Indlela yokujongana nenzondo kubuhlobo bakho: 12 Akukho Bullsh * t Iingcebiso

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Ngaba uthando owakha waluva ngeqabane lakho luye lwasuswa bubukho obonakalisayo bomsindo kubudlelwane bakho?



AWUKHO wedwa.

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Ihlala izonwabisa ngokuzolileyo ngasemva, izenze zivakale kumagqabantshintshi, ukurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo, kunye nokuxabana ngokubanzi phakathi kwamaqabane.

Ukuba uyalicaphukela iqabane lakho kwaye bakucaphukele (ekuthi, masijongane nalo, mhlawumbi baya kwenza njalo ukuba ubudlelwane bakho busendaweni emnyama), yintoni onokuyenza ukuze uphilise imisantsa phakathi kwakho ngaphambi kokuba ijike ibe chasms?

Yiloo nto esiza kuyihlolisisa kweli nqaku.

Isayina ukuba umntu uyakuthanda kodwa uyoyika

Kodwa, okokuqala, inkcazo.

Yintoni ingqumbo?

Inzondo kukuziva ungonwabanga emntwini xa ucinga ukuba ukuphathe ngendlela engafanelekanga.

Akufani ncam nokuba nomsindo okanye ukucaphuka xa umntu ekuphatha kakubi ngokwenene.

Kuyinto ephosakeleyo ebonakalayo enxulumene nezenzo zomnye umntu, amagama, okanye neenkolelo zabo malunga nento ethile.

Inzondo inamacandelo okuntsonkotha okwakha ngokuhamba kwexesha.

Into umntu ayenzayo ekuqaleni ingakucaphukisa, kodwa awuyicaphuki kwangoko.

Nangona kunjalo, ekuhambeni kwexesha, amaxesha aphindaphindiweyo kwinto enye, kunye nokucaphuka kwezinye izinto, kuyenza ingqumbo onayo namhlanje.

Yintoni ebangela ingqumbo kulwalamano?

Ngamanye amaxesha, kungenxa yokuba iqabane lakho lenza into eyahlukileyo kuwe kwaye lingaziva isidingo sokutshintsha iindlela zabo-kwaye ke uyabacaphukela.

Ngamanye amaxesha kungenxa yokuba ungaziva umamele okanye ukuba iqabane lakho alizithathi nzulu iingxaki zakho okanye inkxalabo.

Inzondo inokude ibekho ngenxa yokuzisola onokubona ukuba kubangelwe liqabane lakho- umz. Ukufudukela kwisixeko esitsha ukuze bamkele umsebenzi omtsha, okanye bangabinaye omnye umntwana kuba iqabane lakho alifuni.

Inokwenzeka phakathi kwabazali apho umama / utata ohlala ekhaya engaziva exabisekile okanye exatyisiwe ngazo zonke izinto azenzayo.

Ingakhula kubudlelwane apho indoda ilindele ukuba umfazi athathe inxaxheba kwindima yesini yokupheka, ukucoca, njl.

Rhoqo, ingqumbo iye yehle ibe kukungabikho kokulingana, kokubini okusebenzayo kunye neemvakalelo. Uziva ngathi imisebenzi kunye noxanduva akwabelwananga ngokulinganayo. Okanye uyakholelwa ukuba ubonelela ngenkxaso yeemvakalelo kwiqabane lakho kunakwenzayo kuwe.

Inzondo yenzani kubudlelwane?

Nangona inzondo iyimvakalelo eyahlukileyo emsindweni, ihlala ibonakala njengomsindo kwisenzo sakho kunyango lweqabane lakho.

Xa ubona ukungalungi okanye ukholelwa ukuba iqabane lakho lenze ngendlela ocinga ukuba ayonelisi, uyabagxeka.

Ngelishwa, iqabane lakho, nalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba likucaphukise ngale nto. Ngokuqinisekileyo baya kubona izinto ngokwahlukileyo kwaye uhlaselo lwakho kubo lusisizathu sokuba bazive bephethwe ngokungafanelekanga.

Kwaye ke indlela yokubamba ungquzulwano iyavela njengoko ngamnye wenu evakalelwa kukuba buhlungu kwindawo ethathwa ngomnye.

Iziphumo eziqhelekileyo zoku kukurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo kuwo omabini amaqabane kwisenzo seenkani kunye nolwalamano lokuzibulala.

Akukho namnye kubo ozimisele ukuba ngowokuqala ukubonisa uthando lokwenyani komnye okanye axolise ngenxa yokoyika ukuba oko kubonisa ukwamkelwa kwetyala.

Kwaye okukhona kuhamba ixesha elide, kokukhona ingqumbo iba nkulu.

Ke wenza njani malunga nokujongana nenzondo eninayo nobabini ukuze nisindise ubudlelwane benu?

Nanga amanyathelo onokukwenza Zombini thabatha.

1. Buza ukuba ingaba izinto ozilindeleyo kwiqabane lakho ziyenzeka na.

Akukhomntu ogqibelele. Hayi iqabane lakho. Hayi wena.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho nto ifana nesoka elifanelekileyo, intombi, umyeni, okanye umfazi.

Ungabathanda ukuba babe yiyo yonke into obukade unethemba kwaye uphupha ngayo, kodwa bangabantu kuphela.

Ngaba ulindele okungaphaya kwamandla abo?

Ngaba ingqumbo yakho isekwe kubo, ngokuyinxenye, ekusileleni kwabo ukufikelela kumbono onawo wokuba liqabane elikhulu kufuneka libeyintoni?

Mhlawumbi azenzi zenzo zomzimba zothando ozifunayo ukuze uzive uthandwa.

Okanye abakwazi ukwenza zonke izinto ocela ukuba bazenze kuba abanalo ixesha okanye abazi ukuba njani.

Mhlawumbi i-sex drive yabo ayiphezulu njengeyakho.

Ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka wamkele ukuba iqabane lakho alizukucinga okanye lenze ezona ndlela zilungileyo ngalo lonke ixesha.

Baza kwenza izinto ezikucaphukisayo okanye baphambanise isihogo kuwe. Leyo yingongoma yentlungu engenakuphepheka eza xa abantu ababini besabelana ngobomi babo kunye.

2. Buza ukuba ngaba ufuna ukuyeka ulawulo.

Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngasentla, unobangela oqhelekileyo wengqumbo ngala maxesha xa iqabane lakho lisenza into ngendlela eyahlukileyo kuwe.

Unendlela ethile yokwenza izinto-indlela okholelwa ukuba yeyona ilungileyo.

Kodwa iqabane lakho licinga ngenye indlela. Okanye, ubuncinci, abayiboni into njengento enkulu.

Kwaye nangona ubacelile kaninzi, bayasokola ukwenza ngokweminqweno yakho.

Mhlawumbi lixesha lokwamkela ukuba indlela yakho yokwenza into ayisiyiyo yodwa indlela.

Ngokuqinisekileyo unokubeka isitya sakho sokutya ngokuthe ngqo kwisitya sokuhlambela izitya emva kokuyisebenzisa, kodwa bayishiya esinkini.

Okanye banokubeka umabonwakude kwingxolo yangasemva nokuba ababukeli nyani, ngelixa ukhetha uxolo nokuzola.

Nokuba kunzima kangakanani, kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba akukho namnye kuni olungileyo kwaye akukho namnye kuni ongalunganga.

Baneendlela zabo, uneendlela zakho, kwaye phantse ayinakuthintelwa ukuba abo baya kudibana ngokuchasene amaxesha ngamaxesha.

Awunakulindela ukuba uhlale unezinto ngokwemiqathango yakho. Iqabane lakho linemikhwa - uninzi lwayo olendeleyo kangangokuba kunzima ukwahlukana nayo.

Ewe abanako ukulindela ukusoloko befumana izinto ngendlela yabo. Kufuneka kubekho ulungelelwaniso (siza kuthetha ngalo kamva).

Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba isibhakabhaka asizukuwa ukuba uyeka ukubambelela kwakho ebomini kunye nendlela ofuna izinto zenziwe ngayo.

Vumela iqabane lakho lenze into ngendlela yabo ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ubone ukuba izinto zihlala zisebenza ngokuchanekileyo.

3. Okanye, buza ukuba ufuna ukuzithemba ngakumbi na.

Kusengqiqweni ukulindela iimfuno ezithile kwaye ufuna ukuzalisekiswa

Kodwa ngaphandle kokuba uzicacise gca iqabane lakho, amathuba okuba uhlala udanile-kwaye ucaphuke.

Ukuba uluhlobo lomntu othintela ukungqubana kwaye akalunganga ekuvakaliseni iminqweno yakho, lixesha lokuba ufumene ilizwi lakho eliqinisekileyo.

Ukuba iqabane lakho likukhathalele, baya kuzama konke okusemandleni abo ukulungiselela izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe.

Qiniseka nje ukuba uziqinisekisa ngokwakho ngezinto okholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba zibalulekile.

Ukuba wenza izicelo ezininzi kakhulu zezinto ezibonakala ngathi azibalulekanga, iqabane lakho linokuziva ngathi uyazisokolisa.

Kungenxa yoko le nto inqaku langaphambili kwaye eli kufuneka lijongwe njengelinye. Kufuneka wazi ukuba zeziphi izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka malunga nendlela onqwenela ukuba iqabane lakho lenze ngayo.

Yazi ixesha lokuyeka kwaye uzokuthetha nini uviwe.

Ewe kunjalo, kuya kufuneka wazi ngokulinganayo ngezo mfuno kunye neemfuno ezivakaliswe liqabane lakho ezisengqiqweni.

Kufuneka inikwe kwaye ithathe.

4. Zama ukufumana ulungelelwano olungcono kubudlelwane bakho.

Ukuba inzondo yakho kwiqabane lakho ibangelwa ikakhulu kukungabikho kokulunga kuxanduva lwemihla ngemihla, lixesha lokuba ubhekise kuloo nto.

Akufanelekanga, nangona kunjalo, ulindele utshintsho olukhulu ngobusuku nje-nokuba bayavuma ukuba kukho ukungalingani (kwaye abanakho).

Ukuba okwangoku uziva ngathi ukwahlulwa kungama-70/30, zama ukuthatha amanyathelo amancinci ngexesha ukuze ufike kuma-65/35, emva koko ngama-60/40, njalo njalo.

Awusoze ufike kucoceko olucocekileyo lwe-50/50 kwaye kukuwe ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ungaphila na loo nto.

Okufanayo kuya kwiimvakalelo…

Ukuba uziva unika inkxaso enkulu lonke ixesha ngokumamela ngokukuko kunye nokubakhona neqabane lakho, kunokuba nzima xa bengabuyiseli.

Kodwa kangangoko banako ukuphucula kwezi zinto kwaye babekhona kuwe rhoqo (kwaye kufuneka bazame ukuphucula), abanye abantu abalunganga nje kolu hlobo lwento.

Kwangokunjalo, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uhlala ungowokuqala ukuxolisa okanye ukuqala incoko emva kokungavisisani, kungafuneka uyamkele le ndima kunokuba uzame ukutshintsha iqabane lakho.

Banokuba nemicimbi engaphantsi ebathintelayo ekuboniseni ukuba semngciphekweni- ubuncinci de omnye umntu athobe unogada wabo kuqala.

Ke, ewe, jolisa kulungelelwaniso olungcono kwizinto eziphathekayo nezingokweemvakalelo, kodwa ungalindeli ukulingana okupheleleyo-oko kunqabile nakwezona zinobudlelwane obuphilileyo.

Nantoni na oyenzayo, ungagcini amanqaku. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uliqela, hayi abachasi.

5. Zama ukwamkela iimpazamo zabo.

Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe, akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo.

Sonke sineziphene - ngaphezulu kokuba singathanda ukuvuma.

Inxalenye yokuba nolwalamano olusempilweni yile ukwamkela umntu ukuba ngubani hayi ukuba ufuna ukuba ngubani.

Awunakho ukukhetha ukuthanda kuphela ezona mpawu zibalaseleyo zeqabane lakho. Kuya kufuneka ubathande ngokupheleleyo, iintsumpa kunye nazo zonke.

Enoba abakhulanga ngokweemvakalelo, bayacaphuka, bayalibala, abacingeli, okanye ezinye zezinto ezinganqwenelekiyo, zama ukwamkela ukuba ezi ziyinxalenye yazo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo ungabakhuthaza ukuba basebenze ngokwabo ukulungisa ezinye zeziphene zabo, kodwa kufuneka uzamkele ezo bangenako ukuphucula (okwangoku) ukuphucula kuzo.

Kwangelo xesha, kuphephe ukuthatha isikhundla sokuziphatha okuhle.

Ngokulula njengoko kunokuba njalo ukubona iziphene kwabanye, kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuzibona iimpazamo kuthi.

Ukuba wamkela ubungcwele kunokuba ucinga, unamathuba okuba ulichithe iqabane lakho kwaye ulonakalise ngokwasemphefumlweni ngokubeka ityala kubo bonke ubudlelwane bakho.

Khumbula ukuba ufuna ukuziva wamkelekile ngenxa yokuba ungubani. Le yinxalenye enkulu yokuvuleka kunye nokuba sesichengeni komnye umntu.

Ukuba awunakho ukubamkela abanye ngenxa yendlela abayiyo, ungalindela njani ukuba bandise imbeko efanayo?

6. Cinga ngazo zonke izinto ezintle zeqabane lakho.

Ngokwenza iinzame zokwamkela iimpazamo zeqabane lakho, kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukucinga ngazo zonke iimpawu zabo ezintle endaweni yoko.

Rhoqo, uvakalelo ngokubanzi lweemvakalelo onazo kwiqabane lakho nangaliphi na ixesha liya kuxhomekeka kwiingcinga ezihamba entlokweni yakho.

Xa ezo ngcinga zigqityiwe zizo zonke izinto iqabane lakho elingenzi kakuhle, uziva ungalunganga ngazo.

Xa ezo ngcinga zizinto ezintle ezenziwe liqabane lakho, okanye iimpawu ozithandayo kakhulu ngazo, uziva uqinisekile ngazo.

Ke ngala maxesha xa ingqumbo igcwalisa ingqondo yakho, zama ukuyiphelisa ngokujolisa kwiindawo ezintle zeqabane lakho.

Qaphela zonke ezo zinto kufuneka ubulele ngazo kubudlelwane bakho. Zonke ezo zinto uzixabisa ngokwenene.

Cela umngeni kuzo naziphi na iingcinga zokuba 'kutheni uzikhathaza?' kwaye 'abandikhathalelanga ngokwenene,' ngokuza nobungqina obuphikisayo obukunika isizathu sokukhathazeka kwaye ungqina ukuba bayakhathala.

7. Ziqhelise ukuxolela novelwano.

Khumbula ukuba inkcazo yenzondo ibandakanya imeko yokungalungi. Isekwe kwiimvakalelo zokuba woniwe.

Akumele kumangalise ke ukufumanisa ukuba ukuxolelwa kubalulekile ukuba uza kuyeka ukucaphukisa iqabane lakho.

Uxolelo luza kwiindawo ezimbini. Eyokuqala kukuthatha isigqibo sokungaziphindezeli kwisenzo esibi.

Oku kunceda ukuthintela ukwanda kwengqumbo phakathi kwababini kunye nokurhoxa kude komnye nomnye kunakwiziphumo eziqhelekileyo.

Okwesibini licala leemvakalelo elinzima ngakumbi kwaye kuthatha ixesha elininzi.

Kodwa iba lula ngokuziqhelanisa.

Inxalenye yenkqubo ibandakanya ukuvelana neqabane lakho ukuzama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni le nto yenziwe (okanye iqhubeka nokwenza) ngendlela ethile ekhokelela kukuziva ungalunganga.

Kungangumceli mngeni ukubona izinto ngamehlo eqabane lakho xa uzicaphukela, kodwa ukuba unokujonga nje imeko yemeko kwaye ubuze ukuba kutheni benze (okanye benze) into abayenzileyo, inokukuzisa inyathelo elinye kufutshane nenyaniso ukuqonda kwaye, ekugqibeleni, uxolelo.

Kodwa zama ukungacingi ngezinto ixesha elide. Ukuzidlala ezingqondweni zakho amaxesha ngamaxesha kuya kulibazisa icala lokuxolelwa.

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8. Yamkela ukuba wonke umntu uyasokola- kuquka neqabane lakho.

Bambalwa kakhulu abantu abangenalo uhlobo lwemiba ekhathazayo ebomini babo.

Kwaye, inyani mayixelwe, uninzi lwethu luyayithwala yonke imicimbi nangaliphi na ixesha.

Ayimangalisi into yokuba sisokola. Yethu sonke.

Xa usamkela ukuba iqabane lakho liyasokola, nalo, linokukunceda ubanqumamise kancinci kwaye unciphise imvakalelo ebangelwa zizinto abazenzayo okanye abangazenziyo ezikunika imvakalelo yokungalungi.

Kwaye ngelixa ukuyo, zinike ikhefu lokuziva ngendlela oziva ngayo. Iyaqondakala, nokuba ayinqweneleki.

Ukuba wena neqabane lakho ninokuba nomonde ngakumbi nemfesane omnye nomnye, ungazinciphisa ezo mvakalelo zenzondo phantsi kakhulu.

9. Sebenza ngokwakho.

Umlingane wakho udlala indima enkulu ebomini bakho, kodwa oku akuyithetheleli impembelelo yeemvakalelo obavumela ukuba babe nazo kuwe.

Ke ukuba uyabacaphukela ngenxa yaso nasiphi na isizathu, mhlawumbi unokuzama ukuzenzela impilo-ntle yakho ngokwasemphefumlweni nangokweemvakalelo ngenjongo yokuzimela ngokweemvakalelo.

Oku kuthetha ukuba unokuba ngowakho umthombo wolonwabo nothando. Kwaye awuyi kuchaphazeleka kakhulu kwinto eyenziwa liqabane lakho.

Oku kuluncedo ngakumbi ukuba iqabane lakho alifumaneki ngokwasemphefumlweni okanye alikhulanga.

Usenokungakwazi ukuthembela kubo ukuba bakhule ngeendlela ongathanda ngazo, kodwa ukuzisebenza ngokwakho kunokuthetha ukuba unokuthembela kuwe endaweni yoko.

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10. Thetha neqabane lakho.

Nokuba ungazithatha phi na ezi ngcebiso zingasentla, qiniseka ukuba ufunda ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo neqabane lakho.

Baninzi kakhulu abantu abalindele ukuba amaqabane abo akwazi ukufunda iingqondo zabo. Oku kuhlala kulilize kuba abantu kunokwenzeka ukuba basongelwe ziingcinga zabo kunye neengxaki.

Ke kufuneka uvule kwaye uthembeke xa uthetha neqabane lakho.

Ukuba uziva ukhathazekile yinto abayenzileyo okanye abangayenzanga, baxelele.

Ukuba nenza isigqibo esikhulu kunye, bonisani naziphi na iinkxalabo eninazo malunga nokukhetha kwabo. Musa ukuzifihla kude ugcine uxolo.

Ngokujongana nezi ntlobo zezinto kwangethuba, unokujongana nazo kwaye uzithintele zingaze zibe nenzondo.

Ingcebiso ephathekayo kukusebenzisa 'Mna' iingxelo xa uxoxa ngeengcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Kuphephe ukusebenzisa iingxelo ezithi “wena” ezikwenza ukuba omnye umntu azikhusele.

Umzekelo, yithi, 'Ndiziva ndililolo kwaye ndingathanda ukuchitha iimpelaveki ezininzi kunye,' kunokuba uthi, 'Usoloko uhamba nabahlobo bakho kwaye lento indenza ndizive ndingathandwa.'

Eyokuqala ichaza indlela oziva ngayo, kodwa ikwabonelela ngesisombululo esifanelekileyo. Iqabane lakho kufuneka libe nesizathu esincinci sokungavumelani nesindululo sakho.

Eyesibini ikwaveza indlela oziva ngayo, kodwa ikwenza oko ngendlela engalunganga ebekek 'ityala kwiqabane lakho. Abayi kuba nakho ukuphendula ngendlela eyakhayo.

Xa uxoxa nangaluphi na unxunguphalo onokuba nalo nabo, kunokunceda ukusasaza imeko ngokubabuza ukuba yeyiphi ingqumbo abanokuba nayo kuwe.

Ngale ndlela, uyila yonke incoko njengelinge lokudibana lokoyisa imiba ojamelene nayo kubudlelwane bakho.

Ubonisa ukuba ukulungele ukwamkela uxanduva kwaye oku kunokubenza bavuleleke ngakumbi ekuthatheni isabelo sabo esifanelekileyo nabo.

11. Thetha nomcebisi ngobuhlobo.

Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nisokola ukunxibelelana ngokuzolileyo nangokuqinisekileyo xa ujongene nemicimbi yakho, kunokuba luncedo ukuba nomlamli weqela lesithathu.

Iingcebiso malunga nolwalamano zinokuthi, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, ulususe uxinzelelo kuba unomntu apho oya kumamela omabini amaqela.

Kwaye banikwe uqeqesho kunye namava, umcebisi unokukwazi ukunika iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo malunga nendlela yokufikelela kwindawo ethile yokuncamathela.

Ubuncinci, ubukho bomntu wesithathu bunokubonelela ngendawo efanelekileyo yokuncokola.

Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, awufane ubhabhe ube nomsindo opheleleyo xa kukho omnye umntu kwigumbi elinye-umntu ongeke umazi kakuhle.

12. Sukuba ngowasemnyango.

Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ubudlelwane obuhle buquka ukupha nokuthatha.

Ukuba ulicaphukisile iqabane lakho kuba kubonakala ngathi izikali zincanyathiselwe ngokuqinileyo kuzo, kuya kufuneka ubuze ukuba bayakwazi na ukutshintsha ngokwaneleyo ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ziyeke.

Sukuvuma ukuba uxhamle, kwaye uphephe ukungena kubudlelwane obuxhomekeke kwindawo apho uthatha indima yomkhathaleli.

Kangangokuba ungalithanda iqabane lakho, awunakho ukubatshintsha-kuphela kwabo banokuzitshintsha, ukuba bafuna njalo.

Yazi xa kukulungele ukuphelisa ubudlelwane. Ayilulo lonke uthando olunokuhlala, kwaye kulungile.

Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga nenzondo oziva ngayo kwiqabane lakho?Xa uneemvakalelo ezingamkelekanga ngoluhlobo kubudlelwane, kunokuba nzima ukoyisa wedwa. Kodwa akufuneki. Nokuba nguwe wedwa okanye njengesibini, uyakuxhamla ngokuthetha nomcebisi kwezobudlelane oqeqeshiweyo. Ngokwenene banokunceda ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhamba ngendlela engeyiyo.Ke kutheni ungaxoxi kwi-Intanethi nengcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.

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