Ngelixa ulonwabo lunokuza ngokwendalo kwabanye abantu kunokuba lusiza kwabanye, kukho izinto ezithile sonke esizenzayo ezinegalelo kwintlalo yethu yeemvakalelo.
Eli nqaku alenzelwanga ukugxeka okanye ukugweba abantu abangonwabanga, kodwa kukuqaqambisa eminye yemikhwa enokubangela ukuba bangonwabi. Injongo yeli nqaku kukukufundisa ngezi ndlela zokuziphatha ziqhelekileyo ukuze ukwazi ukubaphepha xa kunokwenzeka.
Ngokwenza njalo, uya kulahla ukungakhathali okunxulunyaniswa nemeko yokungonwabi kwaye ushiye indawo eninzi apho unokutsala amandla aqinisekileyo, okonyusa amandla endaweni yoko.
Ngale nto engqondweni, masiqale uhambo lwethu ngezona zinto zixhaphakileyo zabantu abahluphekayo.
1. Ukugxila kwabo kuhlala kuhleli kokubi
Wonke umntu ufumana umxube wezinto ezilungileyo nezimbi ebomini babo, kodwa iimpendulo zethu zinokwahluka kakhulu kuxhomekeke kutyekelo lwethu lwangoku lokulunga okanye olubi.
Kubantu abangonwabanga, kugxilwe kakhulu kwiimeko ezimbi kwaye banokuhlala kwezi zinto emva kwexesha elide befika behambile. Ngokwahlukileyo, xa izinto ezintle zisenzeka kubo, ezi zikhawuleza zilibaleke malunga nje nokuba zigqityiwe.
2. Banqwenela Ukulawula Ubomi
Abantu abangonwabanga babaleka ukungaqiniseki kwaye, endaweni yoko, banqwenela ukulawula zonke iinkcukacha ezincinci. Banexhala lokuba ilizwe labo liza kuwa phakathi xa bephulukene nolawulo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, bayatyeshela ukwamkela imeko engalindelekanga yobomi.
Le yinto abantu abaninzi abaya kuthi ekugqibeleni bayenze ndizisole njengoko ekugqibeleni bayamkela ukuba ulawulo lwabo ubukhulu becala yayiyinto engekhoyo ngalo lonke ixesha. Kude kube bafikelele kweli nqanaba, baya kuzabalazela ukuthatha uxanduva lwayo yonke into ebomini babo.
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3. Bakholelwa ukuba uBomi bunzima ngokwesiseko
Kumntu ongonwabanga ngokungapheliyo, ubomi bubonakala ngathi yinto eqhubekayo ekufuneka ilwelwe yonke imihla minyaka le. Bayayibona inyani erhabaxa neyingozi ehleli ikwenzakalisa kwaye bakholelwa ukuba ubomi ekugqibeleni ngumzabalazo omde de ubhubhe.
Umntu ongonwabanga akaboni i-rollercoaster entle yamahla ndinyuka, ephezulu kunye nephantsi. Babona ithambeka elinye elide, loyikekayo, nelisezantsi elenzelwe ukoyikisa iziqwenga.
4. Intetho yabo Yonke kukuhleba nokuLila
Inxalenye yokuba ungubani yile nto uyithethayo nangabanye abantu. Incoko yomntu odandathekileyo ihlala isekwe kukuhleba okugculelayo okanye ukugcuma ngokubhekisele kububi bobomi babo. Njengasentla, kugxilwe ikakhulu kokungahambi kakuhle kunokuba kuhambe ngokuchanekileyo.
Baye bathambekele ekubeni babe neentloni kwiingxoxo zohlobo olwahlukileyo, bakhetha ukunamathela kwinqanaba eliphezulu apho bekhona bonwabile.
5. Basoloko bezithelekisa nabanye
Sonke sahlukile ekufuneka sihambe kwiindlela zethu zobomi. Oku kuthetha ukuba umbono wethu wempumelelo kufuneka wahluke omnye komnye.
Ngaphandle koku, kukho utyekelo kubantu abaninzi- amaxesha amaninzi abo banamazinga athile okungonwabi- ukuya thelekisa ubomi babo nobabanye . Nokuba kungakanani na ekufuneka bekwenzile yibulela , aba bantu baya kuhlala bejonga abanye njengabangcono kwaye oku kunceda kuphela ukomeleza ukungoneliseki kwabo.
6. Bazalisa Ukushiywa 'Ngezinto'
Beboshwe kakuhle kwinqanaba langaphambili malunga nokwenza uthelekiso, uninzi lwabantu olungonwabanga luzama ukugcwalisa isithuba esivakalayo ebomini babo ngokuchitha imali kwizinto ezintsha, ezikhazimlayo ngalo lonke ixesha.
Bayibona njengendlela yokugcina ubuso kunye noontanga babo kunye neprojekthi yombono womntu ophumeleleyo, owonwabileyo. Ukuthengisa abathengisi kukwavumela ukuba babe namava okomzuzwana okonwabisayo kunye nolwaneliseko njengoko besebenzisa into yabo yokudlala okokuqala. Ngaphandle kokuyazi ukuba iyakunyamalala ngokukhawuleza, bayaqhubeka nokuzalisa ubomi babo ngezinto abanethemba lokuba ekugqibeleni ziya kubakhokelela kulonwabo.
7. Ngokuqhelekileyo Abathembi Abasemzini
Sonke sihlangana nabantu esingabaziyo rhoqo, kodwa indlela esisabela ngayo kubo ingahlula phakathi konwabileyo kunye nabangonwabanga. Ngelixa bekungasoloko kunjalo, a umntu oqinisekileyo kwaye onwabile iya kuba evulekile kakhulu kwaye inobuhlobo kumntu wasemzini.
Umntu ongonwabanga, kwelinye icala, uya kuhlala elumkile kwaye angabathembi abo bangabaziyo kwaye uyakuzama ukubagcina kubude bengalo bade bavavanye ngokufanelekileyo ubungozi abanokuthi babubeke. Heck, kwanaxa besazana nomntu, basenokungabathembi ngokupheleleyo.
8. Bayayeka Ngokulula
Ukufezekisa izinto ebomini-nokuba zinkulu okanye zincinci kangakanani-kufuneka ube nengqondo okanye uzimisele malunga nawe. Ngelishwa, abantu abangonwabanga bayasilela kweli sebe kwaye baya kuhlala bewunikezela umsebenzi okanye iphupha ngenxa yokuba ujongene nokusilela xa ungakhange unike konke konke kuhlala kulula kunokuba ujongane nayo xa ubeke yonke into kuyo.
Njengoko besesitshilo, abantu abadakumbileyo babubona ubomi njengomsebenzi onzima kwaye ke abalindelanga ukuba baphumelele kakhulu njengabo bajonge ngakumbi ukujonga izinto.
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9. Batyhola wonke umntu nayo yonke into eyenye
Xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle ebomini, unokhetho olubini: unokuma, ubalwe, kwaye uvume ukuba ubudlala indima kule meko, okanye ungazimela uze ukhombe umnwe wecala ngokuthe nqo kwenye into.
Abantu abangonwabanga bakholisa ukwenza le yokugqibela abangayifuniyo ukuthatha uxanduva yezinto ezingahambanga kakuhle, kodwa ukhetha ukwenza izizathu zokuba kutheni isiphoso salala kwenye indawo.
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10. Banenzondo
Ayizukungoneli nje ukuba abantu abangonwabanga bazame ukugxeka abanye, bazakuhlala bebambelele kule nkolelo kwaye bagcine ingqumbo ngakuye ngenxa yento abayibona njengesenzo esibi.
Kwanaxa kukho ulwaphulo-mthetho olucacileyo, ungathatha isigqibo sokuba uza kuya na xolela loo mntu kwaye vumela intliziyo yakho iqhubeke , okanye uza kuyigcina ngokuchasene nabo ngonaphakade. Umntu ongonwabanga, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba abambe ingqumbo yexesha elide.
11. Banethemba ngekamva
Ixesha elizayo ligcwele ukungaziwa kwaye abantu abaninzi baya kucinga ukuphucula kubomi babo ngenxa yamathuba anokuza ngendlela yabo. Umntu ongonwabanga uya kuthi, endaweni yoko, abone umbono omfiliba, otyhafileyo wekamva apho ingxaki ingasayi kubakho kude.
Baza kuwajonga amathemba abo njengamahlwempu ngokufanelekileyo kwaye bacinge ukuba amaxesha anzima asondele.
12. Banexhala Lento Abanye Bacinga Ngayo
Asinakho ukulawula ngqo oko abanye abantu bakucingayo nabakuthethayo ngathi, kodwa sinokukhetha indlela esiza kuphendula ngayo. Kumntu ophelelwe lithemba, indlela abanye abantu ababona ngayo ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye baphela bekhathazekile ngalo lonke ixesha ngenxa yoku.
Bakholelwa ukuba ukonwaba kwabo kunxibelelene nezimvo ezichazwe ngabo ngabanye abantu. Kubonakala ngathi abayiqondi ingongoma yokuba ulonwabo luvela ngaphakathi.
13. Bahlala bebonisa ukuzingca
Umntu ongonwabanga akafuni ukungonwabi abasoloko beyazi indlela ebuyela kumbono oqinisekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha benza impazamo yokuzikhusela kwaye oku kuyazibonakalisa ngokuziphatha ngokuzingca.
Bakholelwa ukuba ukuba bajonge kwindawo yokuqala, baya kuthi ekugqibeleni bafumane impumelelo kunye nolonwabo ngandlela thile. Bayakukhathalela ukuqonda ukuba impumelelo ifunyanwa ngokubambisana, ububele, kwaye, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, ukuzincama.
14. Bayasilela Ukubonisa Umbulelo
Kulula ukukhetha imingxunya ebomini bakho kwaye ulangazelele izinto oswele zona, kodwa de ube unombulelo ngayo yonke into osikelelwe ngayo okwangoku, amathuba awungekhe wonwabe. Abo bangonelisekanga bubomi babo ngabo abangaphumeleliyo babubone bonke ubutyebi abanabo ebomini babo namhlanje.
Oku kunqongophala kombulelo kukwavakala ngokwenyani kuba aba bantu bangonwabanga kunqabile ukuba bangenako enkosi komnye umntu ngento abayenzileyo.
15. Bavuthela Izinto Ngaphandle Kwexabiso
Ubomi buzele ziziganeko ezincinci, kuzo zombini iintlobo ezintle nezingalunganga. Sele sibonile ukuba abantu abangonwabanga bathambekele kokubi, kodwa ikwayimeko yokuba bahlala bebaxa ubungakanani beengxaki.
Nokuba incinci, kungenjalo imicimbi engabalulekanga iba ziintlekele ezigcweleyo ekufuneka bezicaphukisile. Rhoqo kuya kuhlala kunjalo xa izinto ezintle zisiza.
16. Batshayela imiba enzulu phantsi kwekhaphethi
Ngaphandle kokuthambekela kwabo kokugqitha ekubalulekeni kweengxaki ezingephi, abantu abanesimo sokuziphatha esincinci banethuba lokufihla imicimbi enzulu kwabanye abantu. Bakhetha ukuzama ukungazihoyi izinto ixesha elide kangangoko banako thintela iintloni ukuba bacinge ngokwabelana nobunzima babo.
Oku kuziphatha okufihliweyo kunokuba neziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezinjengokuxoka, ukucinga okukhoyo, kunye nokuba mandundu kwemeko.
17. Baswele Iinjongo Ezicacileyo
Ukugcina imbonakalo elungileyo kuhlala kubandakanya ukusebenzela ukufikelela kwinjongo okanye iphupha elithile, kodwa xa umntu ethe wawa, bayazisusa ezi zinto kwaye bahlupheke ngokungalandeli kwesikhokelo.
Ngenxa yokuba bengafuneki ukuba benze izicwangciso kwaye bathathe amanyathelo afanelekileyo ukuze bazifezekise, bahamba ngokungakhathali ngaphandle kwethemba elicacileyo ngekamva.
18. Bayekile Ukufunda Izinto Ezintsha
Enkosi, ngokuyinxenye, kubo ukunqongophala kweenjongo , umntu ongonwabanga akanamnqweno wokuzama izinto ezintsha. Bayayeka ukufunda izakhono ezongezelelekileyo okanye ukuzicel 'umngeni ngomsebenzi ongaqhelekanga kubo.
Endaweni yokuba babuyisele ingqalelo yabo kwezo zinto bazaziyo ukuba mabazenze njani kwaye bazinze kwindlela yabo yobomi. Baphela ngokuphila ubomi babo ngokuphindaphinda.
19. Banexhala Ngemali Ngaphandle Kobutyebi Babo
Ngelixa imali, okanye ukunqongophala kwayo, kunokuhlala kukhokelela kumaxesha anzima ebomini bomntu, kusenokuthiwa abantu abangonwabanga bazixakekise ngemali naxa bekhuselekile ngokwasemalini.
Banexhala lokuba abanako ngokwaneleyo kwaye iya kuthi ngenye imini iphele, ibashiye beswele. Le nkxalabo ikhona yonke indlela yokunyuka kwinqanaba lobutyebi, nokuba phezulu kakhulu kubonakala ngathi luphawu lokungonwabi njengoko kunokuba sisizathu.
20. Benza Yonke Into Ngabo
Sonke sinee-egos kwaye sonke siyathanda ukuba baphathwe rhoqo, kodwa xa umntu engonwabanga okungapheliyo, ii-egos zabo ziyakwazi ukuba nefuthe elikhulu kubo.
Oku kukhokelela kumnqweno wokujika yonke incoko kunye nakho konke ukunxibelelana kube kokokubeka kubo. Ukuba omnye umntu uthetha ngento - elungileyo okanye embi - ebomini babo, ayizukuthatha thuba lide ngaphambi kokuba umntu othabathe inxaxheba angonwabanga azame ukunxibelelanisa oko kuthethwayo kubo ukuze babuyisele ingqalelo kwicala labo.
21. Batsiba Kwizigqibo
Endaweni yokuvumela iziganeko zidlalwe ngendlela abanokuyenza ngayo, umntu ongonwabanga uyathanda ukutsiba umpu kwaye acinge ukuba nokuba yintoni, izakuba mbi. Baxela kwangaphambili, rhoqo ngokungalunganga, ukuba isiphumo esinokubakho siya kuba sibi kubo kuba basilele ukujonga lonke ulwazi abanalo.
Bazama ukuqikelela ukuba abanye banokwenza ntoni, bakhetha ukungazi kunolwazi, kwaye bayala ukwamkela ubungqina obucacileyo obunokuphikisana nembono yabo.
22. Benza Iindlela zokukhetha ukutya ngendlela engalunganga
Ngelixa ukutya sisisihloko esintsonkothileyo sinombandela webhayoloji kunye nengqondo kuwo, xa umntu engonwabanga, bathambekele ekwenzeni ukhetho olubi malunga nokutya nesiselo abasisebenzisayo.
Batya kakhulu izinto ezibanika ukungxama okwethutyana kwee-endorphins, kodwa basilele ukuthatha ixesha eliphakathi nelide.
Eli nqaku libonisa ezinye zeendlela ezininzi eziqhelekileyo eziza kulandelwa ngumntu ongonwabanga. Ikwenza oko ngenjongo yokuba wena mfundi, uqonde ngcono unxibelelwano phakathi kokuziphatha kwakho kunye nemvakalelo yempilo yengqondo. Ukuzibandakanya kwezi zinto zingama-22 okunokukwenza ungonwabi ngakumbi kwaye ngokuziphepha, uya kuba nethemba lokufezekisa umbono wobomi.
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