba ulale nabo kwangoko.
Vumela olo lindelo lukhule ngokubanika ukubabamba ngesidlele ekupheleni kobusuku, okanye ubazise ukuba ucinga ngokulala nabo.
Oku kuya kubanika nje ngokwaneleyo ukuziva ngathi unomdla kubo, kodwa uya kubagcina befuna ngaphezulu.
Baza kuhlala beleqa, baqhubeke bekwazi, kwaye, ngelixesha nilala kunye, uya kuba sele udibene ngaphezulu nje ngokwazana ngakumbi nangakumbi.
Izinto ezincinci njengokuchukumisa ingalo okanye idolo zinokugcina ubushushu phakathi kwenu nobabini ngaphandle kokuba nilale kunye.
Ukulindelwa kuya kuba mnandi kuni nobabini, ke dlalani nayo kwaye niyibone into evayo kamnandi.
Ewe kunjalo, ngekhe bakuleqe bodwa ukuze babelane ngesondo nawe, kodwa kuhle ukubagcina benomdla kwaye bonwabe kancinci apha endleleni.
6. Banike indawo ukuze bakukhumbule.
Ukuba ubuthandana iiveki ezimbalwa kwaye ufuna ukudlala kancinci ukufumana, qiniseka ukuba uthatha ixesha ngokwakho rhoqo.
ungaqinisekisa njani ukuba intombazana iyakuthanda
Kungalula kakhulu ukubanjwa kumanqanaba okuqala okuthandana kwaye ugqibele ukuchitha lonke ixesha lakho kunye!
Kodwa, ukuzigcina kwizwane zabo kwaye bakusukele, yongeza umgama omncinci kumxube rhoqo.
Mhlawumbi wenze izicwangciso zempelaveki ezingazibandakanyi.
Ayikuko ukuba awufuni ukubabona, kukubanika nje ixesha elithile lokuqonda ukuba bakhetha ukuhlala nawe!
Ngeli xesha ngaphandle kwentando zibenze bakukhumbule kwaye ndifuna ukuba kufutshane nawe ngakumbi.
Ngokudlala nzima ukuze ufumane olu hlobo, baya kukuleqa kwaye bonwabe ngokwenene ukuze bakubone kwakhona.
Ukuhlukana kwexesha kuya kwenza ukuba nonke nilixabise ixesha yenza Chitha kunye kwaye uya kuyenza izive ikhethekile ngakumbi kwaye ingcwele.
Ngapha koko, ininika nobabini into encinci yokuphefumla ukwenza into yakho kwaye ujonge kubomi bakho obahlukileyo- obaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke ubudlelwane kwaye buya kukunceda wakhe isiseko esomeleleyo kunye, endaweni yomngcipheko wokwakha into exhomekeke kuyo.
7. Zigcine uxakekile.
Abantu bathanda into abangenako ukuba nayo, ngoko ungoyiki ukwala iiplani okanye wenze ezinye nabanye abantu.
Kuyalinga kakhulu ukucoca iikhalenda zethu xa sithandana nomntu omtsha, kwaye sizisongele ekuchitheni lonke ixesha lethu kunye nabo.
Ukuba ufuna ukubagcina benomdla kwaye badlale nzima ukuze bafumane, qiniseka ukuba uhlala uxakekile.
Okona kunzima ukuba ubambe okanye ucofe (ngaphandle kwesizathu!), Kokukhona baya kufuna ukukubona.
Baza kuziva bebahle kakhulu ukuba bangomntu owenza iinzame zokumbona nangona uxakeke kakhulu - xa usenza izibonelelo kwaye ufumana ixesha lokuzibona, baya kuziva bebalulekile kuwe.
Oku kuyakubanika ukomeleza ukuzithemba kwaye kuya kubenza banomdla ngakumbi ekuboneni wena
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, ngokungafumaneki ngakumbi, ngequbuliso uba nomtsalane kubo.
Zilungiselele ukuleqwa…
8. Lazi ixesha lokuyeka.
Ukudlala nzima ukuze ufumane konke kulungile kwaye kulungile xa kusebenza - kodwa kuthekani ukuba kunesiphumo esichaseneyo?
Abanye abantu banokubhideka bubuntu bakho obushushu nobubandayo, okanye banokuziva ngathi udlala imidlalo emininzi.
Ukuba umntu otyumkileyo ucinga ukuba awukulungelanga ukuzibophelela kuba ubamosha kancinci, banokuhlehla kwaye bacinge ukuba awukulungelanga ubudlelwane.
Awufuni ukuba bacinge ukuba abanakuze bakwazi ukukubamba ngefowuni.
Uninzi lwabantu lukhangela iqabane abanokuthembela kulo, hayi umntu othabatha iintsuku ezi-3 ukuphendula isicatshulwa esithi 'Molo' esilula.
Ukuba unomdla, yenze icace loo nto phambi kokuba udlale nayiphi na imidlalo!
Ngelixa wena unokwazi imeko yezenzo zakho, bona unokucinga nje ukuba utshintshe ingqondo yakho, okanye awufuni ubudlelwane obubandakanya ukuthintana ngokomzimba, umzekelo.
Ukudlala nzima ukufumana kufanele ukuba kube yinto eyonwabisayo kwaye inika umdla, hayi indlela yokuba uvavanye ukuba umntu uziva njani ngawe…
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Ke, njengoko kuvela, ukudlala nzima ukufumana umdlalo onzima kakhulu ukuqhekeka!
Khumbula ukuba ngumntu wakho wokwenene kangangoko-ufuna ukuba bakuthande ukuba ungubani, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ungazenzi inguqulelo yakho ozama ukuyenza.
Ngelixa kulungile kwaye kusempilweni ukuba nezicwangciso ezibandakanya bona, kwaye kulungile ukuba uziqhelelanise kancinane ukuze bakusukele, qiniseka ukuba umntu otyumkileyo uyazi ukuba are enomdla kubo.
Abanye abantu baya kunika nje kunokuba bazame nzima, ke jonga indlela otyumke ngayo uziva, funda xa ungaphezulu kwemida yabo, kwaye uzame ukugcina izinto zimnandi kwaye zineentliziyo ezilula.
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