Zimbalwa izinto ezishiya umntu ezifudumele kwaye enxibelelana ngakumbi neqabane lakhe ngaphandle kokufumana ileta yothando.
Oko kungena kwileta yothando kubalulekile. Inokuba kunjalo uthembekile, unyanisekile, awugadwanga, kwaye uvumele ukukhanya kwemini kubonise umphefumlo wakho, kuba yile nto we ethandweni kwindawo yokuqala.
Kodwa uhamba njani ngokubhala ileta yothando? Inye eza kubetha isimbo esifanelekileyo kwaye ushiye intombi yakho, isoka, okanye iqabane lakho lilila ngolonwabo.
Makhe sihlolisise oku ngokubanzi.
1.Uluqala njani ileta yothando
Uninzi lwethu aluqhelanga ukubhala iileta, kungasathethwa ke ngeeleta zothando. Yindlela yokunxibelelana eyahlukileyo kunombhalo, umyalezo wangoko nangoko, umtya we-emoji, okanye iseshoni yengxoxo eyandisiweyo.
Iileta zothando zifuna umonde ongaphezulu kuthi kunokuba sixelelwa ukuba kufanelekile.
Ukuqala enye akufuneki kube nzima. Indlela elungileyo kukuthetha malunga nokuqala kwakho ukudibana.
“X othandekayo, xa ndidibana nawe ndi…”
Ungayigcina le nyaniso: “… bendisebenza imisebenzi emibini kwaye ndive ubunzima behlabathi emagxeni am. ”
Okwangoku: “Bekumnyama kwaye kunetha kwaye uthe cwaka walela isambrela sakho sobabini kweso sitishi simdaka sebhasi.”
Umbongo: '… Yayiyinyama nethambo eliqinileyo ngoku ndingumoya, andindedwa.'
Iintyatyambo: '… Ndiyazi, okokuqala, ukuba iingelosi zazinyani, kuba wawunguye okanye omnye wayendikhokelele kuwe.'
Emva koko ileta kufuneka yandise indalo yakho. Kuya kufuneka ubazise, uthando lwakho, kwi-equation.
“Ungene ebomini bam wayenza lula imithwalo yam.”
'Uye waba ngumhlobo wam osenyongweni kwaye umntu endaziyo ukuba ndinokuya kuye ukuze ndibathande kwaye ndibaxhase ngokuziphatha.'
Undibonisile uvuyo lothando olunzulu noluhlala luhleli endingazange ndicinge ukuba lunokwenzeka.
“U… [faka amagama anyanisekileyo anentsingiselo asuka entliziyweni yakho]”
Okanye, ungaqala ileta yakho ngenkcazo emfutshane yokuba kutheni uyibhala.
ukuba wenzeni xa umyeni wakho ekujongela phantsi
'Sele sizahlukene iveki yonke, kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba izakuvakala ingunaphakade, ke bendifuna ukukubhalela ileta ndikuxelele ukuba ungakanani kum.'
“Njengokuba siqala oluhambo lobomi, ndibone ngathi eli iya kuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba ndikukhumbuze indlela endikukhathalele ngayo kwaye ndikuxabise ngayo. Ke ngoku iya… ”
Le leta yindlela endibonisa ngayo ukuba ungumntu omangalisayo. ”
Emva koko, cinga ngendlela uthando oluluhambo ngayo. Ithathe phi nina nobabini? Kukusa phi ngokulandelayo? Bhala malunga noku.
'Le minyaka i-X idlulileyo ibiyeyona ibalaseleyo ebomini bam kwaye andinakulinda ukubona apho ubomi busisa khona ngokulandelayo.'
Sikhe sazibandakanya kunye kwaye undityhale ukuba ndibengumntu ongcono. Ndiyathemba ukuba nam ndenze into efanayo kuwe. ”
'Amaxesha esabelana ngawo, uhambo ebesikulo, amava esinawo-ngekhe ndicele okunye. Ukuba ikamva lisizisela isiqingatha kunelo langaphambili, ndiya konwaba kwaye ndonwabe. '
“Luhambo olunjani esiye kulo. Ukusukela kulaa mihla yokuqala yokwenza ikhaya kunye, ukuba nabantwana bethu abahle ndibathandile umzuzwana ngamnye walo. Ndiqinisekile ukuba indlela ephambi kwethu iyakuba ngokufanayo novuyo kunye nomvuzo.
Fumana ngokucacileyo njengoko unako. Khankanya ukukhwela e-Australia, ngeli xesha ubeka i-wardrobe epakisheneyo ngasemva kwaye kwafuneka uqale ekuqaleni, umzuzu wokuzalwa komntwana wakho wokuqala, ukuntywila okubhityileyo okwenze echibini elikufuphi ukutshona kwelanga.
Uhambo obukhe waluhamba ngokobuqu kakhulu, ke yenza ileta yakho yothando ibonakalise oku. Khumbula amabali akudala kwaye uthethe ngamaphupha akho ngekamva.
Musa ukuzikhathaza ngokungxama xa kuthetha okuthile kuwe, kuya kuthetha okuthile kubo.
2. Guqula ingqalelo yakho kuMmkeli
Nje ukuba ukufumene ukuhamba kwakho, amagama akho alandelayo kufanele ukuba abe ngalawo abonisa indlela oxabisa ngayo kwaye uwaxabise njengomntu.
Unokugxila kwindlela intanda yakho engatshintshi ngayo kuphela, kodwa nehlabathi elibangqongileyo:
Andizange ndazi mntu unesisa njengalowo unesisa. ”
imiqondiso akasoze angene kuwe
'Indlela odibanisa ngayo abantu ngoxolo nemvisiswano sisipho sokwenene.'
'Inkathalelo ohlawula kuyo yonke indalo intle nje.'
Ungabhala malunga nezinto ezenza ukuba zahluke kwaye zikhetheke kuwe:
'Uyandonwabisa yonke imihla, ukusuka ekuthetheni ngeeUFOs ukuya ekwazini ukuba zeziphi izityalo ezisendle zasendle ezingamayeza.'
'Umnqweno wakho wobugcisa kukuvuyela ukubona kwaye ndiyabuthanda ubuchule bakho kunye nokuzimisela ukwenza isiqwenga ngasinye silunge kangangoko sinako.'
'Xa udlala ipiyano, ingathi ndiyayiva indlela oziva ngayo intliziyo yakho.'
Ungaluvuma uhambo abebekulo okanye abasahleli kulo:
'Andizange ndimbone umntu ozama ngokunyanisekileyo ukuzifundisa i-quantum physics, kwaye nangona ndingazi nokuba yintoni le i-90% yale nto uyithethayo, ndiyathemba ukuba awusoze uyeke ukundichazela ezi zinto zinomdla.'
“Ukubukela uphalaza imbilini yakho nomphefumlo wakho kwishishini lakho ibe yinto engakholelekiyo. Kule minyaka inzima yokuqala ukuya kwimiceli mngeni ojamelana nayo ngoku, ndiyothuka yindlela owenze ngayo impumelelo. ”
“Ukusukela mhla wagqiba kwelokuba uqeqeshele umdyarho weemarathon, bendisazi ukuba uzakufaka konke kuwo. Kwaye ngoku uzokujongana nenombolo ye-marathon eyinto engummangaliso. Ndiza kuhlala ndikonwabisile kwaye ndikulinde entanjeni. '
(Qaphela: ‘nangona le mizekelo ijolise kuthando lwesini, yonke isebenzela usapho okanye Uthando lweplato njengokuba. Ngaphandle kokuba ide ifike kufakelo lwee-saucy bits.)
Unako kwaye kufuneka uthethe ngezinye izinto ngaphandle kothando.
Izinto zobuqu.
Thetha ngendlela ekuhlekisa ngayo. Okanye ukuba akukho mntu ngaphandle kwabo ukhe wakuzama ukuba uzame, makungabikho mntu uxabisayo, ihlumelo laseBrussels.
Thetha ngokuncoma kwakho okanye ukubanakho ukuzisa okona kulungileyo kuwe kunye nawo wonke umntu abachukumisayo.
Uyazi eyona nto uyixabise kakhulu emntwini omthandayo, kodwa ukuba izimvo azizukuza kwangoko, zama ukuqulunqa uluhlu lwezinto zonke - ezinkulu nezincinci - loo nto.
Ukuba ixesha likwicala lakho, qhubeka ukongeza kolu luhlu kwaye naxa ubona okanye ukhumbule into ngabo eyenza intliziyo yakho inyibilike kancinci. Ke, xa usiza kubhala ileta yakho yothando, uya kuba nezinto ezininzi oza kusebenza nazo.
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3. Yibuyisele Kuwe
Ngoku ukuba uchithe ixesha elincinci uzibeka elubala, ungabuyisa ukugxila kuwe, kodwa ngokuthe ngqo kwindlela abakwenze ngayo wangumntu ongcono.
Thetha ngeendlela abakuncede ngazo ukuba ukhule:
nini wwe imithetho egqithileyo
“Ndiyazi ukuba ndingangaba yincwadi evaliweyo xa sasiqala ukudibana, kodwa undibonisile ukuba kunokuba kuhle kanjani ukwabelana ngokwam kwaye ukuba sesichengeni . Ndiyabulela ngenene ngaloo nto.
'Ndandinengxaki yokuxhalaba xa wawuziveza ebomini bam, kodwa ngoncedo lwakho nenkxaso, ngoku ndizolile kwaye ndizithembile. Oko konke kuxhomekeke kwindlela okholelwe ngayo kum kwaye wandifundisa ukuba ndikholelwe kum. Andinakukubulela ngokwaneleyo. ”
“Xa bendijongene nemiceli mngeni kunye nezithintelo ebomini bam, ubundikhuthaza ukuba ndoyise. Undixelele ukuba ndime mde kwaye ndenze konke okusemandleni am ukuze ndidlule kumaxesha anzima, kwaye ndenze njalo… kuba bendisazi ukuba ubukho ecaleni kwam ngalo lonke ixesha. ”
Mhlawumbi utshintshile ngeendlela ezininzi okokoko uqala ukudibana nesithandwa sakho, ke cinga ngendlela abadlale ngayo indima kwezi nguqu zintle.
Ngokubaxelela indlela abakuphucule ngayo kunye nobomi bakho, kubabonisa ukuba uyabuxabisa ubukho babo kuyo.
4. Ukuphelisa ileta
Ukugqiba ileta yakho, buyela kwiimvakalelo onazo kumamkeli kwaye ucacise ukuba ezi mvakalelo zisomelele njengakuqala.
Enkosi kwakhona kwaye uphinde uthi ujonge phambili nakweyiphi na ikamva.
Nangona kungeyomfuneko, iP.S. emva kokuba utyikitye igama lakho kunokuba yindawo elungileyo yokongeza into ehlekisayo okanye i-mushy ngaphezulu kwezinto kwaye ufumane iinyembezi zabo.
Into efana no…
“UP. ungasoloko unayo icephe lokugqibela le-ice cream ebhafini. ”
“UP. Ndiza kukuphathela ikomityi yekofu kusasa de sibadala sibenemibimbi. '
“UP. usandityala ngesiluma esikhulu osithathileyo nge-burger yam kumhla wethu wokuqala! :) ”
Ukuya ngaphaya kweleta yothando
Mhlawumbi uziva uyile, okanye mhlawumbi ayilo leta yakho yothando yokuqala kwaye ufuna ukwenza into ekhethekileyo. Ileta yakho ayifanelanga ukuba yileta. Ingangumbongo. Ingaba libali. I-vignette. Ingoma ukuba unomculo othambekileyo.
Unokwenza ikholaji ebonakalayo malunga neziganeko eziphambili kunye neendawo eziguqukayo ekukhuleni kobudlelwane bakho wenze ikhandlela elizele luphawu kunye nentsingiselo yokuba nobabini nirekhodishe ukujonga ngexesha lokuhamba nodwa apho okungabonakaliyo kodwa beziva ubukho bomntu omthandayo kuhlala ecaleni kwakho yonke indlela .
Nantoni na oyenzayo okwangoku, qaphela ukuba imveliso inokubakho yodwa, inamandla, kwaye iyimfihlo phakathi konxibelelwano nawe, oko kulila kakubi kunokulandela. Kuwo omabini amalungu akho.
Yintoni efunwa yileta yothando ukuze unxibelelane
Okwangoku uyaqonda ukuba ileta elungileyo yothando yile hayi uluhlu lokuhlamba lweempawu zomntu ezikhanyayo. Kukuchazwa ngokusondeleyo kwe ungaphantsi kwempembelelo yobomi bomnye umntu.
Kungaba mfutshane kwaye kumangalise njengokuba 'Ndiyakudinga' kubhalwe kwi-napkin kwaye batyibilika kwicala labo letafile emva kokuba bezithethelele kwigumbi lokuhlambela lokutyela, okanye okoko nje iiCawe ezimbini ziphelile ukuphela ukulinda ukuba buya kuhambo olude.
Nokuba yeyiphi ubude okanye ifom, kufanele ukuba iqulethe nina nize nizibeke zaze zaze zajika iphepha ngokwalo libe yinto yobugcisa benyama.
Khumbula, ngamanye amaxesha ayisiyiyo into oyithethayo okanye indlela oyithetha ngayo, kukuba uthethile kwaphela.
Ngoko cinga ngomntu omthandayo.
izinto ezintle onokuzenza xa ukruqukile
Cinga ngendlela oncuma ngayo ngokungacwangciswanga, udlulisa iingcinga zelo xesha ngexesha lenkonzo yecawa abakwenza ukuba uhleke.
Cinga ngendlela oluya ngayo usuku lwakho-nokuba luhamba ngokugqwesileyo ngokugqibeleleyo-luya kuba ngcono ngokungaphaya xa sele bekhaya.
Cinga intetho yabo xa becinga ukuba basikelelwe ngendlela oziva ukhuseleke kwaye uthanda ngayo.
Ukuba ungazigcwalisela kufutshane nokugqabhuka ngayo yonke le nto, zintanda, ungabhala ileta yothando eya kuthi ilile iinyembezi zovuyo.
Awudingi ukuba nendlela yamagama. Kufuneka wazi nje ukuba uyamthanda umntu ngenxa yento ayiyo, kwaye ubhale.
Kuba ukuba ungade ufike kwinqanaba ebomini bakho apho unyanzelekile ukuba uthabathe uluvo 'Ndiyakuthanda, ndikuthandile ukusukela oko iinkwenkwezi zatsha ngomlilo, ziyakuthanda xa sitshayela amalahle azo ecaleni' - wena, wam mhlobo, zikwindawo elungileyo ngokwenene.
Umzekelo wencwadi yothando
KuPenny wam kuphela,
Siza kuhamba kunye kwaye ndivuya kakhulu. Bendifuna ukwabelana nawe ngalo lonwabo kwaye ke ndikubhalele le leta.
Ubusuku esadibana nabo babonakala bubhaliwe ezinkwenkwezini. Ndenzelwe ukuba kwenye indawo kwaye ubucebe ngobusuku de umhlobo wakho akucenge ngenye indlela. Ngabo nabuphi na ubusuku obunye, besingayi kungqubana.
Kodwa singqubane omnye komnye senzile. Kwaye kwakungaphezulu konyaka ophelileyo, ndisawakhumbula la mzuzu amehlo am adibana nawakho njengokuba wena nabahlobo bakho nihleli etafileni ecaleni kwelam.
Kuninzi okwenzekileyo ukusukela ngobo busuku bebubi kwaye ibisisiqhwithi solonwabo kunye nolonwabo. Andiqondi ukuba ndakhe ndancuma kwaye ndahleka kakhulu njengaxa ndikunye nawe. Undibonisile ukuba ubomi bunokuba yintoni xa uneqabane lokwenyani kulwaphulo-mthetho oza kuchitha nalo.
Ukuba le adventure yethu ilandelayo ikufuphi nokulunga, kuninzi esinokujonga phambili kuko. Kwaye ndikhangele phambili phambili ekukwazini ngcono kunokuba ndisenza ngoku.
Zininzi izinto ngawe ezenza intliziyo yam ikhanye. Zininzi kakhulu ukuba zingachazwa ngokwenyani. Ndiyayithanda imbono yakho ethembeni lobomi namandla oweza nawo kusuku ngalunye olutsha. Ndiyakuthanda ukuzimisela kwakho ukubona izinto nokuba azisoloko zilula. Ndiyayithanda indlela ofuna ukufunda ngayo izinto ezintsha kunye nokutyhala imida yakho.
Nokuba kwisithuba esifutshane sexesha ndikwazile, ndikubonile wenza izinto ezimangalisayo. Uthathe umceli mngeni wokufudukela kwindawo eyahlukileyo yomsebenzi ngenxa yokuba yayiyinto oziva unomdla ngayo. Kwaye uyenze yabonakala ingenamsebenzi, nangona ndiyazi ukuba ubuninzi obufanele ukuyifaka kuyo.
akafuni kutshata
Kodwa yile nto uyiyo… ungumntu osebenza nzima, onqwenela ngamandla, olungileyo ojonga ubomi njengethuba lokungachithwa.
Kwaye le ndlela yokuphila indichaphazele nam. Ubukho bakho obubonakalayo ebomini bam kunye nomdlandla owubonisayo kwizinto endikuxelela zona undenze ndakhuthazeka ngakumbi ukuba ndilandele amaphupha am kwaye ndijongane nemiqobo emi endleleni yam.
Bendingayi kuba ngulo mntu ndinguye namhlanje ukuba andizange ndadibana nawe kwaye kufuneka ndikubulele ngalonto. Ude wandifumana ukuba ndixabise umlingo weeMusic ze-Broadway, ngaphandle kwam okokuqala kwam. Siza kuphinda simbone nini uLes Mis kwakhona? Ngokukrakra!
Ke njengokuba sifumana izandla zethu kwizitshixo zendawo yethu entsha, ndifuna ukuba wazi ukuba unaso isitshixo sentliziyo yam. Sheesh, oko kuvakala kuyitshizi, kodwa kuyinyani. Ndiyakuthanda ngokwenene kwaye andinakulinda ukubona ukuba ikamva lizisa ntoni.
Uthando lwakho,
Umphangi
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