Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu sokuphela kobudlelwane bakho, kuya kubakho okuninzi okusebenza ngengqondo yakho.
Ezi ziintsomi zixhaphakileyo esizixelela zona emva kokuba ubudlelwane buphelile.
Yindalo, ewe, kodwa sinamacebiso amahle okukunceda uqhubeke kwaye ungahlali ngaphambili ...
Intsomi # 1: Uthando lwalungeyonyani
Yayibubuxoki bonke, zange bakuthande kwaye awuqinisekanga ukuba wakhe wabathanda ngenene.
Isandi esiqhelekileyo?
Uninzi lwethu luyazixelela oku ngelixa siza kuhlukana. Xa ubudlelwane buphela, ngesiquphe silibale ngembali kwaye endaweni yoko sigxile kwi-snapshot yokwahlukana-uninzi lwayo lubandakanya ukwenzakala okuninzi, umsindo nosizi.
Khumbula ukuba benikunye kunye ngenxa yesizathu, kwaye ngaphandle kokuba ulichithe lonke ulwalamano lwakho uzive ungathandwa kwaye uthathe ithuba (kwimeko leyo, kufuneka sincokole ngokwahlukileyo!), Uzive ulungile ixesha lakho elininzi kunye .
imibongo edumileyo yokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo
Akukho sizathu sokuzama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba ulonwabo ozivileyo belungeyonyani- sele uluvile kwaye luzimele lodwa. Isimo sakho sangoku asinakuguqula amava akho adlulileyo.
Khawufane ucinge ukuba uphume waya kwisidlo sangokuhlwa esingakholelekiyo, kodwa uphele nge-dessert edanisayo. Oko akuphikisi naluphi na ukonwaba okhe wakunandipha ngelixa usitya isidlo sakho esisele.
Ukutsho ukuba konke ukutya kwakho kwakucekisa, xa ucinga ngako. I-dessert embi ayitshintshi into yokuba uyayithanda ikhosi ephambili. Uyabona ukuba siyaphi nale nto?
Intsomi # 2: Ulonakalisile Ixesha Lakho
Le yinto abantu abaninzi baziva emva kokuba ubudlelwane buphelile. Iminyaka emithathu / emihlanu / engamashumi amabini nomntu, kwaye yintoni?
Ngelixa oku kuhlala kuyimpendulo yendalo ekwahlukaneni, akulifanelanga ixesha lakho namandla. Ungangabinanto yexabiso elishiyekileyo kwi ex yakho, kodwa usenokuzama ukwenza uninzi lwezinto. Emva kwexesha lakho le-wine-and-ice-cream, oko kukuthi.
Xa ubuhlungu bungasabonakali buhlungu, zinike ixesha lokucinga ngobudlelwane kunye nento oyifumene kuyo.
Usenokuba ufumene iindlela zokuzonwabisa ezenziwa liqabane lakho- inokuba ingulowo mntu wakwazisa ngeyoga okanye ukupheka, kwaye le yinto onokuyonwabela.
Usenokuba ufumene abahlobo abatsha ngeqabane lakho, ekusenokwenzeka ukuba usenabo ebomini bakho. Kwakhona, le yinto yokubulela.
Kananjalo unamava okwenyani wokuba kubudlelwane. Usenokungabikho naphi na xa ucinga ngokuhlala nomnye umntu, kodwa uya kube ufundile izakhono zobomi ezihloniphekileyo ngaphandle kokuziqonda.
Ukuzibophelela emntwini, ukuhlala kunye, ukuphendula ngezenzo zakho, kunye nokufunda malunga nexabiso le ukuthembela kwaye ukunyaniseka Zonke izinto ezintle zinokuthatha kubudlelwane bakho.
Zama ukukhumbula ukuba ixesha lakho kunye ne-ex yakho belingeyonkcitha-okoko nje ubonwabile ubukhulu becala, uchithe ixesha lobomi bakho kubudlelwane obunothando, obanelisayo. Kwaye oko kuhle kakhulu.
ukubeka umntu ezenza ukuba uzive ubhetele
Intsomi # 3: Ufanele ukuba Wazama Kanzima
Kulula kakhulu ukujonga emva kubudlelwane kwaye uzive ngathi usilele. Sisoloko sizifaka uxinzelelo kuthi ukuba sibe lelona liqabane lifanelekileyo kwaye siphele siziva sidanile nathi emva kokwahlukana.
Thatha ixesha lokucinga ngale nto - inokuba ikho into oyenzileyo ebangele ukwahlukana, njengokukopa. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba wena neqabane lakho beningakulungelani.
Ngaphandle kokuba wenze into enkulu yokuphelisa ubudlelwane, kusenokwenzeka ukuba izinto ziphele ngesizathu esingaphaya kwakho nokuziphatha kwakho.
Mhlawumbi wena neqabane lakho benifuna izinto ezahlukeneyo ebomini, okanye ubuntu benu babungqubana nje kancinci.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, kuthatha abantu ababini ukuba babe kubudlelwane, kwaye babuphelise. Amathuba kukuba, izinto bezinokuphela nokuba kunjalo kwaye akufuneki uzigxeke ngokwakho ngokwahlukana.
Intsomi # 4: Asinguwe, Ngabo
Ngaphandle kwento esiyithethileyo ngentla apha, kubalulekile ukuba ubonakalise indlela oziphethe ngayo xa ubudlelwane buphela. Oku ayikukonyusa naziphi na iimvakalelo zokuba netyala okanye ukungafaneleki, kodwa kukuqinisekisa ukuba uziva ukhululekile kwaye uzithembile.
Kulula kakhulu ukubeka ityala kwi-ex yakho ngobuhlobo obuqhekekileyo, kodwa kuya kufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo nezenzo zakho.
Qiniseka ukuba wonwabile ngendlela owenza ngayo kunye nolwalamano. Abanye abantu bafumanisa ukuba batshintshe kakhulu bakube benomntu , eyindalo kwaye ilungile ngokupheleleyo.
Izinto ezintle zokwenza usuku lwakho lokuzalwa lwamakhwenkwe
Jonga ukuba ukhululekile kule nto kwaye uzilungiselele yona xa udibana nomntu omtsha.
Ukuba awonwabanga yindlela oziphethe ngayo kubudlelwane (umzekelo, 'uyabambelela' okanye unomona), fumana iindlela zokuyilawula kwaye usebenze ukuze wonwabe kunye nawe, nokuba awutshatanga okanye ukwintlobano.
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Inkolelo # 5: Akunabo, Nguwe
Kubalulekile ngokufanayo ukuba ungazibeki tyala ngokupheleleyo! Abanye abantu bazifaka kwingqondo yokuba kufuneka babe yinto ecekisekayo, enganyamezelekiyo, kwaye engathandekiyo ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane babo buphelile.
Oku akuyonyaniso!
Umntu omnye usenokungaziva ngathi nguwe olungileyo kubo, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu uya kuziva ngendlela efanayo.
Zama ukungavumeli uluvo lwabo lulawule indlela ozibona ngayo, ngakumbi ukuba izinto ziphele kakubi.
Khumbula ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba uphile ubomi bakho ngaphakathi kweeyadi zokulinganisa ulindelo lomnye umntu.
Ufanelekile ukuba uzive ukhululekile, uthandwa kwaye ufunwa. Olu luvo luqala ngawe, kwaye ukufumana iqabane elongeza kulo yibhonasi!
Intsomi # 6: Soze uphinde ulufumane uthando
Uza ku. Ndiyakuqinisekisa kakhulu.
Ngenxa yokuba izinto zingakhange zisebenze neqabane elinye, oko akuthethi ukuba soze ufumane mntu .
Kwaye, ukuba le yeyona nto intsha kumjelo wokwahlukana, musa ukothuka. Awukafumani umntu olungileyo okwangoku.
ndiyamthanda kodwa utshatile
Inokudimazeka kakhulu, kwaye ngekhe ufune ukutyala ixesha lakho okanye amandla akho kolunye ubudlelwane.
Zinike ixesha!
Uya kufumana omnye umntu okwenza uzive ulungile kwaye wonwabile kwaye unemincili. Ingabonakala ingenakwenzeka ngoku, kodwa iya kwenzeka.
Ungacinga ukuba awusoze umfumane umntu ofuna ukuba naye. Khumbula ukuba iqabane lakho lisenokungabikho ebomini bakho kodwa kungathatha ixesha kunye nengqondo evulekileyo.
Izinto (okanye kufanele ukuba njalo, abantu) ebomini bakho zihlala zitshintsha- kunokubakho utshintsho oluncinci, njengeebaristas ezintsha kwivenkile yakho oyithandayo yekofu, abantu osebenza nabo, abamelwane abatsha. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, kuyakuhlala kukho abantu abatsha ebomini bakho…
Intsomi # 7: Akufanele Ubaphose
Unelungelo lokuphosa umntu!
Nokuba benikunye iinyanga ezintathu okanye iminyaka esixhenxe, ngokucacileyo iqabane lakho belithetha lukhulu kuwe ukuba ubuthandana (okanye uthandana kakhulu). Yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye isempilweni ukukhumbula umntu kwaye akufuneki uzive unetyala ngayo.
Unokuzifumana ulahlekile umntu ngokwakhe-uburharha kunye nobubele-okanye inyani yokuba ubunomntu. Uvumelekile ukuba uphoswe kukuba kubudlelwane ngenxa yento yokuba ubunomntu.
indlela yokwenza ubomi bube ngcono kuwe
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, thatha ixesha lokuvuma indlela oziva ngayo kwaye uyamkele njengemvakalelo efanelekileyo. Thetha ngayo, ukhale ngayo, bhala ingoma enomsindo kwaye uzinike ixesha.
Utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bethu luhlala lubangela iimvakalelo ezifanayo nosizi-into, umntu, ilahlekile ebomini bakho kwaye izinto zahlukile.
Utshintsho lunokoyikisa, kwaye unokuzibona uphoswa sisiqhelo sakho, okanye uvakalelo olukhuselekileyo lokuba nomntu.
Uya kulunga, uvumelekile ukuba uphoswe li-ex yakho kwaye kulungile ukulila!
Intsomi # 8: Kuya kufuneka ube ungaphaya kwayo ngoku
Kukho umgaqo osoloko ukhankanywa xa kusenziwa ukwahlukana - ixesha elithathwayo ukufumana ngaphezulu komntu sisiqingatha sexesha olichithe kunye.
Le yindlela yokucinga eyingozi, nangona kunjalo, kwaye inokwenza isiphelo sobudlelwane sibe sempilweni kancinci kunokuba besinokuba njalo.
Ukuba ubunomntu kangangeminyaka emine, kufanelekile ukuba uzinike iminyaka emibini ukuze 'ugqithe' kubo.
Oko kubonakala ngathi lixesha elibi elinikezelwe ngokukodwa kumntu omnye, kunye nomntu ongasekho ebomini bakho, ngelo xesha.
Endaweni yokuzinika ixesha elinikiweyo lokuba usizi kwaye uqhubeke, phila nje ubomi bakho kwaye ubone ukuba le nkqubo ithatha njani imo yayo.
Akukho ndawo kwaphela yokungahoyi umtsalane wakho kumntu omtsha ofuna ukulandela izinto kunye naye, ngenxa yokuba isigaba sakho 'sokuqhekeka' asikapheli.
Ngokulinganayo, unokuziva ngathi ufuna ixesha elide kunokuba umgaqo ucebisa ukuze uqhubeke.
Ekupheleni kosuku, ukwahlukana kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo, nokuba bobabini badibene kwaye basempilweni kangakanani.
Uya kuziva ungumnqa ekuqaleni, njengoko ubunokwenza ngalo naluphi na utshintsho olukhulu, kodwa akukho mhla wokuphelelwa lixesha lokuba ungaziva ngale ndlela ixesha elingakanani.
