Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuthandana?

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Kodwa ihlala ixesha elingakanani ngokwenene ukuthatha ukuthandana?

Wonke umntu ubonakala ethandana, okanye ubuncinci cinga banazo, ngamaxabiso ahlukeneyo kunye namandla ahlukeneyo.



Iminyaka yakho, imbali yobudlelwane, uhlobo lomntu, kunye nobukrelekrele bemvakalelo konke kungadlala indima ekubeni kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuba uthandane, kunye nezinye izinto ezimbalwa…

Eli nqaku liza kuphonononga ezi zinto ngakumbi.

Ungakanani?

Iminyaka yethu unako Ichaphazele indlela esikhula ngayo ngokukhawuleza kwiimvakalelo kunye namaqabane amatsha.

Oku kungenxa yenani lezinto, kubandakanya nomngcipheko-wokuthintela okhula kamva ebomini, kunye namava.

Umzekelo, abantu abadala abancinci okanye abakwishumi elivisayo banokuziva ngathi bathandana ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.

Kungenxa yokuba iimvakalelo zihlala zintsha kakhulu kwaye zinokuba nzima kangangokuba zinokukhawuleza kakhulu.

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Abantu abancinci khange babonakalise ukubakho kwintlungu yokuqhawuka kwentliziyo okanye ukuphazamiseka kobudlelwane ngendlela efanayo neyoqhawulo mtshato ophakathi, umzekelo.

Oku kudlala indima enkulu kwisantya abantu abancinci abathandana ngaso, njengoko bengaboni kakuhle kwiintlungu ezinokubakho okanye umngcipheko onokuza nazo.

Abo badala banokuba sele beqhekekile, banokufumana uqhawulo-mtshato, okanye banokuqonda nje umngcipheko oza nolwalamano.

Kananjalo, bathanda ukulumka ngakumbi xa kufikwa kuthando.

Ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba, banokuzibamba bangazivezi kakhulu, oko kuthetha ukuba bathandana kancinci kancinci. Bayayicothisa le nkqubo ngenxa yovalo okanye njengesicwangciso sokuzikhusela.

Injani Imbali Yolwalamano Lwakho?

Oku kuhamba kunye nobudala, ewe, kuba abo banembali ende yokuthandana banokuba mathidala ngakumbi xa kufikwa ekuziphoseni kubudlelwane obutsha.

Ukuba siye sakhathazwa kwixa elidlulileyo, kuyindalo ukubamba umva kancinci kwaye sizame ukuthatha izinto ngokuthe chu.

Abantu abaya kubudlelwane babo bokuqala bahlala bethandana ngokukhawuleza kakhulu-ngakumbi ukuba bobabini abalingani ngamaxesha okuqala.

Iimvakalelo ezithi zivele zivakalelwa ngamandla ngakumbi kunokuba zinokwenzeka kubantu esele benobudlelwane obunzulu.

Amaqabane ambalwa esiye sanabo, sikhawulezisa ukudityaniswa nabo, kwaye kokukhona isiqhotyoshelo sokuqala sithande ukuba.

Abo banamaqabane angathembekanga banokufumanisa ukuba kubathatha ixesha elide ukuba bathandane namaqabane abo exesha elizayo, nokuba ziyinyani kangakanani iimvakalelo zabo.

Esi sidingo sokuzikhusela kwiintlungu ezinokubakho siyinxalenye yokujongana neendlela kwaye, ngandlela thile, siyinxalenye yendaleko.

Sifunda ukuzikhusela kwizinto esicinga ukuba ziya kusenzakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, nto leyo evakalayo.

Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba wonke umntu wahlukile, kwaye ulwalamano ngalunye ngoko ke lwahlukile, nalo.

Abo bangathembekanga banokuzifumana besokola ukukhululeka kunye nothando, nokuba bafuna kangakanani.

Ukoyika ukukhathaza umntu kwakhona okanye ukubanakho ukukopela umntu abamkhathaleleyo banokuziva buthathaka xa kufikwa kubudlelwane obutsha.

Ukukopa kuyothusa, ngokwesiqhelo kubo bobabini abantu kubudlelwane- the iimvakalelo zokungcatshwa kwaye iintloni zinokuba mbi kubo bobabini abantu, kwaye bathambekele ekuqhubeni ubudlelwane bobabini bexesha elizayo.

Kodwa akusoloko kulula njengokutsho ukuba ukwaphuka kwentliziyo kukhokelela kulumkiso.

Abanye bethu, xa betyhafiswe kukwahlukana, banqwenela ezo mvakalelo zokuthandana kunye nothando, phantse ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba sithandane ngokukhawuleza okukhulu kuba sifuna kakhulu.

Oku kunengqiqo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uyazi kwaye uqiniseke ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ziyinyani ngaphambi kokuba unamathele kubudlelwane obutsha.

Qinisekisa ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuba kunye le umntu hayi nje nayiphi na umntu onokuvala isithuba!

Abanye botyumke sisifo sentliziyo kangangokuba bayoyika kakhulu ukubathobela oonogada babo, ukuthemba umntu, nokuthanda kwakhona .

Oku kuyaqondakala, kodwa zama ukungazivaleli kwiimvakalelo zokwenene kuba unoloyiko lokuba kuya kulimaza.

Khumbula ukuba uyenzile ngokudlula kwentliziyo yokugqibela kwaye uyakuyenza ngenye enye - ukuba kunokwenzeka njalo, ewe.

Umntu owoyikayo ukuzivumela ukuba umthande inokuba inguye, ke akukho sizathu sakukhathazeka okwangoku!

Abantu abaphule iintliziyo zabanye banokuba mathidala ukuziphosa kolunye ulwalamano kwaye banokuzibamba ekusebenziseni igama elithi 'L'.

Ukuba uyazi ukuba unayo iphelile ubudlelwane kwaye ushiye umntu ophuke iintliziyo, unokuba novalo kancinci malunga nokwenza into enye kwakhona.

Usenokuba uzive uthandana nomntu wakho wakudala ngaxeshanye, kwaye iyakoyikisa ukuba awusaziva ngale ndlela.

Unganexhala lokuba xa uthandana nomlingane wakho omtsha, kukho umngcipheko wokuba uya kuthi ukuwa ngaphandle yothando nabo , nabo, ubashiye belimele kwaye baphuke iintliziyo.

indlela yokuphatha umfazi onenkani

Oku kuhlala kungumngcipheko, ewe, kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ucinga kufanelekile.

Yintoni Ubuntu bakho kunye neNgqondo yakho?

Sonke sihluke ngokupheleleyo kubantu, okwenza ukuba kube nzima ukubeka ixesha elichanekileyo kuyo nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha, ngakumbi leyo ibandakanya iimvakalelo ezinzulu njengokuthandana.

Abanye bethu bahle ngokungakhathali ngokubhekisele kubuntu - siqhele 'ukuyiphiko' xa kuthethwa ngokuhamba ngaphandle kwezicwangciso (amatikiti endiza-enye, nabani na?) Kwaye sinokuba 'sisichasi' kubomi bethu ngokubanzi.

Oku kuhlala kukhokelela ekubeni siziphose kulwalamano olutsha kwaye sithandane ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.

Abo banobuntu obugciniweyo ngakumbi, kuyaqondakala… bagcinwe xa kufikwa kwezi ntlobo zeemvakalelo.

Abantu abaye bakhuliswa ngokukhohlisayo (ngoqhawulo mtshato okanye ukuxhaphaza, umzekelo) badla ukuthandana ngokukhawuleza.

Singaziva ngathi singahoywanga kancinci kunokusikhokelela ekufuneni uthando kunye nazo zonke izibonelelo zalo-silufuna olo manyano lweemvakalelo kwaye Unqwenela ukusondelelana kwaye uthando .

Oku kuhlala kungenxa yokuziva ngathi siphoswe zezi zinto xa sasikhula.

Ingathetha ukuba iimvakalelo zethu 'zothando' zinokuphosakelwa kancinci njengoko sijonge olo nxibelelwano naphina apho lufumaneka khona.

Le yinto ekufuneka siyikhumbule ukuze singalahlekisi iindlela ezithile zokuziphatha kunye neemvakalelo kubantu abanokuthi bangakwazi ukuzalisekisa iimfuno zethu njengoko sifuna okanye sifuna ukuba bazenze.

Ngokwe-mindset, imbono yethu ngokubanzi ngobomi ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuchaphazela zonke iinkalo zobomi-kubandakanya uthando.

Njengoko unokuqikelela, abo baneentlobo zobuntu ezixhalabileyo baya kuthatha ixesha elide ukuba bathandane, okanye ubuncinci qaphela ukuba bathandile (njengoko ezi inokuba zizinto ezimbini ezahluke kakhulu!)

Abo bathambekele ekukhathazeni okanye boyike malunga nezinto ezininzi banokufumana ubudlelwane bunzima kakhulu.

Utyekelo lwabo lwendalo kuku Cingisisa izinto kwaye ukhathazeke ngeziphumo zezenzo zabo-kwaye, xa izenzo zabo zibandakanya omnye umntu abamkhathaleleyo, ezo ngxaki zinokuqina.

Uthando luhlala lujolise kukuthembana ( kubudlelwane obuphilileyo , ubuncinci!) Yinto leyo abo baneengqondo ezigcwele ixhala abanokulwa nayo.

Ngenxa yoko, 'izithinteli' phakathi kwethu ngokwesiqhelo zithatha ixesha elide ukuba zithandane, kodwa, xa sisenza njalo, siba nzima - ukuba kufanelekile konke ukucingisisa, kufanele ukuba kube kuhle ngokukodwa, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.

Kwelinye icala, abo banembono entle, ekhululekile banokuthandana ngokukhawuleza.

Kungenxa yokuba zihlala zicwangcisiwe (okanye zizenzele ngokwazo ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile) ukubona eyona nto intle kuyo yonke into.

Iingcinga ezakhayo zihlala zithandana ngokukhawuleza. Banethemba kwaye banethemba lokuba izinto ziya kuhamba kakuhle 'ziyabavumela' ukuba bazive iimvakalelo zabo kwaye bayithembe inkqubo.

Into enomdla kukuba, abantu abaphumayo banokuhamba nangayiphi na indlela - abanye abantu abazithembileyo bakhululekile ukuziphosa kulwalamano olutsha kangangokuba bazivumele bazive zinzulu kwaye bathandane ngokukhawuleza.

Ezinye iintlobo zobuntu obomeleleyo zisetyenziselwa ukuzithemba kunye nokonwaba kunye nenkampani yabo, isiqinisekiso, kunye nokuzithanda ukuba abalunqweneli uthando lothando ngendlela abanye abantu abenza ngayo.

Kananjalo, bahlala bekhetha indlela 'yokuthabatha okanye yokuyishiya' kubudlelwane nothando. Kukule ntlobo zobuntu ezinye izinto, ezinje ngeminyaka yobudala kunye nembali yobudlelwane eyenza umahluko.

Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):

Buyintoni ubukrelekrele bakho beemvakalelo?

Abanye abantu banxibelelana ngakumbi neemvakalelo zabo nezabanye abantu. Le ikwi-crux yento ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo (EQ) obuthetha yona.

Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuba uthandane kuya kuxhomekeka ekubeni yintoni i-EQ yakho.

Abo bane-EQ ephezulu kunokwenzeka ukuba benze imixokelelwano yeemvakalelo nomntu ngokukhawuleza ukuba abo bane-EQ esezantsi.

Kuyaqondakala ke, ukuba inqanaba eliphezulu lobukrelekrele bemvakalelo lukhokelela ekubeni ezo mvakalelo zothando zikhule ngokukhawuleza.

Kodwa okunye okubalulekileyo kukuba umntu aqonde ngokukhawuleza ukuba bayathandana. Kwaye ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo budlala indima apha.

Iliwa kunye nokulawula kwamaroma kuhambelana

Abantu abane-EQ esezantsi baya kuhlala bengazifundisisi kakuhle iimpawu zothando okanye bangabahoyi ixesha elide.

Ke ngelixa benakho ngokwenene Yiba nothando, bangazi ukuba bakhona.

Banokonwabela ukuchitha ixesha kunye neqabane labo kwaye banokuziva beqinisekile ngendlela ubudlelwane obuhamba ngayo, kodwa banokuziva bengekude bakulungele ukuvakalisa uthando lwabo … Kuba abaqinisekanga ukuba oko bakuva luthando.

Kwicala elisezantsi, umntu ophethe i-EQ ephezulu unokuphinda azifunde kakubi iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye akholelwe ukuba bayathandana, xa bonke besiva ukuba bomelele imvakalelo yokuncamathisela okanye nkqu inkanuko .

Ngamanye amagama, ubukrelekrele obuphezulu beemvakalelo abuthethi ukuba ukuqaphela ngoko nangoko ukuba luyintoni uthando kwaye uthando alukho.

Ngaba Uyindoda Okanye Umfazi?

Isini sidlala indima enkulu kuyo yonke into esiyenzayo, yiyo loo nto ingamangalisi into yokuba inokuchaphazela indlela esikhawuleza ngayo ukuthandana kunye nokuqina kweemvakalelo zethu.

Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba amadoda athandana ngokukhawuleza, nangona oko kungabonakali ngokubanzi kwiincwadi nakwii-romcom!

Sivame ukubona abafazi bethandana ngokukhawuleza okukhulu kwaye amadoda esokola ukuchaza iimvakalelo zawo - cinga ngazo zonke iimovie zaseHollywood malunga nabasetyhini abathandana nabahlobo babo abangamadoda kangangeminyaka ngaphambi kokuba indoda iqonde ukuba bayathandana nalo mfazi, naye!

iqala nini imali ebhankini

Abo bacinga ukuba amadoda awela eluthandweni ngokukhawuleza bhekisa kwiindidi zobuntu zamadoda - ngokubanzi, abajongi ngokweqile…

… Nabafazi.

Abafazi bathambekele kuxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo ngakumbi, becinga ngeziphumo kunye neewotshi zebhayiloji kunye nodumo njalo njalo.

Abasetyhini abaninzi bazifumanisa besibini nabesithathu beqikelela izenzo kunye neemvakalelo zabo - oku kuthetha ukuba bayathandabuza ukuvuma kubo, kunye namaqabane abo, ukuba bayathandana.

Uninzi lwamadoda ludla ngokuhamba nayo kwaye lucinge ukuba izinto ziyakulunga!

Kuhlala kunzima ukulinganisa ukuba ingaba isini sichaphazela njani izenzo zethu kunye neemvakalelo zethu, ke kunzima nangakumbi xa kufikwa kuthando.

Kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba kwisini ngasinye, zininzi iintlobo zobuntu kunye neenkcukacha ezincinci ezichaphazela ngokwenene ukuba singobani njengabantu.

Ayingawo onke amadoda okanye amabhinqa afanayo, ngoko ke asinakulindela ukuba amava abo othando angene kwipateni entle ecocekileyo.

Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba zonke izinto ezibandakanyekileyo kweli nqaku ziyasebenza kunye-isini sethu sichaphazela ubuntu bethu, obunokuthi emva koko butshintshe imikhwa yethu xa sikubudlelwane ...

Ubuhlobo bakho buqhubele phambili njani?

Kukangaphi ubona iqabane lakho linokuchaphazela ukuba uthandana ngokukhawuleza kangakanani.

Ukuba uthandana nomntu kwaye umbona rhoqo, inokuhamba nangayiphi na indlela!

Abanye abantu baya kufumana izinto ezingakumbi nangakumbi abazithandayo malunga nomntu abathandana naye njengoko ixesha lihamba, okwenza ukuba uwe ngokukhawuleza kwaye unzima.

Ngale ndlela, ukubona umntu othandana naye iintsuku ezininzi kunokuthetha ukuba uthandana ngokukhawuleza.

Abanye abantu, nangona kunjalo, banokufumanisa ukuba ukubona umntu okuninzi kunokubaphantse bakubeke ecaleni!

Iimvakalelo zisenokuba zisekhona, kodwa 'ubudlelwane' (ukubona okuninzi omnye komnye kwaye ungaziva ngathi unenkululeko) kunokwenza abanye abantu ndifuna ukuthoba isantya kwaye baya kuthintela kwaye bazibambe iimvakalelo zabo.

Kule meko, ukuthandana kuya kuthatha ixesha elide.

Ewe kunjalo, kukho abantu abachitha ixesha elininzi kunye njengezihlobo eziphuhlisa iimvakalelo ngokuhamba kwexesha.

Oko akuthethi ukuba iimvakalelo azibi nzulu xa zibonakala, kunjalo.

Ezinye iibhondi ziqala njengobuhlobo, kwaye ezi zinokuhlala ixesha elide. Abantu ababini banokuthandana omnye komnye indlela yeplonic , kodwa kusenokubakho ukusondelelana okuninzi apho.

Abahlobo ababini banokhathalelana kakhulu, kwaye babaxhase kakhulu kwaye ubakhusele ngokwemiba yokuthandana nabanye abantu.

Umona luyimvakalelo yendalo phakathi kwabahlobo, nokuba akukho mvakalelo yothando ibandakanyekileyo.

Ngamanye amaxesha eli khwele linokukhokelela kumzuzu 'wangoku okanye ongasokuze' xa ngequbuliso uqaphela ukuba awufuni ukuba umhlobo wakho abenomntu abathandana naye kwaye ufuna ukuba nawe.

Kunzima ukukhomba xa abahlobo abaphela kunye bethandana. Kwabanye, kukutshisa okucothayo, okuthandekayo okubonakalisa ngokupheleleyo xa kukho into eyenzekayo emzimbeni (ukwanga, umzekelo) okutshintsha iqhina kubuhlobo kuye kwiqabane elinokubakho.

Ukuthanda umntu ukuqala ukumbona

Kwelinye icala lesiphelo ngumbono wokuba uthando lungenzeka kwangoko xa ubona umntu othile.

Ngoku, asinakuze siyilinganise le nto - akukho ngenene isayensi esinokuthi siphendukele apha kwaye, njengoko usenokuba uqikelele ngoku, 'uthando' kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuluchaza!

Ngokuqinisekileyo sikholelwa kwiimvakalelo xa siqala ukuzibona, nokuba zezothando, ezomzimba, okanye ezomoya ngakumbi.

Kweminye, kukho imvakalelo yokunxibelelana okunzulu okungaphaya kobunyani-sifumana amava e-deja-vu nabantu abathile kwaye kwangoko siziva sisondele kubo.

Kwabaninzi, oku kunxulunyaniswa nokuzalwa ngokutsha (imvakalelo yokuba lo mntu ungaziwayo ngu umntu abebemazi ngaphambili) okanye inokuba kwinqanaba elifanayo-lokomoya.

Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule apha kukuba 'uthando' lwahlukile kuye wonke umntu, kwaye wonke umntu amava alo iya kwahluka.

Abanye abantu babanga ukuba 'bayazi' kwangoko xa bedibana 'nalowo,' kwaye singobani thina ukuba sithi ingaba banyanisile na ?!

Khumbula: Uthando Luyinto Oyifunayo

Ke, njengoko sele simisile, kunzima kakhulu ukukhomba ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuthandana.

Uthando luyinkimbinkimbi ngokwaneleyo ngokwalo, ke kuyinkohliso kakhulu ukuqaphela zonke izinto ezidlala indima.

Owona myalezo uphambili wokuthabatha kule nto kukuba siva indlela esivakalelwa ngayo, xa sisiva.

Asinakungxama ngokwethu ukuba sibe namava athile kwaye akufuneki kubekho uxinzelelo lokuthetha igama elithi 'L', nangona uziva ngathi 'kufanelekile' ukuba ulithetha!

Iimvakalelo zethu zihamba ngenkqubo ende, ejijekileyo ngaphambi kokuba sifikelele kubo, ke kufuneka sinyamezele iziqu zethu.

Kuya kufuneka sifunde ukuthemba amathumbu ethu xa kuziwa kwimicimbi yentliziyo.

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