Wonke umntu uhlangabezana noburhabaxa beemvakalelo ngaxa lithile.
Ukuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo yimeko apho ingqondo ingasebenziyo kwaye ivumela umntu ukuba azive ukuba kufanele ukuba uziva njani.
Lo asingombandela weemvakalelo ezichanekileyo nezingalunganga. Imeko okanye amava aya kuvusa iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo kubantu abahlukeneyo. Asinguye wonke umntu onentambo efanayo, kwaye akufuneki silindele ukuba nabani na aphendule ngendlela eqhelekileyo kwimeko.
Umntu ondimtye ngokweemvakalelo unokuziva ethe tyaba ngokupheleleyo okanye uziva uthulile endaweni yeemvakalelo ezinamandla ebeya kuba nazo.
Buyintoni uburhabaxa ngokweemvakalelo?
Imvakalelo ibaluleke kakhulu kumava omntu.
Uninzi lwethu luqhutywa ziimvakalelo zethu-umnqweno wento engcono, usizi, imvakalelo yokufezekisa, ukukhathazeka, uthando, umsindo, ukufudumala.
Ezi mvakalelo ziyi-pigment kwipallet epeyinta amava ethu ngobungqingili bobomi.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela into yokuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo ezichaphazela iimvakalelo zomntu, ikwachaphazela indlela abasabela ngayo ngokweemvakalelo kunye neempendulo.
ungaxelela njani umhlobo mfo uyamthanda
Inokuphazamisa umsebenzi, ubudlelwane kunye nokukwazi ukuphila ubomi. Izinto endizithandayo, umdla kunye noluntu zihlala zisokola ngenxa yokuba kungekho zimvakalelo zityhalela umntu ukuba afune ukwenza ezo zinto kungonwabisi okanye kumnandi ukuzuzwa ngokuzibandakanya.
Kutheni uzikhathaza ngokwenza into ukuba akunyanzelekanga? Uxanduva kufuneka lwenziwe okanye ungasala emva ebomini. Kodwa imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo, ukuzonwabisa, ukuthandana, kunye neenkanuko ziqhutywa ziimvakalelo kunye nomnqweno.
Uninzi lwabantu ngempazamo lukholelwa ekubeni ubundindisholo ngokweemvakalelo yindlela efanelekileyo yokulwa imeko.
Ayiyo.
Ewe kubalulekile ukuba ube nakho ukuvala iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ujongane nento ebalulekileyo efuna ukukhathalelwa apho iimvakalelo ziluxanduva.
Kodwa baninzi kakhulu abantu abalibele ukubuyela umva kwaye baqhubekeke neemvakalelo ebekufanele ukuba bazifumene kuloo meko.
Ezo ntsalela zovakalelo zinamathela kuthi kwaye ekugqibeleni ziya kubuya ukuba aziphathwa ngendlela esempilweni.
Ukuvalwa kweemvakalelo zikabani ukunqanda naziphi na iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kukuphepha, kwaye ukuthintela ayisiyiyo indlela yokulwa impilo esempilweni.
Umntu ohlangabezana noburhabaxa beemvakalelo, ngakumbi ngaphezulu kwexesha elide, kufuneka axoxe nogqirha wakhe njengoko kuhlala kukhomba kwingxaki yonyango okanye yengqondo.
Iimpawu zoBuntununtunu ngokweemvakalelo
-Ukulahleka komdla kwimisebenzi ebalulekileyo.
- Imvakalelo yokuzahlula kunye nokuzahlula ebantwini.
-Umvakalelo wokucaba ngokweemvakalelo nangokomzimba ilahleko yamandla.
-Ubunzima bokufumana iimvakalelo ezintle nezingalunganga zalo naluphi na uhlobo.
-Ukukwazi ukuthintela ubomi bomntu.
-Ukungakwazi ukucinga nzulu okanye ukuntsokotha.
-Ubunzima ekuguquleni iimvakalelo zibe ngamazwi kunye nokunxibelelana nabanye abantu.
-Ukuzahlula, ungashiyi indlu, kwaye uphephe intlalontle.
Yintoni Ebangela Ukuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo?
Ukuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo kuhlala kusisiphumo sokuvezwa okuphindaphindiweyo kwintlungu yomzimba okanye yeemvakalelo.
Umntu ofumana ezi zinto unokugxila ekuvaleni iimvakalelo zakhe ukuze zingabi bukhali okanye kube nzima ukujongana nazo ngalo mzuzu.
Isakhono sokwenza oku kunokuba yinto elungileyo yokufumana ixesha elifutshane, kodwa kunokubangela iingxaki ezinkulu kwixesha elide. Okukhona uyenza, kokukhona uyifumana.
Ingxaki kukuba udonga olukhuselayo alukhethi kwaye lukhethe phakathi kweemvakalelo ezilungileyo nezingalunganga. Ludonga nje oluya kuthintela ngokufanelekileyo zombini ngaphandle kokuba uthathe ixesha lokwenza umnyango ngokuzivumela uzive iimvakalelo zakho.
Amayeza azo zonke iintlobo anokuzisa iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezahlukeneyo, kubandakanya nokuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo. Ayisiyompembelelo yecala engaqhelekanga kunyango lwengqondo.
Iingxaki zempilo yengqondo nazo zinokwenzeka. Oko kubandakanya izinto ezinje:
-Uxinzelelo
Imibongo yokukhetha umendo olungileyo
- Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni nasemzimbeni
- Ukuhlukunyezwa kwesiyobisi
- Uxinzelelo
Amava ahambelana nomothuko okanye i-PTSD
- Intlungu
-Uxinzelelo oluphezulu okanye ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo
Amava ahambelana nomothuko ahlala ekhuthaza ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo njengendlela yokujongana nomntu ohlangabezana nazo, ngakumbi kwiimeko ezibuhlungu zexesha elide ezinje ngokuba ngumntwana ophethwe gadalala okanye ubudlelwane.
Ixhoba alinalo nakuphi na ulawulo lwangaphandle kwinto eyenzekayo kubo, ke bayazihlukanisa njengendlela yokujamelana noko bajongelwa phantsi.
Oko kunokubonakalisa kudala emva kwamava abuhlungu omntu ofuna ukunqanda iimeko ezibakhumbuza ngamava abo, iincoko, okanye iimvakalelo malunga nantoni na enxulumene namava.
kuthetha ukuthini ukuthathwa njengento engenamsebenzi kuthetha
Abantu abanoxinzelelo banokusebenzisa ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo njengesixhobo sokulwa nokuzama ukunciphisa amanqanaba abo oxinzelelo oluphezulu ukuya kwinqanaba elinokunyamezeleka. Ukuthintela iimvakalelo ezilungileyo nezingalunganga zihlala zinxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo loxinzelelo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Kutheni Ndingasakwazi Ukulila? Nendlela yokufumana iinyembezi
- Ungayichaza njani into yoVakalelo loxinzelelo njengoMntu ongazange abe nayo
- Ukudakumba okukhoyo: Ungazoyisa njani iimvakalelo zakho zokungabinantsingiselo
- Izizathu ezi-11 eziBalulekileyo zokuba kutheni ungafanele uzithintele iimvakalelo zakho ezingalunganga
Ukunyanga ubuNwe boMvakalelo
Unyango lokuphelelwa ngamandla ngokweemvakalelo luxhomekeke kwisizathu. Le nkqubo yenziwa ngcono kakhulu ngengcali yezempilo yengqondo.
Abahlobo, usapho, kunye nenethiwekhi yenkxaso abanazo izakhono eziyimfuneko ukunceda ekuchongeni umba kwaye usebenze ngeemvakalelo eziwujikelezileyo.
Ingcali iya kukunceda uchonge ukuba yintoni unobangela wokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo kwaye emva koko ikuncede ujongane nesizathu.
Oku kwenziwa ngendlela ethe chu, kukhutshwa iibhokisi ezitywiniweyo ezigcinwe ngaphakathi.
Ukuntywila ngqo kuyo kunokwenza ingozi enkulu ngenxa yokuba kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuqala ukuvula kwaye ujonge kwezi bhokisi.
Ngokwesiqhelo uya kufunda ngeendlela ezintsha zokulwa nokubuyisela ukungabinamandla ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ujonge ekufundeni ukuziva unemvakalelo elungileyo kunye nengalunganga kwakhona.
Ulwamkelo kunye noNyango lokuzibophelela (UMTHETHO) luhlobo lonyango lokuziphatha oluhlala lusetyenziselwa ukunceda abantu abaneengxaki zempilo yengqondo ezibandakanya ukuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo.
UMTHETHO usebenzisa indlela esekwe kwingqondo yokuqonda kunye nokutolika amava emvakalelo njengoko enzeka ukuze isiguli sikwazi ukubamba izakhono zokulwa nokuziphatha okungalunganga kwaye sizitshintshe izakhono ezifanelekileyo zokujamelana .
Unyango lweCognitive-Behaeveal Therapy (CBT) ithambekele ekugxileni ngakumbi ekuvakaliseni nasekuqondeni iimvakalelo zikabani ukuze wenze ukhetho lokutshintsha iindlela zokuziphatha ezingalunganga kunye nezintle ngakumbi.
I-CBT ikwafundisa umntu ngendlela yokuvavanya imeko ngokufanelekileyo ukumisela ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwamandla emvakalelo ekufuneka enikwe lona.
Olo vavanyo lunokutshintsha kakhulu indlela umntu asabela ngayo kwimeko yakhe, enokuthi ibanike uxolo nolonwabo olukhulu.
Ingcali inokucebisa notshintsho kwindlela yokuphila kwisigulana sabo ukuba baphila ubomi obunoxinzelelo oluphezulu. Ukuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo kunokubangelwa ngulo mntu ukonganyelwa nje yinto eyenzeka kubomi bemihla ngemihla.
Utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila enokunceda
Kukho utshintsho oluninzi kwindlela yokuphila enokunceda ngokubanzi ukuphucula impilo-ntle yomntu.
1. Yenza umthambo rhoqo.
Ukuzilolonga kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokulwa nokuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuhamba kunye nokuzilolonga kubangela ukuba ingqondo yakho ivelise ii-endorphins ezinokuthi zikunike amandla nakwimo yamandla.
Ukuzilolonga rhoqo, nje kangangemizuzu engama-20 ngosuku, kunokuyiphucula ngokuphawulekayo impilo yomntu ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo.
2. Ukuphucula impilo yakho yokulala.
Ixesha eliqhelekileyo, elifanelekileyo lokulala liyamangalisa impilo yengqondo. Uninzi lwabantu lunokuyenza nge-tune ukuya kucoceko lwabo lokulala, Oko kukuthi, iimeko ezingqonge indlela alala ngayo umntu.
ukufa kwemibongo othandekayo
Ukwenza izinto ezinjengegumbi elimnyama, ukuphepha izikrini ngaphambi kokulala, ukuba nebhedi entofontofo, kunye nokulala iiyure ezaneleyo konke kubalulekile.
3. Ukuphucula indlela otya ngayo.
Ukutya esikubeka kumatshini ongumzimba ngumbane osinika amandla okubakho. Umatshini onamafutha amabi kuwo awuqhubeki kakuhle. Kwaye kuyinyani ngokupheleleyo emzimbeni womntu.
Ukutshintsha ukutya okungenampilo endaweni yokutya okusempilweni kunye nokutya kuphela oko sikufunayo yindlela ebhetele yokuphucula impilo.
4. Ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lobomi.
Uxinzelelo yeyona nto iphambili kubundindisholo beemvakalelo. Abantu abaninzi abanamava okuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo banokuba nezinye iingxaki ezingekasonjululwa.
Ukufumba uxinzelelo ngaphezulu kwazo naziphi na iingxaki esele zikhona kungaphezulu ukoyisa nabani na.
Ingqondo ayinakukwazi ukujongana nolo hlobo lomthwalo, ngoko iyazivala izinto ukuthintela ukuziva ungaphaya.
Ukunciphisa uxinzelelo yenye into ebalulekileyo ekuphuculeni impilo yomntu ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo.
5. Funda ukuchonga, ukuveza, kunye nokulungisa iimvakalelo.
Umntu oye wabindeka ngokweemvakalelo ixesha elide kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufuna uncedo lobungcali koku, kuba kulula kakhulu ukulibala ukuba ungazenza njani ezi zinto xa ungakhange uzenze ixesha elide.
Okanye mhlawumbi awuzange uzenze. Abantwana abakhulele kumakhaya axhatshazwayo kunqabile ukuba babe nenkululeko abayidingayo yokuphuhlisa, yokuveza kunye neyokwenza iimvakalelo zabo.
Ngethamsanqa, ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo sisakhono esinokufundwa.
6. Ukuphuhlisa kunye nokuxhomekeka kwinethiwekhi yenkxaso.
Kuyanceda ukuba nabahlobo kunye nabantu obathembayo abathembele kuwe xa uhamba ngexesha elinzima, elinemvakalelo.
Ukuba awunabo aba bantu kubomi bakho bobuqu, kunokuba kulunge ukufuna iqela lenkxaso okanye ugqirha.
Ukuhlakulela ezi ntlobo zobuhlobo luhlobo kunzima kuba kufuna ukuthembana, nto leyo ekufuneka yakhiwe ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ayilungisi ngokukhawuleza ukuba awunayo inkxaso enentsingiselo esele ikho.
Ukuba uyakwenza oko, ukuxoxa ngemeko nabantu bakho kunokukunceda ufumane umbono ongcono wendlela onokuziva ngayo malunga nokusingatha imeko.
Indlela yokuPhila nokuBuya kwakhona
Inkqubo yokusebenza kwimpilo kunye nokuphilisa ukubola kweemvakalelo kunokuba nzima, kodwa kunokwenzeka.
Kukuzibophelela kwexesha elide ekusebenzeni ukuzitshintsha kunye nendlela esinxibelelana ngayo nobomi.
Luhambo olubalulekileyo ukuze sikwazi ukufumana ubomi ngendlela ekufanele ukuba ibe namava ngayo, kwaye ukuze siluve usizi lwethu kwaye sonwabele ukonwaba kwethu xa ilixesha.
