Ukuzibophelela kwelizwi kuhanjiswe kwindawo eyoyikisayo, kwaye uloyiko lokuzinikela yinto wonke umntu athetha ngayo kule mihla.
Kwelinye icala, abanye abantu balisebenzisa kancinci eli gama, bengakuxabisi ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuzibophelela komnye umntu.
Ukuba usebudlelwaneni kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ingaba igama elithi 'uzibophelele' liyasebenza ngokwenene kwaye liyinyani, ufike kwindawo efanelekileyo.
Ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo bunokuza ngeendlela ezininzi. Isibini ngasinye sikhululekile ngokupheleleyo ukuseka imithetho yaso xa kufikwa kumalungiselelo okuhlala okanye ukuba neqabane elinye nxamnye non-monogamy.
Nangona kunjalo, iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba zininzi iimpawu zokuba usebudlelwaneni obuzinikeleyo obusebenza kuye nakubani na, naphi na imida yakho buxoki kwaye ubudlelwane bakho busebenza.
Nazi ezimbalwa zazo.
1. Uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye.
Ubomi bale mihla buxakekile kwaye besisoloko sifumana isigidi kunye nento enye yokwenza. Ke ukuba ukrola iziqwenga ezibalulekileyo zexesha oza kuchitha nomntu othile, eso sisalathiso esihle sokuba nizimisele nobabini kulwalamano.
Kuyinyani, unokugqibela ngokuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye xa niqala ukudibana kwaye bobabini batshayelwa yimincili yento entsha nengaziwayo, kodwa ukuba nihlala nichitha ixesha elininzi kunye xa sele nisazana, ngumqondiso wokuba nobabini nizinikele ngokwenene.
Akukho mntu uza kunikezela ngamaxesha abalulekileyo exesha lakhe elinasimahla lokuba kunye nomntu angazimiselanga ukukhulisa ubudlelwane kunye naye.
2. Nihamba kunye iiholide.
Ikhefu elincinci linokucwangciswa ngesaziso esifutshane kwaye yindlela elungileyo ukwazana kwasekuqaleni, kodwa iholide epheleleyo ehlala ngaphezulu kweentsuku nje ezimbalwa kufuneka icwangciswe kwangaphambili.
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Kwaye kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uyamthanda umntu owoneleyo ukuba angafuna ukuchitha usuku lonke kunye nabo iintsuku ezininzi zilandelelana.
Uchitha yonke loo mali kuba ufuna ukuba nexesha elimnandi kwaye wenze iinkumbulo, kwaye awuzukuchitha ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo leholide ukuba umntu ohamba naye akabalulekanga kuwe.
Ibhonasi yokuya kunye eholideyini kukuba niyabonana ngaphandle kweendawo zenu zokuthuthuzela, oko kuthetha ukuba niyazana ngcono neqabane lakho.
3. Ucinga ngabo kwivenkile.
Ukuba ulwalamano oluzinikeleyo nomntu, mhlawumbi basondele kakhulu ngaphambili kwengqondo yakho uninzi lwexesha.
Abanye abantu abalubonakalisi uthando lwabo ngokuthengela omnye umntu izinto ezincinci, kwaye kulungile, kuba baya kuba nezinye iindlela ezininzi.
Kodwa, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ubachololela izinto evenkileni rhoqo okanye uzithenga ngobuqhetseba, izipho ezincinci ocinga ukuba baya kuzithanda, okanye uthabathe nje izinto ozaziyo ukuba bazidinga, okanye benze okufanayo nakuwe, ke oku nzulu.
4. Uthetha ngekamva.
Ubomi bufutshane, ke ukuba wenza izicwangciso ngekamva ezithi zithathe ingqalelo yomnye umntu, luphawu oluhle kakhulu lokuba ukuyo ixesha elide.
Abantu abathethi ezi zinto ngokulula, ngaphandle kwalawo okuqala amaqhula malunga nokuba abantwana bakho bazakubizwa njani.
Ingxoxo yokwenyani malunga nokuba ikamva lakho linokujongeka njani yinto eyakwenzeka kuphela phakathi kwabantu ababini abacinga ukuba bangalifumana iqabane labo.
5. Niyazincama ngenxa yomnye nomnye.
Izinto ezinokubonakala ngathi zintle kakhulu ukuba ungazenzela omnye umntu emhlabeni, ngaphandle kukamama wakho, zilindelekile ukuba uzenzele iqabane lakho.
Xa uzibophelele emntwini, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukumenzela izinto ezinokukuphazamisa ungakhange ucinge kwakhona.
Nokuba ubapha ilifti, uhlengahlengisa izicwangciso zakho, okanye uchitha nje ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo usebenzisa into abangenalo ixesha lokwenza, inyani yokuba uzimisele ukubenzela ezi zinto kwaye bona zilunge kakhulu uphawu.
6. Uyabaxelela iimfihlelo.
Ngaba uzifumene uzityand 'igila kubo abantu abambalwa kakhulu abaziyo ngawe? Ngaba bayazi ngamabhongo akho ayimfihlo, okanye ukhe wabelana ngamathambo kwikhabethe yosapho lwakho kunye nabo?
Ngaba uye wabelana ngeenkumbulo ezibuhlungu ukusuka ebuntwaneni bakho, okanye wathetha ngendlela owenzakele ngayo kubudlelwane bangaphambili?
Ukulungela uku ukuba sesichengeni phambi kwale uyithandayo luphawu oluchanekileyo lokuba ucwangcisa ukuba kule nto ixesha elide.
7. Awuze uphelelwe zizinto onokuthetha ngazo.
Ngaba ukhe uzive ngathi alikho nje ixesha lokuxoxa ngazo zonke izinto ofuna ukuzenza? Ekupheleni kosuku xa ungakhange uthethe nabo, unayo isigidi kunye nohlaziyo olunye kubo?
Unomdla ngengqondo yomnye nomnye kwaye uneengxoxo ezinde, ezinzulu ezitsho ukuba ulahle umkhondo wexesha. Ukuba ubungazimiselanga omnye komnye, ngekhe utyale olo hlobo lwexesha okanye amandla engqondo.
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8. Nikhuthazana ubomi boluntu.
Abantu ababini ababonisa ukuzibophelela omnye komnye akufuneki bachithe iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku ezipokothweni zomnye nomnye.
Bazithembile ngokwaneleyo kubudlelwane ekungafuneki ukuba babe kunye rhoqo, kwaye bayaqonda ukuba kubalulekile kuwo omabini amaqabane ukuba agcine ubomi bawo kwezentlalo, izangqa zobuhlobo, kunye nomdla.
9. Awunakho ukubenzela ngokwaneleyo.
Ukuba iqabane elithandanayo libalulekile kuwe, iba yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ubenzela izinto ezincinci rhoqo.
Wenza kangangoko unako kubo, kodwa uhlala uziva ngathi awenzi ngokwaneleyo ukubabonisa ukuba ubathanda kangakanani.
10. Uphezulu kuluhlu lwezinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka komnye nomnye.
Ngelixa nobabini nisazi nenza ixesha lokuchitha kunye nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho kwaye awufuni ukuncama olo lwalamano, nisabeke omnye komnye kuqala.
11. Nenza izicwangciso ngeeholide.
Asinguye wonke umntu ochitha ixesha leholide (okanye ezinye iiholide) nosapho, kodwa ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho ninamasiko nosapho okanye abahlobo bakudala kodwa nibe nivakalisa ukuvuma ukutshintsha ezo zicwangciso zokuchitha ixesha kunye, ngokuqinisekileyo awunazo amaxhala ngaphambili kokuzibophelela.
12. Ungu ‘thina’.
Ulwimi esilusebenzisa ngokuzenzekelayo, ngaphandle kokucinga, lubonisa kakhulu iimvakalelo zethu.
Ukuba uva iqabane lakho libhekisa kuwe njengeyunithi, okanye uzibona ucinga ukuba ubandakanyiwe kwisimemo kuba engqondweni yakho uza njengephakheji, olo luphawu oluhle lokuba nobabini niliqela.
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Ngelixa abanye abantu banokukujonga ngokungalunganga ukuzibophelela okanye boyika, ukuseka ubudlelwane nomnye umntu kunokuba yinto entle.
Kodwa xa intsha, inokuba yinto encinci kakhulu.
Siye samisela iimpawu zobudlelwane obuzibophelelayo, kodwa oko kuthetha ntoni?
Ukuba le yintsimi entsha kuwe, unokungaqiniseki malunga nokuba ukuzibophelela komnye umntu kunokuzibonakalisa njani ebomini bakho, kwaye kuchaphazela ntoni nina nobabini.
Ukuzibophelela ngokwenyani kungabutshintsha njani ubomi bakho?
1. Uthatha izigqibo ezibini.
Umhlaba awusazukujikeleza wena nje. Ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili, kwaye mhlawumbi nakubomi bakho bonke, izigqibo ozenzayo, nokuba zinkulu okanye zibonakala zincinci, zinokuchaphazela omnye umntu.
Olo luxanduva olukhulu, kwaye into efuna ingqondo evuthiweyo ekwaziyo ukujonga ngaphaya kweemfuno zayo zokuzingca.
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Eso sesinye sezizathu ezilungileyo zokuba abantu abaninzi bacebise ngokuchasene nokungena kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo ngelixa usemncinci kakhulu, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba ube nethuba lokukhula.
2. Uzixabisile iimfuno zeqabane lakho ezilingana nezakho.
Kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo, uza kujonga iimfuno zeqabane lakho njengokubaluleke ngokufana nokwakho. Ukuba ubudlelwane busempilweni , Akufuneki kubekho ulawulo oluphezulu phakathi kwakho, kwaye imbeko epheleleyo .
3. Ukuyekelela iba yinto eqhelekileyo.
Xa ungatshatanga, ukulalanisa ayiyonxalenye enkulu yobomi. Kodwa xa kukho ababini ababandakanyekayo, awunakuhlala unendlela yakho.
Amathuba uya kuvuma kwizinto ezininzi, kodwa kuya kubakho izinto ezininzi okwahluke ngazo. Kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo, uya kufumanisa ukuba ukuqonda ukuba olonwabisayo luyindlela entsha yokwenza izinto.
4. Baba ngabona bahlobo bakho basenyongweni.
Xa uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nomntu kwaye ufumana ukuqonda okunjalo kwi-psyche yabo, kuyinto entle kakhulu ukuba ayinakuba ngumhlobo wakho omtsha, kunye nesithandwa sakho kunye neqabane lakho.
Baba yimfihlo yakho, umcebisi wakho, kunye negxalaba lokulila kulo.
5. Niba lusapho lomnye nomnye.
Njengoko izinto ziqhubeka ziqhubela phambili, uqala ukubonana njengosapho, ngaphezulu kwayo yonke enye into.
Nidibene kakhulu kubomi bomnye nomnye kangangokuba, njengentsapho, awunakucinga ngehlabathi elingenabo, nokuba bayakuphazamisa.
Usapho lwabo luba lusapho lwakho, kwaye nosapho lwakho luba lolwabo, kwaye wamkela, ukudibana kunye okanye, ngamanye amaxesha, kufuneka ubanyamezele abo ubathandayo ngenxa yabo.
6. Uyalwa, kodwa uyazi ukuba konke kulungile.
Ukuzibophelela emntwini kwaye usazi ukuba uzinikele kuwe kuthetha ukuba ungasusa ukungonwabi kwakho kwaye ungavumelani nabo ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ukuba kuthetha ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luza kutshabalala.
Zonke izibini zineengxabano, kodwa zizibini ezomeleleyo, ezizibophelele ngokwenene ezaziyo ukuba ezo ngxabano azithethi nto xa kuthelekiswa nothando abanalo omnye komnye.
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