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Ukuthembana sisiseko salo naluphi na ulwalamano. Nokuba ungaluhlobo luni ulwalamano lwakho oluthathayo okanye yeyiphi imida oyimisileyo , ukukwazi ukuthemba ukuba iqabane lakho likuxelela inyani kubalulekile.

Kwelinye icala, singabantu kuphela kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, sifumana izinto ezingalunganga. Nokuba iinjongo zethu zilunge kangakanani, siyamosha.



Ubuxoki obungena ngaphakathi bunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba into ayilunganga ncam kubudlelwane bakho.

Kodwa ukuphambanisa kunye nokubeka emngciphekweni wokuphulukana nomntu omthandayo kunokuba yinto oyifunayo ukuze uqaphele into onayo, kwaye kuya kuba kubi kangakanani ukuphulukana nayo.

Ngaba uzifumene uxoka kwiqabane lakho? Ukhe wa bengathembekanga ? Ngaba ubungakhange ubekho ngamaxesha apho bebekufuna khona?

Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba ungabusindisa na ubudlelwane obubaluleke kangaka kuwe, ungaphelelwa lithemba okwangoku. Apho kukho umyolelo, kukho ithemba ngendlela.

Kuyinyani, iintanda zinokungena nzulu kakhulu kwaye zinokufika kade. Kwaye ukuba ungagcina, kuya kuthatha umsebenzi omninzi.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uzimisele ukubeka umzamo kunye nokuzinikela kwaye wamkele uxanduva lwento oyenzileyo, ubudlelwane bakho bunokubuya bulwe, kwaye bomelele ngakumbi kunangaphambili.

izinto ezimnandi zokwenza endlwini yakho xa ukruqukile

Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ezisisiseko ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo ezinokunceda ekwakheni ukuthembana kunye nokuphilisa ubudlelwane bakho.

Iimeko ezizodwa ziya kwahluka kwisibini ngasinye ngenxa yoko oku akusayi kuba sisikhokelo esibanzi, esingenangqondo…

… Kodwa, ukuba uzimisele ngokugcina ubudlelwane bakho, kuya kufuneka ufumane impembelelo apha ukuqala ukuphilisa umsantsa ophakathi kwakho neqabane lakho.

1. Beka Amakhadi Akho Etafileni

Ukuba wophule ukuthembana obekukho kubudlelwane, kuya kufuneka uvume kwaye uthathe uxanduva ngalo.

Izinto kufuneka zibekwe ngokucacileyo ukuze nobabini niyazi into eyenzekileyo kwaye nimi phi.

Ukuba ubungathembekanga, babekele iinkcukacha ezichanekileyo, ngaphandle kokuba bazicela ngokukodwa. Kwimeko apho kuya kufuneka uthembeke.

Kwiimeko ezinje, intetho endala ethi 'ukunyaniseka yeyona nkqubo ilungileyo' inyanisekile kunakuqala. Ukususela ngoku, nobuxoki obuncinci obuxelayo bunokwenza iqabane lakho likrokre ukuba kukho into oyifihlayo.

Ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuhlala kubudlelwane bakho emva kokuqhekeka kokuthembana, musa ukuwela kumgibe wokuzama ukutshayela phantsi kwekhaphethi kwaye wenze ngathi kuya kuphela.

Iyakushenxisa kuwe, kwaye amathuba okuba inyani izakuvela ngaxa lithile, kwaye iya kuba mbi kakhulu xa isenzeka.

Ubuxoki obuvunyiweyo ngokukhawuleza yinto enye, kodwa ngaphezulu kweeveki, iinyanga, kunye neminyaka uya kuzifumanisa uxoka ngobuninzi bobunye ubuxoki bokufihla ubuxoki bokuqala.

Oku kuthetha ukuba xa iqabane lakho lifumana inyani (kwaye iphantse yahlala nini, hayi ukuba), ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho akusayi kuphinda kwenzeke.

Ukuzama ukufihla into oyenzileyo yindlela eqinisekileyo yomlilo yokuphelisa ubudlelwane bakho, kungekudala okanye kamva.

2. Cinga ngesizathu sokuba

Ukuphinda bakuthembe, iqabane lakho liza kufuna ukwazi ukuba kutheni wenze into oyenzileyo. Ke kuya kufuneka ukuba ube nexesha elide lokucinga malunga nento ekuqhubele ekubeni uphule ukuthembana kwabo.

Nyaniseka ngokupheleleyo kuwe kwaye ungazidanisi iinyaniso ezinzima. Ekuphela kwendlela yokulungisa le ngxaki kukujongana nayo ngqo.

Khumbula ukuba awuzami ukufumana isizathu apha, okanye jika ityala komnye umntu . Uzama ukuya ezantsi ekuziphatheni kwakho ukuze uchaze iqabane lakho kwaye kungabikho amathuba okuphinda iphethini.

3. Cela uxolo

Xa uxelela iqabane lakho inyaniso, ungazami ukuzithethelela. Cela uxolo emazantsi entliziyo. Kwaye yinyani.

Gcina unxibelelwano ngamehlo, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ulwimi lomzimba wakho luyahambelana namagama aphuma emlonyeni wakho.

Ukuba uthi ngekhe uphinde uyenze, qiniseka ukuba yinyaniso esentliziyweni yakho.

Ukuba ukrokrela le ndlela yokuziphatha inokuba yinto oyiphindayo, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka uphinde uqwalasele ukuba ingaba ulwalamano lulungile na kuwe, okanye ukuba nobabini nibe ngcono xa nisiya ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.

4. Mamela

Nje ukuba uxolise kwaye uthembeke ngokupheleleyo kubo, bayeke baphume.

Kungabathatha ixesha ukwenza le nto uyithethileyo, kodwa xa sele bekulungele, mamela yonke into abayithethayo ngale meko.

Mamela ngononophelo ngakumbi kwizinto abathi bazakuzidinga ukusuka kuwe ukuya phambili, kunye nezizathu zokuba kutheni.

5. Funa Uncedo Lobuchwephesha

Kwimeko enje, uncedo lwonyango zombini kunye nomcebisi wezibini zakho kunye neqabane lakho lunokuba luncedo olukhulu.

Ukuya kwiiseshoni zonyango ngokwakho kunokukunceda ukuba ufike emazantsi wokuba kutheni wenze le nto uyenzileyo kunye neemfuno zakho.

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba lala ngokunyanzelwa kwaye nje ayinakho ukutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha, i-therapist ngokuqinisekileyo ngumbono olungileyo ukukunceda uqonde ukuba kutheni kwaye uyihambile.

Ngaphandle koko, aluyi kubakho uncedo oluninzi kulwalamano lwakho, njengoko iimeko eziphindaphindayo zokuxoka ziya kuqhuba kwanona lixolelayo kumaqabane.

Ukuzimasa ukucebisana njengabantu abatshatileyo kuthetha ukuba niyakube nincokola ebengenakuze nibe nakho ukuba beninobabini kuphela. Ngale nto, sicebisa kakhulu ngenkonzo ye-Intanethi ukusuka. Unokuba neengxoxo ezibalulekileyo oza kuyidinga ngoncedo lobuchwephesha bobuhlobo, konke okuvela kwinduduzo yekhaya lakho.

Bonisa iqabane lakho ukuba uzimisele kangakanani kwaye ungancokola nomntu ngoku okanye ulungiselele iseshoni yomhla kunye nexesha elifanelekileyo kuwe.

Ukuba unako ukuhlawula unyango, kunokuba lolona tyalo mali lubalaseleyo kulonwabo lwakho kunye nobudlelwane bakho oya kuze ubenze.

6. Lindela Ukuba Kuthathe ixesha

Ungazikhohlisi ukuba iqabane lakho alizukufuna ixesha lokwenza le nto. Kwaye musa ukubeka naluphi na uhlobo loxinzelelo kubo ukuba bakuthembe kwakhona ngaphambi kokuba bakulungele.

Kuxhomekeke kubukrakra bobuxoki kunye nobuntu beqabane lakho, kungathatha ixesha elide ukuba bacwangcise izinto kwaye bakuxolele, kwaye kulungile.

Ukuba uzimisele ngokuhlala kubudlelwane, kuya kufuneka ube nomonde kwaye ubalinde ukuba beze kuwe.

Okwangoku, indlela oziphethe ngayo kufuneka ixhase ukuxolisa kwakho. Ndiyathemba ukuba lakudlula ixesha, nobabini niza kukwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo obuthembekileyo obukade unabo.

7. Musa ukulindela ukuba bazive bexolile ngenxa yakho

Ngokuqinisekileyo, eli ayizukuba lixesha elilula kuwe, kodwa uzizisele kuwe kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayingomsebenzi weqabane lakho ukwenza uzive ungcono.

Ukuba ufuna ukukhupha okanye ufuna igxalaba lokulila, thetha ngezinto kunye nonyango lwakho okanye umhlobo oneengcebiso ozithembileyo.

8. Thembeka

Ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili, zonke izenzo zakho kungenzeka ukuba ziphononongwe, kwaye kuya kufuneka uyamkele loo nto.

Ke, bonisa. Gcina ilizwi lakho. Namathela kwizicwangciso. Ulwazi lokuvolontiya malunga nokuba uphi kunye nezinto ozenzayo. Bonisa iqabane lakho banokuthembela kuwe, ngendlela owenza ngayo yonke imihla.

9. Sukuzenza izithembiso ongekhe uzigcine

Lumka kakhulu ngezithembiso ezingenanto.

Musa ukuthembisa nantoni na ongaqinisekanga ngayo ukuba ungayihambisa. Nangaliphi na ixesha osilelayo ukugcina isithembiso sakho siya kunceda ukuqinisa umbono kwingqondo yeqabane lakho ukuba awunakuthenjwa.

10. Zixolele

Akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo, kwaye sonke siyazenza iimpazamo. Ukuba uzama ngenene ukulungisa kunye nokulungisa umonakalo owenzileyo, zinike ikhredithi ngayo, uyeke ukuzithiya.

Endaweni yokuchitha ixesha uzikhathaza ngento oyenzileyo, beka amandla akho ekubeni ngumntu othembekileyo nothembekileyo ofuna ukuba nguye.

Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba unokwenza njani ukuba iqabane lakho likuthembe kwakhona?Mamela, kuya kuthatha ixesha kunye nomzamo omkhulu kwicala lakho. Kunokukunceda ukuba ufumane isikhokelo sobuchwephesha malunga nokuba ungathini, indlela yokuziphatha, indlela yokuphendula xa bekucaphukisa kwakhona (kuba mhlawumbi bazakwenza njalo). Uya kuma kwithuba elingcono lokugcina ubudlelwane bakho kunokuba uye wedwa.Ke kutheni ungancokoli kwi-Intanethi ukuya kulwalamano lobuchwephesha kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda uhambe kule nqanaba linamaqhinga olwalamano lwakho. Ngokulula.

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