Ukuzinza ngokweemvakalelo kuligalelo ngqo kulonwabo kunye nokuphila ubomi obulungileyo. Ngaphandle kwayo, ubeka emngciphekweni wokuwela kumzekelo wobukhwele, uxinzelelo, iintlungu, kunye noxinzelelo.
Ngethamsanqa, nabani na angenza ukhetho lokuphucula imeko yeemvakalelo. Ungayitshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo kwaye utshintshe imikhwa yakho yemihla ngemihla ukuze uzenze uphumelele ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye uphucule umgangatho wobomi bakho.
Kuthetha ntoni ukuzinza ngokweemvakalelo? Kuthetha ukukhetha isenzo kunye neengcinga ezifaka isandla ngokuthe ngqo kukuzola kunye noxolo. Kuthetha ukuphuhlisa imikhwa ezisa ukuvumelana ebomini bakho kunye nokunxibelelana kwakho nayo yonke into kunye nawo wonke umntu.
Uhlala njani uzinze ngokwasemphefumlweni? Ewe, ukuqala, unokuzama ukwamkela eminye yale mikhwa ebonisa abantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo.
1. BATHI HAYI
Abantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo bayazi ukuba nini kwaye nini ungathini hayi . Abazibopheleli ngaphezulu okanye benze izithembiso ezingeyonyani. Bathetha nje hayi kwizicelo abangazifuniyo okanye abanalo ixesha lazo.
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Ngelixa abantu abangazinzanga bengazi ukuba bathi hayi, kwaye bahlala befumana ithuba, abantu abazithembileyo bayaqonda ukuba abanalo ixesha layo yonke into.
Baneeyure ezingamashumi amabini anesine kuphela ngosuku, ke bafuna ukuchitha ezo yure ngobulumko- besenza ezona zinto zibalulekileyo kubo.
Oku kuzolile, okwangoku abantu abazithethelelayo ungaziva ungonwabanga xa usithi hayi, kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuba bacacise ukuba kutheni besithi hayi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, 'Hayi' sisivakalisi esipheleleyo.
Ukuthi 'hayi' kufuna ukuzithemba. Sonke sifuna nceda abantu , yenza abaphathi nabahlobo bethu bonwabe, kwaye senze konke esinako ukukwenzela abanye.
Kodwa xa sithatha kakhulu, senza umsebenzi ombi, sizityebisa kakhulu, kwaye singonwabi. Sizolula sibhitye kakhulu, kwaye siphulukana nokuzithemba nokuzinza ngokweemvakalelo ngenxa yako.
Ukuba uyasokola ngokwasemphefumlweni kuba unezitya ezininzi kwaye unjalo ndiziva ndonganyelwe , zama ukuxelela umntu 'hayi' namhlanje.
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Sukuba nexhala lokuba ungatshisa iibhlorho. Abantu baya kuqonda. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube krwada okanye uthethe kakubi xa umala umntu. Mxelele nje umntu ocela uncedo lwakho ukuba awungekhe ulunge kwishedyuli yakho.
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2. Bayazamkela iziphene zabo
Ngubani owakha wathi abantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo babegqibelele? Ngokuqinisekileyo ayizizo. Bayazi ukuba abafezekanga, kwaye bayakwamkela.
Ukuba bebegqibelele, bebeya kwenziwa bekhula kwaye bekhula. Abaze bafune ukuyeka ukukhula. Kuninzi okunokufundwa emhlabeni, kwaye bafuna ukufunxa ulwazi oluninzi kangangoko banako.
Akukho sidingo sokugqibelela, kwaye umntu ozinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo akazukuzama. Bayakuvuyela ukukuxelela konke malunga nokungafezeki kwabo kwaye bazamkele ekuhleni iimpazamo zabo. Bona bayazithanda ngokuba bangoobani… kwaye bangengobani!
Amandla kunye nolonwabo luvela ngaphakathi, ke ukufunda ukuzamkela ngokwakho ukuba ungubani kubalulekile ekuzinzeni ngokweemvakalelo.
Soloko uzama ukujonga okuhle kuzo zonke iimeko. Nokuba ungonakala, kuhlala kukho isifundo ekufuneka usifunde okanye indawo oza kuyiphucula.
3. Bawazi Amandla Ukumamela
Abantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo bamamela ngaphezulu kokuthetha. Bazithembile kwinto abaya kuyithetha kwaye, ke ngoko, abaziva banesidingo sokuthetha ngalo lonke ixesha. Banxibelelana kakhulu ngenxa yokukwazi kwabo ukumamela.
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Ngaphezu, abantu abanjalo bayazi indlela yokuthatha ingxelo ebalulekileyo . Awuyi kubafumana bekrwada emva kokufumana ingcebiso kumntu osebenza naye kwinkcazo-ntetho yabo. Bafuna ukwazi uluvo lwakho, nokuba abavumelani nalo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Ungaba njani noVakalelo oluNcinci ngokweemvakalelo
4. Bakhetha ngokwesijikelezo sabo sangaphakathi
Isimo sengqondo siyosulela, kwaye abantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo bayazi ukuba inkampani abayigcinayo iya kuba nefuthe kwindlela ababujonga ngayo ubomi.
Ukungakhathali kunokuchaphazela impilo yakho ngokweemvakalelo. Kuba abantu abazinzileyo abafuni ukuba abanye batyhalele amandla amabi ngendlela yabo, bayabakhetha abo bakhetha ukunxulumana nabo.
Abazichazanga abantu abanetyhefu abanokuphelisa ukuzikhusela kwabo okanye ukuthoba isimilo sabo.
Abantu ababiyo bakho kuyo yonke indawo, kwaye bazimisele ngakumbi ukukuhlisa kunye nabo. Gcina isangqa sakho sangaphakathi kwaye udibanise kuphela nabantu abakwakhayo.
Ukuba unomntu ebomini bakho okuchaphazela ngendlela engeyiyo, kusenokuba lixesha lokophula loo ntambo. Ezinye iibhlorho zifuna ukutshiswa.
5. Bayala ukuNgqinelana
Abantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo abathengi kwinto abangakholelwa kuyo. Awuyi kubafumana bexhuma kwi-bandwagon yazo zonke izinto ezintsha. Abakhathali nokuba 'bayafanelana' nesihlwele. Bazi zikhululekile kulusu lwazo .
Aboyiki ukuphikisana nosapho, abahlobo, abantu abasebenza nabo, okanye umhlaba wonke. Uxinzelelo loontanga alukho nje kwisigama sabo.
Okukhona ukhuselekile xa ukwinqanaba leemvakalelo, kokukhona uya uzimela. Awusayi kuphinda uve isidingo sokungena, kuba uyazi ukuba sele uyenzile.
Ngexesha elizayo xa uziva unyanzelekile ukuba wenze into engahambelaniyo neenqobo zakho zokuziphatha okanye imigaqo yokuziphatha, zibuze ukuba yeyiphi imvakalelo ebotshelelwe kuloo mfuneko yokungena.
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6. Bona Cela Uncedo
Abantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo abazive besoyikiswa ukuba bafuna uncedo. Kutheni beza? Abona bantu baphumeleleyo ehlabathini banamaqela apheleleyo abaxhasayo kwaye abancede baphumelele.
Umntu onjalo uyazi ukuba akanako ukuyenza yedwa, kwaye akazukuchitha ixesha labo bezama. Bathemba abantu kwaye aboyiki ukucela (okanye ukuqesha) uncedo.
Ukucela uncedo akuthethi ukuba usilele. Sonke siyaludinga uncedo amaxesha ngamaxesha. Ukuba unengxaki kwindawo ethile yobomi bakho, zibuze ukuba ngubani onokukwazi ukukunceda uze ucele uncedo!
7. Bayabaxhasa Abanye
Abantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo bayathanda ukugcoba abanye. Bayakuthanda ukunceda oontanga babo baphumelele. Awuyi kufumana enye ehamba ngasemva komnye umntu okanye ethatha ikhredithi ngomsebenzi womnye umntu.
Baza kukuqhwabela izandla xa usenza kakuhle… kwaye kuyinyani! Aba bantu baziincutshe zakho, kwaye bafuna ukuba uphumelele. Banobuqili ngokwaneleyo ukuba baqonde ukuba ngokunxulumana nabanye abantu abaphumeleleyo, baya kuphumelela nabo.
Ukuba uhlala uziva usiva umona okanye unqwenela ngasese ukuba abanye bangaphumeleli ukuze uphumelele, unikezela kubuthathaka bakho ngokweemvakalelo.
Iimvakalelo zizikhuthazi ezimangalisayo, kwaye zinokulawula iingqondo nemizimba yethu. Endaweni yokugxila kwabanye abantu nakwinto abayenzayo ngobomi babo, zigxile kuwe.
Ukuphucula impilo yakho yeemvakalelo kuya kukunceda ufumane okuninzi ebomini. Xa uqala ukuphumeza imikhwa exhasa ukuzinza ngokweemvakalelo, uxinzelelo lwakho luya kuncipha, imveliso yakho iya kunyuka, kwaye uya kuziva uzalisekisiwe ebomini bakho.
Ukutshintsha iimvakalelo zakho sisakhono esifuna ukuziqhelanisa. Ungaluphucula uzinzo lweemvakalelo zakho, kodwa kuya kufuneka uzinikele ekwenzeni utshintsho olululo ebomini bakho. Sebenzisa imikhwa edweliswe apha ngasentla kwaye unxibelelane nomntu owomeleleyo obefanele ukuba ubenjalo.
