Ukuba uqhubeka uzifumana uziva kancinci 'kuyo yonke indawo' kwaye ungazi ukuba kutheni, sinokukwazi ukukhanyisa imeko.
Ukunxibelelana neemvakalelo zakho yinto entle kakhulu-de iqale ngokuchaphazela kakubi ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Unokuziva uziva ngakumbi ngenxa yento yomzimba, yokomoya, okanye eyengqondo, kwaye kubalulekile ukusombulula le micimbi kwaye uqhubele phambili ngobomi bakho.
1. Iimeko zempilo
Siza kuyikhupha le ndlela kuqala, njengoko iyona nto idla ngokubangela inkxalabo enkulu.
Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zokuziva uziva ngaphezulu ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye banokuchazwa ngokuphila imihla ngemihla. Oko kwathiwa, naluphi na utshintsho olunzima okanye olukhawulezileyo kwiimvakalelo zakho lunokukhomba kwingxaki yezempilo.
Nangona oku kungabikho nto yokukhathazeka ngayo, kuyafaneleka ukuba uthathe uhambo oluya kugqirha ukuba izinto zitshintshile ngokukhawuleza, okanye ufumana ezinye iimpawu.
Ukuba neemvakalelo kunokunxulunyaniswa nokungalingani kwehomoni (ngakumbi ukuba ungumfazi, uyacaphukisa!), Imiba ngamayeza akhoyo, okanye iingxaki ze-thyroid.
2. Uxinzelelo lwangaphambili
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukwenza shiya izinto ngaphambili , kunye neenkumbulo zentlungu eyadlulayo okanye iintlungu zinokungena emva xa ubungenakulindela.
Iindawo ezithile zenkqubo yakho yemihla ngemihla zinako kubangela iimpendulo ngokweemvakalelo . Ngamanye amaxesha, kunokuba nzima ukwazi ngokuthe ngqo ukuba yintoni ebangele olu tshintsho lwe-domino, yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho.
Ngokwabelana ngendlela oziva ngayo kunye nokubaleka ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kunye neenkumbulo, uhlala uqonda ngokwendalo ukuba zivela phi iimvakalelo zakho.
3. Indalo Nehlabathi Lomoya
Kukho abanye abakholelwa ukuba izinto zendalo zichaphazela iimvakalelo zakho.
Imijikelo yenyanga, umzekelo, kucingelwa ukuba iyayiguqula indlela oziphethe ngayo kwaye inokukushiya uziva uvulekile okanye usengozini.
Inyanga epheleleyo kuthiwa yeyona inamandla ngokubhekisele kwiimvakalelo zethu - ukuba uziva uphantsi, ucaphukile, okanye ugcwele amandla amabi, jonga isibhakabhaka!
Nangona kungekho bungqina obuphathekayo besayensi bokuba inyanga kunye nezinye izidalwa zasezulwini zinokuba nefuthe kwiimvakalelo zakho, abantu abaninzi bathi umjikelo wenyanga uneemvakalelo eziphantsi, ezinemvakalelo.
Utshintsho lwamaxesha onyaka lunokuba nefuthe lokwenyani kwimeko yakho yeemvakalelo. Iintsuku ezimfutshane kunye nokunqongophala kokukhanya kwendalo kunokukhokelela kwiNgxaki yeXesha eliSebenzayo (i-SAD).
Ngokuqinisekileyo bukhona ubungqina bokuba ukuvezwa kwendalo-okanye ukusilela kwayo-kunokuba nefuthe ekuphenduleni kwethu ngokweemvakalelo.
Imicimbi yangoku
Abanye abantu banobulungisa uvakalelo kakhulu kwinto eyenzekayo ejikeleze bona , ezinokuba namandla ngamanye amaxesha. Ngokuninzi okwenzekayo emhlabeni, kunokuba nzima ukuhlala ungangxamanga ngamanye amaxesha!
Ukuba ufana nesiponji esineemvakalelo, ukufunda nokuva ngeziganeko ezothusayo zehlabathi zinokukubeka kwaye zikhuphe iimvakalelo zakho. Oku kungenza kube nzima kakhulu ukulawula, njengoko ungeke uziphephe ngokwenene iindaba!
Ukuba nemfesane kunye novelwano zizimpawu ezintle, kodwa unokufuna ukujonga iindlela zokunciphisa ukubonakaliswa kwakho kwimithombo yeendaba ekhuthaza iimvakalelo.
5. Imisitho Ezayo
Ukuba unomcimbi omkhulu oza kuza, uya kuba noxinzelelo malunga nawo. Ngelixa uxinzelelo luyimpendulo yendalo, kwaye isempilweni, inokuba ityhila imfumba yezinye iimvakalelo!
Ukuba noxinzelelo kusenza ukuba sithande ngakumbi, ukuba nomsindo kunye nokudana. Isenokuba ludliwanondlebe, ukudibana, ukuphuma ebusuku, okanye isidlo sangokuhlwa sosapho, kwaye unokuba ujonge phambili kuyo, kodwa iimvakalelo ezingamkelekanga zinokubangelwa nangayiphi na indlela.
Ingaba yinto oyenzayo rhoqo, kodwa ukulindela kunokubangela ukwakhiwa kweemvakalelo ezinokuthi emva koko ziphume ngaxeshanye kwaye zikushiye uziva ukhathazekile!
6. Tshintsha
Kunye neziganeko ezizayo, utshintsho kwiimeko zakho lunokuchaphazela imeko yakho. Unokuba uhambisa indlu, utshintsha imisebenzi, uya kuqhekeka, okanye uqala ubudlelwane obutsha.
Nangona kunjalo kunokuba kuhle, kwaye nangona ucinga kakuhle ukuba uhlangabezana nayo yonke loo nto, utshintsho lunokushiya uzive ukhululekile ngokweemvakalelo.
Kwakhona, oku kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa nolindelo, kunye ne uhlobo losizi . Utshintsho luhlala luziva ngathi lilahleko, nokuba lufunwa kangakanani okanye luyafuneka.
Ezi mvakalelo zinje-zentlungu zinokuvela xa umntu engasekho ebomini bakho- isenokuba ayikadluli, kodwa loo nxalenye yobomi bakho ayisaphili.
Intlungu ithatha iindlela ezininzi kwaye ihlala ikhokelela kuloo nto 'kuyo yonke indawo' iimvakalelo ezi-super-emotional esiqhelene nazo.
Utshintsho yenye nje yezo zinto, kwaye uya kufumana ezakho iindlela zokujongana nazo. Oko kunokuthetha ukuvalwa kuyo nayiphi na iminyango evaliweyo, kunye nokubhala izizathu zokuba wonwabile ngezinto ezintsha kwaye uzenzele imantra.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ungazilawula njani iimvakalelo zakho kwiimeko ezifuna iNtloko epholileyo
- Iindidi ezi-4 zaBantu abaninzi kunokwenzeka ukuba bahlupheke ngengxaki ekhoyo
- Izinto ezili-10 ezothusayo ezenziwa ngumzimba wakho ngexesha lokuhlaselwa kwexhala
- Izinto ezi-7 zabantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo Benza ngokwahlukileyo
- Uzahlula njani iimvakalelo zakho kunye neengcinga zakho
7. Ukuphulukana nokulala
Ukulala kudlala indima enkulu kangaka ebomini bethu, kwaye kuyamangalisa ukuba sikuthatha kancinci kangakanani.
Ukubaleka ngamandla kunokuphosa iimvakalelo zakho kwi-kilter kwaye kukushiye uzive udidekile kwaye ikhutshiwe .
Ukudinwa akuthethi nje ukuthembela kwi-caffeine ngaphezu kwesiqhelo-kunokukuqhubela ekubeni ubenengqondo engeyiyo, ngaloo ndlela utshintshe indlela ophendula ngayo kunye nokuziphatha kwakho.
Okukhona ujonga kakubi ubomi, kokukhona uya kuziva ngathi unemvakalelo-iyavakala, akunjalo?
Cwangcisa iiyure eziyi-8 zokulala ngobusuku kwaye iimvakalelo zakho kufuneka ziqale ukuziva uphantsi kolawulo.
8. Uxinzelelo Jikelele
Ngelixa uxinzelelo luhlala lubizwa ngokuba yimvakalelo, inokuba sisisulu sezinye iimvakalelo.
Ukucinezeleka kunokubangela ukuba ubuchopho bakho butyabeke kwaye kubangele zonke iintlobo zomonakalo. Uxinzelelo lunokuvelisa ezinye iimvakalelo, ezinje ukungabi naxabiso , ukubekwa wedwa , umsindo , kunye nokukhathazeka.
Oku kuhlala kukhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezibaleka phezulu, yiyo loo nto usenokuba ukrazula yonke imizuzu emibini. Ngelixa le yimpendulo yendalo, ayonwabisi ncam.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ezinye iimvakalelo zinokuba luncedo kunye ne-cathartic, ngakumbi ukuba uxinzelelo lwakho lunxulumene nabantu.
Zama ukuthatha amanyathelo okwenza ukuba ubomi bakho bungabi noxinzelelo, okanye ukhululeke kwizenzo ezikunceda uphumle- iyoga kunye nomsebenzi wokucamngca!
9. Ukutya kunye nendlela yokuphila
Ukuziva unemvakalelo kakhulu kunokuba sisiphumo sokutya okungenampilo kunye nendlela yokuphila. Izinto ezinjengokusela, ukutshaya, kunye nokungayigqibi imifuno yakho kunokuyichaphazela impilo yakho.
Ukungondleki, nokuba utya ukutya okuninzi ngokwevolumu, kunokubangela zonke iintlobo zokungalingani ngokweemvakalelo.
Kuyadika kwaye ukhe wayiva amaxesha asisigidi, kodwa ukutya iziqhamo ezintsha kunye nemifuno, ukunciphisa utywala, kunye nokuyeka ukutshaya kuya kwenza umahluko wokwenene, olungileyo kwindlela oziva ngayo.
Ukutya okuneswekile kubangela i-spikes zamandla kwaye, ngenxa yoko, kubangela ukufakwa kwamandla. Olu tshintsho luqatha kumandla luza kuthintela indlela oziva ngayo, kwaye ayothusi into yokuba ube nokuqhekeka okuncinci veki nganye ukuba uphila ngokutya oku-beige kunye ne-gin.
10. Isini, kunjalo
I-Biology kuye kwafuneka ingene kwenye indawo-abasetyhini kunokwenzeka ukuba bakhale kunamadoda, kubonakala ngathi.
Ngelixa oku kuyinto encinci yokwenza ngokubanzi, isabalulekile kuninzi lwethu. Ngamanye amaxesha, kubonakala ngathi akukho nkcazo ingako yesizathu sokuba amaqabane amaqabane okanye abahlobo bakho bakhale ngaphezu kwakho (okanye kakhulu, ukuba nawe ungowasetyhini).
Inokuba yenye into yesini! Oku kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa nokuya exesheni kunye namanqanaba eehomoni atshintshayo ohlangabezana nawo.
Isenokuba yintlungu yangaphambi kokuya exesheni kunye nokuya exesheni uninzi lwethu oluhlangabezana nayo. Ngethamsanqa kuthi, eh?
11. Impilo Yengqondo
Ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zihlala ziziva zingalawuleki kwaphela kwaye ungazi ukuba yintoni enokubachaphazela, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba uhlale phantsi nawe.
Cinga ngeemvakalelo kunye neempawu ohlangabezana nazo rhoqo. Imvakalelo 'zempunga' zihlala zichazwa ngokudibana neemeko ezinje ngoxinzelelo.
Ukuziva uzithoba ngokupheleleyo kwiimvakalelo zakho, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba uzive ubuthathaka okanye ukhubazekile ngabo, kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba uyasokola nempilo yakho yengqondo.
Oku akukho nto ukuba neentloni ngayo, kwaye yinto abantu abaninzi abanamava ngayo ebomini babo.
Kubalulekile ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukulawula - thetha ngendlela oziva ngayo kumntu omthembileyo, bhukisha idinga ukuze ubone ugqirha wakho, kwaye uqwalasele ukuqala ijenali yemood.
I-anti-depressants inokwenza umahluko onjalo, kodwa iindlela ezingezizo ezekhemikhali ezinje ngokuthetha unyango kunye ne-CBT (unyango lokuziphatha ngokuziphatha) kunokuba kufanelekile ukuba kuhlolwe.
12. Ukuphumla nokuBuyisa
Ukuba kutshanje udlule kutshintsho olukhulu okanye unexesha elide lobunzima okanye ukonzakala, umzimba wakho mhlawumbi ukhululekile nje.
Isenokuvakala iyisidenge, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ufumana amandla kwinyanga yakho yokubuyela umva, ukuzimela xa useluhambeni, okanye ujonga umntu omthandayo.
Ingqondo nomzimba wakho ngabasebenzi bemimangaliso kwaye uhlala 'uqhekeza' kwaye unike onke amandla akho kuwo nawuphi na umsebenzi osesandleni. Xa usazi ukuba kukhuselekile ukuyeka, nangona kunjalo, unokufumana ukungxama okukhulu kweemvakalelo ngequbuliso!
Abantu abasebenza iiyure ezinde ixesha elide bahlala begula ngosuku lwesibini lweholide yabo - oku kungenxa yokuba umzimba wakho uqonda ngesiquphe ukuba ungathatha ikhefu, uyeke ukuba 'sehla' ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye uphumle.
Ingqondo yakho isebenza ngendlela efanayo, kwaye unokuziva woyisiwe yimvakalelo emva kwexesha elide lokuba ube namandla. Oku kuyindalo kwaye kusempilweni ngokupheleleyo - ngamanye amaxesha, kufuneka uhambe nayo uyokukhala kancinci ebhafini…
13. Inkululeko yeemvakalelo
Ngamanye amaxesha, ufikelela kwinqanaba apho iimvakalelo zakho zivunyelwe ukuba zivakale ngokupheleleyo kwaye zivakaliswe.
Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhe wazama ukucinezela iimvakalelo zakho ngenxa yezizathu ezithile.
Mhlawumbi ukhulele kwikhaya losapho apho abazali bakho kunye / okanye abantakwenu bengakhange babonakalise elubala iimvakalelo zabo, ke ke uzame ukungazibonisi ezakho.
Kodwa, njengomntu omdala, usenokuthatha isigqibo (ngokuzazi okanye ngokungazi) ukuba uzivumele uzive izinto ngokupheleleyo kunokuzama ukubeka iimvakalelo ebhokisini, ukuze ungabonakali.
Okanye mhlawumbi ubungafuni ukuzivumela uzive ukhawuleze kakhulu kubudlelwane obutsha, kwaye ke ugcine ingqondo nentliziyo yakho zivaliwe kancinane.
Kodwa ngoku ubudlelwane busekiwe, ususa amakhamandela kwaye ngequbuliso khumbula ukuba zonke iimvakalelo zakho zivakala njani.
14. Ukhathalele into ethile
Iimvakalelo zinokuphakama xa ujolise kwizinto ezithetha lukhulu kuwe.
Mhlawumbi yiprojekthi enkulu yomsebenzi, iimviwo zekholeji, okanye ukuzama ukumitha umntwana.
Oku kudibanisa kwakhona noxinzelelo, ewe, kodwa kungaphezulu koxinzelelo kuphela. Ngumnqweno wesiphumo esihle kwimeko ethile enokukwenza ube neemvakalelo.
Unokunqwenela into kangangokuba yonke into eyirhangqileyo ibangela ukuphakama kweemvakalelo zohlobo oluthile okanye olunye.
Kwaye ezi mvakalelo zinokwenzeka ngaphambi, ngexesha, nasemva komsitho ngokwawo, rhoqo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
15. UnguMphefumlo
Sele sixoxe ngendlela imicimbi yangoku enokubachaphazela ngayo abantu abathile ngakumbi kunabanye.
Ewe, ukuba uyi-empath, ayizizo nje iindaba ekufuneka uzikhumbule.
Kuyenzeka ukuba uthambise iimvakalelo zabantu abakungqongileyo, kwaye oku kunokuba nzima kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha.
Enkosi kwizipili ezibukhali ezibukhali, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ngokuqinisekileyo uziva indlela abanye abantu abavakalelwa ngayo.
Oku kunokuthetha ukudideka kweziqendu zokuqina kweemvakalelo ngaphandle komthombo ocacileyo.
16. Impixano yangaphakathi
Ezinye izinto zinokubangela iinxalenye ezimbini zengqondo yakho ukuba zityhalelane kwaye oku kungqubana kunokushiya udidekile kwaye unemvakalelo.
Xa umnqweno ungqubana nekhampasi yakho yokuziphatha, umzekelo, inxenye yakho iya kuphoxeka.
Umzekelo, ufuna ukuyeka inyama ngenxa yezizathu zokuziphatha okanye zokusingqongileyo, kodwa uyakonwabela ukuyitya kakhulu kangangokuba uzabalaza ukuxhathisa isilingo.
Okanye unokukufumanisa kunzima ukulinganisa umnqweno ngokuchasene nomngcipheko owubekayo.
Umzekelo, ungafuna kakhulu ukuyeka umsebenzi kwaye utshintshe amakhondo emisebenzi, kodwa awuziva ukwazi ngenxa yokuba oko kuya kuthetha ukungakwazi ukuhlawula amatyala akho.
17. Umothuko / umothuko
Mhlawumbi unemvakalelo kuba kukho into ekuthabathe ngokumangalisayo kwaye khange ube nalo ixesha lokukuqonda kakuhle okwenzekileyo.
UChris benoit unobangela wokufa
Mhlawumbi usandul ’ukuva iindaba zokuba uza kuba ngutatomkhulu kwaye awunakuyeka ukulila ngolonwabo ngalo lonke ixesha ubona usana.
Mhlawumbi ufumana iindaba zokuba inkampani oyisebenzelayo ayisebenzi kwaye kungekudala uza kuphelelwa ngumsebenzi.
Ngelixa eli nqaku linxulumana nokubuyela kutshintsho ebesikhe sathetha ngalo ngaphambili, lutshintsho olungalindelekanga olunokuthi ngeli xesha lishiye iimvakalelo zakho emoyeni.
18. Awunazo iindlela zokuSebenza ngokuSempilweni
Nokuba zeziphi ezona zizathu ziphambili zokungalingani ngokweemvakalelo, isizathu sesibini esibalulekileyo kukuba awukafumani ndlela eyiyo yokwenza kunye nokujongana neemvakalelo zakho.
Ukuba awukwazi ukusebenza ngeemvakalelo zakho, akunakulindeleka ukuba baye naphi na, kwaye banokuqina ngakumbi.
Kubalulekile ukufumana izakhono ezifanelekileyo zokujamelana yakho kunye nemeko yakho. Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba ubuyise iimvakalelo zakho kwinqanaba oziva ukhululeke ngakumbi ngalo.
