Ndiyakuthandana. Amagama amathathu nje amancinci enziwe ngoonobumba abasibhozo abathi ngandlela thile bakwazi ukubangela inani elingenasiphelo lovuyo kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu.
Kubonakala ngathi sonke siye sagqiba kwelokuba sibeke la magama phezulu. Ndicinga ukuba sonke sinokuvumelana kwinto yokuba, ekupheleni kosuku, ngamagama nje.
Okwangoku, akukho ukubaleka kwinto yokuba bahlawuliswe ngokumangalisayo ngentsingiselo, kwaye besithi 'Ndiyakuthanda' ayisiyonto ekufuneka ithathwe kancinci. Ukuthetha loo magama amancinci (okanye hayi) kunokuba nefuthe elikhulu, kokubini kuwe nakwiqabane lakho.
Ewe unethemba lokuba xa ubhengeza uthando lwakho emntwini ukuba uya kuthi, ngokukhawuleza nangaphandle kokuthandabuza, akuxelele ukuba naye uyakuthanda. Ngelishwa, uninzi lwethu lunamaphupha amabi malunga nokuphendula kwabo “kwaye ndiyakuthanda ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe…” nayo yonke into edilikayo ngeendlebe zethu.
Lulwalamano olomeleleyo kakhulu olunokuphinda luphume komnye umntu ebhengeza uthando lwabo, kwaye omnye engekabikho ncam. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uthando lwenzelwe ukuba lube njalo ngaphandle kwemiqathango kwaye ayisekelwanga ekubeni iyabuyekezwa, kodwa masibe sengqiqweni. Ukuziqhelanisa, akukho lula ukuxelela umntu ukuba uyamthanda kwaye ungamniki athi ayiphinde. Ukuba ungamelana nayo, ndiyakothula.
Izinto ezingaqhelekanga ezenziwa ekhaya
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba nini ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba uthi 'Ndiyakuthanda,' ufike kwindawo efanelekileyo. Nazi iimpawu ezimbalwa onokuzijonga:
1. Nibe Nindawonye Ixesha Elithile
Andizukubeka isakhelo sexesha kule nto, kuba akukho ubudlelwane babini bufanayo. Unokuba ubuthandana ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwaye ucime iinyanga ukuphela, oko kuthetha ukuba ubunokubonana unyaka omnye okanye nangaphezulu ngaphambi kwexesha elifanelekileyo.
Kwelinye icala, ubunokudibana xa useluhambeni kwaye uchithe yonke imihla yesibini yokuvuka yonke imihla kunye, uxakeke iinyanga ezintandathu zobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo kwenye.
Akukho ndawo yokunqunyulwa komlingo apho ngesiquphe iba semthethweni ukuthi 'Ndiyakuthanda,' kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo bekufanele ukuba uchithe ixesha elide kwinkampani yomnye nomnye kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ubazi kakuhle.
Nokuba ikubethe njengombane kwaye ucinga ukuba luthando xa uqala ukuyibona, kungcono ungangxami. Shiya isibhengezo sakho de ube uyazi kancinci malunga nomnye, ukuze ube kwicala elikhuselekileyo. Ungasoloko ubaxelela ukuba uyabathanda ngalo mzuzu ubabona kamva!
2. Uye Walwa Umlo Wakho Wokuqala
Le ibaluleke ngokwenene. Sonke siyazazi ezo zibini zibanga ukuba 'aziphikisani,' kodwa ngokubhekisele kum andiyiyo impilo, kwaye ayisiyonyani.
Akufanele ube semqaleni womnye nomnye 24/7, kodwa akukho mntu ugqibelele, ke ukuba awukhe ube nokungavumelani, mhlawumbi uyakuthintela ukungqubana okanye omnye wenu enze isenzo esithile.
Ukuba uyamthanda umntu, kufuneka nikwazi ukungavumelani ngezinto kodwa nisahloniphe uluvo lomnye umntu, kwaye nibe nako ukuxolelana. Rhoqo, imibala yokwenene yabantu iya kuphuma kuphela xa icaphukile, kwaye ukuba uyabathanda ngolo hlobo, ke ubathanda ngokwenene.
3. Ukwelinye iphepha
Ngaphambi kokuba uxele uthando lwakho ngomntu, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uqinisekile kwiphepha elinye xa kuziwa kubudlelwane bakho. Ukhe intetho ”Malunga nokuba iyaphi?
Akukho ngqiqweni ukuzivumela ukuba uwele phezu kothando lomntu ukuba uphantsi kwengcinga yokuba ayisiyonto imbi kangako, okanye ukuba kukho ixesha elimiselweyo kwizinto.
Ukuba izinto ziqale ngokungakhathali kunye nobabini okanye nobabini niyenza icace into yokuba anifuni kwanto enzulu, okanye ukuba omnye wenu ubuyela kwilizwe elikude kungekudala, qiniseka ukuba nobabini niyazi ngokupheleleyo Iinjongo zomnye umntu ngaphambi kokuba wenze izinto nzima ngokubaxelela ukuba uyabathanda.
Ukuba baphantsi kokucinga ukuba izinto zigcinwa zibangela, banokuthi bathathwe ngokumangalisa ngesibhengezo sakho sothando, ke qiniseka ukuba yonke into icacile kuqala.
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4. Ihlala ikwiNgcebiso Yolwimi Lwakho
Ukuba ukhe ndisemathandweni ngaphambili, uya kwazi ukuba ndithetha ukuthini apha. Ungayivumeli ukuba iphume okokuqala ukuba loo mvakalelo iphakama esiswini sakho kwaye izama ukuphuma kuwe. Yizise ngokuqinileyo ngaphakathi kwintonga yolwimi lwakho kwaye uyigcine kude ukuze isetyenziswe kwixesha elizayo.
Amathuba kukuba kungekudala emva kokuba uzive ngathi uthi 'Ndiyakuthanda,' uya kwenza into ekwenza utshintshe ingqondo okwethutyana. Kwaye emva koko uya kuyitshintsha ibuye ngenye indlela, njalo njalo njalo njalo.
Vumela oku kwenzeke amatyeli aliqela kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uziva ngathi uyabathanda ngaphezu kokuba ubathandabuza ngaphambi kokuba ekugqibeleni uwasete amagama.
5. Ucinga ukuba kukho ithuba elihle lokuba baya kuyiphinda
Njengoko besele nditshilo, ukuba uyakwazi ukujongana nokuxelela umntu ukuba uyamthanda, ingaphinde ibuyiselwe kwaye oko kungonakalisi ubudlelwane, kuya kufuneka ukuba ufumane imbasa. Ndiyarhalela inqanaba lakho ukukhula ngokweemvakalelo . Unokufika apho ngenye imini.
Kithi sonke, nangona kunjalo, kububulumko ukulinda de ube ucinga ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba banokuziva ngendlela efanayo. Wonke umntu uvakalisa uthando Ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwaye into oyithandayo ayinakuba yeyesimbo esikhulu okanye ii-PDAs, kodwa baya kufumana indlela yokukwazisa.
njani ukunceda umntu ajongane nokwahlukana
Iya kuba zizinto ezincinci, ezinobumnandi ezinje ngendlela abajonga ngayo kuwe ezikunika umkhondo.
Ngubani Omele Ayitsho?
Ngaba nceda unqamle le ngcamango ingenangqondo yokuba umntu (kubudlelwane bobufanasini) abe ngumntu wokuqala ukuthi 'Ndiyakuthanda'?
Ngesizathu esithile, uninzi lwabantu lusabonakala luxhomekeke kwimbono yokuba abantu basetyhini kufuneka bangazenzi kwaye amadoda kufuneka ebasukele, ebabiza bonke.
Umfazi kufuneka alinde ejikeleze ide indoda igqibe kwelokuba icele inombolo yakhe, imcele ngaphandle kwaye ibonakalise uthando lwayo kwinqanaba elithile emgceni. U-Miss Passivity emva koko uza kubhabhaza iinkophe zakhe, ngokusebeza esithi 'Ndiyakuthanda nam,' emva koko aqale alinde ukuba avelise iringi yedayimane, xa egqiba kwelokuba ulungile.
Ukuba uziva unento emntwini, isini sakho akufuneki sibe yinto ekuyekisayo ekuthetheni. Le ayisiyo inoveli kaJane Austen, yile 21stInkulungwane kunye nesini akunanto yakwenza nayo.
Ukuba umfana unengxaki nento yokuba uthethe kuqala, ke ngokuqinisekileyo akayona indoda efanelekileyo kuwe, oko kuthetha ukuba unokuyeka ukuchitha ixesha lakho kuye.
Oko akuthethi ukuba lo mfo akafanele ayitsho, ngokucacileyo.
Sukungxama Kwaye sukucinezela
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ufumene umntu onqwenela ukuchitha ezinye iintsuku zakho kunye naye, akukho kukhawuleza. Ukuba zezakho, aziyi ndawo. Ukuthetha okanye ukungathi 'ndiyakuthanda' ngekhe kutshintshe indlela oziva ngayo okanye oziva ngayo.
Kunokuba lula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, kodwa ungakhathazeki ngenxa yayo. Uthando kufuneka lube yinto entle, evuyisayo, ekwenza uzive ugula, kodwa ngendlela elungileyo. Hlaziya, uzonwabele kumabhabhathane.
