Ngaba ixesha liphelile kubudlelwane bakho?
Ngaba ingaphaya kokonga?
Ngaba wena neqabane lakho ninokuba ngcono xa nisahlukana ngeendlela?
Le yimibuzo abantu abaninzi abaya kuyibuza xa ubudlelwane buhlasela indawo ekrwada.
Ukukunceda uphendule le mibuzo, nantsi eminye imiqondiso ebonisa ukuba izinto azisebenzi.
Ngale ndlela, uya kwazi xa ubudlelwane bakho buphelile ngenene.
1. Uzamile ukulungisa iingxaki zakho.
Isikhundla ozifumana ukuso asifikanga ngesiquphe. Kudala usokola.
Ngapha koko, sele wehlile kwindlela yokuba nentliziyo enkulu-yokukhupha iimvakalelo zakho kunye nezikhalazo.
Mhlawumbi ukhe wazama nokucebisa ngobuhlobo.
Uyinike ixesha elaneleyo lokuba ezi zinto zisebenze, kodwa azenzanga.
Omnye okanye nobabini kubonakala ngathi abanakho ukutshintsha kwiindlela eziyimfuneko.
Olu luphawu olukhulu lokuba ubudlelwane bakho buphelile kuba ungaya phi enye into kwaye ungazama ntoni ukuba sele uzame yonke into?
2. Uziva ulilolo xa ukunye nabo.
Xa ukunye neqabane lakho, awuva buhlobo obunothando, obukhathalayo kwakhona.
Yinto eyahlukileyo: uziva ulilolo.
Nokuba nobabini kwigumbi elinye, ninokuba kumacala achasene neplanethi lonke unxibelelwano eninalo.
3. Awuthethi nyani.
Hayi intetho efanelekileyo, kunjalo.
Usenokuqhubeka nokuhamba ubuza ukuba injani imini yomnye nomnye, kodwa umamele iimpendulo.
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Awunayo inomdla omkhulu kwizinto ezenzeka ebomini babo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo awuthethi ngezinto ezinzulu, ezizimeleyo, ezibaluleke ngakumbi.
4. Uyekile ukwenza izinto 'zakho'.
Kudala-dala, niya kuhlala nisenza izinto ezithile kunye.
NgolwesiHlanu ebusuku kuya kuba yi-pizza kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya ngelixa uzisonge esofeni.
Ningaya kwiikonsathi kunye okanye nihambe imigama emide kwindalo.
Ezi zinto kudala zanyamalala kwisiqhelo sakho esiqhelekileyo.
Unokufuna abanye ukuba babenze nazo endaweni yoko.
5. Awubaphosi xa bengekho.
Zihambile iintsuku apho ubungacinga ngeqabane lakho nanini na nisahlukene.
Ngoku unokuchitha ngokulula impelaveki yonke kude nabo kwaye ungabanqumli engqondweni yakho kube kanye.
Awubaphosi nakanye. Ngapha koko, uziva uziva ukhululekile xa bengekho.
Ukuba uyabuza, 'ingaba ubudlelwane bam buphelile?' - lo ngumqondiso omkhulu ukuba mhlawumbi kunjalo.
6. Izinto ezincinci zihlala zikucaphukisa.
Sonke sinazo iimpazamo kunye nemikhwa emibi, kwaye sonke siyathanda ukwenza izinto ngendlela yethu ethile.
Xa ulwalamano lwakho lwalulungile, ezi zinto zazingakukhathazi ngokwenene. Usika iqabane lakho kancinci ngenxa yokuba ubusazi kakuhle iintsilelo zakho.
Kodwa ngoku sele beqale ukukucaphukisa.
Awunakuphinda ulibale isitya esimdaka esishiywe ecaleni, isandi abasenzayo xa behlafuna ukutya kwabo, okanye indlela abasoloko befika kade ngayo kwizinto.
7. Ujolisa kwiindawo zabo ezimbi.
Ayisiyonto icaphukisayo encinci ojolise kuyo - ufumanisa ukuba ucinga ngazo zonke iindawo zabo ezimbi rhoqo.
Ngapha koko, kunjalo kuphela amanqaku abo amabi okhe wacinga ngawo. Awusenamdla kumanqaku abo alungileyo.
Ngumqondiso wokuba ubudlelwane bakho buphelile ukuba uthathe ukubagxeka ngokungafihlisiyo xa besenza into engena phantsi kwesikhumba sakho, kuba awuziva ngathi uluma ulwimi lwakho.
8. Ulwa kakhulu.
Kukho umahluko omkhulu phakathi kokungavumelani kunye nengxabano, kwaye umahluko omkhulu ngakumbi phakathi kwengxabano kunye nokulwa.
Uninzi kakhulu kwinqanaba apho izinto zijika zibe yimfazwe egcweleyo rhoqo.
Uyasokola ukuba noluntu kunye kwaye ubhenele ekugxekeni nasekuhlaziseni njengezixhobo zokuhlasela.
Akukho nanye kwezi mfazwe eya kuthi isonjululwe ngokwenyani. Uxolo noxolelwaniso kunqabile.
9. Uyekile ukuphuma ngendlela yakho omnye komnye.
Kwakukho ixesha apho wawugoba ngasemva ubancede.
Akukho nto yayigqithile kulowo ubumthanda.
Wazi njani ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buphelile? Ngoku uziva unenzondo xa bekucela ukuba ubenzele into - nokuba incinci kangakanani.
10. Ubeka phambili abanye abantu.
Ubudlelwane obuphilileyo buhlala buthetha ukuba iqabane lakho yeyona nto iphambili kuwe.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, usenobomi bakho kunye nabanye abantu ababalulekileyo kubo, kodwa bayalunga kulwalamano lwakho.
Kodwa iitafile ngoku zijikile kwaye unenjongo yokubeka abanye abantu phambili.
Ukhetha ukubona abahlobo bakho okanye usapho ngeempelaveki kunokuba uchithe neqabane lakho.
11. Uyekile ukucinga ngekamva nabo.
Ibidla ngokuba yinto eniyibonayo kwikamva eliqaqambileyo kuni nobabini.
Kuxhomekeke kweliphi inqanaba lobomi bakho kunye nolwalamano owawukulo, elinokuthi libandakanye ukuhamba kunye, ukutshata ukuba nabantwana, ukuhamba, okanye enye into kwaphela.
Kodwa azikho iingcinga ezinjalo ezingena engqondweni yakho ngoku. Awunathemba ngekamva ekwabelwana ngalo.
12. Uqalile ukucinga ngekamva ngaphandle kwabo.
Uqale ukucinga ngento obuya kuyenza ubomi bakho ukuba iqabane lakho belingekho kuyo.
Uhlala ucinga ngezinto ezinokwenzeka zokwahlukana - ngubani oza kuphuma, ngubani oza kugcina inja, kwenzeka ntoni kuyo nayiphi na imali ekwabelwana ngayo?
Ke kukho amaphupha emini azo zonke izinto onokuzenza / onokuzenza xa ungatshatanga kwakhona.
Usenokude ucinge iqabane elitsha - akufuneki libekho nakubani na, kodwa luhlobo lolwalamano onqwenela ukuba nalo kwixa elizayo.
Ukuba ayingomqondiso wokuba ubudlelwane bakho buphelile, yintoni?
13. Awunakho ukuba ungqonge bona.
Xa ukunye neqabane lakho, kufana nokuba ungumntu owahluke ngokupheleleyo.
Uphulukana nokunxibelelana nesiqu sakho, ubuntu bakho, umntu owawunguye ekuqaleni kobudlelwane.
Ubambe uninzi lweemvakalelo zakho umva- uthintela uvuyo, uzibambe iinyembezi, kwaye upholise nakuphi na ukonwaba.
Uthetha kwaye wenze ngendlela eyahlukileyo xa iqabane lakho lingekho.
14. Abakwazi ukuba ngokwabo xa bekujikelezile.
Uye waqaphela nokuba batshintshe kangakanani ukusukela oko waqala ukudibana nabo.
Umntu owele kuye ufihliwe ngaphandle ngenxa yongquzulwano oluhlala lukhona phakathi kwenu.
Nobabini niziva nikwazi ukubonisa ukuba sesichengeni phambi komnye. Ingathi uphethe amakhaka kwaye unxibe iimaski ngalo lonke ixesha.
15. Ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kungabikho okanye kuyanyanzelwa.
Aninakuphathana kwezi ntsuku. Ukwanga kunqabile kwaye akubandakanyi uthando. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunqabile.
Okanye ukuba ulala ngesondo, uhamba ngokwenyani ngaphandle kokoneliseka ngokweemvakalelo.
Ulwalamano olusenyameni lwalo naluphi na uhlobo luziva lunyanzelekile, kwaye ungonwaba ngaphandle.
16 Awusabathembi.
Nokuba kukho naluphi na uhlobo lokungathembeki okanye hayi, ukuthembela kwakho kubo kuye kwaphela.
Kwaye okwangoku, awunamona. Awukhathali nokuba yeyiphi na indlela.
Ukuba babenomzimba okanye umcimbi weemvakalelo , ubungayi kuba lusizi kwaye usenokuyibona njengendlela elula yokuphuma kubudlelwane.
Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba ubudlelwane buphelile kwaye bungaphaya kokugcina, jonga ukophuka okupheleleyo kwintembeko.
17. Abahlobo bakho okanye usapho luthetha ngendlela ongonwabanga ngayo.
Mhlawumbi uthethile ngobude malunga nemeko yobudlelwane bakho, kodwa nangaphaya koku, abantu abakuthandayo nabakhathalelayo ngawe baqaphele indlela obonakala ngathi uphantsi ngayo.
Basenokuba bayikhankanyile kuwe, bebeka izimvo ngendlela ongabonakali ubonakala ngathi ungumntu wakho oqhelekileyo.
Aba bantu bayazi ngcono, ke kufanelekile ukuba ubamamele ukuba babonile umahluko kuwe.
Uziva uxhalabile, udandathekile, okanye unomsindo ngalo lonke ixesha.
Abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho balubonile utshintsho kuwe kuba ulwa nengxwabangxwaba yangaphakathi rhoqo.
Ulwalamano lwakho olusilelayo lukhokelele kuxinzelelo, iingcinga zokudakumba, ukuba nochuku, kunye nomsindo.
Kwaye oku akubonakali nje ekusebenzisaneni neqabane lakho, kodwa kuyo yonke into oyenzayo.
Ukuba uziva ubunzima bobudlelwane bukutsala, buphelile phakathi kwakho.
19. Awunakukwazi ukuvelana.
Ubudlelwane obusempilweni bubandakanya inkathalo nenkxalabo ngomnye umntu, kodwa akubonakali ngathi uyakwazi kule mihla.
Ukuba babuya ekhaya bevela emsebenzini kwaye bakhalaza malunga nomphathi wabo, uyasokola ukubona izinto ngokwembono yabo. Endaweni yoko, unokubaxelela ukuba bayasebenza.
Okanye awunakuthetha kakhulu konke konke, endaweni yoko unikezele nje ngentloko kunye nokunyusa amagxa.
Indlela oziva ngayo ngoku malunga neqabane lakho imi kwindlela yovelwano lokwenene, kwaye ke ngekhe uzifake ezihlangwini zabo kwaye ucinge indlela abamele ukuba baziva ngayo.
Uvelwano luphezulu apho njengenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo kwintsebenziswano yothando, ke ukuba ihambile, ubudlelwane sele buphelile - yinto nje yexesha ngaphambi koqhawulo-mtshato olusemthethweni.
20. Anisayihleki kunye kwakhona.
Amaqabane abelana ngokuhleka okuninzi ahlala kwindawo eqinileyo, nokuba kukho iingxaki ezimbalwa apha naphaya.
Kodwa uncumo, ukugigitheka, kunye ne-guffaw kudala zaphela kulwalamano lwakho.
Oku kungenxa yokuba awusenzi intlekisa ngokungathi ubukade usenza. Uzimisele ngakumbi ngeenxa zonke ngenxa yokuba oku kugcina umgama weemvakalelo phakathi kwenu nobabini.
21. Nibe ngabantu ababini abahluke kakhulu.
Ngokwenyani ayiqhelekanga ngokuchasene nokutsala, kodwa wena neqabane lakho nikhule ngokwamacala ahlukeneyo kwaye ngoku nihluke mpela xa niqala ukudibana.
Ukukhula akusoloko kusitshintsha ngeendlela ebesizilindele, kwaye ukuba nobabini anisabelani ngeminqweno efanayo, inkanuko, okanye isimilo sokuziphatha, ukubhala kuseludongeni.
Ngamanye amaxesha, mnye kuphela umntu kubudlelwane obukhulayo notshintsho, kwaye lo mntu uziva ngathi uphumile komnye. Oku kuqheleke kakhulu kwizibini ezitshatileyo apho umntu omnye ekhula ngokukhawuleza kunomnye.
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba 'ingaba ubudlelwane bam buphelile?' -Ingumbono olungileyo ukubuza ukuba wena neqabane lakho nitshintshe njani ukusukela oko nidibene okokuqala nokuba niyimpumelelo omnye komnye.
22. Anisahloniphani.
Intlonipho yenye yeendlela ezisisiseko salo naluphi na ulwalamano oluhle, kodwa imbeko onayo omnye komnye iye yancipha ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Ubunzima ojamelene nabo buqhubele phambili phakathi kwakho kunye nembeko esisiseko ngumceli mngeni ngamanye amaxesha.
Ungayicaphukela indlela izinto eziphakathi kwakho, kodwa imbeko ebekade uyifumana ilahlekile ngoku.
23. Omnye okanye bobabini baphatha kakubi omnye.
Xa imbeko ilahlekile kwaye uvelwano lungekho, kuye kube nzima kakhulu ukuphathana kakuhle.
Endaweni yoko, niphathana ngeendlela eningaqhelekanga ukuphatha abantu.
Unomonde omncinci, umsindo omfutshane, kwaye ngokubanzi awunabungane kubo.
Kwezinye iimeko, oku kungathoba isidima kwelinye okanye omabini amaqela ahlasele omnye, okanye mandundu.
Ukuba uxinzelelo lwalo naluphi na uhlobo luba yinxalenye yobudlelwane, iintsuku zalo zibaliwe.
24. Uyazi nje.
Nzulu entliziyweni yakho yeentliziyo, uyazi ukuba ubudlelwane buphelile.
Usenokuba uziva ngale ndlela okwethutyana, kodwa khange uyamkele loo nto.
Kodwa awungekhe uzityhalele phantsi iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo. Kugqityiwe, kwaye akukho kubuya mva.
25. Ufuna ukuphuma.
Awusafuni ukuba yinxalenye yobu buhlobo kwaye ucinga ngokusebenza ngendlela efanelekileyo yokuphelisa.
Ukuba ufikelele kweli nqanaba, awudingi omnye umntu ukuba akuxelele ukuba ubudlelwane abusasebenzi.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luphelile?Esi sisigqibo esikhulu ekufuneka usenzile, kodwa awunyanzelekanga ukuba uzenzele wedwa. Ukuthetha izinto kunye nomntu wesithathu ongathathi hlangothi kuya kukunceda ufikelele kwesona sigqibo sinyanisekileyo malunga nekamva lobuhlobo bakho.Ke kutheni ungaxoxi kwi-Intanethi nengcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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