Ubomi… imalunga nantoni? Akukho mntu uyazi. Amathuba kukuba, nangona kunjalo, ukholelwa ukuba izinto ezininzi ziyinyani ukuba ingcinga, amava kunye nethuku libonisa ubuxoki.
Kukho iingcamango ezininzi eziphosakeleyo malunga nobomi obujikelezayo kwaye kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuzamkela ngokuhamba kwexesha, ngakumbi xa ziqhutywe kuthi luluntu kunye nabantu ebomini bethu.
Nangona kungekho kunqongophala kokuzithoba koku kulandelayo, ngethemba lokuba amehlo akho aya kuvulwa kwezinye izinto ezingekho njengoko zinokubonakala kuqala.
1. Ubomi Bunzima Kwaye Uyasweleka
Mhlawumbi eyona nto iphosakeleyo kuko konke kukuba ubomi ngumzabalazo omde kwaye nokuba, nokuba yeyiphi na indlela oyithathayo, iyakuhlala injalo ngonaphakade.
Ewe abantu bajongana neemeko ezimbi ngalo lonke ixesha- indlala, imfazwe, ubundlobongela, ukuxhatshazwa -Kwaye ukusweleka kunokuthatha abancinci emva kobukho obufutshane bobunzima obungapheliyo, kodwa ezi zezona zikhethekileyo ezibonisa umthetho.
Uninzi lwabantu (kwaye ngakumbi abo banakho ukufunda eli nqaku kwizixhobo zabo ezixhumeke kwi-intanethi) abanakuze babenabo ubomi apho ukusinda kwabo kuhlala kusongelwa rhoqo.
Sithatha iimfuno ezisisiseko njengezinto ezingenamsebenzi kwaye sizonwabela ngobunewunewu kunye nezibonelelo kwihlabathi langoku esiphila kulo. Xa thina, abanelungelo, sithetha ngokuba 'nobomi obunzima,' asiyiyo ethembekileyo ngokupheleleyo . Sinokujamelana nemiceli mngeni, kodwa sikwayintsikelelo enkululeko enkulu kunye nokukhetha mhlawumbi eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu yinkululeko yokukhetha indlela esabela ngayo kuyo nayiphi na imeko.
Ke, hayi, ubomi abukho nzima. Kunzima, kuninzi lwabantu, kukwakhiwa kwengqondo esiziqinisekisayo ngako. Xa kuthelekiswa nabona bantu bazimisele ngokwenene, ubomi bethu bulula.
2. Ubomi bulungile
Ubunzima obuhlala buhleli babo kuthethwe ngabo ngasentla sisesinye isifundo kuthi: ubomi abunabulungisa kwaye abantu abasoloko befumana oko kufanelekileyo.
wazi nini ukuba iphelile
Unokuba ngowona ulungileyo, unobubele, okhathalelayo emhlabeni, kodwa akukho nto ithi izinto ezimbi azizukwenzeka kuwe. Kwangokunjalo, abona bantu bakhohlakeleyo, abanempindezelo, nabaziphethe kakubi abaqinisekiswanga ukuba 'bazakufika ngaphambili' kuba nje ubomi butsho.
Izikali zomthetho zaphuliwe kwaye kuya kufuneka uqhelane nazo. Akuthethi ukuba awunakulwela uluntu olunobulungisa, olulinganayo nolunyamezelayo, ungalindeli nje ukuba inyani ethile ye-utopian ivele naliphi na ixesha kungekudala.
3. Izinto ezinkulu, ezincinci azenzi
Siphila kwindawo apho imicimbi emikhulu, emikhulu kunye nemikhulu ithathwa njengebaluleke ngaphezu kwezincinci kwaye zibonakala zingabalulekanga. Oku kusikhokelela ekubeni sicinge ukuba kufuneka sigcwalise ubomi bethu ngezinto zexabiso kunye nefuthe lokuba ukuba asenzi uphawu lwethu kubo bonke ukuba sibone oko siphumelele.
Ngokwenyani, zezona zinto zincinci zihlala zihlala zithetha eyona nto ibalulekileyo kuthi nakwabanye. Ubomi obulula bosapho kunye nabahlobo buyaphuphuma kukungonwabi, ukonwaba kunye nentsingiselo- akukho ngaphantsi komntu onefuthe elikhulu kwihlabathi.
4. Ulonwabo luvela kwinto yangaphandle
'Ukonwaba ayisiyo ntlanzi onokuyibamba' inokuba sisihloko sealbham lelinye iqela lomculo werock u-Our Lady Peace, kodwa oko kubandakanya le mbono iphosakeleyo ngokugqibeleleyo.
Nokuba uphi na ukuloba kunye nantoni na oyilobelayo, ulonwabo ayisiyiyo into ongaphuma uyokufumana, ufumane, uthenge, okanye uzuze ngayo nayiphi na enye indlela. Ayisiyonto yangaphandle enokwenziwa, yenziwe, okanye yenziwe ngenye indlela.
Ukonwaba kungaphakathi, kuvela ngaphakathi kwaye kubuya apho bekuvela khona kamva. Ukuba ujonge ukonwaba kwakho phakathi kwezinto zehlabathi, uyakukhangela ngonaphakade.
5. Ubomi bunenjongo ekupheleni kwayo
Singacinga ukuba kukho injongo ebomini kwaye xa ufikelela esiphelweni sakho, loo njongo ifezekisiwe, kodwa ekuphela kwento ekupheleni kobomi… kukufa. U-Alan Watts, ngoncedo lolu luvo lumnandi, uyichaza ngokugqibeleleyo.
6. Nguwe Isishwankathelo Impumelelo yakho
Uyintoni? Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba nguwe? Lo ngumbuzo onzima ukuwuphendula, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ikhona into ongeyiyo kwaye sisiphumo sempumelelo yakho ebomini.
Uqonde ngqo Esikolweni? Yintoni? Uqhuba ishishini lakho? Ke ngoku? Uphumelele uNobel Peace Prize? Ukuxhaphaza wena! Izinto ozifezileyo zinokuba yimithombo yekratshi elikhulu, kodwa ayisiyiyo le nto uyiyo zizilayitha ezincinci zento yonke.
Untsonkothe kwaye ukanti ulula kangangokuba akukho magama okuchaza. Wena, kwaye kuko konke oko kunokuthiwa ngokwenene ngawe.
7. Yonke into yenzeka ngesizathu
Kukho injongo kuyo yonke into ebomini - yile nto sithanda ukuzixelela yona. Esi siphelo okanye isiphelo yingcamango ethuthuzelayo kwaye, ewe, ngeendlela ezithile kunokuba yinyani kwinto leyo ethi ikhokelele kwenye.
Isizathu kunye nesiphumo asiyo, nangona kunjalo, asifani nesizathu. Isizathu sinika ukuthethelelwa okanye intsingiselo kwaye zininzi izinto ebomini ezenzeka ngaphandle kwesizathu. Ezi zinokuba zilungile kwaye ezi zinokuba zibi, kodwa azenzeki kuba amandla aphezulu ethatha isigqibo sokuba kufanelekile ukuba avele.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba kubekho isizathu sayo yonke imicimbi okanye imeko ebomini bakho, kanye njengokuba kungekho sizathu sokuba abantu babulawe, baphathwe gadalala, okanye benzakaliswe ngandlela thile. Isizathu kunye nesiphumo sinokubakho, kodwa ukuzithethelela akunjalo.
8. Ubomi Owes Wena Into
Nokuba ubomi busenokubonakala bungenabulungisa, ayikutyali nto. Nokuba zeziphi iingxaki ezikwehleleyo, okanye zonke izenzo zobubele ozenzele abanye, akukho nto inokuthi uneziphumo ezilungileyo ebomini bakho.
Awunakho ukunyanzela okuhle nokubi ukuba ulungelelanise ebomini bakho okanye uya kuphelela njengomlingisi wesihloko kwi-B.S. Inoveli kaJohnson uChristie Malry's Own Double-Entry. Kwilinge lakhe lokwenza kanye loo nto, uzibhaqa esenza isenzo esikhohlakeleyo sokuziphindezela ngento ayibona ngathi izinto ezimbi ezenzekayo kuye . Ngaba le yindlela ofuna ukuyihamba?
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- Yintoni injongo kunye neNqaku loBomi? (Ayisiyiyo le uyicingayo)
- Uluhlu lokuGqibela lweMibuzo engama-30 yokuzibuza yona malunga noBomi
- Izinto ezingama-21 wonke umntu amele azi ngobomi
9. Kukho iNdlela eyiyo yokuThatha
Ungacinga ukuba kukho umendo olungileyo, umendo ongcono, kunye neyona ndlela ilungileyo onokuyithatha ebomini, kodwa uya kuba ungalunganga. Ngapha koko, akukho ndlela iphambi kwakho konke konke xa usenza umkhondo ngawo onke amanyathelo owathathayo.
Unokwenza izigqibo onokonwaba ngazo kwaye unokwenza ezinye uzisole ngazo, kodwa awunayo indlela yokwazi iziphumo zazo. Into ebonakala ngathi yeyona ndlela ilungileyo inokukhokelela ekwenzakaleni okanye entlungwini, ngelixa 'iimpazamo' zakho zinokukhokelela kwindawo yoxolo nolonwabo.
Akukho ndlela nje yokuxela, ke akufuneki uzikhathaze kakhulu ngayo.
10. Ubuvila Yinkcitho
Kuya kufuneka uphume uye kumava ehlabathi, ugcwalise ixesha lakho ngokupheleleyo, kwaye uphile ubomi buphezulu…, ubuncinci, yile nto bafuna ukuba uyicinge.
Le nkcubeko inokusenza sonke sizive sinenkcitho, ngokungathi sichitha ubomi bethu sisenza izinto ezingenantsingiselo okanye sihleli nje singenzi nto. Hlaziya uloyiko-wenza kakuhle.
Isidingo sokugcwalisa iyure nganye yokuvuka ngomsebenzi kunokuba ilungile kwabanye, kodwa ukuhlala kubomi obuzolile kunokuba nentsingiselo efanayo. Kulahlekisiwe ukuthetha ukuba abo banandipha ukuphumla ngencwadi, imuvi , okanye inkampani yabo ifumana kancinci ebomini kunabo bahamba umhlaba, isibhakabhaka njengendawo yokuzonwabisa, kunye nokutya ubusuku obu-5 ngeveki.
11. Yonke into yeyakho buqu
Xa uziva ngathi kukho umntu owonileyo kuwe, maninzi amathuba okuba uyakuthatha ngokwakho. Kodwa jonga izinto ngokwahlukileyo kwaye unokuqonda ukuba, rhoqo, akukho nto imbi malunga nezenzo zomntu kwaphela.
Ngenxa yokuba asinakukwazi ukufunda iingqondo, sishiywe senze amabali ethu malunga nokuba kutheni abantu besenza ngendlela abenza ngayo. Ngelishwa, ezi zinokuba kude kakhulu nenyaniso. Singakhubekiswa yinto eyenziwa ngumntu, kodwa amatyeli alithoba kwalishumi abalungiselelanga ukukwenzakalisa.
Mhlawumbi khange baqonde nokuba bakwenzakalisile, kodwa bakwenza oko ngenxa yokungakhathali okanye ngengozi yokwenyani. Isiganeko sinokukubandakanya, kodwa akufuneki sibe malunga nawe sinokubangelwa ngokulula yile nto iqhubekayo kubomi bomnye umntu.
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I-crux yalo mbandela yile: ilizwe aliphumelanga ukukufumana… nokuba ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala kunjalo.
12. Abantu Bacinga Ngawe Kaninzi
Ngaba ukhe uvakalelwe kukuba abantu bakujongile, bathetha ngawe, kwaye bagweba kuwe?
Ukuba kunjalo, usiba lixhoba lenye yeengcinga eziphosakeleyo zobomi. Abantu bahlala becinga ngeziqu zabo, ubomi babo, kunye nezenzo zabo mhlawumbi udlala indima encinci kwiingcinga zabo ixesha elininzi.
Njengoko uShirley MacLaine ebeka:
Kwiminyaka engama-20, ubomi bakho bujikeleze ukutyekela koko abanye bakucingayo ngawe.
Kwiminyaka engama-40, uqala ungakhathali nokuba abanye bacinga ntoni ngawe.
Kwaye kwiminyaka engama-60, uyaqonda ukuba xa wawuneminyaka engama-20, wawungagwetywa nangubani na ngaphandle kwakho.
13. Ubomi Bebungcono Izolo
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantu balangazelele iintsuku esele zigqithile ngokungathi lelona xesha lihle kakhulu. Ingxaki kukuba sihlala sijonga elidlulileyo ngeglasi enombala ophakamileyo, sibona kuphela into esifuna ukuyibona.
I-Nostalgia inamandla amakhulu, kodwa ayikhathaleli ukuhoya nantoni na engalunganga okanye enzima. Sicinga ukuba ubomi bebungcono izolo kuba sikhetha ukukhumbula nje iqhezu lamava apheleleyo yiparody efanelekileyo yexesha elidlulileyo.
Ukuba besinokuphanda ngokwenyani ngamava kunye neemvakalelo ezivela kwixesha lethu elidlulileyo, ngekhe siqonde ukuba ubomi abukhange bunqabile ngesiquphe nakweyiphi na imilo okanye uhlobo. Kungenxa yokuba sazi ngokupheleleyo ubungakanani bokulungileyo nokungalunganga okwangoku, ngelixa singaboniyo kwisiqingatha se-equation ngaphambili.
14. Intlungu Ayilunganga
Akukho kuphuncuka kuhlobo oluthile lomzimba, lwengqondo, kunye intlungu engokweemvakalelo ebomini bakho, kodwa umbono wokuba indalo imbi ulahlekile. Iintlungu yimvakalelo ebalulekileyo enemisebenzi emininzi ebalulekileyo.
Intlungu ngumthunywa, esixelela ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Isinceda ukuba sifunde, silungelelanise, sitshintshe ikhondo lethu ebomini apho kukho imfuneko. Ngaphandle kwentlungu, siya kuhlala sikwiimeko eziyingozi kwimpilo-ntle yethu.
Sikwadinga iintlungu ukuze sonwabe kwaye sonwabe kuba ngamacala amabini engqekembe enye. Ukuba ubomi bebungenazintlungu, ngekhe kubekho ndawo ekubhekiswa kuyo ukuze uqonde uvuyo. Amahla ndenyuka obomi aya kwenza indawo yenyani engapheliyo, engenakuguquka, yenyani.
15. Sifumana iNyaniso
Ukuthetha ngento eyiyo ye-monotone ngokwenyani kukukhohlisa ngokwako kuba amava ethu ngamanye awakwazi ukubekwa njengokwenyani konke konke.
Eyona nyani iphelele, ingumda engenasiphelo kunye nengapheliyo yayo yonke into ilapha ngalo mzuzu kanye. Kwelinye icala, sifumana kuphela iqhezu le-miniscule yayo.
Ihlabathi lethu lenziwe yinto esiyiqondayo, esiyenzayo, kwaye sicinga ngeyokugqibela eyona ibalaseleyo. Iingcinga ezisentlokweni yethu kunye nebhabhalaza abayenzileyo ngakuye zithintelwe ekufikeleleni kwayo kangangokuba 'inyani' yethu ayiyonto nje yothuli oluhamba emoyeni.
Kwaye ngamnye wethu unento eyahluke mpela kubo bonke abanye abantu abaphilayo, kwezethu, ezizodwa, ngokwembono. Inyani yile, yengqondo ubuncinci, efihliweyo ngonaphakade.
Sebenza Kanzima Ngoku, Zonwabele Kamva
Abanye abantu batyiwa yingcinga yokuba ukuba ubeka umsebenzi onzima namhlanje, uya kuba nakho ukuvuna umvuzo kamva. Ngokwemali nobutyebi, oku kunokuba nenyani kuyo, kodwa xa ujonga zonke izinto ezibaluleke kuthi-ulonwabo, uthando, uxolo, intsingiselo, kunye nokuziphakamisa kwethu-le ngxabano iyawa.
Ngokungafaniyo nemali kunye nobutyebi obunokuqokelelwa ngokuhamba kwexesha, amava anokwenzeka kuphela kumzuzu wangoku. Awungekhe wonwabe ebhankini kwaye uthande nangaphezulu kokuba unokuqokelela ukukhanya kwelanga kwaye ukugcinele umhla olandelayo. Imvakalelo, iimvakalelo, kunye namava elanga ekubetha ubuso bakho kunokwenzeka kuphela ngoku.
Ngamanye amagama, akukho sizathu sokuba ungazonwabisi ngoku ngoku nakwixa elizayo, nokuba awunayo imali okanye izixhobo eziphathekayo onazo. Ukusebenza ukuya kwinqanaba lokudinwa ukwenza ikamva eliqaqambileyo kukungahoyi ukuba nesipho esingcono.
17. Ubomi Lukhuphiswano
Ininzi kuphela into yokuhamba kwaye kufuneka silwele into esinokuyifumana-sisimo sengqondo esithathwa ngabantu abaninzi kwezi ntsuku. Nangona kunjalo, ayisiyiyo imbonakalo echanekileyo yombuso esikuso.
Isidingo sokukhuphisana nabanye kwaye ufumane 'phambili' ebomini ngamampunge nje kuba, njengoko inqaku lokugqibela lenziwe lacaca, akukho nto ikamva elinokukunika yona yangoku ayinako ukubonelela.
Ukuba uvela indawo yokunqaba , ke awusoze uphuncuke ngokupheleleyo kuyo kokukhona unokufumana, kokukhona uya kucinga ukuba uyafuna. Lo ngumjikelo ongapheliyo owenziwe xa sikholelwa ukuba ubomi lukhuphiswano.
Ukuba, endaweni yoko, sibubonile ubomi njengethuba lokusebenzisana, singafumanisa ukuba ngequbuliso siqala ukuchuma kwaye zikhule zibe ngabantu abangcono . Oku kuyinyani kwinqanaba lomntu ngamnye njengoko kunjalo kwinqanaba loluntu.
18. Ubomi bude
Uluvo lokuba unexesha elininzi lokufezekisa amabhongo akho kwaye wonwabele ubomi lububuxoki. Ungahlala umzuzwana, kodwa uphinde ufe rhoqo okwesibini elidlulayo lixesha ongasokuze uphinde ubuye ngalo.
Ukuba uchitha ubomi bakho bonke ujonge ingomso, uya kuvuka ngenye imini kwaye uqaphele ukuba uphelelwe lixesha lokwenza zonke izinto ekudala uzifuna.
Akukho ndlela yokuqikelela ukuba mingaphi imizuzwana oshiye ngayo, kodwa iwotshi iyabalwa ngonaphakade. Unokuba usemncinci ngoku, kodwa ubudala buza kunyuka kuwe kwaye kungekudala uza kube uzibuza ukuba buhambe phi ubomi bakho.
Sukwenza impazamo yokucinga ukuba unayo lonke ixesha emhlabeni, kuba ngenye imini iwotshi iyakuyeka.
Ngaba uyavumelana noko bekutshiwo apha okanye ngaba uxoxa ngomnye okanye nangaphezulu kwamanqaku? Shiya iikhomenti ezingezantsi kwaye usazise iingcinga zakho.
