Ngaba ukhe uzive ngathi uxhomekeke kakhulu kwabanye abantu ukuze unyuse imood yakho kwaye bakuxhase?
Ngelixa kumnandi ukuba nenethiwekhi yabantu abakungqongileyo abakuthandayo nabakukhathaleleyo, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuzikhathalela.
Ngokufunda indlela yokuzimela ngokweemvakalelo, uya kufumana iindlela zokuphucula impilo yakho.
Kutheni uxhomekeke kwabanye nje?
Inxalenye yokuqala yale nkqubo iyonke kukuzivavanya- indlela elungileyo yokuqala yonke into, ngenene!
Kubalulekile ukuba wazi apho uvela khona ukuze umisele apho ufuna ukufikelela khona kunye nento ofuna ukuyiphumeza.
Qala ngokujonga ukuba kutheni uyirhalela le nto ingqalelo okanye imvume kwabanye abantu.
Kuvakala ngathi kuyintsomi, kodwa isenokuba yinto yokwenza nobuntwana bakho.
Ukuba ukhule unabazali abaqhawule umtshato okanye bohlukene, oko kungachaza ukuba kutheni ungazinzanga kwaye ungazithembanga kwiinkalo ezininzi zobomi bakho.
Ubuhlobo bakho obudlulileyo kunye nobudlelwane bakho bunokukhanyisa ngokuziphatha kwakho kwangoku.
Ukuba ubukhe wangena ubudlelwane bokuxhomekeka okanye ubunobuhlobo obusondeleyo kakhulu ngaphambili, kungenzeka ukuba uqhele ukuthembela emntwini ngesiqinisekiso, ingcaciso, kunye nesikhokelo.
Ukucinga ngokwakho isitshixo apha!
Hlala phantsi kwaye ube neseshoni efanelekileyo yokukhangela umphefumlo: sithetha ngencwadi yokubhalela, iingcinga zengqondo, ukubhala iikhowudi ngemibala!
Ngelixa le nkqubo imalunga nokufumana uxolo ngaphakathi kwakho kunye nokufunda ukuhlala kamnandi nokuzimela kwakho, kusakulungile ukufumana abanye abantu babandakanyeke.
Uvumelekile ukuba uncediswe apha endleleni, kwaye abanye abantu babophelelekile ukuba negalelo elinomdla nelingafaniyo elinokunceda ekukhanyiseni isimilo sakho sangoku.
Qiniseka ukuba uthetha ngale nto nabantu obathembayo, abakwazi kakuhle.
Oku konke malunga nokuzakha ngokwakho, ke eyakho ubahlobo abasenyongweni okanye amalungu osapho aya kubakho ukukuxhasa kuhambo lwakho lokuzimela ngokweemvakalelo.
Khangela izinto ezikwenza uzive wonwabile.
Okulandelayo, lixesha lokwenza ulonwabo lwakho.
Siyazi, akukho lula njengoko kuvakala, kodwa kananjalo akunzima njengoko ucinga!
Qala ngokudibanisa umsebenzi omtsha omnye kwiveki nganye.
Kubalulekile ukuthatha izinto ngesantya sakho-ukuba uyangxama, uzibeka emngciphekweni wokuziva ukoyiswa, ukutshiswa, kunye nokukhutshelwa ecaleni ngokupheleleyo kulo lonke olu luvo.
Yenza uluhlu lwezinto ezikwenza ukuba uzive ulungile, nokuba kungokwasemzimbeni okanye engqondweni.
Usenokuba uyazi ukuba ukuzilolonga kulungile kakhulu kwindlela ojonga ngayo ubomi, ke yongeza kwiseshoni kwiveki oza kuqala ngayo.
Ukuba awenzi mthambo omninzi ngalo mzuzu, qalisa ngokuhamba ukukhanya ukuze umzimba wakho usebenze.
Ungasebenza ukuya kuthi ga kwiiveki ngeeveki okanye kwiiseshini zokuzilolonga, okanye ungazama ukuqubha ukuba awukwenzi oko okwethutyana (okanye nanini).
I-Yoga kunye neePilates ziindlela ezithandekayo zokujonga umzimba wakho kunye nokusebenza kwengqondo yakho, nawo.
Kungenzeka ukuba ubuchule bukunceda uzive ulungile ngesiqu sakho-esinokuzoba, ukupeyinta, okanye ukwenza umculo.
Yonke le misebenzi ivakala ngokuthe tye kwaye usenokungayiboni kwasekuqaleni indlela eza kukuchaphazela ngayo.
Uluvo olungemva koku kukuba uqala ukuqonda izakhono zakho… amandla akho.
Kulula kakhulu siziva ngathi asilunganga kwinto yonke okanye asinanto inomdla ngeziqu zethu, kwaye loo nto inokubangela ukuba sixhomekeke ngakumbi kwabo basingqongileyo.
Ukuzithemba kwethu kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekubeni nezinto esizithandayo kunye nezinto esinomdla kuzo, kwaye sifunda ukuba unako yenza izinto!
Yamkela ixesha elilodwa-kwaye ulamkele!
Ixesha eliyedwa yinto uninzi lwethu olunzima ukuyifumana.
Ukuba sele uyazi ukuba uxhomekeke kakhulu kwabo bakungqongileyo ukonwaba kwakho, ukukhululeka ngokuba wedwa kuya kukunceda kakhulu.
Ukuhamba sizingqonge nabantu abasinika ingqwalaselo kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba sodwa banokuziva besoyikisa kwaye besoyikisa.
Ngokwamkela ukuba siza kuba sodwa ngamanye amaxesha ebomini, sinokufumana iindlela zokukhululeka kunye-nokuba sikonwabele- kunokuba sizame ngandlela zonke ukuzikhusela.
Ngokwala iimvakalelo zokuziva ulilolo ezinokuthi zivelise, senza inqanaba lesazela kunye noloyiko olungqongileyo.
Oku kuthetha ukuba siqala ukoyika ukuba sodwa kwaye ke sixhomekeke ngakumbi kwabanye abantu kulonwabo lwethu.
Ngokwamkela ukuba siza kuba sodwa, sinokusebenzela ukufumana iindlela zokuyonwabela.
Ixesha eliyedwa lidla ngokuziva lisoyikeka kuba alinanto engenasiphelo.
Siyazi ukuba siza kuba sedwa kwaye yiyo yonke into esiyilungisayo-loo nto ililize.
Ngokucwangcisa izinto zokugcwalisa elo xesha lilodwa, sinako ukuqala ukulisebenzisa ngokupheleleyo.
Uya kumangaliswa kukukhawuleza ukuqhele ukuhlala wedwa kwaye ungakanani oza kukwenza ukuze wenziwe ngelo xesha, nokuba ngumsebenzi okruqulayo okanye imisebenzi yasekhaya okanye imisebenzi eyonwabisayo njengobusuku bhanyabhanya bhanyabhanya, iiseshini zokupheka, okanye ukucula kakhulu ngelixa ucwina ebhafini!
Cinga ngeendlela ezimnandi zokugcwalisa ixesha lakho kwangaphambili ngaphambi kokuba ufumane 'ixesha lodwa' elikhulu elizayo.
Ngale ndlela uyakuqala ukujonga phambili ekubeni wedwa kunokuba woyike.
Cinga ngalo njengethuba lamathuba, hayi isithukuthezi.
Lixesha lokuba izinto zisuswe endleleni ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, ixesha lokuphumla kungekho namnye umntu okukugweba, ixesha lokusebenza kwezinto ezifihlakeleyo ofuna ukuzigcina zodwa!
Yenza uluhlu lolu khetho kwaye uqalise ukusebenza ngalo.
Ixesha liza kuhamba kwaye kungekudala uza kuqala ukuthembela kuwe ngokwakho ukuze wenze ezi seshoni zodwa zodwa, uzakhele ubomi kwaye uzenzele ulonwabo, ngokwemiqathango yakho.
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Phinda ubeke igama elithi 'ezimbi'
Ukuqwalasele ukuba yintoni ekwenza uzive ungonwabanga okanye uxhalabile, kufanelekile ukuzama ukuyibuyisela.
Usenokuziqinisekisa ukuba awunakuziva ulungile ngenxa yokuba ungathandeki, uyadika, bubudenge njl.
Ukuba ezi zinto 'zimbi' zisentloko yakho ngesizathu, kuphonononge oko.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu othile uthethe into oyitolike gwenxa okanye wakhumbula kakubi.
Ungayikhumbula imeko apho waziva ulahliwe kwezothando-kusenokwenzeka ukuba awukuqondanga kakuhle okwenzekayo okanye kukho esinye isizathu emva kwako.
Mhlawumbi umntu onomdla kuye ebengenamdla, okanye mhlawumbi ixesha ebelicinyiwe okanye iimeko bezingabalungelanga (bebephumela kwi-ex, befuna ukungatshati njlnjl.).
Kungokwemvelo ukwakha iimeko ezintlokweni zethu kunye nokwenza iimeko ezinokuthi zingabinzeki.
Kwakhona akunampilo, nangona kunjalo, kwaye ngokumangalisayo ukuzilimaza !
Njengoko usebenzela ekubeni uzimele ngakumbi ngokwasemphefumlweni, kubalulekile ukuba uyeke iimeko 'ezimbi' ezikhokelela ekubeni urhalele ingqalelo kunye nokuqinisekiswa.
Sebenzisa amandla engqondo yakho ngokulungileyo…
Endaweni yokuba, 'Andiwufumenanga loo msebenzi ngenxa yokuba andinangqondo ngokwaneleyo,' zxelele ukuba kungenxa yokuba kukho izinto ezingcono ezizayo.
Phinda uzenzele izinto ezenzekileyo wakube wehlile kwaye unokuba nengqiqo.
Kuyanceda kakhulu ukubhala olu hlobo lwezinto phantsi, njengoko kulula ukusuka ekuziva ulungile malunga nento ethile ukutsiba ubuyele ngqo kwingqondo ekhathazayo oqale ngayo.
Jonga emva kuluhlu lwakho qho xa uqala ukuziva ungalunganga ngento eyenzekileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo.
Uya kufumanisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba awudingi ukubiza umhlobo ukuba athethe ngento (kwakhona!) Eyenzekileyo kwiinyanga ezidlulileyo.
Ungajonga ngokulula ijenali yakho , zikhumbuze ukuba usenokungacingi ngokusengqiqweni ngenxa yoxinzelelo, kwaye uyihlaziye imeko ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Yifumane ngokubhaliweyo.
Ngokusebenza ngokuzimela ngakumbi ngokweemvakalelo, uyakonwabela izibonelelo ezininzi.
Kungakuhle kakhulu ukubhala into olindele ukuba yenzeke kunye nento ofuna ukuyenza.
Uninzi lwayo luyazichaza, ewe, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ayikufanelekisi ukuzikhumbuza rhoqo!
Yenza uluhlu onokubhekisa kulo xa unengxaki. Iya kukukhumbuza ngento osebenzela kuyo kwaye iya kukubonisa nenkqubela phambili oyenzayo.
Qho xa usiza kujonga uluhlu lwakho, uya kuba nakho ukuphawula izinto ezininzi!
Kuyanelisa ngenene ukubona ngokubonakalayo ukuba ungakanani umahluko owenzayo kwingqondo yakho, ke ukuba noluhlu olubonakalayo olubhalwe phantsi endaweni ethile luya kukunceda kakhulu.
Unokusebenzisa olu luhlu ukwenza i-mantra ngokwakho-qalisa usuku ngalunye ngokufunda uluhlu ngokuvakalayo phambi kwesipili.
Okanye kutheni ungazenzeli ukurekhodwa kweaudiyo xa uthetha ngento ofuna ukuyiphumeza (kwaye ngoba) ukudlala ebusuku xa usiya kulala okanye usebenzisa isiseko seseshoni yokucamngca?
Ezi zenzo zinokuziva ngathi ziyabudenge, kodwa khumbula ukuba uyazenzela - thatha ixesha lokufumana indawo ethe cwaka apho ungazukuphazanyiswa.
Ukuthetha nembonakalo yakho kunokuziva ngathi uyoyikisa ngokungathandekiyo okanye uneentloni, kodwa akukho mntu wumbi unokubona okanye ukuva! Uyakuyiqhela kungekudala…
Bonakalisa into ofuna ukuyenza - yibone ngeso lengqondo isenzeka kwaye ucinge ngemeko apho ukwazi ukwenza khona izinto ofuna ukuzenza kolu qheliselo.
Kungenzeka ukuba ufuna ukuziva ukwazi ukwenza izigqibo uwedwa, okanye uyeke ukuthembela kwabanye ukukhulisa ukuzithemba okanye ukubaluleka kwakho.
Nxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka.
Kwakhona, konke oku malunga nokufumana ukuzimela okungakumbi ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokufunda ukonwaba nokuzithemba ngokwakho, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ube yedwa kwaye uphephe lonke unxibelelwano lomntu!
Thetha nabantu obathembileyo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.
Qaphela indlela othetha ngayo ngala mava - kubalulekile ukuba ungabuyeli kwimikhwa yakudala yokuthembela kwabo bakungqongileyo.
Unokuthetha malunga nokwenzekayo, ewe, qonda nje ukuba ngoku unenqanaba elitsha lokuzazi kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuba uhlale uzimele kangangoko unakho xa kuziwa kwiimvakalelo zakho.
Awudingi ukuba uzive ngathi kufuneka uye kubanda turkey - kusakulungile ukufuna izimvo zabantu kunye nokuzibandakanya kubomi bakho…
… Imalunga nokufunda ukubeka umgama phakathi kwakho kunye nokwamkelwa ngabanye.
Ukufumana umbono wangaphandle kunokuba luncedo ngokwenene xa kufikwa ekusebenzeni ngokwakho, njengokuphikisana njengoko oko kungavakala!
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Uya kufumanisa ukuba unemincili kakhulu malunga nenkqubela-phambili oyenzayo, okanye uya kuziva kamnandi xa umntu omthandayo ephawula ngayo.
Yabelana ngamabali endlela oqhuba kakuhle ngayo wedwa, into oyigcwalisayo, kwaye ubuze ukuba zeziphi iingcebiso abanazo.
Jonga indlela abanye abantu abaphatha ngayo, okanye abaphathe ngayo, iimvakalelo ezifanayo okanye iimeko.
Uyakufumanisa ukuba uninzi lwabantu luye lwadlula kwinto efanayo, okanye lusenemvakalelo yokuba lilolo okanye isidingo sokuqinisekisa isityalo amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Yindalo ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye ayisiyiyo into ekufuneka uyiphelisile nangayiphi na indlela, yinto nje esempilweni yokunciphisa.
Yicinge njengekhekhe- ayisiyonto intle yonke imihla, kodwa kulungile ukuzonwabisa rhoqo!
Fake de uyenze .
Siza kukushiya neengcebiso ezisebenza kwiimeko ezininzi-yenze inkohliso ude uyenze.
Ukuba konke okunye kusilele, zixelele indlela oziva ngayo kwaye uyenze ibe ntle.
Unokwenza ngathi uziva umkhulu, nokuba wenza kanye loo nto- ukuzenzisa.
Kubalulekile ukuba zifake kwimikhwa elungileyo kunye neepatheni zokuziphatha, kwaye uziqinisekise ukuba sele ukuzo yindlela emnandi yokwenza ukuba inamathele.
Libinzana esilikhuphela ngaphandle kakhulu, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa siyalithanda- 'ii-neurons ezitshisa kunye zihlangene ngocingo.'
Ngokwenyani oku kuthetha into xa kufikwa ezingqondweni zethu nakwiingqondo.
Ngokwenza ngokungathi sikhululekile ukuba nokuzimela nokuzithemba ngakumbi, iingqondo zethu ziya kuqala ukuyikholelwa kwaye siya kuziva sizithembile ngakumbi kuloo ndawo yobomi bethu.
Ngokuqhubeka nokusebenza ngokungathi siziva ngokwenyani ngaloo ndlela, ubuchopho bethu buya kuqala ukubuyela kwakhona.
Ixesha elingaphezulu, kukho unxibelelwano oluthile lomzimba olwenziwe kwingqondo yethu edibanisa indlela yokuziphatha kwenye.
Umzekelo, 'Ndiziva ndingonwabanga ngam namhlanje' ndinokukhawuleza, kwaye ngamandla, ndinxulunyaniswe 'Ndifuna ukufownela umhlobo ndikhale umnxeba kangangeyure.'
Okukhona sithembela kwabanye ukuba sonwabe okanye sizithembe, kokukhona iingqondo zethu zifunda ukuba 'siyazidinga' ezo ntsebenziswano ukwenza ezo mvakalelo zilungileyo.
Ngokudibanisa ingcinga nganye engakhiyo nento eyakhayo, njengokuthi 'ndiyakwazi ukuphumla ndiphumle ndedwa ekhaya, ndimamele umculo endiwuthandayo kwaye ndipheke isidlo endisithandayo,' iingqondo zethu zifunda ukuba sinokuzixhasa ngokwasemphefumlweni.
Ezi ngcinga zithatha indawo ziya kunciphisa abo baxhomekeke kuwe kwaye uya kuqala ukwenza amakhonkco awomeleleyo azimeleyo, azithandayo endaweni yoko.
