Xa umntu osondeleyo kuwe edimazekile, ungamvuyisa njani?
Nokuba ungumhlobo, iqabane lakho, okanye ilungu losapho, nazi izinto onokuzenza ukubanceda bazive ngcono kwaye babeke uncumo ebusweni babo.
1. Banga.
Ukuthinta umzimba ngumphilisi onamandla.
Isenzo esilula sokwangana nomntu sanele ukubonelela ngokukhawuleza kwimood yabo.
Ukuwolana kuya kubabonisa ukuba ababodwa, kwaye ukhona ukubanceda kwaye ubaxhase ngayo nantoni na abajongane nayo.
2. Khumbuza kwimemori ekwabelwana ngayo ehlekisayo.
“Uyakhumbula nini…?”
Ungasebenzisa indlela ubuchwephesha obuxutywe ngayo ukuba bube yinzuzo yakho ngokubuyisa imemori endala, eyonwabileyo kunye.
Ukucinga ngasemva ngeli xesha liqinisekileyo kuya kubangela iimvakalelo ezinxulumene nayo.
Uyakumphazamisa lo mntu kwiingxaki zakhe kwaye ngethemba lokuba uza kubenza bancume okanye bahleke endaweni yoko.
3. Danisa umculo othile oqhubela phambili.
Ukuba uhleli kamnandi kwikhaya labo okanye kwikhaya lakho, beka umculo othile owaziyo ukuba bayawuthanda kwaye badanise ngokungenazintloni kuwo.
Khetha into ethile yokuqhubela phambili kokubini kwitempile kunye nakwingoma ukuba unako.
Ukubashukumisela ukuba bahambise imizimba yabo kwisingqi akuyi kufumana kuphela ukupompa kwentliziyo yabo, kuya kubangela iimvakalelo ezintle ngakumbi kwingqondo yabo.
Cula phezulu kwelizwi lakho.
Ukuba abathandi ukudanisa, okanye ngokulula abavakalelwa kukuba, jonga ukuba bakhetha ukucula endaweni yoko.
Ukucula kukudibanisa namazwi engoma kwaye oku kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokuba bavakalise iimvakalelo zabo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba inyanzelise okwangoku kwi-tempo ngeli xesha- inokuba ngaphezulu nangakumbi kwisiphelo somsindo sokuba yinto abayithandayo okanye abayifunayo ngoku.
5. Zisa iintyatyambo.
Ukuba awukabikho nomhlobo wakho ngelixa ufunda le nto, kodwa uyababona kwakamsinya, thatha inqwaba yeentyatyambo ezithandekayo.
Ukuba awuyazi ukuba luhlobo luni lweentyatyambo abazithandayo, khetha ukhetho oluqaqambileyo kunye nemibala okanye ophuzi, orenji kunye nobomvu.
Le mibala idlamkileyo yile nto bayifunayo ukubonwabisa kwangoku.
6. Baphathele into emnandi.
Ngelixa yonke into ilunge ngokumodareyitha, kukho amaxesha okuzonwabisa.
Le yenye yazo.
Thenga ikeyiki ebutofotofo okanye okunye ukutya okumnandi kwaye usike isilayi esikhulu esifanelekileyo.
Okanye, ukuba uyazi ukuba yinto abayithandayo, thabatha umjikelo we-ice cream yabo kunye neepuni ezimbini.
7. Okanye bhaka into kunye.
Ungaya inyathelo elingaphaya kokuthenga ikhekhe kwaye uthenge zonke izithako ezifunekayo yenza enye kunye nabo.
Ukubhaka yindlela emnandi kwaye emnandi yokwenza ukuba umntu azive engcono.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela ukufumana olo nyango lumnandi ekugqibeleni, kodwa inkqubo yoyilo yokuxuba kunye nokuhombisa kunye nokubhaka iyaphakamisa ngokumangalisayo.
Baphathe ngekofu.
Kukho ithuba elihle lokuba umntu ozama ukumkhuthaza uya kufuna ukuthetha malunga nantoni na ebathobayo.
Ukwenza oku kwisitulo esikhulu esitofotofo kwivenkile yekofu enomtsalane kunokuba lukhetho olukhulu ukuba bafuna ukuphuma.
Ungahlala nincokole ngesiselo esishushu (ikhekhe ungayikhetha, kodwa kuyacetyiswa), okoko befuna njalo.
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Kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, ukuphuma kwindawo kawonke-wonke, usenza into eqhelekileyo njengokuthatha ikofu, kunokunika umntu imbono eyahlukileyo malunga nentlungu kunye nokwenzakala kwabo.
9. Bakhuphele ngaphandle isidlo sasemini / isidlo sangokuhlwa.
Kwindlela efanayo nekofu, unokufuna ukuthatha uhambo oluya kwikhefi okanye kwindawo yokutyela ukuze ulume.
Basenokungacingi ngokutya, kodwa ukuba uyazi ukuba kulunge kubo ukuba batye into, yindlela esebenzayo yokubanyanzela ukuba benze njalo.
Kwakhona, isenzo sokuphuma emakhayeni abo kunye nokuchitha ixesha kwindawo apho kukho abanye abantu abaninzi kunokubanceda ukuba bavuyise.
10. Okanye nipheke kunye.
Basenokungathandi ukuphuma, okanye kungenzeki ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi.
Oku akukuthinteli ekuthengeni ezinye izinto, ukuya kwindawo yabo kunye neresiphi ngesandla, kunye nokulungiselela isidlo esimnandi sokwabelana.
Ngokufana nokubhaka, kunokuba yonyango olumangalisayo lokwenza into kwaye uyonwabele ukuyitya.
(Ukulungiswa okuhle ukuba abafuni ukuphuma okanye ukupheka kuku-odola kuthathwa.)
11. Thatha uhambo kwindalo.
Kukho into malunga nokukhulu ngaphandle - ilanga, imithi, iintaka, ulwandle - olunefuthe lomlingo kwimo yomntu.
Nokuba bubuhle nje obukujongileyo ebusweni okanye uqhagamshelo oziva lukhulu kakhulu kulo, ukuchitha ixesha kwindalo yindlela entle yokuvuselela umntu.
Thatha uhambo, uthathe ipikniki, kwaye wonwabele indawo okuyo.
12. Yiya epakini.
Ukuba amahlathi okanye ulwandle okanye iintyatyambo zeentyatyambo zasendle zinqongophele apho uhlala khona, ukuhambahamba okanye ukuhlala epakini yeyona nto ilandelayo.
Ukuphuma nje endlwini kuya kuhlala kunceda, kwaye nokukhanya okuncinci kwelanga kunye nengca eluhlaza kulungile kumphefumlo.
Ukuba kukho indawo yokudlala epakini, ungasoloko usenza isilima xa ujika okanye isilayidi (ucinga ukuba akukho bantwana balinde ukujika!)
13. Yiya kuqhuba.
Kukho into emayithethwe malunga nemvakalelo ekhululayo eza nokuthatha idrive kwenye indawo.
Awudingi nokuba ube nendawo oya kuyo engqondweni.
Ungatsiba nje emotweni, ubethe indlela, ubone ukuba imimoya ikusa phi na.
Yongeza umculo omnandi, kwaye unendlela entle yokwenza ukuba umntu azive engcono.
14. Yiya ezivenkileni.
Ukuthenga izinto ngenxa ye-buzz oyifumanayo ayisiyonto siyincomayo.
Kodwa xa kuziwa ekuvuyiseni umhlobo okanye othandekayo, unyango lokuthengisa lunendawo.
Kungakulunge kakhulu ukuba baziphathe ngokwabo ngento entsha xa benethuba elibi lokugqibela.
Kwaye imeko yokubetha ezivenkileni inokwenza imimangaliso yokucinga.
Ngaba umntu wakho wakudala ufuna ubuye
15. Nxiba imuvi ekhuthazayo.
Iimuvi zingangohlobo lokubaleka, kodwa ayisiyonto imbi leyo xa umntu omaziyo eziva ephantsi.
Fumana imovie eyonwabisayo evuyisayo kwaye ekhuthazayo, yenza i-popcorn entsha, kwaye urhuqe i-duvet uyokulala esingqengqelweni ukuze uzenzele phantsi kunye.
Kwiiyure ezimbalwa, baya kuba nakho ukulibala iingxaki zabo. Kwaye xa iikhredithi ziqengqeleka, imo yabo ngokungathandabuzekiyo iphuculwe.
16. Fumana ubugcisa.
Ukuyila kuyitoniki esebenzayo yosizi, uxinzelelo kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezinzima.
Fumana iipeyinti, iipeni, iipensile, iitshokho, amalahle - nantoni na oyithandayo - kunye nephepha elikhulu kunye nokwenza ubugcisa.
Okanye fumana izandla ezingaphezulu kwaye usebenzise oko unakho macala onke ukwenza ubucwebe obupholileyo.
Vumela iingcinga zakho zibaleke.
17. Dlala imidlalo.
Ngaba ziluhlobo lomntu olududuzayo?
Ngaba bayayonwabela umdlalo webhodi yeklasi?
Ngaba uyayazi imidlalo yamakhadi emnandi?
Ukudlala imidlalo yalo naluphi na uhlobo kunokumphazamisa lo mntu kwiingxaki zakhe kwaye kuphakamise imimoya engapheliyo.
Ukuzilolonga.
Ukwenza intliziyo yakho ibaleke yindlela eqinisekileyo yomlilo yokwenza ukuba umntu azive engcono.
Ukuzilolonga kukhupha ii-endorphins, ezizipilisi zentlungu zendalo kunye ne-booster ye-mood.
Ukusebenza ngokwasemzimbeni kukwabangela ukuba umzimba ukhulule ii-neurotransmitters dopamine kunye ne-serotonin, ethi, kwakhona, yimichiza yolonwabo yomzimba wakho.
Ke yiyani ukugijima kunye, thatha ukukhwela ibhayisekile, okanye wenze iseshoni yeyoga enzulu ukuba yile nto nobabini niyiyo.
19. Yiba nosuku lwe-spa ekhaya.
Iseshoni yokuthambisa inokuba yile nto umhlobo wakho okanye umntu omthandayo efuna ukuziva wonwabile ngakumbi.
Ke thatha imaski yobuso ujikeleze, ukukhetha iipolishi zenzipho, iibhotile zomzimba obutofotofo, nayo nayiphi na into oyaziyo ukuba bayayithanda.
Ukuba nobabini niyakhululeka ngayo, banike umyalezo wokubanceda ukuba baphumle kwaye baphumle.
20. Coca okanye ucoce indawo yazo.
Ikhaya elisempilweni, ingqondo esempilweni - kuninzi inyaniso kule ntetho.
Xa izinto zifika phezulu kuthi, kulula ukuvumela izinto zityibilike kwaye ziphele ngoxinzelelo kunye nokungcola kuyo yonke indawo.
Ke ukuba bayasokola ukwenza iziseko, zenzele.
Izinto ezicocekileyo, vumela indlu, ulayishe zonke iipleyiti ezingcolileyo kwisitya sokuhlambela, wenze igumbi labo lokuhlambela likhazimle.
Bayakuxabisa ngokwenene isenzo sobubele. Iya kubenza bazive bekhathalelwe kwaye banciphise ukungqubana kwengqondo nabo.
21.Yenzani izenzo zobubele.
Ngelixa ucoceka indawo yabo kukubonisa kwakho ububele, ukubenza babe nobubele kwabanye yindlela efanelekileyo yokubonwabisa.
Phuma uye malunga kwaye kungekudala uza kufumana iindlela zokwenza izinto ezingahleliwe zobubele kwabanye.
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Nceda umntu aqhubeke nokuthenga.
Hlala uncokole nomntu obonakala elilolo.
Bhatalela ikofu yomntu ophambi kwakho emgceni (xa udityaniswe nohambo lwevenkile yokutya evela phezulu).
Oku kuyakukhumbuza umhlobo wakho ngamandla abo okwenza umahluko olungileyo kwihlabathi.
22. Ukubetha nokudlala ngesilwanyana sasekhaya.
Abahlobo bezilwanyana banikela ngothando olungenamiqathango kunye novuyo olungalawulekiyo kwabo banethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo lokuba nalo.
Ukuba uyakwenza oko, kodwa umhlobo wakho okanye umntu omthandayo akenzi, bameme ujikeleze kwindawo yakho oza kudlala ngayo okanye ukubetha isilwanyana sakho.
Ukuba unayo inja, hamba kunye, yiphose ibhola, kwaye uyibukele njengoko ihlekisa ngeenxa zonke.
Oku kuqinisekile ukuzisa uncumo ebusweni bakhe nabani na.
23. Qhekeka isiqhulo.
Ukuthetha ihlaya elihle kuya kubenza bahleke, kwaye ukuhleka kuya kubavuselela ngaphandle kokuphela.
Jonga ezinye iziqhulo ukuba kunyanzelekile, okanye uxelele ezinye osele uzazi.
Sukuba nexhala lokuba ngaba umbi kakhulu xa uxela iziqhulo- eso sisiqingatha solonwabo kwaye siza kubenza bancume bodwa.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngale nto, yiya kwi-intanethi kwaye ubukele abanye bema endaweni yokuhlekisa.
24. Yenza uluhlu lombulelo.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho okanye umntu omthandayo uphantsi kwenkunkuma, banokufumana kunzima ukubona izinto ezintle ebomini babo.
Kodwa unganceda ukuvula amehlo abo kubo bonke abanokubulela ngokwenza uluhlu lombulelo kunye.
Bakhuthaze ukuba bazabalaze bacinge ngezinto-impilo yabo, abahlobo babo, iholide abayifumeneyo, ikhaya elihle abanalo ...
… Qala ngezinto ezinje uze ufumane imbuyiselo.
Akukho siphelo sezinto onokubulela ngazo.
Baphulaphule.
Nangona sikubekile oku kuluhlu, iya kuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yezinye izinto ezininzi.
Ngokubanika indlebe kwaye ubavumele bathulule iingxaki zabo, unganceda ukunciphisa umthwalo obasindayo.
Ukuthetha izinto kunye nomhlobo okanye umntu omthandayo ngamanye amaxesha kuko konke esikufunayo ukusenza sizive ngcono ngemeko.
Ke yiba ngumhlobo okanye umntu omthandayo, vula iindlebe zakho, ubeke umgwebo ecaleni, kwaye umamele nje.
HAYI ukungavuyisi umntu!
Xa umhlobo wakho okanye umntu omthandayo eziva ephantsi, kubalulekile ukuba ungayenzi ingasebenzi loo mvakalelo.
Unokuhendeka ukuba uthethe into ecaleni kwemigca ethi, 'Ayimbi kangako,' okanye 'Uyakuyiphumelela.'
Amabinzana afana nala ahlala enefuthe elichaseneyo noko ubucebe ukukwenza.
Banokuphakamisa omnye umntu onokuthi acinge ukuba uzama ukudlala ngentlungu abavayo.
Ngeli xesha, le ngcebiso ingentla iya kuba neziphumo ezinciphe kakhulu… ukuba ikhona.
Ingqondo yabo enengqondo sele isazi ukuba bazokuziva bhetele kungekudala kwaye kukho abantu abakwiimeko ezimbi kakhulu kunabo.
Abadingi ukuba ubabonise oku.
Iimvakalelo zabo ziimvakalelo zabo, kwaye zisemthethweni.
Kodwa ezi ngcebiso zingasetyenziselwa ukuqala ukubaphazamisa kwezi mvakalelo, kwaye emva koko ukubanceda ngokuthe chu ukuhamba nabo ngendlela yabo.
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