Asidibani nabantu ngengozi, benzelwe ukuwela indlela yethu ngesizathu.
Uninzi lwabantu ludla ngokucinga ukuba sifumana umphefumlo omnye kuphela.
Intombi zam zindibize ndilila kuba ubudlelwane bazo buphelile kwaye yena wayeyomphefumlo wabo kwaye ngoku?
Ngoku baziva ukuba lixesha lokuba bayeke iinwele zabo zomlenze zikhule, bayeke ukukhathalela inkangeleko yabo, babe bff nge-pint ka-Ben noJerry, kwaye benze ubudlelwane nekati yabo kuphela ubudlelwane abanabo.
Qikelela ukuba? Unokuba ngaphezulu komphefumlo omnye.
andibathandi abantu ngokubanzi
Ndinezintathu… kwaye umyeni wam wenza ezine.
Umntu ohlala naye emphefumlweni ngumntu odibene nomphefumlo wakho, kwaye uthunyelwa ukuba avuse kwaye avuselele iinxalenye ezahlukeneyo zakho ukuze umphefumlo wakho ukhule, uphilise kwaye ugqithele kwinqanaba eliphezulu lokuqonda kunye nokwazi.
Ngokusebenzisa imiceli mngeni esijamelana nayo nabalingane bethu bomphefumlo, eneneni siqala ukuphalaza iibhloko ezindala ezisigcina singena kubukhulu bethu ngokwenene.
Ubukhulu bethu yinjongo yobomi bethu, kwaye konke esikuko ukuba sibe kuko, sikwenze kwaye sinako.
Umphefumlo wam wokuqala wayeneminyaka eli-16 ubudala.
Ndandisandula ukushiya usapho lwam eColombia, kwaye kwanyanzeleka ukuba ndihlale notata kunye nomama wam kwakhona.
Isizathu sokuba ndifudukele eColombia kungenxa yokuba umakazi wam wafumanisa ngokuhlukunyezwa nokubethwa ngabazali bam, wanditsalela ekhaya.
Ngothotho lweziganeko, kuye kwafuneka ndibuyele eMelika, ndibuye ndibuyele kwilahle kamtyholi.
Njengoko unokucinga, ubomi bam babumnyama kakhulu.
Ndangena kuxinzelelo ndasela (ewe, ndandisela nditshaya nge-16) kwaye ukuthanda kwam iziyobisi kwaqala.
Emva koko ndadibana nomphefumlo wam wokuqala.
Waye / engumphefumlo omhle owayefuna ukundikhathalela, andikhusele kwaye andenze ndizive ndithandwa.
Yiyo yonke into endandiyifuna ngelo xesha.
Ngaphandle kwakhe, andazi ukuba ngesele ndigqithile kwelo xesha lesihogo sobomi bam.
Wayekukukhanya kwitonela elimnyama kakhulu.
Usapho lwakhe lwandamkela ndangena, kwaye ndakwazi ukuphuma kude notata nomama wesibini kunye nokuhlukunyezwa kwabo bandifaka kuko.
Umphefumlo wam wesibini nguyise wendodakazi yam.
Ngaba u-dean ambrose ushiya i-wwe
Ngaphandle kwakhe ngekhe ndibenamantongomane am angabi mancinane kangako.
Ngaphandle kwentombi yam, ngendafa.
Ngelo xesha ebomini bam, ndandingekabikho ukujamelana nokwenzakala ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa kwam ngumntwana.
Ndandintywiliselwe ngokupheleleyo kwi-PTSD kwaye ndingasebenzi nje ngayo, okanye ndicela uncedo.
Bendi kwi-anti-depressants, i-Adderall, kunye ne-Vicodin izixa ezigqithileyo- konke ukuze ndinciphise iintlungu ezindigcine ndingafuni ukuphuma ebhedini kusasa.
Esona sizathu sokuba ndiphakame, yayisesona sizathu sokuba ndenze into ngokwam, esona sizathu sokuba ndiphumelele phambili…. kungenxa yemunchkin yam.
Kwakukho amaxesha amaninzi apho ndaziva ndiphulukana nomlo wokulwa nokudakumba ndibuye ndibuyele kwilizwe lokuzibulala, kodwa ingcinga yokuba intombi yam ikhule ngaphandle komama yayinzima kakhulu ukuba ndiyithwale.
Ndikhule ndingena mama, nanamhlanje intliziyo yam ibuhlungu nangoku ngaye.
Kude kube namhlanje, ndiyamkhumbula umama ngathi uphambene.
Kude kube namhla ndisiva umngxuma entliziyweni yam.
kuchaphulo olu malunga nokuba seluxolweni nobomi
Bendingafuni ukuba intombi yam ifumane obu buhlungu.
Ngenye imini uyakuyazi indlela ubukho bakhe obabusindisa ngayo ubomi bam.
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Umphefumlo wam wesithathu yabekwa ebomini bam ngokulula ukuveza lonke uloyiko, ubuqhetseba, kunye needemon ezihlala engqondweni yam.
Umphefumlo wam wesithathu wayemdala kakhulu kunam, kwaye kobo budlelwane ndanyanzeleka ukuba ndikhule ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye ndivume into yokuba andilunganga, kwaye ndifuna uncedo.
Kolo lwalamano andinakukwazi ukugcina uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo kungcwatyiwe.
Andinakukwazi ukuzinyanga kwaye ndenze ukungafuneki.
Kwafuneka ndijongane nemicimbi yam.
Ngaphandle kokudilizwa kweendonga zam kobu budlelwane, ngekhe ndibone indlela izenzo zam ezonakalisa ngayo kum, nakwabo bandingqongileyo.
Umphefumlo wam wesine ngumyeni wam.
Indoda eyandincedayo ukuphilisa.
Ukuba kwakungekho kule ndoda ngaphandle kwemiqathango uthando - uhlobo lothando apho ndimoshile YONKE IXESHA kwaye waye wema ecaleni kwam kuba wabona uloyiko lwam ngezenzo, kwaye wayesazi ukuba kwakulungile ngaphakathi kum - ngekhe ndibengumfazi endikuyo ngoku.
Ndandingumntu otshisayo ngelixesha ndeza ebomini bam.
Ubudlelwane bokugqibela babuzise konke ukwenzakala ngaphezulu, kwaye iziyobisi, iipilisi kunye notywala azisekho kwiintlungu.
Le ndoda yandibonisa uthando olungenamiqathango ngokwamkela ngokusemthethweni intombi yomfazi ophambeneyo (ibiya kuba ndim) ngenxa yokuba wayethanda i-munchkin yam njengeyakhe, kwaye ngaphandle kwento yokuba kwakungekho ziqinisekiso zokuba ndiza kuphila, wakhetha ukugcina ukholo, samkela intombi kwaye ume ecaleni kwam njengoko ndiqala ukuphilisa.
Esi senzo sigqithisileyo nesingenamiqathango sothando yeyona nto indigqibileyo kubuchwephesha, kwaye yandinika amandla okutshintsha ubomi bam.
Ndaya kwi turkey ebandayo yonke into - iziyobisi, iipilisi, utywala, yonke loo nto - yehlile!
Ndiqale unyango kunye neminyaka emi-6 kamva, ndiselapha.
Ihlala ikhula, isoloko ifunda, isoloko iphilisa.
Ndiyazi ukuba kuvakala kulungile xa umntu esithi, 'uthando luthintelo, uthando luyaphilisa konke, uthando luyoyisa konke' kodwa aluhlwaywanga okanye alufumani, ndizibonele ngawam amandla okuphilisa othando.
izinto omele ukuzazi ngobomi
Ngaphandle kothando lwendoda olungenamiqathango kunye nokholo kum amandla am okuphilisa kunye nokutshintsha, kwaye ngokwenene ndibona ngaphaya kwemaski endiyinxibileyo, ngekhe ndibenguye ngoku.
Kwaye ndiyamthanda ukuba ndingubani ngoku!
Andisaziboni ndiyinto enenzondo, engenaxabiso, inkunkuma yomntu, endaweni yoko, ndizibona ndingumntwana weNdalo iphela ofanelwe ukonwaba, ukukhululeka nokuthandwa.
ukuba uyadika kumele wenze ntoni
Andizange ndifumane umphefumlo omnye, Ndizifumene ezine .
Umntu ngamnye womphefumlo wadlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuphiliseni kwam, ukukhula, nokungena kum.
Umntu ngamnye womphefumlo wabekwa ebomini bam ngesizathu.
Andiqwalaseli nanye kobo budlelwane ukusilela okanye impazamo.
Ndinothando oluninzi ngomphefumlo ngamnye womphefumlo ondincedileyo ukuba ndibengumfazi endikuyo ngoku.
Ndine (kwaye ndisaphila) ukuphilisa. Ndineminyaka ndingenazo iziyobisi. Ndijongane nokwenzakala kwam. Andisenakuphazamiseka yi-PTSD, uxinzelelo kunye nokulutha.
Umphefumlo ngamnye womphefumlo wenza indima yakhe ukundinceda ukuba ndiphilise kwaye ndikhule, nto leyo eye yandivumela ukuba ndibonise kwaye ndenze umsebenzi endabekwa kulo mhlaba.
Andizisoli namnye kubo.
Ke xa ucinga, 'ibinguye, kwaye ngoku ndizakuba ndedwa unaphakade', khumbula oku - Unokuba nesithandwa esingaphezulu kwesinye somphefumlo ebomini bakho.
Ndiyathemba ukuba oku kuyakusebenzela.
