Amanqanaba asixhenxe okuyekisa umsindo:
- Umsindo
- Ukuziphindezela
- Inzondo
- Ukurhoxa
- Yinyani
- Isigqibo
- Ukukhululwa
Nxibelelana nomcebisi ukuze akuncede usebenze kwaye uwuyeke umsindo wakho. Cofa nje apha ukuze ufumane enye ngoku.
Umsindo yimali yamaxesha ethu. I-intanethi kunye noqhakamshelwano lwayo lwezorhwebo olonwabisayo luyachuma kuyo 'uthungelwano lweendaba' lukhona ukunika ubunyani kubantu abadala abaqhuba amabanga okukhwaza kwizikolo ezikolweni kwihlabathi liphela 'iinkokeli' ezinobuqhetseba zithwalwe amandla emqolo wabantu abanomsindo kwi… into? Akukho nto? Kwimozulu yokukhwaza kuqala, cinga ngekhe, kunzima ukuxelela.
Umsindo uyathengisa, umsindo uyajika, kwaye uye waba sisixhobo ezandleni zabaninzi kakhulu ukuba uloyiko kunye noloyiko zihlala zikhona ukusibulisa ntsasa nganye, nokuba ithini imo yezulu, nokuba sithini ilanga, kwaye ayikhathali kwaphela malunga nobubi obenzayo thina.
Ingozi kunye nokucaphuka komsindo ezantsi ukusuka kwi-macro ukuya kwi-micro: xa siqhelisa umsindo kunothando, ubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla bugcwele ngamarhawu. Mhlawumbi sithatha kwabanye ukukhathazeka kwethu ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuphepha kumsindo womsindo, okanye sithi 'hayi' ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokufuthi kunxibelelwano oluncinci kunangaphambili. Sibona imfesane yethu idodobala kwaye impilo yethu yengqondo, yomzimba kunye neyokomoya isiba buthathaka.
Uluhlu lwezinto ekufuneka uzenze xa udikiwe
Oomatshini beNkcubeko yeNgqumbo baya kusicola ukuba sibe zizinto ezingasafunekiyo ukuba siyayiyeka.
Asiyi.
Kuba amaxesha ngamaxesha, umsindo uyaxoka. Asibaphazamisi abanye, siyaziphambanisa. Uhambo olusuka kumsindo lokukhulula ludlulela kumanqanaba asixhenxe ama-Rs anokuthatha amaxesha ahlukeneyo okusebenza-abanye banokubambelela endleleni.
1. Umsindo
Loo mvumba ubomvu ngequbuliso kwingqondo sisikhuthazo esomeleleyo. Isenza sizive ngathi ukwahlula intaba ngezandla zethu akunakwenzeka kuphela, kodwa lilungelo lethu, kwaye zimbalwa iimeko zengqondo ezinokukhobokisa kune ukuziva unelungelo . Sifanele ukuhoywa, kodwa umntu akasikhathaleli? Umsindo. Umntu usicaphukisa xa konke esasikufuna yayiluxolo lokuhamba malunga nomhla wethu? Umsindo.
Naxa umsindo ugwetyelwe (njengokuphathwa ngokungenabulungisa okukhoyo ehlabathini), ityhefu kakhulu ukuba ingavunyelwa ukuba ihlale ixesha elide. Kuya kufuneka ikhutshelwe ukuvumela iindlela ezifanelekileyo, eziluncedo zokuba.
2. Ukuziphindezela
Emva kokuqala komsindo, umnqweno wokuziphindezela unamandla ngakumbi. Siziva singalunganga kwaye sifuna ukohlwaya umenzi wobubi. Isohlwayo sinokuba sesomzimba (umlo), uvakalelo (isithuko), obambekayo (ubamba iimpahla okanye iinkonzo), okanye ezengqondo (konke oku kungentla). Imowudi echanekileyo ayibalulekanga kubushushu bomzuzu njengenyaniso yokuba thina yenza, 'sime siqinile' kuba - ngokokuqonda kwethu - ukwaphulwa komthetho bekuchasene nayo yonke into esiyiyo kwaye siyayithanda.
Kakade ke, oku kukhokelela kwinzondo.
3. Inzondo
Ukohlwaya akunakwanela ngenxa yomsindo. Ukusikwa okujule njenge-DNA yomntu kufuna ubulungisa bakhe 'Ungandenza njani ndibenje?'
Xa umhlobo engcatsha ukuthembana okuthenjisiweyo, ingqumbo isusa imeko yobuqabane ekhokelele ekubeni buthathaka komntu ekuvuleleni imeko awayethe wayithetha kwasekuqaleni. Inzondo yiyo yonke into 'Ndikuthiyile!' lobby kumthandi. Ngamafutha erhamncwa ngalo lonke ixesha ejonga esipilini, ebeka ityala ezinyaweni zomoni ethatha nayiphi na imfuneko Ukucinga ngokwakho .
Kodwa ingqumbo iyavutha ngaphandle kokuba isoloko ivutha ngumsindo. Emva kwethutyana, umntu uyabona ukuba ukucaphukisa umntu ngenxa yemeko engathandekiyo kuyindlela engaphantsi kuncedo kuhlalutyo lwangempela lokuba le meko ibekho njani kwasekuqaleni.
I-velvet ebomvu ngolunye lobo busuku
Okukhokelela ekubeni sishiye isikhundla.
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4. Ukurhoxa emsebenzini
Kwenzekile. Isenokuba ngabom. Isenokuba ibingaqondanga. Inokuba ibonisa imiba enzulu. Isenokuba yinkqubo. Nokuba yintoni, ingaba umsindo uyanceda na, okanye ufana netyhefu yomzekeliso kwimeko yomntu osela ityhefu ngethemba lokuba omnye umntu uza kufa?
Ukurhoxa kwimeko apho izigqibo ziqala khona ukuthatha izigqibo. Umsindo kunye nengqumbo kusenokusisondeza apha, kodwa ukurhoxa kusicothisa ngokwaneleyo ukubona ubume behlabathi obujikeleze thina, hayi umbono nje wetonela owawunanditshwe ngaphambili. Amahlathi ezizathu kunye neziphumo. Amachibi enjongo. Iindlela ezindleleni kunye neendlela ezigcwele ziziseko zengqondo.
Ukuyeka emsebenzini kuyabuza: “Uza kwenza ntoni?” Uninzi lwethu alufuni ukuba likhoboka lomsindo. Umsindo usenokusiqengqisa, kodwa sikhawuleza siqonde ukuba oko kuyenzeka ngokukhangela amandla kwezinye iinkqubo zethu ezibalulekileyo, iinkqubo ezinje ngovelwano, ukuqiqa, ukuzibonakalisa, ukuthembeka, kunye noovimba bethu uxolelo , kwaye ke siyazinika imvume (1) yokufunda kumava, (2) ukutshintsha iimeko zethu ukunqanda ukuphinda kwenzeke kwakhona ngokusemandleni ethu, kwaye (3) sikhule. Ukuba umsindo uhlwayela naluphi na uhlobo lwembewu, kufanele ukuba ibe yinto evumela ukukhula komntu kunye nokuhlala, kungenjalo kusebenza imijikelezo yeziyobisi.
5. Ubunyani
Kulapho siqonda khona ukuba kwakungekho nzulu konke konke. Okanye ukuba izinto bezinokuphathwa ngcono macala onke. Okanye nokuba umsindo wethu wawungeyonyani ngokupheleleyo. Izizathu zingena ngaphakathi. Samkhwaza umntwana wethu kungenxa yokuba wasilela kolunye uvavanyo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba usuku lomsebenzi lwalulusisi (umzekelo ukufuduka ). Sasixhasa iimeko zopolitiko ezinenzondo kuba ukuziva unetyala kunzima kakhulu ukuthwala ntsasa nganye. Sasifuna ukungxamela umntu kuba siziva singenangqondo ukulawula nantoni na, kwanezinto esizaziyo azilunganga kodwa ezenzeka ngalo lonke ixesha. Siziva sisodwa, singenaluncedo… kubomi bethu bothando, kwiintsapho, kwimisebenzi, ekuhlaleni, kwimisebenzi, kuhambo lwangaphakathi… kwaye ingqumbo izondla ngokwasemphefumlweni ngaloo ndlela yokuzahlula.
Kwaye kubuhlungu oko. Ibuhlungu kakhulu lonto.
Kodwa singayiphelisa loo ntlungu.
6. Isigqibo
Umsindo uhlala ubonakalisa ukungoneliseki. Sombulula oku ngokwamkela imantra leyo yonke into utshintsho, kwaye kufuneka sizitshintshe nathi-umbono okhululayo kuba uyasikhulula kwigumbi le-tuli kwaye uvumela, ukuba sinethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo, ubabalo lokuphinda ulibone ilizwe kwakhona, kodwa ngaphandle kwesihluzo somsi obomvu.
7. Khulula
Ukuntywila kwelitye emanzini emva kokutsiba echibini kuhlala kumnandi, kodwa ngaba siyazi ukuba kutheni? Ukubuyela ekuhambeni, mhlawumbi? Umsindo unjeya: usiphosa phezulu kumcimbi othile, umntu, okanye umsitho, kwaye usijonge ukuba sibhabhe, sibambe, sibambe-kodwa ke thina, ekugqibeleni, kufuneka sivumele ulonwabo kunye nobabalo lokuba yinxalenye kwakhona Ukuhamba, ukuba ziarhente zotshintsho endaweni yokuhambelana nokwenzakala.
ungaweli njani emntwini
Ukuzinikela ukuze sikhulule ngumphunga okhululayo ngokuchasene neendlela zokungazi apho sibambe khona umphefumlo wethu ukuphendula kwihlabathi. Ayikuko ukwamkelwa, kuba kukho izinto emhlabeni ezifanele ingqumbo yethu njengamafutha okuzisusa kunokuba sizamkele njengesiqhelo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba asiyikhuphi i-adrenaline yomsindo, siqala ukucinga ukuba sidinga umsindo ukuze senze utshintsho kwaye simadolw 'anzima ukuwuyeka umsindo, kodwa iidosi ezihlala ixesha elide zomsindo zenza umbono we-tunnel. Impendulo enomdla inokuba sisikhuthazo esikhulu, kodwa, ekugqibeleni, kufuneka ithanjiswe yinyani yokuba eli lizwe kufuneka kwabelwane ngalo kuthi sonke.
Nawuphi na umntu unokuba nomsindo-kulula, kodwa ukuba nomsindo nomntu olungileyo kwaye kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo kwaye ngexesha elifanelekileyo kunye nenjongo efanelekileyo, nangendlela efanelekileyo-engekho kumandla omntu wonke kwaye akukho lula. - uAristotle
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga nomsindo wakho? Ngaba ufuna ukuyiyeka ilunge? Thetha nomcebisi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukunxibelelana nenye.
