Zama ukukhumbula ukuba wawumdala kangakanani xa kwaqala ukoyika ukwaliwa.
Uninzi lwethu, yenzekile isencinci: kukhethwe okokugqibela kwiqela lezemidlalo, kwahlekwa ngokuba ne-Show & Tell engathandekiyo, sixelelwe ukuba asinakuhlala nomntu kuba sinuka into ehlekisayo. Ixesha lokufikisa laligcwele ziziganeko ezikulungele ngokupheleleyo ukususa nayiphi na imeko yokuzithemba esasinayo kwaye siyitshintshe ngamathandabuzo angenzi nto ngaphandle kokukhulisa ubomi bomsebenzisi.
Njengabantu abadala, la mathandabuzo aba luloyiko lwethu lokulahlwa kukoyikwa okusoloko kusithintela ekuthatheni iindlela ezingahambanga kangako, njengoko umbongo odumileyo kaRobert Frost ungafezekanga, endaweni yoko uhlale ungoyena uphantsi kangangoko kunokwenzeka, okuhlala kukhokelela andonwabanga , ubomi obungazalisekanga.
umboniso omkhulu kunye nesigebenga
Kungcono udibane noloyiko ngqo kwaye ubabonise izinto ezingekhoyo. Nazi iindlela ezi-8 zokuphumelela ezinye zeentlobo eziqhelekileyo.
Kwezothando
Umakhulu. Ishushu yeetapile ezishushu. Uloyiko lokugatywa luthando lwenza isiseko sobomi bethu, nditsho nendlela yokupapashwa kwamazinyo (kuphela abamhlophe abamhlophe abaya kutsala iqabane! isekelwe kwinto ekude kakhulu kunothando: ubunini. Ukuziva ukuba umntu kufuneka abe 'ngowakho.'
Asisoze saphulukana naloo mntwana ngaphakathi onyathela iinyawo xa engayifumani into ayifunayo. Abanye bethu, nangona kunjalo, bayaluthatha olo phoxiso balubhekise ngaphakathi, phantse njengesohlwayo. (Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ayisohlwayo na esiqeqeshwe ukuba sicinge ukuba yimpendulo efanelekileyo kwezi zinto zinomsindo?)
Qaphela
Eyona ndlela yokulwa uloyiko lokwala ukuthandana kukwenza kuqala uqaphele ukuba awulandeli mbasa kodwa ke unethemba lokuzibandakanya nomntu wokwenyani, kwaye akukho mntu unetyala lomnye ixesha labo, inzala, ukuthanda, okanye uxanduva ngenxa yokuba sifuna .
Ukuphucula
Okwesibini, zama ukuzibona njengomntu opheleleyo, hayi umntu ofuna ubunzima bomzimba owongezelelweyo ukuze azalise umngxunya wakhe. Ukuba uqala ngokucinezela ngokwakho, wongeza ubunzima obuninzi kwinto enokwenzeka yokwaliwa kangangokuba idale ukuzalisekisa isiprofeto : ucinga ukuba bazokulahla, uzibonakalisa kakubi, uthando aluzuzeki, uzibiza ngokuba ngu-UnChosen One kwaye ngokukrakra unike ukwesaba kwakho ukuqinisekiswa okufunekayo ukuze uphile.
Umxholo
Okwesithathu, cima igama 'ukwala' kwisichazi-magama sakho esithandanayo. Kukho izizathu ezigabadeleyo zokuba umntu angangabonakalisi mdla kuwe ongenanto yakwenza nawe, kodwa iindawo zethu zanyanzelisa ukuba 'nguwe' owaliwa. Ngaphandle kokuba uyijerkha, oku akunjalo. Ukuba u are a jerk, ukwaliwa kusebenza ngokupheleleyo kuba ngubani ofuna loo nto ebomini babo?
Yamkela
Okwesine, yamkela i-ethos yakudala 'Yeyiphi eyona nto inokwenzeka.' Kwakhona, ngaphandle kokuba uyintsimbi ekufaneleyo ukuguqa ngamadolo, eyona nto imbi umntu anokukubeka kuyo ligama elithi 'hayi.' Into encinci eneleta ezi-2! Ngokuqinisekileyo ayiluloyiko esicinga ukuba lulo. Ukuba kukho nantoni na, yindawo yokubophelela kwiindawo ezintsha!
Vavanya kwakhona
Okwesihlanu, yeka ukucinga ngokuthandana njengemfazwe. 'Udutyulwe wawa.' 'Ungaluvumeli uthando ukuba lukubethe.' Isidingo 'sephiko lendoda' kwiindibano zoluntu. Konke kufanelekile kuthando kunye nemfazwe. Ukuba ingqondo yakho sele ingoyena mntu ungquzulwano, iintlungu, kunye nokubulawa kwabantu, nkqu nokufanisa, sele uzisusile kuwo wonke ummandla wothando kwaye uthathe indawo yokuhlangana kwakho nomdlalo omangalisayo, opopayi.
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Kwindawo Yokusebenzela
Kufika inqaku kuyo yonke imisebenzi yethu apho siqonda ukuba sifuna ngaphezulu. Ukunyuselwa. Ukuphakamisa. Mhlawumbi kukuphinda kuvavanywe imisebenzi. Kodwa asibuzi. Ukoyika ukwaliwa kuyabuya, kwaye siza neendlela ezahlukeneyo zesifuba zokuba kutheni kungafanelekanga ukuba sikhathazeke, ukusuka ' asilunganga ngokwaneleyo 'Ukuya' baya kuthi hayi tu 'ukuya' kutheni uzikhathaza? '
Kubuhlungu ukucinga ukuba mangaphi amaphupha abunileyo kwaye asweleke ngenxa yokungabikho kokunkcenkceshela okufanelekileyo. Masidlule kwezi zivali zendlela zangaphakathi kwaye sibone ukuba kutheni ukubangxola phantsi kulula kunokuba besicinga.
Zixabise
'Akukho ndlela ndiza kusifumana eso sikhundla, andonelanga ngokwaneleyo'… nangona ubusenza le misebenzi iminyaka ngaphandle kwesihloko (okanye ukuhlawula). 'Andilunganga ngokwaneleyo' luloyiko lokulahlwa kwengubo yokhuseleko. Luyekise olu loyiko ngokulilinganisela kumagama amathathu anamandla alinganayo: “Ewe ndinguye.” Incoko ezingalunganga esinazo nathi zihlala zihamba ngendlela enye de kube ngumceli mngeni.
Kuphephe Ukuzigweba
Ukucinga ukuba umntu uza kuthi hayi kunjalo wena ukuthi hayi nakanjani, hayi omnye umntu. Nguwe owondla ngengubo yakho, ukoyikeka xa sele kugcwele. Thintela oku ngokuqonda ukuba yi ukucinga ngokuzenzekelayo pops entlokweni yakho ukuba ikukhuphele ngaphandle xa usondela kufutshane nenjongo.
Yithi Ewe
Le ilula kakhulu ukuyiphelisa. Kutheni uzikhathaza? Ngenxa yokuba ufanelekile. Kwenziwe kwaye kwenziwe. Abantu baya kuhlala bethatha inxunguphalo njengongenanjongo, xa aba babini behlukene kakhulu omnye nomnye njengakumaxesha ahlukeneyo.
Yala eli nqaku
'Ukwala' yinxalenye engenakuphepheka yabo bonke ubukho bomntu kwesi sijikelezi-langa, nkqu nabo babizwa ngokuba banethamsanqa: abantu abahle, ithamsanqa, bonke abo sibabalisa ngentsomi njengoko ngandlel 'ithile bengazange bajongane nothotho lweeNO zobuntwana. Ungafumana into eluncedo apha okanye ungayala ngqo engatshintshi inyani yokuba sidibene kwaye ubomi buqhubeka.
Uloyiko lokungathandwa kwisikolo esitsha uloyiko lokungabikho emgidini woloyiko lokuba umntu akubone ungaphantsi kwento ocinga ukuba uyiyo. Uloyiko ngaphezulu koloyiko. Olo luxinzelelo olukhulu kwihlabathi elifuna ukusebenzisana nathi kwaye liqhubeke. Singabantu abanamava, sidinga unxibelelwano kunye nemvakalelo evela kwimithombo emininzi ebomini bethu, kwaye kunqabile ngendlela efanayo kabini. Into yokuba umntu athi hayi kuwe ithetha nje ukuba, ngelo xesha, ubudlelwane bonxibelelwano phakathi kwakho nabo babungekabikho-kwaye ngekhe buqine. Kodwa kukho iibhiliyoni zonxibelelwano ezingaphezulu ekufuneka zenziwe.
Uloyiko lokwaliwa kukoyika ukungagungqi, uloyiko lokuba uyakulibala, uloyiko lokuba akukho nto yeyakho. Ngokwenyani, sele uyinxalenye yayo yonke into, kwaye akukho sidingo sokubambelela kulo lonke unxibelelwano ngokungathi lunyango lomlingo.
Qaphela. Qinisekisa. Umxholo. Yamkela. Phinda uvavanye okulindelweyo kunye nokucingela. Zixabise. Kuphephe ukuzigxeka. Yithi ewe ithuba.
Zimbalwa izinto ebomini eziye zahamba njengoko sinqwenela, ke ngoko ukoyikwa kwezinto yinto ebubudenge. Ukuba sima kwaye sicinge malunga nokuba olu loyiko luvela phi kwaye kutheni sibambelele kuzo, sinokuqala ukudiliza. Siqala ukuqonda ukuba siyile nto ibabambe ngokudibeneyo njengeebhlokhi ngelixa ubomi buhamba bujikeleze kwaye bujikeleze oko kunokwenzeka.
Siyabona ukuba izazisi zethu azikhatywa, ukuba uyilo, umbono, uthando kunye namandla asoyikiswanga, kwaye nokuzixabisa kwethu kuyinxalenye yokulingana.
yimalini imali ibhegi yo
Kodwa ukuba sonke singamanzi nje kumjelo, ayisiyiyo into elungileyo ukukhupha uloyiko kwaye uhambe nokuhamba? Kuninzi okunokufezekiswa ebomini ngokuzixelela igama elithi ewe kunokuba hayi.
