Ungaxolisa njani ngokunyanisekileyo nangokufanelekileyo

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Ungaze ucele uxolo, ungaze uchaze.



Esi sicatshulwa sidumileyo sibizwa kubantu abaninzi, ukusuka kwiinkwenkwezi zefilimu ukuya kwezopolitiko.

Kangangexesha elide, abantu abaninzi abanempembelelo kusenokwenzeka ukuba bakubona oku njengesimo esamkelekileyo nesamkelekileyo.



Hayi kwakhona!

Kwawona lo mbono uphelelwe lixesha kwihlabathi lanamhlanje kwaye ubonwa nje ngekratshi elinganyamezelekiyo.

Ngoku iqondwa ngcono kwaye yamkelwe ukuba sonke asifezekanga kwaye sihlala sisilela kulindelo lwethu nolwabanye.

Ke ngoko, kungokwemvelo ukuba kucelwe uxolo ngokusuk 'entliziyweni nanini na sinyathela iimvakalelo zomnye umntu, nokuba singaqondanga.

Oko kuya kubudlelwane bethu obusondeleyo kunye nabo basebenza emsebenzini.

Kuqhelekile nje ukubonakalisa ukuthobeka okufanelekileyo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje.

Uxolo olunyanisekileyo luyimfuneko ukubonisa ukuzisola ngokunyanisekileyo ngento oyenzileyo engalunganga.

Zikwasebenza njengomjelo wokulungisa ubudlelwane.

Kodwa, nantsi into: ukuxolisa akukaze kube lula kwaye iimpembelelo ezinokubakho xa zihamba gwenxa zinkulu.

Kwaye, nokuba umntu wonzakele uyalwamkela uxolo lwakho , kungathatha ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba uxolelwe ngokwenyani- yinkqubo engenakukhawuleziswa.

Ngamanye amaxesha, xa uxolo lungayi kwisicwangciso, ungagcina usenza okubi kunokulungileyo.

Umngxunya ozimbele wona uqhubeka ngokuya ungena nzulu, nokuba wenzani.

Kungenxa yokuba yonke inkqubo yokuxolisa inzima kakhulu ngokwengqondo kunokuba ucinga, yiyo loo nto sisoloko siyiphazama.

Kuhlawula izabelo ukuthatha ixesha elincinci lokujonga ukuba ungathi uxolo njani ngendlela yokuba omnye umntu akholelwe kwaye ayamkele.

Uxolo olululo lwenza ukuba kuqale inkqubo yokuphilisa.

Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufunde ezinye izixhobo zokufumana umsebenzi onzima kunye nobuhlungu wokuxolisa ngesiphumo esihle.

Yintoni Eyenza Uxolo Olufanelekileyo?

Ingcali yezengqondo kunye nombhali othengisa kakhulu uBeverly Engel uchonga izinto ezintathu ezahlukeneyo zokucela uxolo kwincwadi yakhe Amandla okuxolisa: Amanyathelo okuphilisa ukuTshintsha bonke uBudlelwane bakho .

Uzishwankathela ngokufanelekileyo ezi zii-Rs ezintathu: ukuzisola, uxanduva kunye nokulungisa.

Ukuba ufuna uxolo lwakho lubetheke kwaye lwamkelwe njengolunyanisekileyo nolucokisekileyo, kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba luphawula zonke iibhokisi zontathu.

Makhe siqwalasele iRs nganye kwezi zintathu…

Ukuzisola

Uyazi ukuba umonzakalisile umntu okanye wenze izinto nzima kuye ngandlela thile kwaye uyazi ukuba ukuxolisa kufanelekile.

Ewe, into oyenzileyo okanye oyithethileyo ngekhe ibonakalise ngabom, kodwa yaba sisiphumo.

Ngoku uzele kukuzisola okanye ukuzisola.

Kufuneka udlulise loo myalezo kulomntu umonzakalisileyo, ungxola kwaye ucace.

Indawo entle yokuqala yinto enje:

'Ndibuhlungu kakhulu ngentlungu endiyenzileyo.'

Uxanduva

Kuya kufuneka uchaze ngokucacileyo ukuba Thatha uxanduva ngokupheleleyo ngezenzo zakho (okanye ukusilela kwayo) okubangele ukwenzakala.

Ungayenza icace le ngxelo:

Ndiyaxolisa, ndenze into engenakuthethelelwa kwaye ndiyayiqonda ukuba ikwenzakalise kakhulu.

Unyango

Okwenziweyo kwenziwe kwaye akunakuphinda kwenziwe.

Oko kwathethi, kufuneka ubonakalise ukuzimisela ukwenza nantoni na onokuyenza ukunciphisa umda weziphumo zengozi oyenzileyo.

Kwinqaku lokugqibela lokuxolisa kwakho okunentsingiselo, kufuneka uchaze injongo yakho ecacileyo yokulungisa… isithembiso sokunceda okanye isithembiso ukungaphindi wenze impazamo efanayo :

“Ndiyaxolisa kukushiya uphezulu kwaye womile kuba ndishiywe lixesha. Ndiyathembisa ukuba ngekhe ndiphinde ndiyenze loo nto. ”

Ii-Rs ezintathu ziyindlela eluncedo yokushwankathela inkqubo, kodwa umba wokuxolisa unzima kwaye usinika iwebhu yeengozi ezinokubakho.

d-von ukufumana iitafile

Kukho zonke iintlobo zezinye izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe.

Umzekelo, ngaba iinkcukacha ezinje ngexesha kunye nolwimi lomzimba zichaphazela ngokuthe ngqo indlela okuphumelela ngayo ukuxolisa?

Kwaye ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba ucele uxolo ngobuqu, ngaba uxolelo olubhaliweyo lunokufikelela kwisiphumo esifanayo?

Masiqokelele le ndawo yamigodi yeendlela zokuziphatha kancinci kwaye sizame ukuyibeka kwimeko ngokuyithatha inyathelo ngenyathelo.

Inyathelo lokuQala-Ukulungiselela

Ukuthatha ixesha lokucinga ngendlela oza kuxolisa ngayo kuhlala kukusetyenziswa kakuhle.

Onke amava athobekile kuba abantu ababini baya kuhlala beyibona imeko efanayo ngokwahlukileyo.

Xa ucela uxolo, kubalulekile ukwamkela nokwamkela ukuba 'inyaniso' yomnye umntu yindlela abayibona ngayo, nokuba awuvumi ukuba banyanisile.

Soloko ucinga uxolo ngokuya 'I' kwaye ungaze 'wena / wakho,' kuba zizenzo zakho eziphantsi kwemicroscope kwaye kufuneka ulwamkele uxanduva lwabo.

Kulula ukuthi, 'Ndiyaxolisa ukuba ukhathazekile,' umzekelo.

Okwangoku, le ngxelo iyaluphika uxanduva lwakho ngokuthetha ukuba ibiyenye ingxaki yomnye umntu.

Ukutshintsha igama elithi 'wena' uye kuthi 'Mna' kwenza umahluko kwihlabathi:

'Ndiyaxolisa ngokuba ndikucaphukisile.'

Utshintsho oluncinci, kodwa oh-olubaluleke kangaka.

Kungokwemvelo ukufuna ukuzithethelela kunye / okanye ukuthethelela indlela oziphethe ngayo, kodwa inyani kukuba ukwenza oko kunokujongela phantsi ukunyaniseka kokuxolisa kwakho.

Ubuqhetseba kukuqinisekisa ukuba uyayamkela into oyenzileyo komnye umntu phambi kokuba uzame ukuchaza izizathu zokuba kutheni uyenzile okanye uyithethile into oyithethileyo.

Uxolelo sisiphumo esinokwenzeka ukuba…

1. Wuqonde umonakalo owenzekileyo.

2. Nika izizathu emva kokuba wamkele uxanduva.

3. Yazi into ebekufanele ukuba uyenzile kwaye ubaqinisekise ukuba ayinakuphinda yenzeke.

Lumkela iLizwi ‘kodwa’

Kwigama loonobumba abathathu kuphela, isihlanganisi 'kodwa' sipakisha inqindi xa kufikwa ekuthobeleni uxolo lwakho.

Eli gama lincinci yilonto yaziwa njenge irabha yomlomo .

Ishenxisa ukugxila kwinqanaba lokuxolisa (ukwamkela uxanduva kunye nokubonisa ukuzisola) ukuya ekuthetheleleni isimilo sakho.

Amathuba kukuba abantu bayayeka ukumamela xa besiva igama elithi 'kodwa' kwaye ukuxolisa kwakho kuya kuba lilize.

Endaweni yokuthi:

'Uxolo, kodwa bendiziva ndinestresi,'

wazi njani ukuba ujongeka ulungile

tshintshela kulungelelwaniso ngakumbi:

“Ndiyaxolisa ngokulahleka. Ndiyazi ukuba oko kwakubuhlungu kwaye kwakungeyomfuneko. Bendixinezelekile kwaye ndithethe izinto endizisolayo ngazo. ”

Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):

Inyathelo lesibini-Ixesha nendawo

Imiba ebalulekileyo nebuthathaka njengokucela uxolo kufuneka inikwe ixesha elifanelekileyo ukuze kusetyenzwe ngayo.

Ukuba bayangxama, kunqabile ukuba basebenze.

Njengoko sele sifundile, kukho ezi zii-Rs zintathu - ukuzisola, uxanduva, indlela yokulungisa, kwaye kuthatha ixesha.

Kubalulekile ke ngoko ukuba ukhethe ixesha apho ngokwenene ukwazi ukugxila ekuxoliseni nakulo mntu uxolisa kuye.

Naziphi na iziphazamiso, ezomzimba okanye ezengqondo, ziya kunciphisa ukusebenza kwazo ngokucacileyo.

Ukufumana indawo ethe cwaka, apho ungathetha kamnandi ngaphandle kweziphazamiso, kubalulekile.

Ukuba bucala kubalulekile, kananjalo, kuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba uxoxa ngezinto ezibuthathaka kakhulu, ezizezakho.

Kuphephe Ubushushu Bomzuzwana

Nangona ngamanye amaxesha usenokuqonda kwangoko xa wenze okanye uthethe into ebuhlungu, akusoloko kububulumko ukuzama ukuxolisa kubushushu bomzuzwana.

Ukungakhathaleli okukhulu kweemvakalelo kuya kuyenza ingabinantsingiselo kwaye ngekhe kuvakale kunyanisekile.

Gcina ixesha lakho de izinto zibe zipholile.

Qaphela, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukulinda ixesha elide ukuba uxolise kungonakalisa, nako, ngoko ke kukulingana ukubetha.

Yithathe kwi-Chin

Ukucela uxolo kumntu, nokuba kunzima kangakanani na ukuyenza loo nto, isoloko iyeyona ndlela ilungileyo.

Ibonisa isibindi, njengoko wonke umntu esazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukwenza ezi zinto ubuso ngobuso.

Eso sibindi sinceda ukubonisa ukunyaniseka kunokuzifihla emva kwekhibhodi kwaye ucofe imouse okanye ucofe isicatshulwa.

Ukujongana ubuso ngobuso kukwavumela unxibelelwano olubaluleke kakhulu olungathethi ngomlomo - imbonakalo yobuso kunye nolwimi lomzimba- ukwenza indima yalo ekuboniseni ukuba unyanisekile kangakanani.

Ukuzisola kwakho kunye nokuba sesichengeni kuya kuvela ngokucacileyo komnye umntu.

Ukuyibhala

Kukho amaxesha apho kungenakwenzeka ukuba uxolise emntwini ngenxa yomgama okanye mhlawumbi iingxaki zexesha.

Kwimeko enjalo, umnxeba yeyona nto ikhethwayo kwigama elibhaliweyo, kuba ithoni yelizwi lakho iyakunceda ukunxibelelana nokomelela kweemvakalelo zakho njengale nto uyithethayo.

Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, unomdla wokungqubana nalo naliphi na ilinge lokuthetha ngokusuka entliziyweni, ke uxolelo olubhaliweyo lukhetho olufanelekileyo.

Isenokuba ngenxa yokuba unovalo okanye kuba usokola ukugcina uloliwe wengcinga, kodwa ungangomnye wabo bantu bakufumanisa kunzima ukuzithetha ngomlomo.

Ukuba kunjalo, ukubhala uxolo kwakho nokuba kukwiphepha okanye ngokwamanani akuyi kuba luxinzelelo kwaye kungangqineka kuyimpumelelo ngakumbi njengoko kuchaza 'ityala' lakho ngokucacileyo nangokuvakalayo.

Enye inzuzo yesicelo esibhaliweyo sokucela uxolo kukuba kususa uxinzelelo kulowo uxolisa kuye.

Umntu owonileyo unexesha nendawo yokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ukulungele na ukuxolela

Banethuba lokufunda baphinde bafunde amagama akho, batyele imixholo kwaye bafikelele kwisigqibo ngexesha labo.

Inyathelo 3-Uxolo

Buyela kwiiRs ezintathu

Xa udityaniswe ngokwasemzimbeni, ukwindawo elungileyo kwaye lixesha elifanelekileyo, ukulungele ukuveza eyakho ndiyazisola , yamkela eyakho uxanduva , kwaye ucebise ngendlela oceba ngayo iyeza imeko.

Uya kuyicinga yonke le nto kwangaphambili njengenxalenye yamalungiselelo akho (musa ukuziqhelisela, okanye ukuthembeka kwakho kuya kuthoba ngokukhawuleza) ukuze ukuhambisa uxolo lwakho ngokuzolileyo nangokunyaniseka kufanele kube lula ukufezekiseka.

Vuleka, Zolile, kwaye Mamela ngononophelo

Njengoko uthetha, kuyindalo ukuba umntu owenzakeleyo uya kufuna ukuphendula.

Basenokucaphuka kwaye banelungelo, ewe, loku bavakalise iimvakalelo zabo .

Rhoqo impendulo yabo iya kuba kukungqengqa kwimikhwa yokuziphatha efanayo yangaphambili abakholelwa ukuba idibene.

Qinisekisa ukubavumela ukuba bagqibe kwaye bayeke ukucinga ngaphambi kokuba uphendule.

Cinga ngento abayithethileyo kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukubona imeko ngokwembono yabo.

Nantoni na oyenzayo, musa ukukhwaza okanye ukuphosa izithuko, nokuba awuvumelani nento oyivayo okanye uziva ngathi ayilunganga.

Ukuba izinto ziba shushu kancinci, ukuxolelwa kunye nokusonjululwa akunakulindeleka, ke ukucebisa ukuba 'uphume' kunokuba ngumbono olungileyo wokubuyisa ukuzola.

Impawu zomzimba

Unxibelelwano olungathethiyo ludlala indima ebalulekileyo kwaye lubaluleke ngokufana nento ephuma emlonyeni wakho.

Akukho ndawo incinci yokwenza uxolo ngokunyaniseka ukuba uyalala, uzingela, okanye uhleli uzikhusele ngengalo zakho ziwele.

Oku kuya kubonisa ukuba ngokwenene uvaliwe kwaye awubandakanyekanga ngokwenene kwincoko.

Ngokuchaseneyo, ukuba uyintonga yegusha ethe nkqo kwaye uncike phambili, uya kubonakala unekratshi kwaye ulawula, ezo zombini zichasene noko kufunekayo.

Injongo ye ukuthobeka .

Ngokufanayo, i-grimace okanye intetho emuncu iya kuba nefuthe elifanayo. Ukunyanzela ukuba uncume akubobulumko kuba uyakubonakala unganyanisekanga.

Thatha umzuzu ukuphumla izihlunu zobuso bakho amaxesha ngamaxesha.

Ukudibana kwamehlo kubalulekile, nako.

Ukugqithisa kunokubonakala kusoyikisa, kodwa ukusilela ukudibana namehlo ngokwaneleyo uyanyaniseka.

Ukuba ujonge ukudibana ngqo namehlo malunga ne-70% yexesha xa umamele kunye ne-50% xa uthetha, uya kufumana umlinganiso malunga nelungelo.

Izimbo zomzimba zezinye izinto ezinikezela ngeemvakalelo zakho zokwenyani, ke qiniseka ukuba usebenzisa iintende ezivulekileyo endaweni yokuvala izandla / amanqindi ngelixa uthetha.

Ukuba kufanelekile kwaye umntu usondele kuwe, ke ukuchukumisa yindlela entle yokubazisa ngendlela oziva ngayo ngabo.

Ukuphatha ngobumnene ingalo okanye isandla, okanye ukwangana okufudumeleyo, kungathetha kakhulu.

yintoni endiyithandayo kakhulu

Qukumbela ngombulelo

Xa uxolo lwakho lisiwe kwaye lamkelwe, kubalulekile ukuba ubonise indlela onombulelo ngayo ngobukho babo ebomini bakho nomahluko obukhoyo kuwe mihla le.

Veza umnqweno wakho osuk 'entliziyweni ukuba ungonakalisi okanye ubeke ubomi bakho engozini ngayo nayiphi na indlela.

Amava omntu ngamnye, kokulungileyo nokubi, yibhloko yokwakha ethi ekugqibeleni isenze sibe yintoni kwaye singoobani.

Uninzi lwethu luzama ukuphucula ebomini bethu bonke.

Ukuba iphethwe kabuhlungu, inkqubo yokwenza uxolo noxolelo ifunyanwa inembuyekezo inokomeleza kunokuba ibenze buthathaka ubudlelwane.

Ngcono okwangoku, inokusinceda ukuba siziqonde ngcono ezethu iintsilelo kwaye mhlawumbi sithathe amanyathelo omntwana ekubeni lolona hlobo lubalaseleyo lwethu.