Uthando lunokutshintsha umhlaba wakho, kodwa ngaba kufanele uluvumele ukuba lutshintshe umntu onguye?
Xa usengxakini yokuthanda, unokuziva ngathi ungamenzela nantoni na umntu omthandayo. Kwaye ungayenza ngoncumo ebusweni bakho.
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Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukutshintsha-okanye ukuzama ukutshintsha-ungubani awuyi kupela nto ngaphandle kwengxaki ukuba utshintsho aluchanekanga kwaye luyindalo.
Xa u ukuthandana nomntu , kusenokwenzeka ukuba babe ngulo mntu uchitha ixesha lakho elininzi kunye naye.
Kwaye ukusoloko sithatha ulwazi kwaye sijonga indlela yokuziphatha kwabo basingqongileyo, iqabane lakho liza kuba nefuthe kumlinganiswa wakho kunye nemikhwa yakho, nokuba uyazi okanye awuyazi.
Yinto entle ukufunda kumthandi. Ukuba banokwazisa ngezimvo ezintsha, iikhonsepthi, kunye namava, ubudlelwane bakho buya kuba sisityebi.
Ukuyekelela kukwayinxalenye enkulu yobudlelwane, kuba akukho bantu babini baya kuba nakho ukubambelela ngaphandle komthungo kubomi babanye ngaphandle kwabo bobabini. ukwenza indawo encinci .
Nangona kunjalo, awunakukunyanzela ukuba utshintshe, kwaye kufuneka uqwalasele ukuba ngaba naluphi na utshintsho olwenzayo luya kuba lolulungileyo kuni nobabini emva kokuba intsholongwane yokuqala yothando iphelile.
Kuya kufuneka ubuze nokuba uyazenza na iinguqulelo kuba ufuna ukwenzelana ulwalamano lwakho okanye uzifumene unyanzelwa liqabane lakho.
Lonke ulwalamano luhlukile, kodwa kuluncedo kakhulu kulwalamano lwakho ukuba ucinge ukuba utshintsho olwenzayo kuwe lusempilweni okanye alunampilo.
Utshintsho luyinto entle xa…
1. Uba ngumntu 'ongcono'.
Ingcamango yomntu wonke yintoni eyenza umntu 'olungileyo' ahluke, kodwa ukuba uyatshintsha ukuze ube ngumntu oqondayo, owamkelayo, onothando, okanye onomdla, oko kuhlala kulungile.
Xa sithandana nomntu, sizama ngokwenyani ukuba ngumntu ongcono. Sifuna ukuba lelona qabane libalaseleyo sinokuba lilo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uthando luninzi malunga nokupha kanye nokwamkela.
2. Uyayandisa imida yakho.
Ukuba iqabane lakho likwazisa kwihlabathi elitsha elithetha ukuba wandise ulwazi lwakho kwaye utyhalele imida yendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela-ngokuzama izinto ezintsha okanye ukuya kwiindawo ezintsha-kunokuba luncedo kuwe.
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Ukutshintsha izimvo zakho kwezopolitiko okanye iilensi ozibona zigqitha emhlabeni, okanye ukufunda malunga nentshukumo elungileyo abanomdla kuyo, njengobufazi okanye i-veganism, nayo inokuba yinto entle.
Qiniseka nje ukuba awushiye ngasemva iminqweno okanye oonobangela abasondeleyo entliziyweni yakho ngokuthanda izinto ezikhazimlayo nezintsha, ngaphandle kokuba umdla wakho kubo uyinyani.
3. Utshintsho olo alubalulekanga okanye lusengqiqweni.
Kukho uluhlu olubanzi lweenguqu ezenziwa ngabantu xa bekwi ubudlelwane, ezinye zazo azikho apha naphaya, kwaye ezinye zintle kakhulu.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungabilozi izinto ezincinci. Ukuba iqabane lakho lingathanda ukuba ulahle impahla ethile okanye uchebe iinwele, kwaye akunamsebenzi kuwe nokuba yeyiphi na indlela kodwa uyazi ukuba kubalulekile kubo, emva koko yenze.
Utshintsho oluncinci aluthethi ukuba ungcatsha umntu onguye. Ukungakhulisi iindevu ngokwenene akufuneki kube yinto enkulu enjalo.
Ngendlela efanayo, kuya kubakho izinto ezithile kuya kufuneka ulalanise kuzo ukuze ulwalamano lwakho lusebenze.
Ngelixa unokufumana umntu osondeleyo ukugqibelela, akukho mntu ugqibelele ngokwenene. Kuya kufuneka ukuba ukulungele ukuziqhelanisa ukuze usebenze nomntu omangalisayo.
Kukho umahluko phakathi kokuziguqula njengomntu kuba ufuna umntu akuthande kwaye atshintshe izinto ezincinci ngawe kuba ufuna izinto zisebenze nomntu osele ekuthanda ngenxa yento oyiyo.
Ukuba unayo nayiphi na imikhwa emibi, umzekelo, njengokufika kade okanye ukungabi nalwazi, okanye nokuba uyinqaba ecocekileyo iyonke, kusengqiqweni ngokupheleleyo ukuba iqabane lakho lilindele ukuba wenze umgudu wokusebenza kwezo zinto.
4. Uba sempilweni.
Amaxesha amaninzi kuxa umntu ade abe yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bethu apho siqala khona ukuqonda ukuba kufuneka sizikhathalele.
Ukuthanda umntu kuthetha ukuba sifuna ukubanika okona kulungileyo, kwaye impilo enkenenkene inokubachaphazela. Ke ukuba iqabane lakho likukhuthaza ukuba uyeke ukutshaya, qala ukuzilolonga ngakumbi, okanye utye ukutya okungcono, jonga oku njengokuhle.
5. Utshintsha indlela odibana ngayo nengxabano.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba nobabini anifani ngendlela enisondela ngayo kwiingxoxo, yinto ekufuneka niyilungele ukusombulula leyo.
Ukuba omnye wenu uthintela ungquzulwano ngandlela zonke kwaye omnye ufuna ukuntywila ngqo kwaye uchanekile, kuya kufuneka ukuba nibone ukuba ninokuziqhelanisa njani nobabini ukuze niqiniseke ukuba ningaxoxa ngokwahluka kwenu ngendlela esempilweni.
Utshintsho aluhambi xa…
1. Uyabacaphukela ngenxa yoko, okanye ngekamva elizayo.
Konke kulungile kwaye kuhle ukutshintsha indlela oyiyo ngomntu okwangoku, xa iihormone zisenza ukuba olo tshintsho lubonakale njengeyona nto yendalo emhlabeni kuba uthandana kakhulu.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ukhukuliswe ngumtsalane weemvakalelo, cinga ukuba uya kuhlala wonwabile ngezigqibo ozenzayo ngoku kwiinyanga ezimbalwa okanye iminyaka usezantsi.
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Inzondo inokupela isiphelo salo naluphi na ulwalamano, ke sukuyibeka isiseko. Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba uhlale unyanisekile kubani ukususela ngomhla wokuqala.
2. uphantsi koxinzelelo.
Ukuba uza kutshintshela umntu omthandayo, kufanele ukuba sisigqibo sakho ngokupheleleyo, kwaye kufuneka usazi, kwaye usenze ngezizathu ezifanelekileyo.
Akufanelekanga ukuba uyayenza kuba uziva ngathi ufuna ukutshintsha izinto ezisisiseko ngawe ukuze ufumane uthando lomntu.
Uyamangalisa ngale ndlela uyiyo, kwaye nabani na onobudlelwane naye kufuneka akuthande ngaloo ndlela. Ngelixa ukuyekethisa kubalulekile, uthando akufuneki lube yinto ekufuneka uyifumene ngokuzibumba ube ngumthandi wamaphupha weqabane lakho.
Nokuba iqabane lakho likucinezela ngokungafihlisiyo ukuba utshintshe okanye lenze oko ngokulahla iingcebiso ezincinci, akusempilweni.
Unguwe, kwaye ngeli lixa uyakuhlala ukhula kwaye utshintsha ebomini bakho, awunakuze wenziwe uzive ngathi awufanelwanga luthando njengawe.
3. Yinto ngokupheleleyo icala elinye .
Kuqhelekile ukuba elinye iqela liphele ngokwenza utshintsho ngakumbi kunelinye - umzekelo, ukuhambela ubudlelwane - kodwa ukuba kunjalo konke umntu omnye ke kulapho iba malunga.
Nobabini kufuneka nikulungele ukutshintsha kunye nokulalanisa ukuze nenze ubudlelwane benu busebenze.
4. Ubatyeshele abanye abantu ababalulekileyo ebomini bakho.
Ukutshintsha kwinqanaba lokuba uyeke ukuchitha ixesha nabanye abantu obathandayo ayingombono mhle olo.
Ngelixa unethamsanqa, usapho lwakho luya kuhlala lukhona, izihlobo zakho zisenokungathathi ngobubele ukulahlwa ngenxa yento ebalulekileyo, ngakumbi ukuba ulindele ukuba babekhona belindile ubudlelwane buze buphele .
Kuya kufuneka usoloko uqinisekisa ukuba unobomi bakho ngaphandle kobudlelwane bakho kwaye uchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye nabahlobo bakho. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uthando lomntu ongathandani naye alunakuhlala lukho ngonaphakade, kodwa umhlobo olungileyo uya kuba nomqolo kude kube ngumhla wokufa kwakho.
Zilungiselele ukulalanisa.
Ukuze wenze ubudlelwane busebenze, kuya kufuneka ulalanise. Ayinakuphepheka. Ukwazi ukulalanisa kwizinto ezincinci- kwaye ngamanye amaxesha izinto ezinkulu- ngelixa uhlala unyanisekile kuwe kubalulekile kwimpumelelo yobudlelwane.
Ukuba ujonga izinto ezingabalulekanga njengokungcatsha ingqibelelo yakho, ubudlelwane bakho abunakufikelela kude. Kodwa ukuba uyazivumela ukuba ulahleke kulwalamano okanye unikezele ivili lokuqhuba ebomini bakho kwiqabane lakho, inzondo iyakhula.
Konke malunga nokufumana loo ndawo ulungele kuyo kwaye ukulungele ukutshintsha… kunene izizathu.
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