Iimpawu ze-15 Uthathwe ukuze unikwe ulwalamano lwakho

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Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukwazi ukuba uthathwa kancinci kubudlelwane bakho…



… Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngokucacileyo.

Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ukuba ukrokrela ukuba iqabane lakho alikuxabisi njengoko kufanele, ulungile.



Mhlawumbi abahlobo bakho bahlala bekhombisa 'imiqondiso yokulumkisa' okanye mhlawumbi izinto zitshintshile kwaye ngoku uziva ungaxabisekanga.

Silapha ukukunceda ufumanise ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye, kunye nokwenza kamva.

Nazi iimpawu ezili-15 zokuba iqabane lakho lithatha kancinci.

1. Azisoloko zikuphatha ngenqanaba elisisiseko lentlonipho.

Intlonipho ibaleka ngokunzulu kubudlelwane obunentsingiselo, kodwa iziseko zisabalulekile.

Izinto ezilula njengokuvuma xa ubenzele into, nangona incinci, yenza umahluko omkhulu kwindlela oziva ngayo ngawe kunye nobudlelwane.

Elula ‘ enkosi ‘Xa upheke isidlo okanye ucocekile kunokubonakala kungabalulekanga, kodwa kutyhila okuninzi malunga nendlela iqabane lakho elivakalelwa ngayo ngawe.

Ukuthathela ingqalelo xa usenza izicwangciso nako uphawu lwentlonipho . Ukuba oku akwenzeki, luphawu olukhulu lokungahloniphi.

Ewe kunjalo, asitsho ukuba amadoda nabafazi okanye amasoka kunye namantombazana athandana nawo kufuneka achithe umzuzu ngamnye wokuvuka kunye ...

… Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba nobabini niyabazi ubukho bomnye nomnye.

Ukujongana kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba nobabini nizolile kunye nezicwangciso kubalulekile kubudlelwane obusempilweni.

Ukuba ulungiselela ukuchitha ubusuku nabahlobo bakho, akufuneki uzive unetyala… kodwa kuya kufuneka wazise iqabane lakho.

Ukwenza izicwangciso egameni lomlingane wakho? Thetha nabo kuqala! Iqabane lakho kufuneka likuxelele ukuba likubhalisele ukuchitha ubusuku kunye nabantu osebenza nabo okanye isidlo sangokuhlwa namalungu osapho - sisiseko, imbeko efanelekileyo.

Ukurhoxisa izicwangciso ngomzuzu wokugqibela kukwayinto entle enkulu kakhulu hayi-ngokumalunga nokuhlonipha umntu. Ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala lisenza oku, luphawu lokuba abakuxabisi njengoko kufanele.

Kanye okanye kabini iyaqondakala- izinto zenzeka ngaphandle kolawulo lwethu! Kodwa, kwaye kulapho intlonipho ingena khona, olu tshintsho kufuneka lwaziswe ngomnye umntu.

Ayikwenzi ukuba uswele okanye uphelelwe lithemba ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni okanye kutheni izicwangciso zakho ngesiquphe kufuneka zitshintshe.

Ungalindela ukwaziswa ngotshintsho lwazo naziphi na ezinye izicwangciso, kananjalo, nokuba yintlanganiso nomphathi wakho erhoxisiweyo okanye ubusuku bokuchitha nabahlobo oburhoxisiwe.

Ukuba iqabane lakho alwenzi mgudu wokukwazisa ukuba kutheni betshintsha izicwangciso, okanye beqhubeka besenza ngaphandle kwesizathu, bakuthatha kancinci ngokucinga ukuba awuzukuyikhaba.

2. Abakubandakanyi ebomini babo kwaye abanomdla ekubandakanyekeni ebomini bakho.

Oku kunokubonakala ngathi yindawo esisidenge- ewe uyabandakanyeka kubomi beqabane lakho.

… Kodwa, ngaba nguwe ngokwenene ?

Ngokuqinisekileyo, niyathetha / nithumela umbhalo imini yonke kwaye nichithe ixesha kunye, kodwa ngaba uyinxalenye yobomi babo bonke?

Ngaba bayathetha nawe ngaphambi kokwenza izigqibo ngobomi babo?

Inxalenye yokuba nomntu ubuxabisile ubukho bakho ebomini bakho. Oko kuthetha ukubabuza ingcebiso, ufuna igalelo labo kwizinto, kwaye ujike kubo xa ufuna inkxaso.

Ukuba iqabane lakho alikwenzi oku, uphulukana nesiqwenga esikhulu sobomi babo.

Asitsho ukuba kuya kufuneka ungqinge ngendlela yakho kuyo yonke into eyenziwa liqabane lakho, kodwa kuhle ukuba waziswe kwaye wazi ngobomi babo.

Ukuba abakuxeleli into abayenzayo okanye abakuquki kwizinto, luphawu lokuba bakuthatha kancinci kwaye mhlawumbi abakuxabisi ngendlela othanda ngayo.

Ngaba bayabandakanyeka ebomini bakho, nabo?

Ngaba bayabuza ukuba zinjani izinto nomsebenzi wakho, zihamba njani izinto ozithandayo, kwaye kwenzeka ntoni nabahlobo bakho?

Ngokuqinisekileyo, akudingeki ukuba babe nolwazi olusondeleyo lukaSusan kwiakhawunti kunye nemiba yakhe yobudlelwane, kodwa kufuneka baqaphele ukuba ngubani na abahlobo bakho, ubuncinane!

Ulwalamano olusempilweni lubandakanya abantu ababini abazimeleyo… kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ubomi benu bumele bohluke ngokupheleleyo omnye komnye.

indlela yokujongana nokuphoxeka kubudlelwane

Ukuba iqabane lakho lenza umzamo omncinci okanye awuzukubandakanya ebomini babo, kwaye lityhala ekubeni libandakanyeke kwelakho, uthathwa njengongakhathaliyo kwaye abakuxabisi njengoko kufanelekile.

Ilula njengoko kunjalo.

3. Abatsali ubunzima babo.

Oku kunokuba yinto ekhohlisayo kuba zininzi 'uxanduva' xa ukunye nomntu.

Cinga ngento abanikelayo, kwaye oku kuthelekiswa njani negalelo lakho.

Ngokwezezimali, umzekelo, ngaba uhlawula ngaphezulu irente kunye namatyala ngaphezulu? Ngaba uzifumanisa upheka rhoqo ngokuhlwa, nangona besekhaya? Ngubani owenza umsebenzi wasekhaya rhoqo?

Ngokuqinisekileyo, izibini ziyazinza kwimikhwa kwaye umntu omnye uhlala ejongana nomsebenzi othile kuba nje… enza!

Mhlawumbi iqabane lakho liqhele nje ukupheka bacinga ukuba uyonwabele kwaye awuboni ukuba ngumcimbi.

p> Qinisekisa ukuba izinto ziziva zixubene ngeendlela ezithile. Ukuba 'indima' yakho kukupheka rhoqo ebusuku, kusenokwenzeka ukuba banegalelo kwenye indawo, ngokwenza izitya okanye ngokukhupha inkunkuma.

Ukuba kukho ukuhanjiswa okungalinganiyo okanye okungafanelekanga koxanduva, kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba kuthetha ntoni oko.

Isenokuba kukugada okumsulwa okanye kungangumqondiso wokuba bacinga ukuba bangaphezulu kwakho okanye akukho mfuneko yokuba ‘bakukhathaze’ ngokukunceda ngezinto ezijikeleze indlu.

Omnye umbuzo ukubuza: Ngaba bakuxhasa ngokwaneleyo ngokwasemphefumlweni?

Oku kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuphendula.

Ukwenza icace - awunguye 'uswele' ngokufuna ingqalelo kwiqabane lakho. Ukufuna ukusondelelana kwaye uthando alwenzi kukwenze ubambelele okanye uphelelwe lithemba.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho imida ethile ekufuneka ihlonitshwe, kodwa akufuneki uzive ngathi awunalungelo lokunyanyekelwa.

Ubudlelwane obulungileyo buthetha ukuba ukhona omnye komnye, ukukhathalelana, nokuxhasa iqabane lakho.

Ukuba uziva ngathi nguwe onika konke oku kwaye awufumani mbuyekezo ingako, iqabane lakho likuthatha kancinci.

4. Abazibeki kumzamo.

Akufanele ulindele iintyatyambo kunye nokutya kwekhandlela ubusuku bonke (nangona ukwenza umgudu kwizihlandlo ezikhethekileyo kulindelekile, ngenene!), Kodwa kuyanceda xa besenza izijekulo ezincinci yonke imihla ukukhumbuza oko uyathandwa kwaye uyafunwa .

Ukuthandana kunye nokuqwalaselwa ziinxalenye ezinkulu zokuba nomntu kwaye yile nto unokuyilindela ubuncinci- nento ekufaneleyo.

Ukuthandana akuyona into yokuba wonke umntu akhululeke ngalo lonke ixesha, kodwa yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane kubantu abaninzi.

Kukho izizathu zokuba abanye abantu bengonwabanga ukubonisa okanye ukufumana uthando , kanjalo. Ezi kufuneka zihlonitshwe ngamaxesha onke.

Oko kwathiwa, ukuba akukho sizathu sokwenyani sokungabikho kothando, kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba iqabane lakho likuthatha kancinci.

Ayikuceli kakhulu ukuba ubambe isandla sothandiweyo wakho rhoqo, okanye ukufuna ukuwolwa xa uvakalise ukuba ubenosuku olubi.

Ukuba iqabane lakho alifuni ukuba nolwalamano olusenyongweni nawe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba liziva ngathi alikhathali ngokwaneleyo, okanye banokuba neentloni zokubonwa kunye nawe esidlangalaleni.

Oku akunakuba njalo, kodwa indlela abaziphethe ngayo akufuneki ikwenze ucinga ukuba oku kunokuba yingcaciso!

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba nguwe wedwa ovakalisa imvakalelo kunye nolwalamano kubudlelwane bakho (kwaye uhlala uyaliwa okanye uyagxothwa), kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba iqabane lakho likuxabisile na.

5. Abathembekanga kuwe.

Ukuba iqabane lakho likukhohlisile, kucacile ukuba bakuthatha lula.

Ngoku, kubantu abaninzi, isisombululo esikhawulezileyo kukuphelisa izinto. Nangona kunjalo, siyazi ukuba akusoloko kulula ukuyeka ubudlelwane bomntu omthandayo kwaye ndizibophelele kwi .

Abantu bayakhohlisa ngazo zonke iintlobo zezizathu- kodwa akukho nasinye esisebenzayo. Ukuba uyazi ukuba iqabane lakho liyakukhohlisa kwaye usenabo, kuya kufuneka ubuze ukuba kutheni.

Asitsho ukuba ubudlelwane obunje abunakusebenza, kuba bunako, kodwa kuya kufuneka ujonge ukuba kutheni ukhetha ukuhlala nomntu okhe, okanye okhohlisayo kuwe.

Ukuba utshatile, unabantwana, okanye unesibophelelo semali kubo (njengesixa semali mboleko, iakhawunti yebhanki edibeneyo, okanye ishishini elihlangeneyo), kukho izizathu zokuzama ukuqonda izinto.

Ukuba uhlala nomyeni wakho, umfazi, okanye iqabane lakho kuba unoloyiko lokuba wedwa, kuya kufuneka ujonge izinto ozenzayo. Unokuziva ngathi akukho nto unokukhetha kuyo, kodwa kufuneka ubone izinto njengoko zinjalo.

Iqabane lakho kusenokwenzeka ukuba livakalelwa kukuba 'linokubaleka' ngokukukhohlisa njengoko lingazange lafumana isohlwayo sayo, ngokungathi kunjalo - akukho ziphumo kwizenzo zazo.

Kule meko, bathabathe indawo yakho kunye nendalo yakho elungileyo. Iqabane lakho alikuxabisi okanye alikuhloniphi kwaye kufanelekile ngaphezulu kunoko.

Kusenokubakho uthando oluninzi kolu hlobo lobudlelwane, kodwa luhlobo oluyityhefu lothando kwaye akunampilo ukuhlala nomntu okuphatha ngale ndlela.

Ukuba ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho linokukopa, kodwa ungazi ngokuqinisekileyo, kusengumqondiso wokuba ungathathelwa ingqalelo kubudlelwane bakho.

Ukoyika ukukhohliswa kubangelwa ziindawo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Abanye abantu bakhohlisiwe ngaphambili kwaye ngoku banexhala lokuba iphinda yenzeke. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba amaqabane abo anokukopa ngenxa yokungaqiniseki okunzulu okanye imiba yokuzibophelela .

Ngoku, asitsho ukuba ezi mvakalelo azisebenzi, kuba ziyinyani, kodwa ayizizo iimpawu zobudlelwane obusempilweni.

Ukuba iqabane lakho Ukwenza ngeendlela ezibonisa ukuba bayakopela (ukuba nemfihlo kakhulu kwaye banesiphatho ngefowuni / ilaptop yabo, banyamalale ngaphandle kwengcaciso, bangakuphenduli kuwe ixesha elide kunesiqhelo xa bephumile, njlnjl.), Ngokuqinisekileyo ikhona into engalunganga!

Oko akutsho ukuba bayakukhohlisa, kodwa loo nto ayifanelekanga kwaye inetyhefu.

Ukuba ubonakalisile ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha ikwenza uzive ungonwabanga kwaye, nangona ubathemba, ezi zenzo zikwenza uzive usoyika okanye ungazithembanga, kufanele ukuba bazama ukukunceda kuloo nto.

Akukho mfuneko yokuba batshintshe ngokupheleleyo into abayenzayo (kuya kufuneka bazive ngathi banokuchitha ixesha nabahlobo ababhinqileyo, umzekelo), kodwa kufuneka baqonde ukuba unengxaki kwaye usebenza nawe ukufumana isisombululo.

Ukuba abenzi nzame zokunciphisa iimvakalelo zakho okanye bokuqinisekisa ngokuthatha inyathelo, uthathwa ithuba kwaye iqabane lakho alikuphathi ngentlonipho ekufaneleyo.

6. Banegalelo, okanye babangele ukuzithoba kwakho.

Ukuba unengxaki yokuzithemba okuphantsi, cinga ngendlela echaphazeleka ngayo liqabane lakho.

Isenokuba ubukhe waziva ngale ndlela ngaphambili, kodwa zibuze ukuba zikunceda njani ukuba ujongane nezo mvakalelo, okanye ukuba ziyenza mandundu.

Kungenzeka ukuba le micimbi ivele ngexesha lolwalamano lwakho, kwimeko apho kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba kutheni kunjalo.

Kwezinye ubudlelwane, abantu banokufumana indawo kakhulu okanye balawule, ezinokuthi zidibanise nokuthatha amaqabane abo ngokungakhathali.

Ewe amaqabane ngamanye amaxesha ayakuqonda oku kwaye azikhuphe kubudlelwane. Kwabanye, ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ziyalawula kwaye kuba nzima kakhulu ukwahlulahlula ubudlelwane, nokuba yonakalise okanye iyityhefu kangakanani.

Kobu budlelwane, iqela elilawulayo liya kufuna iindlela zokubeka amaqabane abo phantsi ngenjongo yokuhlisa isidima sabo nokwenza ukuba iqabane labo lixhomekeke kubo.

Iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokwenza oku kubandakanya ukuxelela amaqabane abo ukuba abanamsebenzi kwaye abanamtsalane kwaye soze bafumane omnye umntu obathandayo.

Okanye banokubaxelela ukuba akukho mntu wumbi uyakuze azifune kwaye azinaxabiso ngokwabo kwaye banethamsanqa lokuthandwa liqabane labo.

Le yindlela eyoyikisayo nexhaphazayo abanye abantu abayisebenzisayo ukubambisa amaqabane abo kulwalamano. Umlingane wabo uziva ngathi akukho ndlela yakuphuma kwaye akukho mntu uya kuze abamkele okanye abathanda.

Olu luphawu oluthathelwa ingqalelo kubudlelwane bakho, kunye nomqondiso wokuphathwa gadalala ekufuneka ufumane indlela yokuphuma kuwo.

7. Bayakulawula ngokweemvakalelo.

Oku kunxibelelana nenqaku elingentla malunga nemijikelo yetyhefu yokuzitshabalalisa.

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uyashukunyiswa ngokweemvakalelo kwizinto, kufuneka uqwalasele ukuba ulwalamano olufanelekileyo na.

Unokufumanisa ukuba uhlala unyanzelekile xolisa ngezinto ozithethileyo okanye ozenzileyo , okanye nguwe oza kuhlala ulalanise.

Inokuba zizinto ezincinci, njengokuya apho usiya khona isidlo sangokuhlwa, okanye kunokuba yimicimbi emikhulu njengokungakwazi ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo abathile okanye ukuphuma ngaphandle kweqabane lakho.

Kubonakala ngathi balawula ubudlelwane kwaye, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba, kuwe.

Benza izigqibo ngokungakhethiyo ukuba abafuni ukuba nawe kwaye banyanzele ukwahlukana. Baya kuthi emva koko bathathe isigqibo sokuba bafuna ukubuyela nini kunye nawe.

Baya kuthi emva koko bakugcine uqikelela ukuba 'ukhuselekile' okanye hayi kwaye baya kufumana iindlela zokukugcina usecaleni - ukulahla iingcebiso ekufuneka 'ubukele indlela oziphethe ngayo' okanye ubanike 'indawo.'

Ukuba ngaba kukho naluphi na uhlobo lokuxhaphaza ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane bakho, kufuneka uzibuze ukuba kutheni unyamezele- okanye kutheni usoyika nje ukuyiphakamisa njengomcimbi.

Oku ayiziphathi kakuhle kwaye ayisiyiyo le uyifaneleyo kwaphela. Kukho iindlela zokuphuma kwezi ntlobo zobudlelwane, kwaye uya kuhlala ufumana inkxaso oyifunayo.

8. Amanqanaba okusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni atshintshile- nokuba yeyiphi na indlela.

Olunye uphawu ekufuneka luqwalaselwe lutshintsho kulwalamano lomzimba. Oku kunokuhamba nangayiphi na indlela, kodwa kukho izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uziqaphele ngokubhekisele ekuthatheni lula.

Ukuba iqabane lakho libonakala lifuna ukulala nawe kakhulu, kodwa alikuniki naluphi na ulwalamano olusenyongweni, kusenokwenzeka ukuba bayakuthatha.

Banokungavumi ukwabelana nantoni na nawe ngokweemvakalelo nothando, oko kungumqondiso wokuba ubudlelwane abukho sempilweni njengoko kufanele ukuba.

Awunakuze wenziwe uzive ngathi 'unetyala' kwiqabane lakho nantoni na, ngakumbi xa kufikwa kubudlelwane bakho bezesondo kunye nabo.

Ukuba bakwenza uzive ngathi ufuna ukulala nabo ukuze ufumane ingqalelo okanye uthando, kuya kufuneka ujonge ukuba izinto zifikelele njani kweli nqanaba.

Iqabane lakho akufuneki likwenze ubuze ukufaneleka kwakho njengomntu, okanye wenze ukuba ucinge ngokusebenzisa isondo njenge 'mali' yonxibelelwano lweemvakalelo.

Akufanele uzive unyanzelwe okanye ucinezelwe kuyo nayiphi na into ebonakalayo. Kufanele ukuba ibe yindlela yokwabelana ngebhondi yakho hayi into yokuxoxa kuba ufuna ukuziva usondele kubo.

Ukuba okuchaseneyo kuyenzeka kwaye iqabane lakho alisazibandakanyi nawe ngokwasemzimbeni xa babekade bekwenza oko, kuya kufuneka ubuze ukuba kutheni le nto inokwenzeka.

Unxibelelwano ngumba ophambili kubudlelwane, ngakumbi malunga nokusondelelana ngokwesondo njengoko kunokuba yinto enkulu kwabanye abantu.

9. Awuyonto iphambili kubo.

Kodwa balindele ukuba babe ngabakho.

Ngelixa ungasoloko ungoyena mntu ucinezelayo ebomini babo, kuya kufuneka ubengoyena uphambili kuluhlu lwezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka rhoqo kunangoku.

Ukuba babonakala bebeka ezinye izinto kunye nabanye abantu phambi kwakho rhoqo, ayizukuziva ilunge kakhulu.

Mhlawumbi baphula isithembiso abasenzileyo sokuba babekho nawe kumsitho obalulekileyo wosapho. Okanye batya ezinye izibophelelo obukhe wazifumana kwidayari iminyaka.

Olu luphawu lokuba babeke ixabiso elikhulu kwenye into ngaphandle kwakho kunye nezicwangciso oziwenzileyo kunye.

Ngaba bahlala emva kwexesha emsebenzini amaxesha amaninzi kunokuba kufanelekile?

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kufuneka uthathe isihlalo sangasemva ukuba banomhla obekiweyo obaluleke ngokwenene osondela, kodwa ukuba utya isidlo sakho sangokuhlwa uwedwa uninzi lweempelaveki, babeka ikhondo labo lomsebenzi phambili kubudlelwane bakho.

Okanye bayazishiya izicwangciso kunye nawe xa omnye wabahlobo babo ebatsalela umnxeba ebaxelela ukuba banamatikiti omdlalo webhola ekhatywayo wamva nje?

Ewe kulungile ukugcina ubuhlobo obuqinileyo naxa ukudlelwane, kodwa ukuba abaze balilahle ithuba lokwenza into ngaphandle kwakho, kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba kutheni.

Inyani yile, ubudlelwane obulungileyo buquka inqanaba elithile lokuzincama.

Ewe, ukuba ujika iitafile kwaye uziphathe ngale ndlela kubo, baya kukhathazeka kwaye bangavumeli ukuba ubalahle okanye bakwenze ukuba uhlawule emva koko.

10. Abaqwalaseli iimvakalelo zakho.

Sonke siyazenza iimpazamo amaxesha ngamaxesha kwaye ezi mpazamo ngamanye amaxesha zinokubangela ukwenzakala kwabo sithi sibakhathalele.

Kuxhomekeke kwimeko ngqo, ezi zityibilikisi zihlala zixolelwa.

Kodwa ngaba iqabane lakho alihoyi iimvakalelo zakho rhoqo?

Ngaba benza ngeendlela ezikucaphukisayo ngaphandle kokucinga ngenene ngento abayenzayo?

Mhlawumbi baqhula ngawe phakathi kwabanye. Okanye bakuxelela yonke into malunga nemini yabo emva koko baqhubeke nokwenza enye into ngaphandle kokubuza malunga neyakho.

Abazenzi ezi zinto ngenxa yobubi, kodwa zisongelwe kwilizwe labo elincinci kangangokuba akunakunika iimvakalelo zakho ingcinga yesibini.

Mhlawumbi ngokwendalo abanangqondo, kodwa xa umxabisa ngokwenyani omnye umntu kubudlelwane, uzama okona kunzima ukuzibeka kwezi zihlangu zakhe kwaye ubonise uvelwano oluncinci kube kanye.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, oko akufiki ngokulula kwabanye abantu, kodwa nokuba abanako ukwenza olo nxibelelwano lunzulu, kufuneka ubuncinci bakwazi ukucinga ngokwengqondo malunga nendlela onokuziva unikwe ngayo izenzo zabo.

11. Abamameli okanye bahlangabezane neemfuno zakho.

Sonke sineentswelo. Izinto esingathanda ukuba zisenzele abanye abantu, okanye zisincede ngazo okungenani.

Kubudlelwane obomeleleyo obusekwe kwintlonipho, omabini amaqabane aya kuzama ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabanye kangangoko banako.

Luphawu oluhle lokuba uthathwa njengento engenamsebenzi xa iqabane lakho lingazami nje ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho, kodwa alinikeli ngqalelo xa usenza ukuba iimfuno zakho zicace.

Ibonisa ukuba abaziboni iimfuno zakho njengezibalulekileyo okanye kufanelekile ukwenziwa.

Ezi kunokuba ziimfuno zemoya, iimfuno ezisebenzayo, okanye iimfuno zomzimba.

Mhlawumbi abazami ukukuthuthuzela xa uziva uphantsi. Okanye mhlawumbi bayakushiya ukuba ubuye umva kwisikhululo sikaloliwe ezinzulwini zobusuku xa benokukuthatha ngokulula.

Kwigumbi lokulala, banokugxininisa kwizikhundla ezisebenza kakuhle kulonwabo lwabo ngaphandle kokucinga kakhulu malunga nokuba uyakwazi ukufikelela kwinqanaba elifanayo lolonwabo.

12. Abazami ukuqonda uluvo lwakho.

Amaqabane akufuneki avumelane ngayo yonke into ngalo lonke ixesha. Umahluko wezimvo awuthethi ukuba ubudlelwane buyaphela kwaye Iimpikiswano zinokuba sempilweni ukuya kwinqanaba.

Kodwa kubalulekile ukuzama ukuqaphela umbono weqabane lakho, nokuba ucinga ngokwahlukileyo.

Ngokuqonda ngcono ukuba kutheni umntu ecinga okanye eziva ngendlela abenza ngayo, unokufikelela kwizivumelwano ezisempilweni ezivumela omabini amaqela ukuba azive anelisekile ngokuba kuviwe.

Ukuba iqabane lakho alibonisi mdla wokuzama ukubona apho uvela khona, ngomnye umqondiso wokuba abalixabisi okanye abalihloniphi uluvo lwakho.

Ngaba bafuna ukukhetha nayiphi na impikiswano ozama ukuyenza?

Ngaba abakulungelanga ukuvuma ukungavumelani, benyanzelisa ukuba banyanisile kude kube sekuphefumlweni?

Ukuba kunjalo, akumangalisi ukuba ungaziva uxabisekile kwiqabane lakho.

13. Abaze bacele ingcebiso yakho.

Iqabane lakho linokungafuni iingcebiso zakho malunga naziphi na iingxaki abanokujongana nazo.

Banokuzabalaza bebodwa okanye bade babuze abanye abantu ngegalelo labo endaweni yakho.

Oku kunokuba kungenxa yokuba abafuni ukubonakala bebuthathaka okanye bengakwazi. Mhlawumbi abonelisekanga bubuthathaka obufunekayo xa ucela uncedo kuwe, iqabane labo.

Okanye basenokungakuboni njengabantu abalinganayo ngokwasengqondweni, kwaye ke ababoni ukuba ukubuza uluvo lwakho kwinto kunokunceda. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ubunokuza nesisombululo, ngesele bacinge ngayo.

Ewe, kunjalo, azinakufutshane kwigama okanye kwiingcebiso ezimbini kuwe. Abakhathazi ukuzikhuphela ngaphandle izifundo, kodwa abakulungelanga ukuzifumana.

14. Baphatha abanye ngcono kunendlela abakuphatha ngayo.

Kucacile ukubona ukuba iqabane lakho liphatha usapho, abahlobo, kunye noogxa babo ngcono kunendlela abakuphatha ngayo.

Bababonisa imbeko engekhoyo kubudlelwane bakho.

Bayabamamela abanye, babancede, babonise uxabiso, banikele ingqalelo kwiimfuno zabo, kwaye ngokubanzi baziphathe kakuhle kubo.

Kwaye ayinguwe wedwa onokubona oku.

Ukuba abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho bavakalisa inkxalabo yabo malunga nendlela obonakala uphathwa ngayo njengenqanaba lesibini, kuya kubakho isizathu esivakalayo.

Abayi kuthetha kakubi iqabane lakho kancinci.

15. Awuziva nje uxatyisiwe.

Into emathunjini akho ikuxelela ukuba iqabane lakho alixabisekanga ngendlela othanda ngayo.

uxelele umhlobo wakho ukuba uyabathanda

Rhoqo, iimvakalelo zakho ziyazi ukuba ikhona into ngaphambi kokuba ingqondo yakho ichonge ingxaki. Ke ukuba ubusoloko uziva ngathi into incinci kulwalamano lwakho kangangexesha elithile, amathuba okuba ulungile.

Mhlawumbi ukhe wazama ukuthetha ngale nto kunye neqabane lakho, kodwa akukho nto itshintshileyo.

Ukuba awukwazi ukushukumisa imvakalelo yokuba uthathwa njengento engenamsebenzi, lixesha lokwamkela ukuba oku ngokuqinisekileyo kunjalo.

Hlala womelele

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule ngexesha lakho konke oku kukuba unokukhetha.

Unokukhetha ukunamathela kubudlelwane bakho kwaye uzise le micimbi kunye neqabane lakho okanye unokukhetha ukushiya ubudlelwane.

Kunokubakho inkcazo efanelekileyo yezinye izinto esizichukumisileyo-ukuqhuba kwabo ngesondo kunokuba kwehlile ngenxa yoxinzelelo lomsebenzi, okanye mhlawumbi abathethi nawe ngezinto kuba bengafuni ukukhathazeka, njl.

Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo kuphela kwendlela oya kufumanisa ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye, kwaye emva koko ungathatha isigqibo malunga nendlela yokuqhubela phambili ukusuka apho.

Ukuba uxhalabile kakhulu okanye woyika ukunxibelelana ngezi ntlobo zemicimbi, unenye ingxaki kuba ulwalamano lwakho alunampilo kwaye luyityhefu.

Kukho iindlela zokuphuma kubudlelwane, nangona kunjalo uvalelekile okanye nangona kunjalo kukhwele kuyo, njengokutshata kwabantwana. Cinga ukunxibelelana nomnye wemibutho emininzi kunye noncedo olunokunceda.

Zikhumbuze ukuba ulungele ubudlelwane obunempilo oziva wonwabile kwaye ukhululekile kubo.

Akukho buhlobo bu-100% bufezekile, okanye bufezekile nge-100% yexesha, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba uzive uthandwa kwaye ukhuselekile.

Ukuba awuyifumani loo nto kwiqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ungasebenza ngayo okanye ufuna ukuqhubela phambili.

Uya kuba ulunge nangayiphi na indlela kunye nawe Ngaba Yigqithise, nangona kunjalo kubi ukungabikho kohambo, nangona kunjalo iinyembezi ezininzi uyalila, kwaye nangona kunjalo ithatha i-ice cream.

Yomelela wenze okulungileyo kuwe.

Andiqinisekanga ukuba uza kuya njani kwiqabane lakho malunga noku?Ukuziva uthathelwa ingqalelo akukaze kulunge, kodwa izinto zingatshintsha zibe ngcono. Kuya kuthatha ixesha kunye nomzamo. Ngexesha lenkqubo kunokunceda ukuba neqela lesithathu elingathathi cala ukuba uthethe nalo, nokuba nguwe okanye ngabantu abatshatileyo.Ke ncokola kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda usebenze ngale nto. Ngokulula.

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