Phambi kokuba singene ekubeni yintombi enkulu, sifuna ukuyenza icace into yokuba akufuneki ukuba uzibeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kuwe!
Nabani onaye uyakuthanda ukuba ungubani…
… Khumbula oko.
Ezi zezinye zeengcebiso ezijolise ekubeni liqabane elinothando nelinenkathalo ezenzeka nje ukuba zisebenzise kwabasetyhini.
Akukho nto igqibeleleyo, kodwa ezi zezona ziphakamiso zethu ziphambili ze-10 zendlela yokuba yintombazana elungileyo.
1. Yiba Nguwe
Isithandwa sakho sikhethe ukuba kunye nawe ngaphandle kwezigidigidi zabantu kule planethi, ke ngokucacileyo wenza into elungileyo!
Ukuba usemabandleni okuqala obudlelwane bakho kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ungangumhlobo olungileyo kanjani, khumbula ukuba ngokwakho unjalo kakhulu ibalulekile.
Ungazama konke okuthandayo ukuba ngohlobo olwahlukileyo, 'olungcono' ngokwakho, kodwa, ngaxa lithile, uya kudinwa ngokuzenzisa.
Qiniseka ukuba wena ngokwakho kwiintsuku zokuqala ukuze azi ukuba ungubani kanye kanye - uyakuthanda ngenxa yoko kwaye akuyi kufuneka ukuba uchithe amandla ngokufaka isenzo!
Akukho sizathu sokuzama ukufumana umfana ibasemathandweni kunye 'nombono' wakho ngaphandle kokuba unokulandela.
2. Mbonise ukuba uyakhathala
Kubonakala ngathi kukho ukungaqondi okuqinisekileyo ukuba abafana abayithandi i-PDAs (ukubonisa esidlangalaleni uthando!) Okanye izijekulo zothando.
ungamxelela njani umhlobo wakho ukuba uyamthanda
Ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba bubuxoki obupheleleyo!
Andizange ndibone umntu onwabile kunakuqala Mna ukhethe ukumangaza isithandwa sam ngeentyatyambo.
Wayengazange abenomntu omthengela ngaphambili kwaye kwakuthetha lukhulu kuye ukuba ndifuna ukumenzela into entle.
I-Chivalry ihamba ngazo zombini iindlela, ke bonisa isithandwa sakho ukuba uyakhathala ngokwahlula iindleko, ukuthenga yena isidlo sangokuhlwa, kwaye wamothusa nge izijekulo ezimnandi zothando - hamba ngokuchasene neenkolelo zesini!
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nikhululekile ukuba 'coupley,' musa ukoyika ukuba nguwe oza kuyiqalisa.
Baninzi kakhulu abantu basetyhini abacinga ukuba mfo kufuneka ibe nguye oza kubanga okanye afikelelle isandla sabo…
… Kodwa ukuba nobabini kwiphepha elinye xa kufikwa kumba wolwalamano, musani ukoyika ukumbamba ngokumanga okanye ukubeka ingalo kuye!
Usenokumangaliswa ekuqaleni, kodwa siqinisekile ukuba uyayithanda.
Wonke umntu uthanda ukuziva ngathi umntu ahamba naye uyabatsala kwaye ufuna ukusondela kubo-kubandakanya amadoda.
3. Mnike iSithuba
Ke, ukubonisa inkathalo kunye nokwenza inzame kubaluleke kakhulu…
… Kodwa ke nokunika isithandwa sakho isithuba qho rhoqo!
Ukuphawulwa njengo ‘ abasweleyo ‘Yinto esiza kuyifumana thina bafazi, nokuba siziphatha ngale ndlela okanye akunjalo.
Kwiintsuku zokuqala zobudlelwane ngokukodwa, zama nje ukuba uqaphele ukuba ulindele kangakanani kwiqabane lakho.
Icandelo lokwenza isithandwa sakho sonwabe kubandakanya ukumnika indawo yakhe xa eyifuna.
Endaweni yokuba ucaphuke xa ethatha ixesha ukuphendula (unokuba uxakekile!) Okanye ufuna ukuba achithe nawe lonke ixesha lokuvuka, funda ukuthemba ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe ziyinyani kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuba akukhumbuze oko rhoqo.
Wonke umntu ufuna ixesha lakhe yedwa, nokuba umthanda kangakanani umntu ahamba naye.
Cwangcisa ixesha lokwahlukana kwaye ufumane iindlela zokuzalisa ngokwakho-zigcine uxakekile usenza into eyonwabisayo ukuze ungahlali nje ekhaya umlahle kwaye ube nexhala lokuba ubenexesha elingcono ngaphandle kwakho!
Ndithembe, ixesha lokuhlukana liya kuba likhulu kuni nobabini, kwaye kuyakuba mnandi kakhulu ukubonana kwakhona emva kwexesha elithile ngokwakho.
4. Bonisa Umdla
Asitsho ukuba ngequbuliso kufuneka ufumane iqela lebhola ekhatywayo elizokuxhasa (okanye ezinye iingcebiso zesini eziza kukuxelela ukuba ulandele iimagazini), nokuba ungazenza umntu ongeyiyo ...
… Kodwa ukubonisa umdla kwizinto ozithandayo kwisoka lakho kubalulekile.
Kanye njengokuba ufuna ukuba abandakanyeke kubomi bakho (ngakumbi emva koko!), Kuyakuthetha lukhulu kuye ukuba wenza umgudu naye.
Usenokungafuni ukuya kubukela imovie afuna ukuyibona, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo apha yeyokuba ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye naye usenza into emonwabisa.
Ukwabonisa isoka lakho ukuba uluthatha nzulu ulwalamano lwakho- ngokutyala ixesha lakho kunye nomzamo kuye nakubomi bakhe, umazisa ukuba ubalulekile kuwe.
5. Yenza ixesha lakhe
Ngoku ukuba wenze iinzame zokungena kubomi bakhe, kufuneka umnike ithuba lokwenza okufanayo.
Mbandakanye kwizinto ozithandayo kwaye umkhuthaze ukuba achithe ixesha nabahlobo bakho.
Le yeyona ndlela intle kakhulu yokumazisa ukuba uthetha kangakanani kuwe- akukho mntu ufuna ukuziva ngathi umntu iqabane lakhe lineentloni kakhulu ngokuzazisa kubahlobo babo.
Mmeme xa uhamba ngokuya kusela izihlobo zakho kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uyambandakanya!
izihloko onokuthetha ngazo nomhlobo omtsha
Gcina iincoko ngokubanzi ukuqala ngazo ukuze azive ebandakanyekile.
Yinto eyoyikisayo ukuchitha ixesha nabantu abakwiqela ongeyonxalenye yalo kwaye ungabinakho ukujoyina iincoko zabo malunga nomntu ovela emsebenzini / kwikholeji.
Yenza ixesha kunye nendawo ebomini bakho kumfana wakho kwaye uya kuphelisa ukuziva uxabisekile kwaye uqinisekile ukuba wonwabile kwaye ukhululekile ukuba naye ebomini bakho.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Indlela yokwenza ukuba umntu azive ebalulekile, ukhethekileyo kwaye uyathandwa
- Iimpawu ze-12 zobudlelwane obuzibophelelayo (+ 6 izinto zithetha oko kuwe)
- Imidiya yokuncokola inokubuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane (+ indlela yokuyeka ukubenzakalisa)
- Uyichonga njani kwaye woyise uxinzelelo kubudlelwane
- Indlela yokwenza emva kokulwa kwaye uyeke ukuxambulisana kubudlelwane bakho
- Izinto ezi-7 zokuKhunjulwa ukuba awuzange ube kulwalamano okanye ukuthandana
6. Mamela unxibelelane
Ayisiwo amantombazana kuphela afuna ukumanyelwa, ngokuchasene neentsomi zenkcubeko.
Amadoda aneemvakalelo ezininzi ekufuneka ethethile ngazo, ke yiba yintombazana elungileyo ngokuhlala ulungele yena.
Khangela iindlela zonxibelelwano ukuba unengxaki ekuvuleleni ngezinto.
Musa ukukhathazeka xa kuthatha ixesha lokuba azive ekhululekile ukwabelana ngezinto ezininzi zeemvakalelo kunye nawe.
Unxibelelwano luhamba ngazo zombini iindlela, ke qiniseka ukuba uvulekile kwaye unyanisekile kwisoka lakho ukuba yile nto uyifunayo.
Musa ukunyanzela, kodwa yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuze ubekho xa ekufuna.
Okukhona ekhululekile ekuvuleleni, kokukhona ubuhlobo benu buya kuqina kwaye kokukhona ninako ukwazana .
7. Khumbula ukuba iTrasti ihamba zombini ezi ndlela
Njengonxibelelwano, ukuthembana kufuneka kube yinto eniyenzayo nobabini niyifumanayo.
Ukuba akukho kuthembana kubudlelwane, akukho nto iyinyani yokuqhubeka nokuhamba kwexesha.
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukumthemba.
Nangona, ukuba uye wazabalaza okanye waqhathwa kubudlelwane obudlulileyo, uvumelekile ukuba uzive ungakhuselekanga ngamanye amaxesha.
Thetha nesoka lakho ngale nto kwaye uyenze icace into yokuba uyazi ukuba akanguye umlingani wakho, kodwa ukuba ngoku unomdla wokuziva uxhalabile malunga nolo hlobo lwento.
Uya kuba nokuqonda kwaye unokusebenza ngeendlela zokukunceda uzive ukhuseleke ngakumbi.
Zikhumbuze ukuba ukunye nawe ngesizathu- inxenye yokuba yintombazana elungileyo uyabona ukuba sele ungomnye!
Ngokulinganayo, qiniseka ukuba isoka lakho liyazi ukuba linokuthemba.
Uninzi lwabasetyhini luzama 'ukuvavanya' amaqabane abo-bebenza babe nomona ukuze babone ukuba baqala ukwenza ngaphezulu komzamo okanye ukubalwela.
Oku kuhlala kuphela kakubi!
Akukho mntu ufuna ukutyhilwa kwimeko eyoyikisayo, ke yiba nengqondo kwaye uqole kwaye wenze ubudlelwane obufunayo ngokuwuhlonipha imida .
8. Zithande
Ukuzithemba akupheleli nje kokutsala ngokumangalisayo, kukwabaluleke kakhulu xa kufikwa ekubeni kubudlelwane.
Oku kunxibelelana nayo yonke into esele sithethile ngayo, kodwa yinto enkulu ngokwaneleyo yokuba yintombi enkulu ukuba ifanelwe ingcaciso yayo!
Ngokuzithanda, uyazivumela vula ngakumbi eluthandweni kwabanye abantu.
Zixelele ukuba uyamangalisa kwaye ufanelekile ukuthandwa kwaye uthando .
Uninzi lwethu lukufumanisa kunzima ukukholelwa ukuba umntu esinaye uyasithanda ngokwenene.
Ayibangelwa zizenzo zabo…
Kungenxa yokuba asizithandi, ngenxa yoko asinakuqonda ukuba kutheni omnye umntu enokuthi, okanye unakho thanda thina!
Gxila kuwe nakwisithandwa sakho ngokuzikhathalela, ukuchitha ixesha uwedwa, nokwenza izinto ezikonwabisa.
Thatha zonke iindlela ozibonisa ngazo isithandwa sakho ukuba uyasithanda (izipho ezintle, ukupheka ukutya okumnandi, ukonwabela iglasi yewayini ngomboniso bhanyabhanya) kwaye ubalathise ngokwakho.
ungaxelela njani ukuba usuku lokuqala luhamba kakuhle nomfana
Oku kuyakukunceda uzive ukhululekile kwaye uzithembile kwaye, ngenxa yoko, ubudlelwane bakho.
Okukhona ukhuselekile kwaye umthanda uzivumele uzive, ubuhlobo bakho buya komelela kwaye bonwabe ngakumbi kwisithandwa sakho.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yintoni umntu angafuni ukuzithemba, onothando umfazi wentombi?
9. Lamkele ixesha lokuphumla
Ubudlelwane bungaziva njengamathuba okwenza izinto ezininzi ezinomdla nezinomdla, kwaye zinjalo.
Mane ukhumbule ukuba kulula kakhulu ukubanjwa ngendlela emangalisa ngayo umntu xa ufumanisa imisebenzi emitsha kunye nabo ngalo lonke ixesha!
Ngubani ongekhe akonwabele ukuchitha ixesha nomntu xa unyuka amatye okanye unyuka intaba okanye useta i-jet ngalo lonke ixesha?
Kuhle ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lubandakanya olo hlobo lwento, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ezo mvakalelo ziqhubeke xa uhlala kunye ubusuku bonke, okanye uchitha iCawa elonqenayo kwivenkile yekofu.
Ukuba liqabane elilungileyo ayisiyiyo nje ukuba yimincili kwiimeko eziphambeneyo ngalo lonke ixesha kusenziwa umzamo kwixesha lokuphumla nalo.
Ungamthanda nabani na xa bekusinga eParis ngempelaveki, kodwa uthando lokwenene kunye nobudlelwane obomeleleyo bakhiwe ngexa lokuthula eliqhelekileyo ...
… Kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla ebhetele nje xa ukunye.
Yenza umgudu xa usenza into eqhelekileyo, 'uyadika' kwaye umntu othandana naye uyakuqonda ukuba uthanda kangakanani ukuba kunye nawe, hayi indlela athanda ngayo ukuba kunye naye ezinye inye (nabani na!) yamaxesha okonwaba.
10. Khetha amadabi akho
Oku kuyinyani ngalo lonke ulwalamano oya kuze ube nalo (ukuthandana, ubuhlobo, okanye nosapho) kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu xa kufikwa ekubeni yintombi elungileyo kunye nomntu ngokubanzi.
Sikholelwa ngokupheleleyo ekumeleni into ocinga ukuba ilungile kwaye ungalahli imigangatho yakho ngaphandle kwesizathu esivakalayo…
... kodwa Siyazi nokuba zonke izinto ezilungileyo zifuna ukulalanisa.
Ukuba kukho umba oqhubekayo kubudlelwane bakho ekucaphukisayo, yidlulise. Umntu onaye akufuneki abe ngumntu oqhubeka ekuhlisa phantsi.
Ngokulinganayo, funda ukuvumela ezinye izinto zityibilike!
Kukangaphi uxabene (encinci okanye enye) ngaphezulu kwento engenamsebenzi?
Inxalenye yokuba kwi ubudlelwane obuqolileyo nobusempilweni , Kwaye ekubeni yintombi elungileyo, ufumana iindlela zokujongana nezinto ezizayo.
Thatha inyathelo ubuye umva, buza ukuba unengqondo na kwaye ingaba umba lowo kufanelekile ukuba ube nengxoxo ngaphezulu.
Ukuba akunjalo, yiyeke iqhubeke!
Ingavakala ingumceli mngeni, kodwa iyakuba yinto entle kakhulu kuni nobabini.
Oku kuhamba ngeendlela zombini, kunjalo, ke ukuba umntu othandana naye uyakukhathaza ngezinto ezingabalulekanga, musa ukoyika ukucebisa ukuba nobabini nenze ulungelelwaniso okanye nithathe umoya kwaye niqhubeke nezinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi.
Njengokuba besesitshilo, akukho buhlobo bufanele ukukwenza tshintsha ubuntu bakho okanye imbonakalo , kodwa ezilungileyo zihlala zikuvulela amathuba okukhula komntu.
Zama nje ukonwaba kwaye ukhululeke kuwe kangangoko unako ukubonisa yena kunye nawe nothando kunye nengqwalaselo ekufaneleyo.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba uyintombazana elungileyo? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
