Ukuthandana yinto abantu abaninzi abayifunayo kubudlelwane, kodwa kunokuba nzima nakwabanye.
Nokuba ininzi kakhulu okanye ayonelanga, ukubonisa kunye nokufuna uthando kunokubangela ukungqubana nkqu nakwezona ziqinisekileyo zobudlelwane.
Kweli nqaku, siza kuphonononga ezinye zeendlela onokuthi ngazo ubonise uthando kwiqabane lakho kunye nokufumana kubo.
Kodwa kuqala…
Yintoni uthando?
Kwinxalenye enkulu, uthando lubonisa umntu omkhathaleleyo ngokudibana, njengokuwolana, ukubambana ngezandla kunye nokwanga.
Iyakwazi ukusuka kwimpawu ezincinci ukuya kwiimbonakalo ezinkulu. Ukuthandana kwahlukile kulwalamano ngalunye, kwaye sonke sinolindelo olwahlukileyo kwinto esiyifunayo noko sonwabileyo ukuyinikela.
Nokuba ungumntu ozithembileyo ngokubanzi, ukubonisa uthando kunokuziva ngathi kukutsiba okukhulu! Oku kuqhelekile, kuba lonke ulwalamano luhlukile.
Into onokuthi ukhululeke ukuyenza kunye nabahlobo abasenyongweni (ukuwola, umzekelo) unokuziva usoyikeka kakhulu kwiqabane lakho elitsha.
Iingcebiso ezi-6 zokubonisa umsa kubudlelwane
Iqabane lakho linokufuna ukuba ubabonise uthando ngakumbi kwaye ungangonwabi kwaphela.
Zixelele ukuba oku kulungile kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo!
Asinguye wonke umntu oziva ngendlela efanayo malunga nokubonisa uthando, ngoko ke akufuneki uzive unetyala ukuba ayisiyiyo into oyifuna ngokukodwa okanye oyithandayo.
Nxibelelana neqabane lakho malunga nokuba kutheni uzibamba okanye kutheni ungafuni ukuba nolwalamano olusondeleyo nabo ngale ndlela.
Siza kudlula kwiingcebiso eziza kuninceda nobabini nifumane inqanaba lothando enikhululekile kulo.
Zikhumbuze ukuba uthando lumalunga nokubonisa uthando nenkathalo- yinto ekufuneka uyonwabele kwaye uyixabise, hayi into ekufuneka ibangele uxinzelelo olukhulu.
Nobabini niyakufumana indawo enizithobileyo nayo ngokunika kunye nokwamkela uthando, kuya kuthatha ixesha.
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1. Hlonipha imida- eyakho neyabo.
Xa uvavanya amanqanaba amatsha othando kunye neqabane, nokuba ubudlelwane obutsha okanye benikunye kunye okwethutyana, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule imida .
Nantoni na ekwenza ukuba uzive ungonwabanga kufuneka ibe yiyo iphathwe ngentlonipho , okuthetha ukungatyhalani okanye ukwenza izinto zivakalelwe njengesoyikiso.
Nangona kunjalo ungafuna ukuba iqabane lakho likubonise uthando ngakumbi, ngekhe ubenze bazive ngathi kufuneka bayenze 'okanye ...'
Uthando aluyiyo into yokuxoxisana okanye ibango oyenzayo kumntu, kukubonakalisa uthando kunye nokunyamekela.
Amanqanaba anzulu othando avela ngokwazi umntu ngokwenene. Oku kuthetha ukuqonda ixesha labo elidlulileyo kunye nokwazi nakuphi na ukwenzakala okanye iintlungu abadlule kuzo namaqabane adlulileyo okanye abantu.
Zama ukukhumbula ukuba ezi zinto zithatha ixesha kwabanye abantu, kwaye awungekhe ungxamele ukuphiliswa komnye umntu.
Ukuba iqabane lakho ligodle ezi zizathu, zikhumbuze ukuba ayisiyiyo eyakho kwaye indlela oziphethe ngayo ayinakulindeleka ukuba itshintshe eyabo ngaphandle kokwenza uhlengahlengiso.
Ngendlela efanayo, akufuneki uzive ngokungathi ufuna ukuzinyanzela kulwalamano lothando ngakumbi.
Iimuvi eziza kukwenza ucinge ngobomi
Ukuba ukhe wehlelwa yinto ebuhlungu, kufuneka uzinike ixesha ngaphambi kokuba ungxamele ukubonisa uthando ngakumbi.
2. Yenza ixesha lesibini.
Cwangcisa iintsuku apho ungaphezulu 'kokubhangqa' - ukungena kolu hlobo lweemvakalelo kukunceda ukuba ukhulise ingqondo ejolise ngakumbi kunye nokusondelelana.
Cwangcisa izinto ezintle zokwenza kunye ezinokukunceda uzive ukhululekile kunye kunye nokuba nomdla wokuba kunye.
Ukuququzelela ubusuku bemini yinto ehlala iphela xa sele sikubudlelwane, njengoko kubonisa uthando. Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nithatha isigqibo sokuba nibe nenxaxheba omnye komnye, uthando luya kulandela.
Yenza ukuzibophelela kubusuku obunye bomhla ngeveki okanye ezimbini, kuxhomekeke kwiishedyuli zakho.
Qiniseka ukuba nobabini niyayiqonda into yokuba le yinto ekufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo-ukuba omnye wenu kufuneka arhoxise, kufanele ukuba kube kunesizathu esivakalayo.
Inxalenye enkulu yokuvulela umntu ukuthembela, kwaye olu hlobo lokuzibophelela luya kuninceda nobabini nisebenze ukuthembana ngakumbi , nokuba sele ninethuba elingakanani nikunye.
Ixesha lesibini linokuba yiyo nantoni na oyithandayo, ukuba nje yinto eniyonwabelayo nobabini.
Eminye imihla imalunga nokwenza into ethandwa liqabane lakho nokuba awuyonwabeli, kuba ufuna ukubonisa ukuba uyakhathala….
Sisiphi isihloko esifanelekileyo ukuthetha ngaso
KODWA… ezi imihla kufuneka ibe yinto kuwe Zombini ukonwabele ukwenza - kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nobabini nizive nikhululekile omnye komnye, njengoko kunokwenzeka ukuba nivule kwaye iqabane lakho liya kukulungela ngakumbi ukwamkela uthando ngakumbi.
Thatha ixesha lokucwangcisa ezi ntlobo zemihla. Sukuya ngqo ngqo kukhetho olulula njengokutya kunye nemovie (ngaphandle kokuba yile nto niyonwabela nobabini).
Ngokwenza isiko lemihla, nobabini niya kuba nexesha lokufumana ulonwabo kwaye nijonge phambili kubo.
Oku kuthetha ukuba uya kuba 'nesiganeko' esifanelekileyo sokudlulela phambili, kwaye nobabini niqale ukulindela kunye nokwabelana ngothando ngakumbi omnye nomnye. Siza kungena kwizithethe nakwiinkqubo ezithe vetshe kamva…
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3. Joke ujikeleze.
Ukudlala ngakumbi kunye kuya kukunceda ukhululeke ngakumbi ngokubamba kunye nokuba kufutshane.
Oku kunxibelelana nokuthembela, nako-ukuba unokuvula kwaye ube sisidenge nomntu, uthembele kubo nakumandla olwalamano lwakho. Oku kuthetha ukuba wena neqabane lakho niza kuziva nikhululekile xa ninonke, nto leyo eya kuthi ngokwendalo ikhuthaze uthando ngakumbi kuni nobabini.
Ngelixa besithetha ngokuthatha izinto nzulu kunye nokwenza ukuzibophelela, kukwakho nexesha lokuyeka kwaye wonwabe.
Ngokuzivumela uphumle ngokwenyani omnye komnye, umoya uya kuba lula. Izinto ezikhululekileyo nezineentliziyo ezilula, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba nobabini nifuna ukufikelela kwaye nibambe izandla okanye nidlale nibabethe ngengalo (kancinci!).
Ukugqobhoza ngobumnene kunye nokuhlekisa kunokwenyusa imood ngokunjalo, kwenza izinto zive ngathi zi-flirty nokuba benikunye kunye iminyaka.
Ukubandakanya iqabane lakho ngale ndlela kukunyusa okukhulu kubo ngokunjalo - kokukhona beqinisekile ukuba baziva 'ngemivuzo' yokuqwalaselwa kwakho, kokukhona benokunika uthando.
Oku kuya kukwenza uzive umkhulu - awubuzisi ngokwabo uthando lwabo, ke uziva ngathi uyancoma kunokuba uphendule kwiimfuno zakho.
Zikhumbuze ngale nto! Kuya kukunceda uzive uzithemba ngakumbi kwixa elizayo xa ufuna ukubonisa iqabane lakho uthando kunye nokuhoya, kwaye xa ufuna ukubuya.
Hlala udlala kwaye uza kuqala ukuba ngumkhwa ngakumbi. Ukusondela emzimbeni womntu kunokukunceda ungene kwiimvakalelo nakwiingcinga zakhe.
Izinto ezilula njengokudlala i-footsie phantsi kwetafile yesidlo sangokuhlwa zingenza umohluko omkhulu. Olu hlobo lwento lufihlakele kakuhle, lulungile xa iqabane lakho lingayithandi imiboniso yoluntu yothando okanye lihlazekile okanye lihlazekile.
uthini umzekelo wokusebenza ngokuzimisela nempilo yakho?
Kananjalo nokuba ubuqhetseba kuye wonke umntu, ithumela umyalezo ocacileyo kwiqabane lakho ukuba ukhona, kunye nabo, kwaye ufuna ukusondela kubo.
Kwakhona, ukwenza oku ngendlela ehlekisayo kuyanceda ukuthatha uxinzelelo kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba baphumle, bonwabele kwaye bafuna ukukubonisa uthando.
4. Yibeke ngamagama.
Uthando alusoloko ludinga ukuba lolwasemzimbeni - imisebenzi yokuthetha iyabukeka kakuhle ecaleni kokuthamba kunye nokubambana ngezandla.
Ukuthetha ngendlela oziva ngayo kwaye kutheni ulithanda kangaka iqabane lakho yindlela entle yokuqinisa yonke into oyenzayo ngokuzibandakanya ngokwasemzimbeni.
Ngokwenza oku, uya kunika iqabane lakho ukuzithemba. Ukuba benikunye ixesha elide, nobabini (ngethemba) niyazi ukuba niyathandana kwaye niyathandana, kodwa nobabini nidinga ukukhunjuzwa rhoqo.
Qinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho liyazi ukuba unabo njengenxalenye ukhetho olusebenzayo -Uthanda ngokuchitha ixesha kunye nabo kwaye uyakonwabela ukuba phakathi kwabo.
Ukubaxelela oku nokubakhumbuza ukuba usatsala kubo kuya kwenza umahluko omkhulu kumanqanaba othando kubudlelwane bakho.
Ngokuzithemba kwenu nobabini, kuni nakubudlelwane, kokukhona nobabini niyakubonisa uthando kwaye niqwalasele.
5. Zigcine zintofontofo ngokungaguquguquki.
Siyichukumisile le ngaphambili, kodwa yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ekufuneka ikhunjulwe…
Okukhona uqhubeka nezi zenzo, kokukhona izinto ziya kukhululeka kwaye zive ziqhelekile.
Ukuphuhlisa amagama okanye amabinzana anxulumene nezenzo ezithile, umz. esithi 'Ndiyakuthanda' iya kuhlala ikhokelela ekuwangeni ukuba uyenza isamente loo nto. Iqabane lakho liza kuqala ukulindela, lilindele, kwaye ndifuna ukwanga xa besiva ubaxelela ukuba uyabathanda.
Baya kuqala ukudibanisa konke oku kunye neemvakalelo ezifudumeleyo, ezonwabileyo kwaye kuya kuziva ngathi yinto eqhelekileyo ekhuselekileyo.
Okukhona usenza oku, kokukhona baya kukhululeka ngakumbi xa ubabamba kwaye ubanga. Iya kufikelela kwinqanaba apho kulindelwe le ndlela yokuziphatha, emva koko ukuya kwinqanaba apho ifunwa khona.
Nje ukuba baqhele ukuboniswa uthando nguwe, baya kufuna ngaphezulu! Unokuthi 'Ndiyakuthanda' kwaye ulinde - baya kuba bekulungele ukuwolwa, ngoko ke, xa unganikeli ngokukhawuleza, baya kwenza intshukumo yokwamkela.
Baza kuziva ngathi bahamba nje nesiqhelo enisenze nobabini, kodwa baya kuthatha inxaxheba ebonakalayo ekuboniseni uthando ngakumbi.
Okukhona ubavumela beze kuwe, kokukhona beya kukhululeka ngakumbi kwaye kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba bazenzele ngokwabo.
Yenza kucace ukuba uyayithanda xa besondela kuwe kuqala, ngakumbi ukuba abaqhelekanga ukwenza oko ngoku.
Bayakonwabela ukwazi ukuba bakwenza uzive ulungile kwaye baya kuziva bonwabile ukuyenza njengoko sele iyinxalenye yenkqubo ekhuselekileyo, esekwe.
ungaxela njani ukuba unomdla
6. Nxibelelana kwaye uthembeke.
Musa ukuhlazisa iqabane lakho okanye ubenze bazive benetyala, kodwa zive ukhululekile ukubazisa ukuba uziva njani.
Kungenzeka ukuba ufuna uthando ngakumbi kuba uziva ungazithembanga, okanye unexesha elinzima kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakho.
Kungenzeka ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukubonisa uthando lwakho kumntu kwaye ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba bayaphendula kwaye bayabuyisela.
Yivulele ingxelo!
Ayisiyiyo nje ukuba uxelele iqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ntoni, kodwa uqiniseke ukuba nabo baziva bekhululekile.
Abalingani bahlala befunda kakubi iimpawu, ke qiniseka ukuba ukwiphepha elinye ngokuthetha ngezinto. Eli nqanaba lokuthetha akufuneki lihlale ngonaphakade, ke nabuphi na ubuzaza bokuqala onokuthi ube nabo yinto nje yexeshana.
Ngokudibanisa onke la manyathelo angentla, ungaqala ngenene ukwenza inkqubela phambili ngokunika kunye nokufumana uthando ngakumbi kubudlelwane bakho.
Ubudlelwane bumalunga nokuthembana, ukuthembeka, nemfesane, kwaye yonke into esiyinikileyo apha inxibelelana nokubuyela kwezo zihloko ziphambili.
Ncedanani omnye nomnye bazive bekhululekile kwaye bezithembile kuni kunye nakwintsebenziswano yenu.
Khumbula ukuzazi kwaye ujonge kwinto oyifunayo kwaye kutheni uyifuna, kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuqonda okwenzekayo.
Yenza ixesha lokuba kunye ngeendlela ezintsha kunye nokuzibandakanya ngokupheleleyo, ngaphandle kweziphazamiso okanye uxinzelelo-ngabantu ababini kuphela, bathandana ngokupheleleyo.
Okukhona unokuziqhelanisa nalolu hlobo lokuziphatha, kokukhona uya kuvuleleka ngakumbi, kokukhona uya ushukuma uthando, inkathalo kunye nemfesane.
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