Ngaba ukhe ungaqiniseki nokuba into oziva luthando yeyona nto iphosakeleyo, nengqondo esempilweni yelizwi, okanye ukuba yintoni na le uyifumanayo kukuncamathisela emntwini?
Ngaba kukuxhomekeka kubo okungumda kokungaphilanga?
Inqanaba lokuncamathisela ngokweemvakalelo, ewe, liyimfuneko kwi ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo . Ubudlelwane obukhulayo busekwe kwi isempilweni inqanaba lokuncamathisela, apho ufuna ukuba kunye, kodwa ubomi bakho abuxhomekekanga kubukho bomnye umntu obukuyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba yinkohliso, nangona kunjalo, ukuba abantu baqonde apho umgca phakathi kokuncamathisela okunempilo nokungenampilo kuwela khona. Uninzi lwabantu abawela lo mgca abaqondi ukuba banalo.
Ngamanye amaxesha uthando lungajika lube luncamathiselo olungenampilo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha alukhe lube luthando lokwenene kwasekuqaleni, likhoboka nje ongenakukushukumisa okanye ungabinamdla wokungcangcazela.
Yeyiphi imiqondiso yokuba le nto uhlangabezana nayo kukuncamathela okungenampilo kunothando lokwenene?
Nazi ezimbalwa ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe:
wazi njani ukuba uyayithanda inkwenkwe
1. Uxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo.
Zonke izibini zenza kwaye kufuneka zixhomekeke komnye ukuya kwinqanaba elithile.
Inani elisempilweni lokuxhomekeka kuxa omabini amaqabane esazi ukuba anokujongana xa efuna inkxaso, kodwa ungaxhomekeki omnye komnye. Bagcina uthungelwano olubanzi lwabantu ukubanceda xa beswele.
Bayakonwabela ukwenza izinto kunye, kodwa akukho mfuneko yokuba banamathelane komnye nomnye umzuzwana wosuku.
Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwahlukile ekuxhomekekeni kwelinye kwiqabane elinye lixhomekeke kwelinye ngokupheleleyo kwaye likulungele ukungabuyiseli nto okanye linike iqabane lalo inkxaso yalo epheleleyo, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba bazincame, kwaye bangalindeli kwimbuyekezo.
Umntu oxhomekeke ngokwasemphefumlweni akanako ukohlulwa kwiqabane lakhe kwaye akakwazi ukuzonwabisa xa behlukene.
2. Utyalomali ngokugqithileyo kubomi babo.
Xa ulwalamano olunzulu, uyintsebenziswano, ke kuya kufuneka ubekhona ukuze uxhasane kwaye unike iingcebiso. Kodwa kuya kufuneka ubavumele baqhubeke nezinto.
Uyazi kakuhle ukuba bangabantu abanobuchule kwaye, ngelixa banokufuna inkxaso engaphezulu ngamanye amaxesha, akukho mfuneko yokuba ubenzele yonke into.
Ukuncamathiselwa okungenampilo kuxa ukulungele ukushiya owakho umsebenzi okanye umdla ukuze uzinikele ekusombululeni iingxaki zabo xa ungeke ubashiye bazilungiselele ngokwabo izinto.
Ingaziva ngathi uyayixhasa, kodwa eneneni ayinambeko. Kubo, kunokubonakala ngathi ubuza amandla abo.
Unamathele kangangokuba usokola ukubona imigca phakathi kobomi bakho kunye nobabo. Uzama ukubahlangula rhoqo, naxa bengakucelanga.
Ukuba uqala ukuthatha ubomi babo, uyeka ukuba ngamaqabane alinganayo ahloniphanayo, endaweni yoko, abe ngumzali ongaqhelekanga onokuthi aqale ukukhathazeka okanye alindele ukulungisa yonke into engahambi kakuhle.
3. Kodwa ngokwenene konke malunga nawe.
Njengokuba ungancama ixesha lakho ukugxila kuzo, inene ngawe.
Uncamathiselo luvela kwindawo yokuzingca. Yonke into oyenzela bona yenzelwe wena ngenye indlela encinci, nokuba uyenza kuba ucinga ukuba izakubenza bahlale nawe.
Uthando lokwenene lumalunga nomnye umntu. Ngokwenene ubeke iimfuno zabo ngaphambi kwezakho, kubandakanya nokuhlonipha xa befuna indawo yabo kunye nokuzimela.
4. Kunzima kuphela xa nahlukene
Njengoko intetho isithi, ikhondo lothando lokwenene aluzange luhambe kakuhle. Uthando alunanto ngaphandle kokuthe ngqo, kodwa uncamathiselo alunawo amanye amanqanaba kuwo.
Uthando lwenene lunzima , kwaye ifuna ukusetyenzwa. Kubandakanya ukulungelelanisa kunye nokulwa, ngelixa uncamathiselo lungakhuli okanye luguquke.
Ukuba unamathele emntwini ngendlela engafanelekanga, uya kufuna ukumbona njengomlutha ofuna ukulungiswa kwabo okulandelayo, kwaye uya kuba nexhala kwaye utyebe ngokungaphaya kokungahambi kakuhle.
Ukanti xa nikunye, ngekhe kube nzima kwaye anizonganyelwa ziimvakalelo zenu.
Kufuneka ubabone kuphela, ube kunye nabo, kwaye ubachukumise. Ukuba uncamathele kuphela, kuya kuba lula njengaleyo, kwaye niya kulwa malunga xa niphinda nibonana, hayi izinto ezinkulu ngokwenene.
5. Uziva ngathi omnye umntu ukugqibile.
Uthando lokwenyani luyakuqonda ukuba nobabini nihlala njengabantu ababini abapheleleyo ninganyibiliki.
Kukwazi ukuba ngamnye ufuna indawo yakhe, kwaye ulunge ngokupheleleyo xa omnye umntu engekho. Kukufuna okungcono kubo, nokuba akubandakanyi wena okanye hayi.
Ukuba uqhotyoshelwe, uziva ngathi awunakuphila ngaphandle kwabo, kwaye zizinto zonke kwaye ziphela zonke.
Kukungakhathaleli okona kulungileyo kubo, ukufuna nje ukuba babe kunye nawe. Kuziva ngathi ngandlela thile ungaphelelanga ukuba bebeza kuhamba.
Ungakuyeka njani ukuNcamathisela okungafunekiyo ngokweemvakalelo ekuphuhliseni
Ubudlelwane obusekwe ekuncamathiseleni okungenampilo ayisiyonto intle kuyo nayiphi na iqabane.
Kodwa kukho iindlela zokuzama ukuqinisekisa ukuba awuzifumani ubanjwe kubudlelwane obunobungozi obunokuthi, ukuba unyanisekile ngokwenene kuwe, ayilo thando lokwenene.
1. Zama ukungena kubudlelwane ngezizathu ezifanelekileyo.
Oku kulula kunokwenziwa, kodwa ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane, zama ukubeka umnwe wakho kwezi njongo zakho.
Ngaba ukukhangela kwakho umntu sisiphumo soloyiko lokuba yedwa? Ukuba ujonge umntu kwi izizathu ezingalunganga , umhle ukuba ufumane i umntu ongalunganga .
Thatha izinto kancinci.
Umntu onamava okuncamathisela uhlala esenza njalo ngxamela ubudlelwane , ngaleyo ndlela banokuqiniseka ukuba bamfumene omnye umntu kubo bonke.
Isiqhotyoshelweyo ezakho . Ungangeni kubudlelwane ngenxa yokuba ungafuni ukuba babe kunye nomnye umntu.
3. Qiniseka ukuba unabakho ubomi.
Ukuba isibini siqala ukwenza yonke into kunye, ukunamathela okungafunekiyo kuya kubakhona. Nangona kumnandi ukufuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nomntu omthandayo, sonke siyayifuna indawo .
Qinisekisa ukuba nobabini ninomdla kwaye nichitha ixesha kude omnye komnye.
Musa ukoyika ukwenza imisebenzi iqabane lakho elingenamdla kuyo. Musa ukuyeka zonke izinto obukade uzenza ngaphambi kokuba udibane nento oyithandayo.
4. Yondla ubuhlobo bakho kunye nolwalamano losapho.
Ungabi ngumntu ongena kubudlelwane kwaye ungaze uzihluphe ngokwenza ixesha labahlobo kunye nosapho.
Phatha yakho abahlobo abalungileyo kunye nosapho lwakho olusondeleyo luthando kunye nentlonipho njengoko usenza neqabane lakho, kwaye ngokuzithandela ubeke ixesha lokusebenza kolo lwalamano.
5. Musa ukulindela ukuba iqabane lakho lizalisekise zonke iimfuno zakho.
Ngelixa iqabane lakho kufuneka ngokuqinisekileyo libe ngumthombo wamandla omangalisayo, kunye nomntu onokubhenela kuye ukuze ufumane inkxaso, akufuneki uxhomekeke kubo kuyo yonke into. Akukho namnye unako ukusingatha olo hlobo lomthwalo lubekwa emagxeni abo.
6. Ziqhayise ngokuzimela kwakho.
Ukuba uyamthanda umntu, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphazamiseka ukuba izinto ziphelile, kodwa ungangeni kumgibe wokucinga ukuba awungekhe uphile ngaphandle kwabo, okanye ukuba ubomi bakho buya kuphela xa bekushiya.
Ibingayi.
Nokuba ibuhlungu kangakanani, uyakudlula kuyo, kwaye, ekugqibeleni, uya kuba ulunge ngokupheleleyo.
Yiba neqhayiya ngento yokuba, nangona ukhethe ukuba kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo nalo mntu, usenguye umntu ozimele ngokupheleleyo.
Ungaze ulibale ukuba ungubani na. Unamandla, kwaye uphelele, kwaye ufanelwe luthando lwenene olukondlayo kwaye alwenzi uzive ngathi sisiqingatha somntu olinde umntu ukuba abagqibe.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni ukuba unezincamathelisi ezingekho mpilweni kwiqabane lakho? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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