Kukho intetho ehamba nento ethi: 'abantu ngokubanzi beza ebomini bakho ngesizathu, ixesha, okanye ixesha lokuphila.'
Ukuba ucinga ngabantu abakhubazekileyo ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwehlabathi lakho ngexesha lobomi bakho ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, uyakuqonda ukuba iyinyani kangakanani na loo nto… nokuba isizathu sokufika kwabo (kunye nokuhamba okunokwenzeka) besingabonakali ngelo xesha.
Nantsi into: Uthando lunamandla kwaye luyaguqula kwaye luhle, kodwa akufuneki ukuba luhlale amashumi aliqela eminyaka ukuze lubenempembelelo enkulu kubomi bethu.
Singafumana ubuhle obungenakulinganiswa, imfudumalo, ubuqabane, nothando nomntu okhoyo kuphela ebomini bethu okwexeshana, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ubudlelwane obufutshane obunefuthe elimangalisayo kuthi bunokwanelisa kakhulu kwaye butshintshe ubomi kuneliphakathi nje. Unxibelelwano oluhlala iminyaka engama-40.
Izifundo zokufunda
Ngaba wakha waba nolwalamano olukuncedileyo ukuba ukhule njengomntu?
Mhlawumbi yayikukuthandana komoya ovuthuzayo nomntu ongamaziyo ngelixa uhambayo, okanye ubudlelwane obunesiphithiphithi nomntu obumthanda ngentliziyo yakho yonke, kodwa obuzaliswe yidrama nobunzima?
Mhlawumbi ukubheja okukhuselekileyo ukuba amava onke akufundise izifundo ezingathethekiyo ngobomi, uthando, kunye nokuba ungubani na njengomntu. Ngokunokwenzeka nokuba ungubani, okanye ungafuni ukuba ngubani.
Ukuba u kuwa ngentloko ngothando nomntu okucela umngeni kumanqanaba amaninzi, unokufunda umonde omkhulu, uvelwano, novelwano. Nabo banokufunda kunjani ukuthandwa ngaphandle kwemeko njengokuba zinjalo, kunokuba ugxekwe ngokungaphili ngokuvisisana nolindelo olungeyonyani lomnye.
Ukuba nothando, ulwalamano olusenyongweni nomntu unokuphilisa amanxeba akudala, phinda wakhe ukuthembana , kwaye uvule imiba yakho ekucingelwa ukuba kudala yahamba. Nangona kunjalo olo nxibelelwano alunyanzelekanga ukuba luhlale ubomi bonke: ziyacelwa ukuba zibe lixeshana lokufundisa into efunekayo ngalo mzuzu ukuze niqhubeke nobabini niqhubeke nokufunda, kwaye nikhule.
ungaxela njani xa umntu enomona ngawe
Uthando lwexesha elifutshane ALUYI 'Ukusilela'
Abantu abaninzi baye baginya ipilisi besifundisa ukuba ubudlelwane obulungileyo yinjongo yokuphela yokufuna. Bayalibala ukuba okubalulekileyo kukukhula kunye namava aza nobudlelwane ngokwawo.
Imalunga nexesha esilichitha nabanye-sinxibelelana nabanye, sincedana ukuba sikhule kwaye siguquke kwaye sibe ngabantu abangcono- hayi nje ukufikelela kumgca wokugqibela ekulindeleke ukuba uhlale kanye njengonaphakade.
Oko kungakhokelela kukuma, inzondo, kunye nokudelelwa, kwaye ubudlelwane obunothando bunyibilike kolo hlobo lokubi yinto efanelekileyo ukuthintelwa. Ngaba akulunganga ngakumbi ukucinga ngothando lonxibelelwano olunzulu-kodwa-lwexeshana kunokuba uzame ukubambelela kwinto ethile ukuze ibune kwaye ife?
Yonke into inobomi bendalo, kwaye oko kubandakanya ubudlelwane obunothando. Kwakhona, sinikwe imeko yokuba sikholelwe ukuba ngaphandle kokuba ubudlelwane bukhokelela kumtshato / kubambiswano oluhlala lude lufe, lube 'lusilele,' kodwa oku kuyinyama.
Ukuba umntu ushiye umsebenzi ebekuyo iminyaka emihlanu okanye elishumi ngenxa yokuba kufuneka atshintshe icala kwikhondo labo lomsebenzi, ngaba uye wasilela kulowo msebenzi? Hayi, ayingobantu babenjalo kanye xa babeqala, kwaye baqonda ukuba iimfuno zabo zitshintshile ngokufanelekileyo.
Awunguye umntu obenjalo kwiveki ephelileyo, kungasathethwa ke unyaka, okanye ishumi leminyaka elidlulileyo. Abantu batshintsha rhoqo, kwaye akusoloko kwicala elinye, ke akunakuphepheka ukuba ubudlelwane obuninzi buya kuphela xa sele beyifezile injongo yabo.
Oku ayikokungaphumeleli, kukukhula komntu, kwaye kufanele kuthakazelelwe kwaye kuhlonitshwe njalo, endaweni yokugwetywa. Ukunyanzela ubudlelwane ukuba buhlale ixesha elide kunokuba kufanelekile ngenxa yozibophelelo, okanye uloyiko lokusilela, kuthetha ukuba asiluxabisi ngokwenyani unxibelelwano kumzuzu wangoku… kwaye oko kwenza ukuba omabini amaqela achaphazeleke.
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Uthando lweNdalo oluHlangayo lungakhuthaza uxabiso lokwenene
Rhoqo, ukukholelwa ukuba into eza kuhlala ngonaphakade kunokubangela kuthi ukuyithatha njengento engenamsebenzi , kwaye iya kubudlelwane bothando kunye nezinto zomzimba.
Ukulindela yinto uninzi lwethu olunetyala kuyo, kwaye ulindelo lokuba ubudlelwane buya kuhlala ngonaphakade kuthetha ukuba izinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo kwelinye okanye kuwo omabini amaqabane ziye zatyhalelwa ecaleni ukuba zenziwe 'ekugqibeleni.' Kuza kuhlala kunexesha layo kamva, akunjalo?
Ulibale usuku lwabo lokuzalwa? Ungaze ukhumbule, oku kulandelayo kuya kuba kuhle.
Akukho zicwangciso zesikhumbuzo? Qaphela kuwe: kwixesha elizayo.
Njl kunye nauseum.
Ukuba siyabuxabisa ubudlelwane kumzuzu wangoku kwaye siyayiqonda inyani yokuba ayinakuhlala ngonaphakade, isinika umbono omtsha. Isenokungabikho unyaka ozayo yokwenza into entle kusuku lokuzalwa kweqabane lakho, ke licebo elihle ukwenza ukuba oku kubalwe.
Ngaba babeke umgudu kwisidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi ngaphandle kwesizathu ngaphandle kokuba babecinga ukuba ungakwenza uncume? Bazise ukuba uyixabisa kangakanani into abayenzileyo, kwaye kuthetha ntoni kuwe ukuba benze njalo. Ayinakuphinda yenzeke kwakhona, ngoko wuxabise umzuzu- nambitha konke ukuluma, kwaye ubuyisele ngendlela yakho ngokukhawuleza.
Xa siphatha into okanye ubudlelwane njengento enokuphela, sihlala siyixabisa ngakumbi kunokuba siyitshangatshangisa ibe yinto eza kuhlala ikho ngonaphakade, kodwa siyiphose nje xa sele ihambile kwaye uzibuze ukuba kwenzeke ntoni kwaye kutheni singazange Ndiyivelise kuyo ngelixa yayilapho.
Uthando lwenene alusoloko ludibaniso lwezithandani
Ngamanye amaxesha, unokuhlangana nomntu kwaye unxibelelane nomphefumlo kwangoko kunye nabo. Uya kudibana nabo, uncume ubuso bakho ngalo lonke ixesha ukunye, thetha iiyure malunga nesihloko ngasinye phantsi kwelanga, kwaye awunakulinda ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabo.
… Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba unxibelelwano onalo luthando.
Sidibana nabantu abohlukeneyo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kodwa uninzi lwethu lubekwe kwimeko yeTV kunye neefilimu ukuba sikholelwe ukuba uthando luthando luphelele kwaye luphela-lonke ubudlelwane, ukuba sinoxanduva lokungazenzi ubuhlobo obusuka entliziyweni nothando lothando .
Nokuba ngaba 'bromance' phakathi kweqela labafana abaqondana ngokunyanisekileyo, ubuhlobo obufana nodade phakathi kwabafazi, okanye Unxibelelwano lweplonic phakathi kwendoda nomfazi okusondeleyo kunabahlobo okanye usapho, uthando lokwenyani lunokusiphephetha ngamandla alo kunye nokuzingisa.
Beka ngokungathandabuzekiyo, akukho mfuneko yokuba uhlambe umntu ukuze ufumane uthando olunzulu kunye nokunxibelelana komphefumlo. I-Platonic, uthando olusekwe kubuhlobo lunokuba namandla angaphaya kwamandla, kwaye nokuba luhlala uhambo olunye lokuhamba nge-Iceland okanye iminyaka engama-20 nangaphezulu, inethuba lokutshintsha nobabini ngeendlela ezinzulu.
Ekugqibeleni, baninzi iintlobo zothando , kunye nenkcazo yothando inokwahluka kakhulu kumntu ngamnye ohlangabezana nayo. Isitshixo kukubhaka ekukhanyeni xa unethuba lokwenza njalo. Ungaze uliyeke ithuba lokuthanda, nangona linokoyikisa. Unokulimala, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa unokufumana into entle engaphaya komlinganiselo. Nokuba ihlala ithutyana, uya kutshintshwa ngamava, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ube ngcono.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungamelana njani nokuphela kobudlelwane bakho? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
