Andilunganga kwinto yonke…
Ukuba le yinto ubuyithetha kuwe mva nje, yeka.
Yiyeke ngoku kuba ngumthwalo wobudenge.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba ngaphandle kwe-narcissists evuthayo kunye ne-sociopaths, phantse wonke umntu olapha uphethwe isifo somguli ?
Wonke umntu ongatshatanga kwiplanethi unengxaki yohlobo oluthile lokuzithemba okanye enye into.
… Kodwa bambalwa abaya kuyivuma.
UAndrew idayisi yomfazi u-eleanor
Imithombo yeendaba zentlalo inokusetyenziswa okuninzi, kodwa inokuba yingozi kakhulu kwabo bathanda impumelelo ebonakalayo yabanye abantu.
Uninzi lwabantu luyasilela ukuqonda ukuba ezo zithuba zigqibeleleyo ze-Instagram kunye nePinterest kunye ne-Facebook brags zikhethwe kakhulu.
Kuyo yonke (ikrakra) ikhekhe elihonjiswe ngokugqibeleleyo elibonisiweyo, kukho ubuncinci ishumi elinambini elibonakala ngathi linqaku leengelosi ligabhe iqabaka kubo.
Ifoto yomntwana owonwabileyo, oleleyo wabanjwa ngexesha lekhefu lemizuzu emihlanu emva kweveki yokungayeki ukukhwaza nokungalali ebusuku.
Abantu abafuni nje ukuvuma ukusilela kwabo kunye nobuthathaka babo kuba sonke sizama igazi elinzima ukuze siphumelele kwinto ethile, nantoni na, okomzuzwana nje.
Konke esikwaziyo malunga nabanye abantu yinto abakhetha ukuyabelana ngayo.
… Kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba abonakalise ukuba ngubani ngokwenene, ngaba ngoku?
Umntu ocinga ukuba ngoyena mntu unetalente okhe waqubisana nayo usenokuba ulwa nesigulo esinzima okanye iingxaki ezinkulu zemali.
Abo ubathandayo bazithelekisa nabanye, kwaye banokungazithembi kwabo kwaye iimvakalelo zokuziva ungaxabisekanga nayo…
Ke ukuba unako, nceda uzame ukwehla kuloo vili kwaye uphelise lo mjikelo mbi.
Sonke Silungile e Into ethile
Ukuba uthatha umzuzu wokuhlala uzolile kwaye uthule kwaye unyaniseke ngokwakho, uya kuthi, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, ufumane into eyoyikekayo onobuchule kuyo.
Shukuma ngokukhawuleza okukhulu kwaye iimvakalelo zihambe ukuzama ukubamba kuphela kukuhlisa
Isenokungabi yinto onokuyithatha ifoto ukuze ufumane 'ukuthanda' kwiprofayile ethile yoluntu okanye enye - inokuba sisiphiwo esihle okanye ubuchule obunokuthi abanye babazi.
… Kodwa yinto nguwe kuphela bayakwazi ukwenza.
Ungayibhaka into efanelekileyo? Ngaba unakho ukuzola izilwanyana ezikhuthazwayo xa zisoyika? Izityalo zeCoax zikhule kumhlaba owonakeleyo? Fletch iintolo?
Mhlawumbi unesiphiwo seelwimi, okanye unokuziva iimvakalelo zabanye abantu ngamandla ngokwaneleyo ukuba ubabonise uvelwano lokwenene okanye uvelwano.
Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho, kwaye uzame ukuphuma emzimbeni wakho kwaye ubone indlela abanye abanokukujonga ngayo okomzuzwana.
Musa Ukukholelwa Yonke Into Oyicingayo
Iingqondo zethu zinokuba zezona ntshaba zethu, ingakumbi xa sihamba kwiindawo ezinobunzima.
Ukuphazamiseka, ukubuyela umva emsebenzini okanye iingxaki zomsebenzi, kunye nobunzima bobudlelwane bunokusiphosa ezantsi Imizila yokuzicekisa nokululeka.
Kodwa kungala maxesha apho kufuneka sinovelwano kakhulu kuthi.
ilwa nini ironda rousey ngokulandelayo
Uninzi lwethu silindele izinto ezingekho ngqiqweni kuthi esingasoze siphuphe ukuba nazo kwabanye, kodwa kulula kakhulu ukuba nemfesane kunye nokuthantamisa kubantu esibathandayo kunokuba sibonise ukuthantamisa nobubele obufanayo kuthi.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba yintoni eluncedo ngokwenene ngamaxesha anje?
Ukujikela kwabo bakuthandayo ukomeleza okuqinisekileyo.
Qalisa uxwebhu olungenanto kwaye uncamathisele kuyo zonke izinto ezintle ezithe zathethwa ngabahlobo bakho kuwe ukuze uphinde ufunde ezo zinto zintle kunye nenkuthazo nanini na xa ufuna.
Ukuba uziva ukhululekile ukwenza njalo, ungaya kwelinye inyathelo kwaye uthembeke kakhulu kwabo basondele kuwe malunga nendlela oziva ngayo, kwaye ubacele ukuba bakwazise ngento abayithandayo okanye abayixabisayo ngawe.
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo uyakothuka (ukuba ayingoyiki ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye uyatyhafa, nangona kunjalo ngendlela elungileyo) malunga nokuba ucinga kangakanani kwizangqa zakho zentlalo.
Elona candelo lilungileyo malunga nokwenza into enje kukuba unokuphindaphinda.
Yazi ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ukuba abanye abantu abakungqongileyo baziva ngendlela efanayo naleyo uzama ukufikelela kuyo ukuze uthethe into enobubele okanye ekhuthazayo inokunceda ukubakhupha kwi-quagmire yabo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ukuba ukhe uzive usisidenge, oku kuyakuqinisekisa ukuba awunguye
- Ungabuqonda njani ubunzima bokubaphantsi (kunye namanyathelo amahlanu okuyoyisa)
- Hlanganisa ixhala lakho ngokuthatha la manyathelo mahlanu
- Ungayeka njani ukuziva usilele okanye usilele
Ukwenza into oyithandayo kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokuFezekisa
Ukuba awukaqhelani nomxholo we UWabi Sabi , Yijonge. Yimbono yaseJapan esekwe kubuhle obukhoyo kukungafezeki nokungagungqi.
Into esiyithandayo nesiyibongayo akufuneki ibe 'igqibelele' ukuze ibe ntle, intle kwaye ixatyiswe.
Usenokuba uzibambe kumgangatho ophakamileyo ohlekisayo wokugqibelela ngokwezinto onomdla wokuzenza, kwaye ngenxa yoko, ulahlekelwe luvuyo ngokuzenza.
Zama ukwahlukana noku kwaye uxabise ukwenziwa ngalo mzuzu, endaweni yesiphumo.
Ukuba uyathanda ukuzoba, okanye ukupeyinta, okanye ukunitha, okanye ukubhala, akunamsebenzi nokuba ungagqiba ngobugcisa obungabeka iCaravaggio ehlazweni, okanye eyona noveli inkulu yakha yabhalwa.
… Okubalulekileyo kukuba wenza into oyithandayo, kwaye lonto ikwenza uzive wonwabile.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni xa ugalela ixesha kunye nomzamo into oyithandayo ?
Uba ngcono kuyo.
Naluphi na uhlobo lokuziqhelanisa luyakunceda ukuba uphucule izakhono zakho, kwaye oko kuya komeleza ukuzithemba kwakho kwisifundo.
ungamenza njani umntu ukuba akuphose njengegeza
Ukuba ubusokola ukufunda ulwimi, zama ukubukela imuvi ngolwimi olo- unokumangaliswa kukufumanisa ukuba uyawaqonda amagama ngaphezu kokuba uzinike ityala.
Ngaba ukhe wakhangela ngokuchwela wenza i-wonky feeder yeentaka ngaphandle kwe-engile enye ethe tye? Ixhome ngaphandle ngaphandle, kwaye ulungele ukuncuma kumbindi wakho xa zonke iintlobo zeentsiba ezinabahlobo ziyeke ukutya, zizele luxabiso lokuba umntu ukhathalele ngokwaneleyo ukuba angabakhuphela imbewu.
Ncokola ngokunyaniseka nesiqu sakho
Unokuba unqwenela ukuhlala phantsi kwaye uthembeke kakhulu malunga nokuba uzama ukufezekisa ntoni, kwaye kutheni le nto uzenza lukhuni kuwe.
Ngaba ujonge ukufezekisa injongo ethile ngexesha elithile elithile kwaye uziva ngathi uyasilela kuloo nto?
Ukuba kunjalo, inokuba ngumbono olungileyo ukuba ubenokwenyani malunga noku kunokufezekiswa, kwaye usasaze elo xesha lingaphezulu.
Ngaba uziva umhle kakhulu malunga nayo yonke into?
Usenokuba unengxaki yokudakumba okanye ukunqongophala kweevithamini xa uthetha nomnikezeli wakho wezempilo unokunceda ukusombulula isisombululo ukuze uphume kuloo funk.
Enye into ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba usenokungayifumani eyona nto intle okwangoku.
Ukuba ukhathazekile yimizamo eyahlukeneyo oye wantywiliselwa kuyo, zama ukuya kwicala elahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo kwaye uzame into entsha ngokupheleleyo.
Zama iklasi yokupheka, ukujinga ukudanisa, ukukrola, ukwenza igadi… nokuba yintoni na le iphikisana nomgaqo obukuwo ngoku.
indlela yokujongana neqabane elizingcayo
Ngamanye amaxesha unxunguphalo lokungagqwali kwisifundo sivela kwi-ennui.
Umama uTheresa ndinamagama obulumko okuthetha ngobukhulu, kwaye nangona umxholo unokwahluka kule nto sixoxa ngayo, imvakalelo iyinyani:
Ayisithi sonke esinokwenza izinto ezinkulu. Kodwa sinokwenza izinto ezincinci ngothando olukhulu.
Ukuba wenza into oyithandayo, kwaye izisa uvuyo kuwe (kwaye mhlawumbi nabanye), kwanele oko.
WONELE.
