Abantu bahlala belangazelela unxibelelwano phakathi kwabo ukubanceda bazive bephelele kwaye banelisekile. Abantu abohlukeneyo benza oku ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Imiba yokuzibophelela yenye yezithintelo ezininzi ezinokuthi zigcine abantu ekwenzeni umgangatho, ubudlelwane bexesha elide nabanye.
Banokuba ziziphumo zayo nayiphi na into esusela ekuguleni ngengqondo okanye ekubeni lixhoba lomothuko kukhetho olucacileyo nolulula lokugcina umgama.
Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, le miqondiso inokukhomba umntu onemicimbi yokuzibophelela onokuthi angakulungeli, angakulungeli, okanye akwazi ukwenza unxibelelwano.
1. Banqabile ukwenza okanye ukuseta izicwangciso iiveki okanye iinyanga kwangaphambili.
Imicimbi yokuzibophelela ihlala ibaleka ngokungabinamdla okanye ukuthintela ubudlelwane bexesha elide.
Batyekele ekucingeni kude kakhulu kwimeko yobuhlobo babo phakathi kwabantu kunye nolwalamano kuba bayazi ukuba abantu bathanda ukuza nokubuya ebomini babo rhoqo.
Oko kunokubonwa kwindlela umntu acwangcise ngayo ixesha lakhe lasimahla okanye amalungiselelo exesha elizayo-okanye ukunqongophala koko. Kunokukhathaza kakhulu ukuzama ukwenza naziphi na izicwangciso eziphathekayo kunye nalo mntu ngekamva.
2. Banokuba neqela elikhulu labahlobo abaqhelekileyo, kodwa bengenabahlobo basondeleyo.
Ukwakha ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kutyalo-mali ngexesha, kumzamo, nakumandla.
Umntu onemicimbi yokuzibophelela unokuba neentloni ukwenza olo hlobo lwexesha kunye notyalo-mali lwamandla kuba baziva ngathi alunakuhlala. Banokuba ngamabhabhathane ekuhlaleni, kodwa ubudlelwane babo kwezentlalontle bahlala ngokungakhathali ngenani elikhulu labantu endaweni yokunxibelelana okunzulu kunye nabambalwa abakhethiweyo.
Banokwesaba into abanokuphoswa yiyo, endaweni yokuba babenakho ukubhiyozela oko sele benako.
3. Bahlala benobudlelwane obunqamlezayo kunokuba bube mbalwa.
Ukugcina ubudlelwane obunothando bexesha elide kufuna umgudu kunye nokuzincama. Nangona abanye bewuchaza njengomsebenzi onzima, ungavuya ukuba usebenzisana ekwenzeni ubudlelwane obusempilweni, obunothando nomntu okuhloniphayo noxabisekileyo.
Abantu abanemicimbi yokuzibophelela bahlala bahlala kuloo nto inkanuko Isigaba sokutshata yokuthandana okanye ubudlelwane, ukutsiba kuyo xa ukukhanya kuqala ukunxiba ukulandela into entsha. Oko kunokuba kushiye ngasemva umkhondo wobudlelwane obufutshane, nothando.
Olunye uphawu lwesilumkiso kukungamkeli nasiphi na isityholo okanye uxanduva ngobuhlobo okanye ubudlelwane obuchithakalayo. Ihlala iyimpazamo okanye iintsilelo zomnye umntu, ingaze ibe luxanduva lwabo.
4. Bathanda ukungathandi okanye ukuphepha ulwimi olubandakanya ukuzibophelela.
Umntu onemicimbi yokuzibophelela uhlala efuna ukuphatha yonke into ngendlela engaqhelekanga kunye nolwimi abalusebenzisayo ukuchaza ubudlelwane babo, okanye ubudlelwane bangaphambili, bahlala bebonakalisa.
Basenokungafuni ukucinga ngeqabane elinexesha elide njengesihlobo okanye intombi, abanakuba nomdla wokuqhubela phambili ubudlelwane obudlulileyo, ukufuna kuphela abahlobo abanezibonelelo zohlobo lobudlelwane ngaphandle kwentambo eqhotyoshelweyo, okanye banokuliphathisa iqabane labo ukuba baziva izinto ziyasinda. Oko kubenza bayiphephe incoko kwaphela.
5. Bahlala beziphepha izibophelelo zobuqu, bebonakala bengenangqondo okanye bengangqinelani.
Ukuzikhusela okusebenzayo kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba umntu unemicimbi yokuzibophelela. Banokuba nezakhono zokulawula ixesha elibi, bahlala bebonisa kade okanye bangabikho kwaphela kwimisebenzi ekuvunyelwene ngayo.
Oku kunika umntu ithuba lokuzikhulula kuxanduva lokugcina ubuhlobo bexesha elide kunye nobudlelwane ngokubonisa ukungabikho kwezakhono zolawulo lwexesha okanye ulindelo olungafanelekanga kwiqabane lakhe.
Baza kuhlala benezizathu ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha abazokuzisebenzisa ngaphezulu nokuphinda basebenze ukulungisa umba.
6. Basoloko betsalwa yiminqweno yothando engafumanekiyo.
Kukho abanye abantu phaya abathi banomdla kuphela kubantu abangafumanekiyo.
Ukungafumaneki kunokuthetha umntu okolunye ulwalamano, okwangoku otyibilikayo phantsi kwemithwalo enxulumene nomsebenzi, akaphilanga ngokwasemoyeni nangokwengqondo ngokwaneleyo kubudlelwane, okanye usandula uku hlukala Apho khange baphilise kolo lwalamano luphela.
Umntu angatsiba ukusuka kukungafumaneki okutyumkileyo ukuya kukungafumaneki, abaleke xa kubonakala ngathi lo mntu angafuna ukubanika ixesha elininzi okanye abe nobudlelwane obunzulu.
7. Babakhethe ngokugqithiseleyo kwizinto abazithandayo, kokubini kubahlobo nakwezothando.
Ukulindela okuphezulu kunokusebenza njengekhaka elihle kumntu onemicimbi yokuzibophelela.
Inyani esihlala nayo kukuba wonke umntu uza kuba neempawu ezintle nezingalunganga malunga nabo. Ulonwabo lwexesha elide kubudlelwane kunye nobuhlobo buza nokusebenza ukuze ufumane umhlaba oqhelekileyo kunye nokuzixolela xa izinto zihamba kakubi.
Umntu okhethe ngokugqithiseleyo ukunambitha kwabo ebantwini angayisebenzisa njengendlela yokuzikhusela, kuba kulula ukugcina abanye abantu ukuba bangasondeli kakhulu ukuba akukho mntu unokuphila ngokuvisisana nokulindela kwabo.
8. Bahlala befaka umtya kunye namaqabane abo, bengaze bayilungele nantoni na enzulu.
Iimvakalelo zihlala ziphazamisa umbono wethu kunye nomgwebo, ngakumbi kumanqanaba okuqala obudlelwane. Singajonga omnye umntu ngeglasi enombala ophakamileyo, sinikezela ngeeflegi ezibomvu ezingabonakaliyo.
Ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka sizabalazele ukujonga ubuhlobo obutsha okanye ubudlelwane ngokuchanekileyo. Ngaba umntu ufuna ukuxhoma okanye aphume ngeentsuku? Ngaba umntu uyalipha ixesha lakho? Okanye ngaba bahlala benesizathu kunye nokuzithethelela sokuba kutheni bengakwazi ukuhlangana okanye baphinde bacwangcise ixesha?
Umntu onomdla wokwazi ngcono kwaye ofuna ukubakufutshane nawe uya kwenza ezi zinto- kodwa abantu abaninzi bachitha ixesha labo besonga izandla, bezama ukuqonda ukuba omnye umntu ufuna ntoni okanye akafuni. Ukuba bafuna ukubakho, baya kuba khona.
9. Badla ngokuba ngabantu abangathethi kakuhle ekunzima ukudibana nabo.
Zinokubakho izizathu ezininzi zonxibelelwano olubi. Kwimeko yemicimbi yokuzibophelela, yenye indlela yokuphambuka kunye neendlela zokuzikhusela ezinceda umntu ukuba agcine umgama ofanelekileyo. Oko kunokuba kukuthandana okanye iplonic ingqiqo.
Banokwenza izinto njengokungaphenduli imiyalezo ngokupheleleyo, bangaphenduli konke konke, vumela ifowuni yabo iye kwilizwi leposi kwaye bangaze babambe, okanye bangaze bafowne ngaphandle kokuba bafuna into kuwe.
Utyalo-mali lwabo kubuhlobo okanye kubudlelwane alunabunzulu kwaye luyazisebenzela, kwaye iindlela zonxibelelwano ziyayibonisa.
10. Batyekele ekuthandeni ukuleqwa kokuthandana ngaphezulu kokuya apho baya khona.
Umntu ongathandani naye oqhubeka ngokungathandabuzeki kubudlelwane ukuya kubudlelwane unokoyika ukuzibophelela. Banokude babandakanyeke kubudlelwane okwexeshana, ngamanye amaxesha kungabikho neeveki, kwaye bakuyeke kwangoko.
Banokuba luhlobo lokuhlala befuna ukubetha iklabhu okanye imivalo, bekhangela ixesha elifanelekileyo okwexeshana rhoqo. Oko kusenokungabikho nakwindawo eyingozi abanokufuna nje ukuyonwabela endaweni yokujongana nalo lonke uxanduva olubophelelekileyo lwexesha elide.
Ingongoma ebalulekileyo leyo. Kungenxa yokuba umntu enemicimbi yokuzibophelela, oko akuthethi ukuba yinto embi okanye embi.
Abanye abantu abafuni nje ukubotshwa okanye nangaluphi na uhlobo lokulungiswa kwexesha elide kunye nabani na. Kwaye kulungile. Abantu kufanelekile ukuba baphile ubomi babo ngendlela abakhetha ngayo.
Ingxaki iza xa umntu wesibini ezama ukunyanzelisa ezakhe izimvo ngendlela umntu abuphila ngayo ubomi bakhe, amaxesha amaninzi kuba efuna ubudlelwane okanye ukuzibophelela.
Olo lukhetho olubi kwaye luza kukhokelela kwintlungu yentliziyo kunye nokudakumba kuba omabini la maqela akakho kwiphepha elinye kunye nezinto azifunayo kunxibelelwano.
Ungalindeli ukumenza mbuna okanye umphilise umntu ocinga ukuba unemicimbi yokuzibophelela kuba ngekhe babe nayo nayiphi na imiba. Oko kunokuba lukhetho lwabo ngendlela abafuna ukuphila ngayo ubomi babo.
Ungoyisa njani imiba yokuzibophelela
Ukuba ucinga ukuba unokuba nemicimbi yokuzibophelela- okanye ufuna ukunceda umntu onayo- ungenza ntoni ukujongana nayo kwaye ekugqibeleni woyise?
Njengakwezona zinto zininzi, akukho sisombululo sisinye, kodwa nazi ezinye zeendlela onokukwazi ngazo ukunciphisa iimvakalelo ohlangabezana nazo.
Buza ukuba kutheni unazo.
Kuya kuhlala kunceda ukuba unokwazi ukubona esona sizathu okanye esinye sezona zinto zibangela uloyiko lwakho lokuzibophelela.
Mhlawumbi abazali bakho bohlukene xa wawungumntwana kwaye oku kukuqinisekisile ukuba ubudlelwane bexesha elide buzakuphela.
Mhlawumbi ukhe wanobuhlobo obudlulileyo buphela ngequbuliso kwaye oku kukunike imvakalelo enje ongafuniyo ukuba semngciphekweni wentlungu efanayo kwakhona.
Okanye ngaba unemicimbi ejikeleze ukugqibelela kwaye oku kubangela ukuba ufumane isiphoso kulo lonke ulwalamano kunye neqabane owakhe wanalo?
Ngokwazi ukuba yintoni enokubangela ukuzibophelela kwakho, unokufumana ithuba lokuba usebenze ngeemvakalelo zakho ezijikeleze ezo zinto.
Ukuba awuyazi into ebangele imicimbi yakho ethile okanye awukulungelanga ukujongana nezo zinto, musa ukoyika. Usengasebenza ukuphucula imeko yakho kwaye utshintshe indlela ocinga ngayo ngokuzibophelela.
Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho.
Ngaba uziqinisekisile wena kunye nabanye ukuba wonwabile wedwa?
Ngelixa oku kunokuba yinyani kwabanye abantu ngamanye amaxesha, kufanelekile ukubuza lo mbono.
Ngaba unyanisekile kuwe okanye uyaxoka malunga nendlela oziva ngayo?
Nokuba ungumntu owonwabileyo kwaye wanelisekile ixesha elininzi, ngaba akho amaxesha apho ulangazelela khona iqabane?
Ngaba uyazikhohlisa ngokucinga ukuba awudingi mntu wumbi? Ukuba wena nobomi bakho nigqibelele njengoko benjalo…
Ngelixa oku kuyinyani ngandlela ithile, kukho enye indlela yokuyijonga.
Ewe awudingi mntu wumbi ukukugqibezela okanye ubomi bakho, kodwa ubomi bakho bunokucetyiswa xa ukunye nomnye.
Ubuva ubomi ngendlela eyahlukileyo xa ukwibudlelwane. Yonke into icacile kwaye iyadlamka xa usabelana nomnye umntu.
Kwaye ubudlelwane buhlala bubonelela ngamathuba okukhula njengomntu. Zityhila izinto ngawe ongekhe uzifumane ngenye indlela.
Ke, cinga ixesha elide kwaye unzima kwaye ubuze ukuba awufuni nyani ubudlelwane, okanye ukuba uqinisekile nje ukuba awufuni.
Liqonde ixhala onalo malunga nokuzibophelela.
Nanini na xa utyhala umva ngokuchasene nokuzibophelela, ngokuyinxenye uqhutywa luxinzelelo lwakho.
Ukuba uyababona emsebenzini kwaye uyasiqonda isizathu sokuba bakwenze ucinge kwaye wenze ngendlela owenza ngayo, kunokukunceda ubazolise kwaye uyeke ukwenza nantoni na ngokungxama.
Ixhala ikakhulu yimvakalelo evela xa sijamelene nekamva elingaziwayo nelingaqinisekanga.
Ngokobudlelwane, oku kuthetha ukujongana nobunyani bokwenyani bokuba abunakuba ngunaphakade.
Kwaye ukuba ayingonaphakade, yintoni eza kulandela emva?
Kuya kufuneka ujongane nokungaziwa ukuba ubudlelwane buya kuba njani. Ngaba niya kuhlala kunye, nifumane inja, nibe nabantwana, nithenge indlu?
Ngaba uya kuxabana? Luluphi ulindelo oluya kubekwa luqinile emagxeni akho?
Kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ngaba uya kufumana ulonwabo kulwalamano kunokuba uphume kulo?
Awunakuzazi ezi zinto de ube ukuthandana nomntu.
Kodwa jonga kwenye indlela: ubomi ngaphandle kokuzibophelela.
Iya kujongeka njani?
Unokucinga ukuba inokuqiniseka ngakumbi kuyo kuba unolawulo olukhulu.
Kodwa ayenzi njalo.
Ineentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokungaqiniseki.
Kwaye xa uzigcina ungaphandle kobudlelwane, awunaye umntu onokwabelana naye ngomthwalo wokungaqiniseki.
Oku kufanelekile ukuzikhumbuza rhoqo: ukuba awuzukuzibophelela, uya kuhlala ujongene nekamva ongalaziyo.
Uya kusoloko kufuneka uthwale ubunzima bemicimbi ngokwakho.
Awuyi kuba nakho ukuthembela komnye umntu ngokufaka okanye ukuthatha into kwisitya sakho ngokupheleleyo.
Oku akuthethi ukuba woyikise kubudlelwane nangayiphi na indlela.
Yenzelwe ukukubonisa ukuba into engaziwayo ocinga ukuba uyayigada ithathelwe indawo zezinye ezingaziwayo.
Kwaye ngokungazibopheleli kwinto enye, wena, ngokungagqibekanga, uyazibophelela kwenye.
Funda ngendlela yokwenza isigqibo ngokuzithemba.
Ukudibanisa inqaku langaphambili, ixhala lakho malunga nokuzibophelela kunokubangelwa kukungakwazi kwakho ukwenza isigqibo.
Ukuba uyasebenza kakhulu xa ujongene nesigqibo sokuba ngubani oza kuzibophelela kwaye uzimisele nini, unokukuphepha nje ukwenza ezo zigqibo ngokupheleleyo.
Uyalahleka 'uthini ukuba' kwaye uchitha ixesha elide uhlalutya imeko ongaze ufike kuyo naphi na ukufikelela kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Kuya kufuneka uzikhumbuze ukuba akukho nto enjengobudlelwane obugqibeleleyo okanye umdlalo ogqibeleleyo ngokweqabane.
Ewe kuya kufuneka ujonge iinyani ukuze ubone ukuba wabelana ngeminqweno efanayo, neenqobo ezifanayo kunye neenjongo ezifanayo.
Ewe, kuya kufuneka uzive utsalelekile kulo mntu, ukonwabele ukuba kunye nabo, kwaye ubone iimpawu ezintle abanazo.
Ewe unokuzikhusela kumaqabane anokuxhaphaza okanye axhaphazayo ngokujonga iiflegi ezibomvu.
Kodwa, ekupheleni kosuku, ukuba phantse yonke into ijongeka intle, kwaye kukho izinto ezincinci ekubambezelayo, kufuneka ungazihoyi ezi zinto kwaye uthabathe ukholo.
Ukuba zizinkcukacha ezincinci, azizukubaluleka kumfanekiso omkhulu.
Ukwenza isigqibo sokuzibophelela kufuna ukuba ube nesibindi. Ifuna ukuba wamkele ubunyani bemeko kunye nobudlelwane ngokubanzi.
Uyakufumanisa ukuba ekwenzeni isigqibo, uziva uziva uzolile kwaye uzolile ngokwazi ukuba ukuloo meko inde.
Ukutsiba kumjelo wothando olutsha, ungazi ukuba kungakuthatha phi kuyonwabisa.
Sukugxila kunaphakade.
Ngaba uzibamba ekuzibopheleleni emntwini kuba uziva ngathi kufuneka ibe sisigqibo onamathela kuso ngonaphakade?
Ayenzi.
Unokuba kwi ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo kwaye ukhululeke ukutshintsha ingqondo yakho ukuba kuvela iimeko ezizithethelela ngokwenyani.
Oku akuniki sizathu sokuba ubaleke ukuzibophelela mzuzu xa uthe waqubha endleleni.
Kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba awubophelelwanga kwesi sigqibo unaphakade.
Ke sukugxila ngonaphakade xa ufuna ukuzibophelela kwiqabane.
Gxila apha kwaye ngoku. Gxila kwixesha elifutshane. Ewe ujonge ixesha elide ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile.
Musa nje ukuziqinisekisa ukuba awukwazi ukubalekela kwimeko ukuba izinto ziye zangabi mpilo.
Yehlisa ulindelo lwakho lokuba ubudlelwane obufanelekileyo kufuneka bube njani.
Ngaba ukuzibophelela kwakho kuyimiphumo yezinye ulindelo olungenakwenzeka ingaba ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo nobusempilweni bufanele ukubukeka njani?
Ukuba awukaze uthandane ngokunyanisekileyo, kunokuba nzima ukuba nomfanekiso wento eyiyo ngokwenene njenge.
Unokuhlala unombono ofanelekileyo wentsebenziswano egqibeleleyo phakathi kwabantu ababini apho ukuvumelana noxolo kubakho ngalo lonke ixesha.
Kodwa ayisiyiyo le nto ubudlelwane buhamba bubanzi.
Ukuba ubaleka nakweyiphi na inkathazo, soze ufumane uthando oluhlala luhleli.
Ubudlelwane abuyi kusombulula zonke iingxaki zakho.
Uthando lwaseHollywood alufane lubekho kwihlabathi lokwenyani.
Kuya kufuneka uzincame ngamanye amaxesha.
Nantsi indlela ekuyiyo.
Unokuziva uphoxekile kukuva oku, kodwa ungazivumeli ujingi kakhulu ngenye indlela.
Ubudlelwane obuphilileyo buqukethe amaxesha amnandi, uthando kunye nolonwabo.
Ziya kukwenza uzive ukonwaba ngokungaqhelekanga amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Khawukhumbule nje ukuba, ixesha elininzi, ubomi benzeka.
Ubudlelwane yinxalenye yobomi kwaye kufuneka benze indawo yazo zonke ezinye iindawo.
Ngamanye amaxesha iqabane lakho linokufumana uxinzelelo lomsebenzi.
Ngamanye amaxesha unokugula.
Ngamanye amaxesha uthando kunye nothando kufuneka lubambe isihlalo ngasemva kwimicimbi yokucinezela kunye neyenzekayo.
Oku akuthethi ukupheliswa kobudlelwane.
Akunjalo.
Oku kubonisa ukuba ubomi buqhubeka kwaye ubudlelwane buhamba kunye nokuhamba. Kuthatha nje isihlalo sangasemva ngoku.
Ke ukuba uqhubeka uphuma ngaphandle kubudlelwane kuba awusanga rhoqo okanye ubambe izandla okanye ufumana ulonwabo olunyulu, yazi ukuba unolindelo olungenakwenzeka kwaye usebenza ekulungiseni ezo.
Gcina ulwalamano xa umlingo uphela.
Ukuba ungena kubudlelwane, kuphela ukuba uzive ngathi ufuna ukuphuma kuwo kwakhona emva nje, zama ukunamathela kuwo ixesha elide.
Ubudlelwane yinto okhula ube yiyo. Uziqhelanisa nazo. Kodwa awuyi kuhlala ukhululekile kwangoko.
Unokufumana iintlungu ezikhulayo.
La maxesha ngamaxesha apho uziva unomdla wokubaleka.
Zama ukuhlala usithi kuwe, “Kuphela nje iveki.”
Kwaye xa loo veki ifika esiphelweni, yitsho kwakhona.
Kwaye kwakhona.
Ngazo zonke iveki ezidlulayo, uya kuziva uqiniseke ngakumbi ukuba ubudlelwane yinto ofuna ukuqhubeka nayo.
Uya kuziva ukhululekile kwaye umnqweno wokuphelisa izinto uza kuphela.
Ngenye imini, uya kufumanisa ukuba akusafuneki ukuba uzixelele ukuba uhlale enye iveki.
Uya Ndifuna ukuhlala enye iveki… nangaphezulu.
Yenza ukuzibophelela kude uzive uzinikele.
Ukulandela ukusuka kwinqanaba elidlulileyo malunga nokunikezela ixesha lobudlelwane, unokuzama ukwenza ngendlela onokuthi wenze ngayo ukuba uziva uzinikele ngokupheleleyo.
Ngelixa ngamanye amaxesha iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho zikhokela isenzo sakho, imeko eyahlukileyo inokuba njalo.
Izenzo zakho zinokutshintsha indlela ocinga noziva ngayo.
Ke ukuba awukaziva uzibophelele emntwini, zama ukwenza ngendlela ebonisa ukuba unguye.
Yenza izimbo zomzimba zothando, jonga omnye umntu rhoqo kangangoko unako, thetha ngento eninokufuna ukuyenza kunye ngexesha leenyanga.
Heck, nditsho wenze izicwangciso eziqinileyo zento leyo ukuba unako.
Yenza iqabane lakho- okanye iqabane elinokubakho- libe lelokuqala ebomini bakho kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba benze njalo.
Okokugqibela, esona senzo sokuba sisibini kunye nokuphathana ngokungathi nibanye nizakuqinisekisa ngeemvakalelo zokwenyani zalo mntu kwaye kukwenze kube lula ukuzibophelela ngokupheleleyo.
Xoxa ngokoyika kwakho ukuzibophelela kwiqabane lakho.
Ubudlelwane bazo zonke iintlobo busebenza ngcono kuye wonke umntu obandakanyekayo xa kukho unxibelelwano olucacileyo, oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo .
Kwaye ngelixa kunokubonakala ngathi ukuthetha ngemicimbi yokuzibophelela kwakho kwiqabane elitsha yinto yokugqibela ekufuneka uyenzile, iya kuhlala inceda.
Ukuchasa kwakho ukuhlala phantsi yinto abanokuthi bayiqaphele nakanjani na, ke ngokuxoxa ngayo nabo, unokufumana izinto endaweni yazo ukuze ujongane neziphumo ezinokubakho.
Okokuqala, inokonyusa ukuqonda kwabo kunye novelwano kuwe kwaye itshintshe indlela abanokukhetha ukusabela ngayo kwinto oyenzayo.
Ukuba 'uyanyamalala' okwethutyana, umzekelo, oko kunokubanceda ukuba babone le nto eyiyo kwaye bangacingi ukuba awukhathali.
Inokubanceda babe nomonde ngakumbi kuwe kwaye bazingise ngakumbi ngokubhekisele ekubeni nguwe oya kutyhala ubudlelwane phambili ekuqaleni.
Kwaye kukho izibonelelo zakho, nazo. Ukuthetha ngeengxaki zakho kunokuziva ngathi ubunzima bususwe emagxeni akho.
Ukwazi ukuba bayazi kwaye bayayiqonda indlela ocinga okanye oziva ngayo ngamanye amaxesha kunokwenza ukuba uvule ngakumbi ngokuziveza ngala maxesha.
Kwaye oku kungakhokelela kwiintetho ezakhayo ezinokulungisa imithambo-luvo yakho kwaye zikubuyisele kwingqondo ethe chatha ngokubhekisele kubudlelwane.
Ukuba uyala ukuzibophelela kuba usoyika umntu owophula intliziyo yakho, iqabane lakho linokuqinisekisa ukuba bayazi ukuba olu luloyiko lokwenene kuwe.
Ukunyaniseka kungahamba indlela ende ekuthinteleni uhlobo lwexinzelelo kunye nokuthandabuza okunokuthi ngamanye amaxesha kungene engqondweni yakho.
Ke, musa ukoyika ukuthetha ngokungafihlisiyo nangokunyaniseka neqabane lakho kwaye ukwenze kwasekuqaleni kubudlelwane obusakhasayo - ngaphambi kokuba ube nethuba lokubuya umva ngaphandle kwelizwi.
Ukuthandana nomntu onemicimbi yokuzibophelela
Ukuba uthandana nomntu othile kwaye bonisa uninzi lweempawu ezingasentla okanye bakuxelele nje malunga nemicimbi yabo ngokuzibophelela, kufuneka wenze ntoni?
Ngelixa ukungenela ubudlelwane nomntu onje kusenokungasoloko kulula, sukucinga ukuba ayikulungelanga umzamo.
Aba bantu abakhathali kwaye ayikokuchitha kwexesha lakho.
Banedemon zabo njengathi sonke.
Nazi ezinye zezinto onokuzenza ukuzilungiselela kwaye unike ubudlelwane elona thuba lihle kunokwenzeka.
Lwela ubudlelwane.
Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho omnye umntu anokufuna ukuyeka, ukuyeka, ukuhamba ngendlela yabo.
Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba benza ngenxa yokoyika ukuzibophelela, kuya kufuneka ubalwele.
Banokuba bafuna indlela elula yokuphuma, kodwa baya kufuna nokucaca kunye nokuqiniseka.
Ukuba bayazi ukuba ubakhathalele ngokwenene kwaye uyakholelwa kubudlelwane kwaye bunokukhokelela phi, baya kukuthemba.
Ngamanye amaxesha, bafuna umntu oza kubaphatha kwaye abaxelele ukuba, ewe, izinto zicelomngeni ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa baya kuba ngcono ukuba bayakuvumela ubancede.
Babonise indlela ozibophelele ngayo kubudlelwane.
Ukubanceda ngokuzimisela kwabo, kuya kufuneka ucace gca nakweyakho.
Ukuba kuye kwafuneka ulwe ukuze ubagcine kubudlelwane, ke sele wenze into enkulu, kodwa zikho ezinye izinto onokuzenza.
Zilungiselele ukuba nguwe owenza izicwangciso kwixesha elifutshane, eliphakathi nelide.
Baxelele ukuba uza kutya isidlo sangokuhlwa ngosuku oluthile. Baxelele ukuba uyaphi kwaye nini. Yenza yonke into ibe lula ngokusemandleni abo. Ukuya ekhayeni labo okanye emsebenzini kwaye ubathathe kunokuba udibane nabo apho.
Xa ixesha lilungile, bazise kubahlobo bakho (kwaye ekugqibeleni usapho, kodwa oko kuhlala kuza kamva).
Yazise kubo ukuba uyababona kwikamva lakho.
Kodwa zenze lula kwaye ungothusi.
Abantu abazinikeleyo kwi-phobias ngamanye amaxesha bayayifumana loo nto izinto zihamba ngokukhawuleza kakhulu ukusuka ukuthandana ubudlelwane kakhulu .
Oku kubabeka emgceni kwaye kubanike isizathu sokubaleka.
Ke ngelixa kufuneka ucace ekuzibopheleleni kwabo kubo, zama ukungabenzi bazive bengxamile ukuba benze okufanayo.
Thatha amanyathelo omntwana ngokwakha ubudlelwane. Ewe zama ukuzibona rhoqo, kodwa zinike ixesha nendawo yokuphefumla kwaye uziqhelanise nendlela yokuba kubudlelwane.
Musa ngesiquphe ukucebisa uhambo kwaye ungakhankanyi nantoni na enkulu kakhulu njengomtshato okanye abantwana.
Qhubeka ngemihla naxa wena yiba ngumntu okhethekileyo isibini. Gcina izinto zimnandi kwaye zilula.
Jonga imiqondiso yokuba bayifumana kakhulu kwaye emva koko banciphise ukubuyela umva.
Le miqondiso ihlala ibandakanya isimbo sabo sonxibelelwano.
Ukuba baqala ukubonakala ngathi bavaliwe ngakumbi, baneempendulo ezimfutshane kwimibuzo yakho okanye izikhewu ezinde ngexesha phambi kokuba baphendule imiyalezo, banokuziva benoxinzelelo.
Kwangokunjalo, ukuba babonakala bephazamisekile okanye bedidekile emva kwexesha elide kwinkampani yakho, banokufuna ixesha lokuba bodwa.
Chaza ukuqonda kwakho.
Ukuba umntu unemicimbi yokuzibophelela, banokuziva ngathi akukho mntu uyiqondayo.
Kwaye ke bayazifihla iimvakalelo zabo kwaye babavumele ukuba batyhudise nzulu ngaphantsi komphezulu de baphume ngenye imini kwaye loo mntu abaleke kubudlelwane.
Ukuba unokubenza bazive beqondakala ngakumbi, ungabanika inkululeko engakumbi yokuxoxa ngemicimbi yabo kunye nawe.
Ngamanye amaxesha banokuwuphakamisa umxholo kuqala, kwimeko apho ungabaphulaphula ngenyameko kwaye ubaqinisekise ukuba uya kwenza konke okusemandleni ukunciphisa amaxhala abo.
Ukuba abakhange bavume ngokungafihlisiyo ukuba bayazibophelela-phobe, banokoyika kakhulu ukuthetha ngayo okanye mhlawumbi bangaziqondi ukuba banye.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ukuphakamisa umxholo kunokuba yinkohliso.
Enye indlela kukuthetha ngolwalamano lwabo oludlulileyo (kunye nolwakho ibhalansi). Babuze ukuba kutheni bengasebenzi.
Yiba novelwano nabo malunga nendlela ubudlelwane babo obuphele ngayo.
Thembeka kubo malunga nokuphela kobudlelwane bakho bangaphambili kunye nendlela ongaziva ngayo ukuba yayingumntu okanye ixesha elifanelekileyo.
Ukuba bayakwazi ukunxibelelana nale nto uyithethayo, baya kuziva bekhululekile ukuvula.
Zisa ukuzibophelela phambili njengesihloko kwaye ubazise ukuba kude kube nzima kuwe ngamanye amaxesha.
Oku kunokuzikhusela kwizikhuselo zabo kwaye kubenze bathethe malunga nemicimbi yabo ngokungafihlisiyo.
Kodwa musa ukuwutyhala kakhulu umxholo ukuba ababonakali ngathi bafuna ukuthetha ngawo.
iliwa vs uluntu ndiyekile
Yiba nomonde kubo.
Ngaphezu kwako konke, uyakufuna umonde ukuba uza kujongana ngempumelelo nemicimbi umntu azibophelele ngayo.
Akunakulindelwa ukuba boyise uloyiko okanye ixhala labo kwithuba elincinci, ke kuyakufuneka ubanike inkululeko ngamanye amaxesha.
Zama ukucinga ukuba ubuya kufuna ukuba umntu akuphathe njani xa unengxaki efanayo.
Oku kuya kukunceda uhlale uqinile ekuzibophezeleni kwakho kwiqabane lakho.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga neyakho okanye imicimbi yokuzibophelela kweqabane lakho?Ukufuna ingcebiso kubuchwephesha bobudlelwane kunganceda kwiimeko ezinje, kwaye akufuneki kubekho ntloni ekufuneni ezinye. Ingcali eqeqeshiweyo inokubonelela ngeengcebiso ezilungiselelwe ukukunceda umelane nemiceli mngeni ethi imiba yokuzibophelela izise ubudlelwane.Ke kutheni ungaxoxi kwi-Intanethi kwenye yeengcali ezivela kwiQabane lobuhlobo ezinokukunceda ukukukhokela kule nto. Ngokulula.
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