Owu, iintloni!
Owu, ukuthotywa!
Ezo ziingcinga ezibaleka zijikeleze intloko yakho emva kwangoko kwelo xesha lonyawo-emlonyeni.
… Emva kokuba kwenzeke into ekushiya uziva ubhencekile kwaye usengozini yokuba la magama angadlula kwimilebe yakho:
“Kwakungase ndife ziintloni.”
Kuyinto engaqhelekanga- kunye no-tad ogqithileyo- ukucinga ngokufa njengokhetho olunqwenelekayo lokuba kwimeko enjalo.
Kodwa izidlele ezivuthayo kunye nethemba elingathandekiyo lokuba umsantsa ofanelekileyo uvule kwaye ukuginye uphelele yinto eqhelekileyo kubantu abaninzi xa benze okanye bathetha into engafanelekanga.
Kwaye ngoku, uvuyo lokonwaba, ndisebenzisa igama endilithandayo: idityanisiwe .
wazi njani ukuba kuphelile
Eli ligama elivakala kakhulu kwaye, kum, lifakela ngokugqibeleleyo impendulo yokuzibona elandela kwangoko xa uphilile kwaye ubeke unyawo lwakho kuyo.
Isandla sakho sibalekela ebusweni bakho kwaye ebomvu (ewe, kum inombala) inkungu yokudideka iyehla….
… Kanye njengokuba ihlazo elingenakunqandwa liqala ukunyuka ukusuka entanyeni ukuya ebusweni kwaye intliziyo yakho iqala ukubaleka njengo-Usain Bolt weli hlabathi: ngesatya esikhulu .
Ewe, idityanisiwe Ngaba iyandenzela njengesiphawuli esifanelekileyo sokuchaza ihlazo ekuvukeni komzuzu ongaqhelekanga.
Udlula njani kumzuzu onje?
Yintoni onokuyenza ukuyibeka kakuhle nangokunyanisekileyo emva kwakho?
Siza kuyiphendula le mibuzo kungekudala, kodwa, okokuqala, kufanelekile ukuba sikhumbule ukuba…
Akukho Mntu Ugulayo
Abanye bethu banezikhumba ezijiyileyo kwaye banamava oku kungazinzi kunabanye, kodwa, ukuba sinyanisekile, uninzi lwethu lunodwelisa imizekelo embalwa efanelekileyo…
… Ukungasebenzi kakuhle kweewodropu ngengxolo yomzimba engalindelekanga (nokuba yeyiphi na isiphelo evela kuyo!) Ngesiphatho malunga namagama ngamaxesha abalulekileyo eethekhnoloji yeteknoloji ngexesha lokwenziwa…
Uluhlu lweefeksi ezinokwenzeka alunasiphelo.
La ngamaxesha ebomini bakho onokukhetha ukungawaphindi kwaye mhlawumbi ungazama nokukuphepha ukuphinda ubuyele engqondweni.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngubani ofuna ukuphinda akhumbule ukungcungcutheka nokungonwabi xa ucinga ngomfanekiso wehlazo lakho?
Khumbula nje ukuba awuwedwa xa uziva ngale ndlela. Ngamava endalo iphela.
Ngaba izidlele zakho ziba bomvu xa zisenzeka? Ufuna ukwazi ukuba kutheni?
Inzululwazi ibangela iBlushing
Ngaphambi kokucinga ngamacebo onokuwasebenzisa ukuze ugqithe kula maxesha anzima, makhe sijonge impendulo yomzimba.
Rhoqo oko akunjalo, oku kubomvu kubomvu kubomvu.
Kuba yindlela yokusabela yendalo, kutheni le ndlela yokuziphatha izivelele kwaye yeyiphi injongo eyenzayo ngokubhekisele ekusindeni komntu?
Nangona ayinguye wonke umntu onwabayo xa eneentloni, xa kusenzeka, kubangelwa kukukhawuleza kwe-adrenaline ikhutshelwe kwinkqubo yakho yeemvakalelo.
Oko ke kubangela ukwandiswa kwee-capillaries ezithwala igazi kulusu lwakho, kwaye ke, ingozi ebomvu kuwe.
Kuxoxwa ukuba Impendulo enjalo ebonakalayo ekuhlazekeni mhlawumbi yavela ukunceda ukugcina ulungelelwaniso lwentlalo olubalulekileyo kwiintlobo zethu.
kathathu h kunye shawn michals
Ithiyori ithi ukungaboni kakuhle kubonisa ukwamkelwa kokuziphatha gwenxa kwaye ke uzimisele ukuzama ukwenza ngcono kwikamva kunye nokuhambelana nemigaqo yentlalo.
Into ebangela umdla kukuba, abo babonisa iimpawu ezicacileyo zokuba baneentloni kunokwenzeka ukuba axolelwe kwaye athembeke kunabo bangenayo.
Ke ayisiyonto imbi kwaphela kwaye iyasebenza kwintlalo ebalulekileyo kuluntu.
Kubuhlungu nangona kunjalo, ke, kukho intuthuzelo ekwazini ukuba izidlele ezivuthayo kunye nokuthotywa okothusayo kwala maxesha oyikekayo eqanda-ngobuso kunokuba yinto elungileyo-kwiindawo zokuthandwa ngabantu, ubuncinci.
Ngokuqinisekileyo eso sisibonelelo esihle sokulwa ukungonwabi komzuzwana?
Akukho ogqibelele
Inqaku elifanele ukuqwalaselwa malunga neentloni kukuba linxibelelene ngokusondeleyo ukugqibelela .
Xa ucinga ngako, eneneni kukusilela kwakho ukufikelela kwimigangatho yakho ebangela ubunzulu beemvakalelo.
Ukusebenza kwakho akuhambelani nolindelo lwakho- ngokunokwenzeka olungeyonyani.
Kuba sonke siyazi ukuba akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo, mhlawumbi kufuneka siyeke ukuzibetha ngenxa yokusilela ukufikelela kuloo migangatho sinokuzibekela yona.
Mdala kwaye (encinci) Ubulumko
Ndifumanise ukuba enye yeenzuzo zokukhula kukukwazi ukubuyela umva kancinci kubushushu (boqobo) bomzuzu.
Njengoko ukhula, mhlawumbi uyaqala Ungakhathali kancinci malunga nokuba ubonwa njani ngabanye .
Kule mihla, ndiye ndifumanise ukuba ndihlala ndikwazi ukubona uburharha endaweni yokoyikeka xa ndenzile okanye ndithethile into, ngaphambili, endiyifumene ibanga ukufa.
Xa ndikwiimeko ezinjalo, ndihlala ndisiva ilizwi lomhlobo wam waseJamani osenyongweni (owenzayo, ndiya kuvuma, ndinolusu lomkhombe).
Impendulo yakhe kwistokhwe kuyo nayiphi na imeko apho abanye abantu banokuba nengxaki ngento ayenzileyo okanye ayithethileyo kukuba athi: 'Bu ** er zem!'
Wayiguqula ngempumelelo le meko, ukuze ibe ngabantu ababenengxaki, hayi yena.
Ndicinga ukuba sonke singafunda lukhulu ku-Ursula wakudala kwaye, nokuba unethamsanqa elaneleyo lokuba ungabi lide izinyo njengoko ndinjalo, isimo sakhe sengqondo esomeleleyo sinokukunceda ukuba uphendule kakuhle kumzuzu ongaqhelekanga.
Ngqina? Liliphi Ingqina?
Sonke sinotyekelo lokuzibeka embindini wendalo iphela, kwaye ke masizicingele ukuba siphantsi koqwalaselo oluqatha kunye nokujongwa ngabanye.
Iingcali zengqondo kwezentlalo ziyayibhala le nto njenge isiphumo sokubonakala , sishwankathela ngokufanelekileyo utyekelo lwethu lokuzikhathaza kakhulu ngenkangeleko nezenzo zethu ezibonwa ngabanye.
Inyani yile yokuba abantu banomdla ngendlela encinci kuthi kunokuba sibanika ityala…
… Kungengenxa yokuba zisongelwe kakhulu kukuzibona bekwisazulu sendalo ethile.
‘Amangqina’ njengoko uwabona kusenokwenzeka ukuba akubhalisile okwenzekileyo.
Uyangxama ngehlazo elibukhali kwinto abangayiqapheliyo.
Yeyiphi inkunkuma yeemvakalelo kwaye uninzi loxinzelelo olungafunekiyo ozibeke kulo.
Andinguye lo ndicinga ukuba ndinguye…
Kwi Oku kubhaliwe , U-Therese J. Borchard uphakamisa le ntetho inengqiqo:
Andinguye lo ndicinga ukuba ndinguye. Kananjalo andinguye lo ucinga ukuba ndinguye. Kodwa ndinguye ndicinga ukuba ucinga ukuba ndingubani.
Kuya kufuneka uyiphinde amatyeli ambalwa (ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba ukuyithetha ngokuvakalayo kuyincedile ukuba ibe nengqondo) ngaphambi kokuba uyifumane.
Isitshixo kukuba siqhele ukwenza njalo isiseko sethu ivuliwe oko sikucingayo abanye abantu cinga ngathi.
Senza uqikelelo olukhulu lokuba basabela kuyo nantoni na esiyenzileyo ngendlela ethile.
Kodwa ukucinga kwethu kusenokwenzeka ukuba ziimayile ububanzi kumanqaku.
Ke, sisekela impendulo yethu kwimeko yethu yokuba sicinge ukuba impendulo yabo…
… Kodwa konke kukuqikelela.
Ngapha koko amandla amninzi!
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ukuba ukhe uzive usisidenge, oku kuyakuqinisekisa ukuba awunguye
- Ungayeka Njani Ukwenza Iimpazamo ezifanayo kwakhona
- Ukonwaba njani kulusu lwakho
- Iindlela ezi-8 ezilula zokuyekisa iingcinga ezingalunganga zokungena kwingqondo yakho
- Ungayeka njani ukuziva usilele okanye usilele
Amanyathelo okuba Ugqithe kwiXesha eliHlazisayo
Ke, ukuba impendulo yendalo, ngaba akhona amanyathelo onokuwathatha ukunciphisa iintlungu zala maxesha anzima?
Ngaba unokufunda ukubaphatha ngobabalo oluncinci kunye neentloni ezincinci?
Nazi iimbono ezimbalwa zokukunika ukutya kokucinga…
Ukuhleka lelona Gqirha liBalaseleyo
Akusoloko kulula (okanye kufanelekile) sebenzisa uburharha Ukulahla ihlazo kude nawe, kodwa yindlela elungileyo yokubuyela kwimeko ehlazisayo ukuba unokuyikhupha.
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngasentla, ukubonisa nje ukuba uneentloni yindlela yokwenza unxibelelwano nabanye…
… Kwaye uhleka kunye.
Ke, ukuba ungafumana indlela yokubona icala elihlekisayo, unokubangela incoko ongayilindelanga okanye wenze abahlobo abatsha.
Ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuba yindlela yokuguqula i-negative enkulu ibe yinto efanelekileyo.
ungaxela njani ukuba indoda endisebenza nayo inomdla kuwe
I-MEA culpa
Kwezi meko zibulalayo, kulinga kakhulu ukuya kwimowudi yokwala, kodwa ukuba abanye uyenzile amangqina esi siganeko, uyakujongeka ububudenge ngakumbi xa uzama ukwenza ngathi khange yenzeke.
Awunakulibuyisa ixesha.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo kukuba fess up kwaye uvume ukuba uneentloni.
Ukulahleka ngumntu, njengoko isitsho into yakudala, kwaye amathuba okuba isitokhwe sakho sinyuke ukuba uvulekile kwaye unyanisekile malunga ne-faux pas yakho.
Ngubani owaziyo, ukunyaniseka kwakho kunokukhuthaza abanye ukuba bavule kwaye babelane ngamava abo aneentloni.
Akukho ndlela ibhetele yokufunda ukuba awuwedwa ekujonganeni nengxaki yakho.
Sukwenza Umboniso
Ukuguqula umdlalo ube yingxaki ngokuphosa ulwaneliseko olupheleleyo lokukhala okanye ukulila emva kwesigameko esineentloni ayisiso impendulo efanelekileyo.
Nokuba ungaziva unomdla wokwenza njalo, yichase.
Okukhona usenza impikiswano, lo mzuzu uya kuba ulibaleka ngakumbi kwabanye, kwaye imeko iya isiba mbi ngakumbi.
Bambelela kulwazi lokuba ngumzuzwana nje kwaye, nokuba buhlungu kangakanani, iya kudlula kwaye ubomi buya kuqhubeka (ewe, buza kuqhubeka, nokuba ubukhe wanayo 'kungcono ndife kunokuba ndijongane nale').
Okukhona unokukuthomalalisa okwenzekileyo, kokukhona beya kuncipha abantu ukwenza into enkulu. Kwaye kunqabile ukuba baya kuyikhumbula.
Phefumla nzulu
Ukunyuka kwentliziyo kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi, ukuphefumla kancinci, ukukhawuleza kwegazi ebusweni, ukubila okukhulayo…
..ezi zonke iimpendulo zemvelo kwimeko eneentloni.
Banako, ngokucinga ngokuzimisela kunye nokuzama, ukunciphisa.
Thatha umoya ophefumlayo kwaye uzinike ixesha lokuphinda uyiqwalasele le meko. Oku kuyakwenza ngokwenene ncedisa ukukuzolisa kwaye unciphise ezo mpendulo zibuhlungu.
Kuya kunciphisa namathuba okuba wenze okanye uthethe nantoni na enokongeza kwihlazo kunye nomngcipheko wokwenza imeko ibe mandundu ngakumbi.
Funda Kwiimpazamo Zakho
Le ayisiyonyani yesayensi.
Ukubeka nje, awuzizo iimpazamo zakho.
Ezo mpazamo zibalulekile ekufundeni nasekukhuleni njengomntu. Ziyinxalenye ye-pantheon yamava obomi bakho.
Kodwa kuya kufuneka wenze umgudu wokufunda kubo.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uthathe ixesha elincinci lokucinga malunga nokuba kutheni kwaye kwenzeka phi.
Ukuba uzihlazile ngokucoca ngokupheleleyo umboniso ngenxa yokuba ungakhange ujonge izinto zeteknoloji kwangaphambili, qiniseka ukuba ujonga kwakhona kwixesha elizayo.
Ukuba ukhubekile ezinyukweni kwaye wehla kwimfumba phambi kwe-VP uzama ukubalasela, qiniseka ukuthatha unonophelo olongezelelekileyo kwixa elizayo (kwaye mhlawumbi umsele izithende zokubulala?).
Ukuzimisela ukufunda kumava anje sesinye isicwangciso esiguqula into embi ibe yinto elungileyo.
Sukucingela ukuJongwa kuwe
Ukujonga kwakhona kwisiphumo esibonakalayo esichaziweyo ngasentla, zama ukufumana umbono malunga nemeko.
Qaphela ukuba akunakulindeleka ukuba ube yeyona nto kugxilwe kuyo nabani na kwaye, ukuba ubukho, ibiyinanosecond kuphela.
Ukuba uyakwazi ukugquma umzuzu ongaxakekiyo ngoburharha obuncinci kunye nengxabano encinci, wonke umntu uya kubuyela ekucingeni ngaye kungekudala kwaye umzuzu wakho oneentloni uya kuphela.
kwenzeke ntoni ku jeff ubuso obukrelekrele
Kwaye bendicinga ukuba ungumhlobo wam…
Rhoqo, ngabahlobo kunye nezihlobo zethu ezenza eyona mali inkulu ngeziganeko ezihlazo esingathanda ukuzilibala.
Uburharha obukhulu bunokukhutshwa kula maxesha ngeendleko zakho: ngelo xesha xa uzenzele ibhaso.
I-hilarious ngelo xesha kunye ne-funnier ngokuxela nganye-okanye bacinga-kwaye, mfana, indlela abathanda ngayo ukubona ukungonwabi kwakho.
Wonke umntu uyoyika ukubanjwa ngomzuzu ongaqhelekanga kwaye ujongeke ububudenge, ke kuyindalo ukuba osondeleyo kuye nosenyongweni bakhethe ukugxila kwi-faux pas yakho hayi eyabo.
Iyacaphukisa into yokutsalwa ziziganeko ezinjalo, yinto yokwemvelo leyo. Kwaye okukhona uswita, kokukhona amabali amade aya kuba.
Sebenzisa uburharha ukubonisa ukuba uqhubekile kwaye awusenantloni ngeziganeko zangaphambili yeyona ndlela yokusasaza imeko.
Ukuba uyazikhusela, iimpendulo zabo ezicacileyo ziya kuba kukuqhubeka nohlaselo lwabo kunye nokuzonwabisa kukungahambi kakuhle kwakho.
I-Crux Yomcimbi…
Into esiyifundileyo kule ingentla kukuba unokukhetha ezimbini:
- vumela imvakalelo yokuthotywa kukuchaphazela.
- yenza inqanaba lakho ngokusemandleni ukuyiyeka, usebenzisa ezinye zeendlela ezingasentla.
Ukhetho luhlala lungolwakho, kodwa ingcebiso yam kukujonga ukuba ngaba isehlo kufanelekile na ukuba siphose isithunzi sokungakhathali ebomini bakho.
Ngaba uza kuyivumela ichaphazele ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nomoya oqhelekileyo?
Unokuziva ukuba uliqondo eliphambili xa kusenzeka la maxesha anzima, uthambekele kwisiqithi sakho sangasese sokuthotywa.
Njengoko sifundile, nangona kunjalo, amandla akho okuba neentloni okunene ayakudibanisa ngokusondeleyo kulo lonke uluntu.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, emva koko, izehlo ezinje kufuneka zibonwe njengezintle kunezimbi kwaye zamkelwe ngokufanelekileyo.
