Ngamanye amaxesha omnye umntu wenza into ebangela ukuba imiphefumlo yethu ibaleke inyukele phezulu ngokukhawuleza kangangokuba amagama avakalelwa kukukhanya-iminyaka kude.
Siwudlulisa njani umbulelo owoyikekayo ngaphakathi kuthi ngeendlela eziza kukhanyisa umphefumlo womnye?
Kulungile…
1. Ukuwolana
Inombolo yam yokuqala, eyoyikekayo, engaqhelekanga, umbulelo kuwo onke amaxesha! Ukuwola.
Ukumanga okungenagama kuyamangalisa.
Ukwanga uncumo kuthumela ulonwabo.
Iiprojekthi zokuwola okugcweleyo konke okuthe ngqo entliziyweni yomnye umntu.
Ukuwola kuxelela abantu “Ndiyakubona kwaye ndiyalwamkela uthando lwakho.” Ngaba ayisiyiyo loo nto enkosi!
2. Amakhadi
Hayi, hayi uphawu lweHolo. Eyakho. Njengakwenzayo. Okanye ukuba kuya kufuneka uthenge ikhadi, ubuncinci lenze elinendawo engenanto yokubhala umyalezo wakho (hayi nje utyikityo lwakho). Ndikhetha ukuba uzibophelele kwikhadi elenziwe ngezandla. Thembela kukhetho lwam koku.
Umbulelo owenziwe ngezandla (nokuba lelikhadi okanye mhlawumbi ikeyiki ufumana umbono) yinto entle.
3. Iileta!
Kwenye indawo kwileta iya kuba ngamagama 'Enkosi,' kodwa ngaphambi nasemva kwala magama iya kuba kukujikeleza kokugqwesa ukuvuyisa umfundi kwiiparoxysms zovuyo.
Kutheni kuvuyisa kangaka nje? Ngenxa yokuba eyakho amagama! Abantu bayawathanda amagama abhaliweyo kubo kuba oko kuthetha ukuba umntu othile (uthathe) uthathe ixesha lokucinga ngabo, kwaye ingcinga, zithandwa zam, ziya kuhlala zibala kakhulu!
Ukuthi enkosi ngeleta kukuvumela kungekuphela nje ukuba ubulele umntu ngento anokuenzele yona, kodwa kwanokuba ungubani.
'Ndiyabulela kuwe' yinto eyoyikekayo, engcwele phakathi kwemiphefumlo.
4. Isindululo esihambelanayo
Ngamanye amaxesha, eyona ndlela yokubulela sisenzo sokubuyisela ngqo emva.
Ukuba umtshana wakho wakunceda ukuba ususe ibrashi eneenkani eyadini yakho, cinga indlela aya konwaba ngayo xa unikezela ngendawo yokuhlala kwindawo yokuhlamba iimpahla inyanga yonke!
Okanye masithi imini ehambayo, eza kubo bonke ubuhlobo ekugqibeleni. Ukuba umntu othile ukunceda ukuba uhambe, jika ujike umva xa kufika ixesha lokuba umncede naye-kwaye uyakwenza oko ngovuyo!
Umhlobo wakho usenokungakuvumeli oku kuwe kamva, kodwa kukho ithuba elihle lokuba baphalaze iinyembezi zovuyo ngentshiseko yakho, njengoko iintsuku ezihambayo zihlala zibuliswa ngolwamkelo oluchanekileyo lweengcambu eziphindaphindwayo.
Le ndlela 'yokuyihlawula phambili' ikhanyisa iindlela ezininzi. Ukuthi 'Enkosi ngento oyenzileyo' ngokwenza okufanayo okanye okufanayo komnye umntu - umntu wokuqala okanye hayi - kubonisa ukuxabisa okuphezulu kokungazingci kwabanye.
5. Ukubamba isidlo
Indlela entle yokubulela umntu omnye okanye ikhulu labantu kukubaxhasa ngesidlo esiphekwe ekhaya.
Kwakhona, ukuchukumisa kwakho kubalulekile. Ukuba izakhono zakho zokupheka azikho phezulu, dazzle isidlo esilungiselelwe kunye neendawo zakho ezinentsingiselo.
Ukwabelana ngexesha kunye nokutya sisenzo esixabisekileyo, ngakumbi xa sisenziwa njengesenzo sombulelo.
Ukuba isidlo asifikeleli kuwe, gcwalisa ibhegi encinci ngokuphatha abakuthandayo kwaye ushiye apho baqiniseke khona ukuba bakufumene khona. Okanye ubhaka ipayi abayithandayo. Zininzi iindlela zokuthi enkosi ngesisu, banokugcwalisa incwadi yokupheka.
6. Umhla woBusuku
Hayi ukuthandana nawe (ngaphandle kokuba oko kwenzeka izinto), kodwa nikela umbulelo ngokuthumela umntu ngobusuku bomhla. Mhlawumbi kunjalo imuvi nomnye wabahlobo babo, unyango lwakho, kubandakanya nokubukela abantwana / ikati / abazali babo abadala, njl.
Oku ngokusisiseko kukubulela umntu ngesipho sexesha kunye nenkululeko, iiyure ezimbalwa ubuncinci, zoxanduva oluhlaziyiweyo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Izizathu ezili-13 zokuba kutheni ndikuthanda ukuba ube ziingceba
- Uyibhala njani ileta yothando eya kuthi ibenze balile iinyembezi
- Izinto Ezingaqhelekanga Zokuba Nombulelo Ngobomi
- Indlela yokunceda abanye ngeyure yabo yokuswela
- Iimpawu ezili-15 zoMhlobo olungileyo
7. Bange
Ewe kunjalo, oku kubandakanya kuphela abo sele bexakekile kwezothando. Akukho nto ithi enkosi kuwe njengokulungileyo, okuqinileyo, okuthandayo, ukumanga ngokumangaliswa.
Kuxhomekeka ukwanga kunye neemeko ezixhasayo, kukho ithuba lokuba le ndlela yombulelo izakuphumela kwezinye iindlela zombulelo. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo kuloo nto.
Indlela ethe ngqo
Yothusa kwaye wonwabise umntu ngokubuza ukuba ungambulela njani. Bazise ukuba unyanisekile ngokupheleleyo kule nto, kwaye ngelixa isibhakabhaka singangabi ngumda ofikelelekayo, uzimisele okungenani ukuya eluphahleni lwabo.
Rhoqo, abantu benza izinto nge / kunye nathi benolindelo olungathethekiyo lombulelo ngaphaya “kombulelo” oqhelekileyo. Ukujonga umntu ngokuthe ntsho emehlweni kwaye uthi 'ukhethekile, uyenzile le nto, Ndiyakuthandana Ndifuna ukubhiyozela ubomi bakho buqinisekisa ukuba kunokubakho ukukhala okubi ngexesha lotshintshiselwano.
Oku kulungile.
9. Yenza 'Em Ukuhleka
Ngaba lelona yeza lifanelekileyo? Ewe. Ngaba yindlela entle yokubulela umntu othile ngenxa yokoyikeka kwakhe? Uyabheja.
Ngokungafaniyo nobusuku bobusuku, oku kuya kubandakanya ukuhleka kwabelwana ngako, ukuthatha inxaxheba kunye nokudibana kakhulu.
Fumana iklabhu yamahlaya. Baqeshe i-movie yabo abayithandayo. Bona umdlalo nobabini nethemba uya kuba mnandi. Kukho uvuyo olukhulu ekuhlekeni, kuba yinto ezenzekelayo 'Enkosi!' phantse kuyo nayiphi na imeko.
10. Hlala Nomntu
Ngokuchasene nokwenza ukuba bahleke, ngamanye amaxesha eyona ndlela ibalaseleyo yokubonga ngaphandle kokubulela kukuba kuba nomntu.
Rhoqo emva komngcwabo okanye amanye amava abuhlungu, sifuna ukubulela abo basithuthuzelayo, ukanti kusoloko kukho isuntswana lendlela yokwenza oko ngaphandle kokubenza bazive bengakhululekanga okanye ukuba bafumana umbulelo osezantsi, ophantsi.
Hlala nabo. Yiba nabo. Bazise ngobukho bakho ukuba awunqweneli kuphela kodwa ufuna ubukho babo ukuba bebekhona kwaye bayaqhubeka ukuba namandla kuwe.
Ewe, ukuhlala nomntu akufuneki ukuba kubandakanyeke ukufelwa. Ukuba wena nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni nigqibe uhambo olude ehlathini (kunye nani nikhalazela ubushushu kuyo yonke indlela), endaweni yokuba niphume niye kwishawari emva koko, mnikeni iglasi yento ebandayo, kwaye hlala naye njengoko usela iglasi yakho.
Njengokuba nobabini niphefumla, kuya kubakho utshintsho olungenagama lombulelo wenene, kuba uyazi ukuba ubewufuna ngokwenene umthambo, ubufuna ngokwenene ukuphuma kwindawo yakho yentloko, kwaye umxabise ngokwenene umhlobo wakho ngokungakutyhaleli phantsi induli.
11. Fumana ubuQhetseba
Okwangoku, ungaphezulu komxholo wentsingiselo yobuqu. Uphekile, uye wahleka, wena unamandla uye wanga, kwaye uzenzele nekhadi lakho elisuka entliziyweni.
Nanku apho ukhaba khona umbono wobuqu phezulu. Ngaphandle kwento esiyibonayo yee-sweatshapen sweatshi ezivela kuMakhulu okanye iikgs zekofu ezivela esihogweni, abantu bayakuthanda ukufumana izipho ezenziwe ngesandla, ngakumbi njengombulelo.
Apha, inqanaba lesakhono sakho ngokuqinisekileyo sisigqibo esigqibayo sokuba uyawenza ngokwakho okanye hayi. Ukuba unesandla kwaye unobuqhetseba njengombandela, yithi enkosi ngetafile encinci esecaleni, isitya seapile esilahlwe ngesandla, okanye, yithi, isikhafu semfene eselukiweyo.
Ungayitshabalalisa njani i-narcissist ex
Njengoko oku kuyilwe ngesandla, kuyakufika ixesha elithile emva kwayo nantoni na eqale isizathu sombulelo, esongeza kubunzulu bombulelo omnye aya kufumana wothuswa sisipho esinje .
Okanye ayothusi. Ukulindelwa yinto entle. Ukubaxelela ukuba ufuna ukubenzela into, emva koko ubazise ukuba yintoni, uthabathe ixesha lakho ukuyenza… oothixo, uncumo xa usithi 'Nantsi ke!' zanele ukukhanyisa amakhaya aliwaka iminyaka eliwaka!
12. Nyaniseka
Yabona kubo. Jonga into abayenzileyo, nokuba kubandakanya ukuzincama okunzulu kwicala labo okanye into enjengommelwane njengokuchola abantwana bakho esikolweni nabantwana babo xa ubambekile kwindawo yokugcwala kwabantu esihogweni.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela yakho, ukuba ukuhanjiswa kudlulisela ngaphezulu 'Ndiyabulela wena ” kunokuba 'Ndiyayixabisa into oyenzileyo' (Qaphela umahluko ocashileyo), umbulelo wakho sele udlulele ngaphaya kwenqanaba lamagama, elimangalisayo.
Bazakuziva ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye bandithembe, abantu baya kubulela ngaloo nto.
