Ukuba uthandana nendoda etshatileyo, mhlawumbi ufumana iimvakalelo ezininzi eziphikisanayo ngoku.
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Ngamanye amaxesha, awunakuzinceda kodwa uzive wonwabile, kuba sowuthandile.
Kodwa emva koko ubuyela emva kwinyani kwaye ukhumbule ukuba utshatile, kwaye imeko inzima kakhulu.
Kwaye kuyacaphukisa nangakumbi kukuba awuzange uzimisele ukudibana okanye ukuthandana nomntu osele etshatile.
Uzifumene ukule meko, kwaye ngoku awazi ukuba wenzeni.
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Ubudlelwane onabo nale ndoda kunye nobudlelwane anabo kunye nomfazi wakhe bobabini bahlukile, kwaye kunzima kuye nakubani na ongaphandle ukuba abuqonde, ke kunzima ukunika ingcebiso generic kwiimeko ezinje.
Kodwa kukho iinyaniso ezimbalwa ezinzima ekunokwenzeka ukuba ufuna ukuziva, nokuba zithini na iimeko okuzo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, imeko yakho yangoku ayizinzanga. Ndicinga ukuba sonke singavumelana ngaloo nto.
Kwaye ukuba ufunda le nto, uzingela iimpendulo.
Mhlawumbi unikwe lonke icebo elilungileyo ngabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho (ukuba ubaxelele), kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba lula kakhulu ukuziva ezi zinto kumntu ongamaziyo kunakuvela emntwini osondele kuye.
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Mamela, le yindawo engenasigwebo - awuzimisele ukuthandana nendoda etshatileyo, kodwa asikwazi ukulawula iintliziyo zethu. Ke oku kulandelayo ayenzelwanga ukuba ikwenze uzive umbi malunga nento eyenzekileyo, nokuba ibetha ngamandla ngamanye amaxesha.
Unoko engqondweni, nantsi ingcebiso yethu malunga nendlela onokuthi uthathe inyathelo elifanelekileyo kwaye uqhubele phambili ngobomi bakho.
1. Kufuneka uqwalasele ukuba ungamthemba ngokwenene na.
Ukuba indoda emtshatweni womntu omnye inesondo, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubakho ukuxoka okuninzi okuqhubekayo, ke sele uyazi ukuba uyakwazi ukukhohlisa.
Ngaba obo buxoki buye banabela nakuwe? Ubusazi ukuba wayetshatile ukusukela oko wadibana naye, okanye wakuxokisela?
Inyani yokuba uxoka kumfazi wakhe yiflegi ebomvu, kodwa ukuba wayezama ukutsala uboya ngamehlo akho, kuya kufuneka ukwamkele ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo angathembeki .
Ukuba angaze ashiye umfazi wakhe ngenxa yakho, awunasiqinisekiso sokuba ngekhe enze into efanayo kuwe kwiminyaka embalwa ezantsi emgceni.
2. Isenokungabi ngowokuqala.
Ukuba kubonakala ngathi akananjongo yokwenyani yokushiya umfazi wakhe ngenxa yakho, ungangabi ngowokuqala 'omnye umfazi.'
Okanye nokuba lelinye ibhinqa, nangona oko bekuya kubandakanya izakhono ezithile zombutho kuye. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kunzima ngokwaneleyo ukucofa ubudlelwane obunobabini kwiveki.
Nokuba ukwenza uzive ukhetheke kangakanani okanye uthandana njani nale ndoda itshatileyo, ngekhe wazi ukuba ungomnye kumgca omde.
3. Akufanele uhlale phantsi ulindile.
Cinga ngobuhlobo bakho nale ndoda ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Andinakukhathazeka ngokubheja ukuba kubandakanyeka into eninzi oyilindeleyo.
Uhlala ngaphakathi, kwimeko nje xa ethumela umyalezo esithi ukwazile ukuzimela. Uyamlinda xa efika emva kwexesha kuba engafumani sizathu sokuba ahambe.
Ulothusa ixesha lakho ulinde ukuba afowunele, ngexa ubuphila uphila.
4. Awuyonto iphambili kuye.
Nokuba ungazama kangakanani ukukuqinisekisa ngenye indlela, ukuba ungomnye umfazi, awuyonombolo kuluhlu lwakhe oluphambili. Umfazi wakhe ukhona, kwaye, ukuba unabantwana, kunjalo.
5. Indlela athetha ngayo ngomfazi wakhe ingakuxelela lukhulu.
Ngaba uhlonipha xa ethetha ngomfazi wakhe? Ukuba akukhange kubenjalo, ungakholelwa njani ukuba uyakuhlonipha ngokwenyani?
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6. Mhlawumbi akazukumshiya umfazi wakhe.
Ambalwa kakhulu amadoda atshatileyo aphela eshiya abafazi bawo ngenxa yabathandekayo bawo, kwaye amathuba okuba awunguye okhethekileyo obonisa umthetho.
Uqhawulo-mtshato yinto enkulu kakhulu, kwaye zininzi izinto eziza kumgcina emtshatweni, nokuba angonwabi kangakanani ukuba ukuyo.
Ungawakholelwa amazwi akhe, xa izenzo zakhe zizonke ezibala apha. Xa uthandana nendoda etshatileyo, kunokuba nzima ukukhumbula - kodwa kufuneka.
7. Mhlawumbi uyonwabele imincili, intwana nje.
Oku kunokuba yinto ekunzima ukuyivuma kuwe, kodwa obu bubudlelwane obunobungozi, kwaye oko kunokuba yinto entle.
Kuya kufuneka uvume ukuba kunokubakho inxenye yakho efumana ukukhaba kwimbono yokuba nesondo. Kwaye kunjalo kwimeko yakhe.
Oku akunakuba yinyani kuwe konke konke, kodwa ukuba kunjalo, khumbula ukuba ukuba angashiya umfazi wakhe, wonke loo mngcipheko uza kuwa.
Ulwalamano lwakho luya kutshintsha ngaphaya kokuqonda konke, kwaye kuya kufuneka ujongane nemiceli mngeni yokufumana kwakhe uqhawulo mtshato.
Ngequbuliso ungaqala ukuhlala imihla ngemihla yemihla ngemihla kunye, endaweni yokuhlutha nje iminqweno, kwaye ngequbuliso angangabonakali enomtsalane.
8. Ukuba kukho abantwana ababandakanyekayo, udlala ngomlilo.
Ukuba indoda etshatileyo uthandana inabantwana nenkosikazi yayo, uzifake kwimeko enzima ngendlela emangalisayo.
Ukuba angashiya umfazi wakhe ngenxa yakho, oko kuya kuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakhe nabantwana bakhe.
Ukuba bayazi ukuba utata wabo umshiyele umama wakho ngenxa yakho, akunakulindeleka ukuba bakufudumale, nto leyo ingadala ukungavisisani phakathi kwakho naye.
9. Iingxaki zakhe zomtshato azikho kuye zonke.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, wayenokutshata nomntu abulawe naye nje ayihambelani . Kodwa ukuba akunjalo, iingxaki emtshatweni wakhe azikho kuye zonke.
Unokuba nemicimbi, okanye indlela ethile kubudlelwane obunzulu obunokubangela iingxaki phakathi kwenu nobabini niqhubeke emgceni.
Musa ukuzenza umntwana ukuba kuya kwahluka kuwe.
10. Ungowethutyana.
Kunzima ukuyamkela le nto, kodwa nokuba uyakuthanda kangakanani na ngoku kwaye kungabonakala ngathi uyakuthanda, yinto nje yexesha ngaphambi kokuba uqale ube yingxaki, kwaye uyakhathala ngawe.
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Ukuba ixesha lokuba kunye kunomdla wokuqalisa, kodwa kungekudala kuya kuba nzima.
Umcimbi uthatha ixesha kunye nephupha elibi lokulungiselela, kwaye nje ukuba ukonwaba kwenqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano lwakho kuphelile, uya kudinwa kwangoko.
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Ndiqinisekile ukuba ezinye zazo kwakunzima ukuzifunda, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubudinga ukukuva.
Kwaye ngoku, kufuneka ujonge kwikamva kwaye ufumanise ukuba uza kwenza ntoni.
Nangona ungathandana nale ndoda itshatileyo ngoku, zikho iindlela zokuzikhupha kule meko.
1. Mlahle.
Ndiyazi, ndiyazi. Le ndlela ilula kakhulu, kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba uyivile amaxesha asisigidi, ngakumbi kubahlobo bakho abasenyongweni nakubo bonke abantu abakuthandayo… ukuba ubuye wabaxelela.
Kodwa kuya kufuneka ujonge ngononophelo olukhulu ukuba ingaba obu budlelwane bukubonelela ngayo nantoni na elungileyo, okanye lixesha lokusika intambo ngokupheleleyo.
Ngaphezulu kwako konke, yiba nobubele kuwe, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uyavuma xa ubudlelwane kunye nendoda etshatileyo iqala ukukwenzakalisa.
2. Dibana namanye amadoda.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuzizisela ukwahlukana naye, ke ubuncinci uvule ukhetho lwakho.
Yiya kwimihla namanye amadoda. Ukudlala ngothando naloo mntu ushushu emsebenzini. Zama ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi. Ukhululekile ngokupheleleyo ukuba ungabona abanye abantu.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, nina nobabini anikhethi bodwa. Usalele nomfazi wakhe, nokuba angathini.
Ukubona abanye abafana kunokukukhumbuza ukuba zininzi iintlanzi elwandle, ukuze xa iphela, phantse ngokuqinisekileyo, iphele, awuyi kukhala kwi-ice cream yakho, uqinisekile ukuba awusoze ufumane omnye umntu.
3. Zibambe izinto.
Ukuba le ndoda etshatileyo ikuxelele ukuba izakushiya umfazi wayo, kulungile. Ndingothuka ukuba iyenzeka nyani, kodwa ke, ndingubani ukuba ndigwebe iimeko zakho zobuqu.
Kodwa sukuhlala umbona kwaye ulele naye okwangoku, ngeli xesha uqhubeka efumana izizathu zokungayenzi namhlanje, kule veki, kule nyanga, okanye nakulo unyaka.
Mxelele ukuba awucingi ukuba kufuneka uqhubeke ubonana ngokuthandana ade aphelise izinto kunye nenkosikazi yakhe.
Kungekudala kuya kucaca ukuba ingaba unazo na iinjongo zokushiya, okanye lixesha lokuba uqhubeke.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye / okanye ubudlelwane onabo nale ndoda itshatileyo?Akusiyo imeko elula ukuba kuyo kwaye kunokuba nzima ngakumbi xa ungenamntu oza kuthetha naye. Nokuba uyayenza, banokungathathi cala. Kulapho umcebisi wolwalamano anokungena khona kwaye abe yindlebe yokumamela kunye nelizwi lokubonelela ngengcebiso eqwalaselwe kakuhle.Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumanise ukuba ikamva likuphatheleni ulwalamano lwakho. Ngokulula.
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