Ngaba unayo indawo ethambileyo yomfana othile?
Ngaba ukrokrela ukuba uyakuthanda kwakhona, kodwa awuqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo?
Asinguwe wedwa…
Abantu zizidalwa ezintsonkothileyo ngendlela emangalisayo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sinokuba nexesha elinzima kakhulu lokufunda imiqondiso yomnye nomnye.
Xa uphosa ezothando kumxube kwaye amalungu abantu besini esahlukileyo azama ukuqonda omnye komnye, kuhlala kunzima ukuqiniseka ukuba kukho iimvakalelo phaya.
Ezi zinto soze ngqo.
Ingasindisa ixesha elinzima kunye ne-angst ukuba, xa sithanda umntu, sonke sinesibindi sokukhawulezisa siye kubo simxelele.
Kodwa, kwelinye icala, ukuba sinyanisekile, kuya kuthatha ulonwabo olukhulu kuyo.
Oko 'bayakwenza, ngaba abanako' kunokuba noxinzelelo kwaye kube buhlungu, ngakumbi ukuba kuqhubeka ixesha elide, kodwa kukwakho nobomi ubomi kancinci!
Ukuba ufunda le nto, usenokuba unayo inkling yokuba umfana uyakuthanda, kodwa ucinga ukuba uloyiko luyambamba.
Kukho zonke iintlobo zezizathu zokuba umntu abe nexhala malunga nokwenza intshukumo.
Mhlawumbi nizihlobo, kwaye ukhathazekile ngokumosha oko.
Mhlawumbi yena okanye umntu wakho wakudala owenza izinto zibe nzima.
Ndazi njani ukuba ndiyamthanda umfana
Mhlawumbi woyika kukomelela kweemvakalelo zakhe, okanye akaqinisekanga ukuba ufuna into enzulu, ngoko akafuni kwenza ntshukumo ade ayiqonde loo nto.
Mhlawumbi ukhathazwa kukuba ungamthandi kwakhona.
Abasetyhini abanakho ukuzimela uloyiko lokwaliwa , nangona sinokuziva ngathi ngamanye amaxesha.
Nokuba yintoni, nantsi imiqondiso embalwa yokujonga lo mboniso ukufihla okanye Ukucinezela iimvakalelo zakhe ngenxa yokoyika kwakhe.
Thatha ixesha lokujonga ukuba ngaba ezi zinto ziyasebenza kwimeko yakho. Ukwazi ukuba zithetha ntoni kunokukunceda uthathe isigqibo malunga nento oza kuyenza ngokulandelayo.
1. Wenza ngokwahlukileyo xa ekungqongile.
Ukuba uyakuthanda, uyakuyiqaphela ngendlela aziphatha ngayo xa ekufutshane nawe. Iya kwahluka kakhulu indlela enza ngayo nabanye abahlobo ababhinqileyo okanye abantu asebenza nabo.
Ukuba uvula ikhubalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba akazoyiki iimvakalelo zakhe, kodwa umane ebiza ixesha lakhe kwaye ebavumela ukuba bakhule.
Kodwa ukuba uxhalabile ngale meko, kunokwenzeka ukuba abonakalise iimpawu zovalo xa ekufutshane nawe.
Umzekelo, usenokungathi cwaka ngesiquphe okanye asokole ukukhupha amazwi akhe. Okanye unokuya kwelinye icala kwaye athethe ngokukhawuleza okukhulu nangobude obukhulu ukunqanda ukuthuliswa okungathandekiyo.
2. Ukuba nizihlobo, indlela aziphethe ngayo itshintshile.
Ngaba ungumhlobo olungileyo kuwe?
indlela yokwenza isithandwa sakho ukuba sithandane
Kuhlala kunzima xa uhlakulela iimvakalelo zothando kumntu othile owawucinga ukuba ukhuselekile kuye indawo yomhlobo , kwaye kufuneka ube ngumdlali olungileyo kakhulu ukuze ungavumeli utshintsho kwiimvakalelo zakho lubonise.
Ngaba ukhe wanayo ubudlelwane obunothando , ngokuwola ngobuhlobo nezinye iplonic ukudibana komzimba?
Ngaba oku kuyekile okanye kuyehla rhoqo okanye kushushu?
Ukuba ngequbuliso ukuba sesikweni ngakumbi kwaye kude , inokuba luphawu lokuba ukhathazekile ngokunikezela ngeemvakalelo zakhe kwaye uzama ukwenza 'ngesiqhelo.'
Ewe kunjalo, ayisiyonto iqhelekileyo ukuba umqhele ukwenza ngendlela enye kwaye ngoku wenza ngokwahlukileyo.
usola wonke umntu ngeengxaki zakho
3. Umbamba ejonge.
Ukumbamba ejonge kuwe yenye yezona zinto zilula kodwa zinkulu zokunika ukuba kukho iimvakalelo ezibhabhalayo ngaphantsi komphezulu.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, xa uthanda umntu, awunakunceda kodwa ubabukele kwaye ubancome nanini na xa bekufuphi.
Kodwa ukuba ubuyisela amehlo akhe, uya kujonga kude. Uyoyika ukutyhila iimvakalelo zakhe kuwe ukugcina ujongano lwamehlo .
4. Wenza iziqhulo ngokukuthanda.
Ukuba ukwaliwa ukuba woyika kunokuba athi, ukuzibophelela, uya kufuna ukuqonda indlela oziva ngayo ngaphambi kokuba akubuze.
Abafana bahlala bekwenza oku ngokwenza uhlobo oluthile lokuhlekisa malunga nokuthanda wena okanye nobabini niya kumhla…
… Kodwa bayenza ngohlobo lokuba xa usabela kakubi, banokuyihleka nje. Banokwenza ngathi bebengathethi oko kwaye gcina i-egos yakhe nawuphi na umonakalo ongapheliyo.
Ukuba impendulo yakho iyakhuthaza, emva kokwenza oku amaxesha ambalwa usenokuziva ethembele ngokwaneleyo ukuba angakucela okanye akuxelele ukuba uziva njani .
5. Uhlala ungqubeka kuye.
Ukuba uzama ukufumanisa ukuba okanye hayi imvakalelo efanayo, uya mhlawumbi fumana iindlela zokuyila zokuchitha ixesha nawe ukuze wenze kanye loo nto.
Ukuba woyika ukwaliwa, uya kufuna ukuchitha ixesha elaneleyo kwinkampani yakho ukuze afumanise ukuba ingaba iyintoni na impendulo yakho ukuba uthe wakhupha isibindi sokukubuza ngomhla.
Uya kutsalwa kuwe, ke uya kuthi aphelele kwiminyhadala yentlalo efanayo.
Ukuba ungumntu osebenza naye, usenokugqibela ngokuthatha ikomityi yekofu ngaxeshanye njengawe rhoqo kunokuba ungatyikitywa ngengozi.
6. Xa nikunye, kuyamangalisa.
Ukuba izinto zigqithile ekwenzeni amehlo komnye nomnye kwaye sele nichitha ixesha kunye, nokuba yimihla esemthethweni okanye akunjalo,mhlawumbi ufumana iimpawu ezixubileyo kuye.
Ninexesha elimnandi kunye kwaye niqhubeka njengendlu eshushu, kodwa anithumelani imiyalezo okanye ninxibelelana kakhulu phakathi kwamaxesha.
Lowo ngumqondiso wokuba akanakunceda kodwa yeka unogada wakhe xa ekunye nawe, kodwa uloyiko luthatha xa ungekho kwaye uyaziqinisekisa ukuba akakuthandi okunene kakhulu (okanye ukuba awumthandi ngaloo ndlela).
7. Uvuthela ubushushu nobushushu.
Nokuba akukho nto iqhubekayo phakathi kwakho konke konke okanye ubukhe kwimihla embalwa, mhlawumbi uya kuba namahla ndinyuka ukuba uziva esoyika.
Umzuzu omnye uyakube ejonge kuwe ngothando, kwaye ngokulandelayo uya kuziqinisekisa ukuba konke akulunganga okanye wakhathazeka kancinci kwaye ngesiquphe waba kude.
uyaphendula kodwa angaqalisi unxibelelwano
8. Ubonakala enomona.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe ayivume, njengoko oko kungakhokelela kwingxoxo engathandekiyo, kodwa usenokuba uqaphele ukuba indlela aziphatha ngayo kunye nolwimi lomzimba luyatshintsha xa ekubona uthetha nomnye umfana.
Unokuba bomvu kancinci, atshixize amazinyo akhe, okanye akujongise engaqondanga ukuba wenza ntoni.
Kungenxa yokuba, uloyiko ecaleni, akanakunceda ukukuthanda.
Akakwazi gcina umona wakhe , njengoko ephantse woyike ukuba ungadibana nomnye umntu njengoko eneemvakalelo zakhe.
9. Uyazi nje.
Mamela ithuku lakho.
Ukuba yonke into malunga nendlela onxibelelana ngayo iyakhwaza kuwe ukuba uyakuthanda, kunokwenzeka ukuba uyayenza. Kunzima ukufihla iimvakalelo zethu ngalo naluphi na ubude bexesha.
Qiniseka ukuba uthembeke ngokupheleleyo kwisiqu sakho. Yamkela ukuba nje ndifuna kuyinyani kwaye bayila imiqondiso apho kungekho nanye, okanye ngokwenene ufumana vibes kuye.
Yintoni ongayenza ngayo?
Ukuba ufumana yonke imiqondiso elungileyo kumfana omthandayo, kodwa akukho nto yenzekayo okanye eqhubela phambili, inokudandatheka kakhulu.
Into onokuyenza malunga nayo ubukhulu becala ixhomekeke kwinto ocinga ukuba woyike ngokwenene.
Awunakuhlala ubetha isikhonkwane entloko ngale nto, kodwa kuya kufuneka ubenakho ukufumana umbono wokuziphatha kwakhe ukuba yintoni le embambayo.
Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba luloyiko lokwaliwa olumgcina ethule, iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba kuninzi onokukwenza ukuzola iingxaki zakhe.
Thetha naye, umphulaphule, mjongane naye kwaye uncume.
Ukuba wenza izimvo ezihlekisayo malunga nokukuthanda, jonga kwangoko, kwaye uvumele ulwimi lomzimba wakho lubonakalise ukuba uvulekile kumbono.
xa umntu efuna isondo kuphela
Okanye, ukuba ucinga ukuba akanakuze aphakame kwimithambo-luvo okanye awufuni kuchitha ixesha ulinde ujikeleze, thatha inkunzi yenkomo ngeempondo umxelele indlela oziva ngayo.
Ukuba unobuhlobo obuhle obuya kwaye ucinga ukuba uloyiko lokuphazamisa oko kukumi endleleni yakhe, ke, kwakhona, kunokuba phantsi kwakho ukuthatha ukhokelo kwaye umxelele indlela oziva ngayo.
Xa usenza njalo, mqinisekise ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bubalulekile kuwe kwaye yinto ofuna ukuyigcina, ke uyazi ukuba nobabini kwiphepha elinye.
Ukuba, kwelinye icala, kunjalo ukoyika ukuzibophelela okanye ayikakulungeli ubudlelwane ngoku, ukwenza inyathelo lokuqala kungangabi sesona sicwangciso silumkileyo.
Isenokumoyikisa nje, ekucacileyo ukuba awuyifuni.
Kwimeko apho, kufuneka wenze isigqibo…
… Wonwabile ngokuhlala ubonakalisa umdla wakho kwaye umlinde ukuba angene kwindawo apho afuna ukuthatha inyathelo elilandelayo?
Okanye, ngaba kufanele ukuba unciphise ilahleko yakho, uqhubeke, kwaye uzishiye uvulekile ukuze ufumane umntu okulungeleyo ukuzibophelela kuwe?
Uyakwazi entliziyweni yakho yeentliziyo ukuba yintoni into elungileyo ukuyenza.
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