Iimpawu ezi-10 ezifihlakeleyo zeqabane lakho zinokukhohlisa kuwe

Yeyiphi Imovie Ukubona?
 

Yinto eyenzeka rhoqo ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho belingathembekanga kwaye uyazibuza ukuba kutheni ungakhange ulibone lisiza. Uyazibuza, “Ngaba bekukho imiqondiso elumkisayo? Ngaba ndibahoyile? ”



Mhlawumbi ubungazi ukuba ujonge ntoni. Ukuba kunjalo, nazi izinto ezili-10 eziqhelekileyo, kodwa ezifihlakeleyo ezinokuthi zibonise ukuba iqabane lakho lidlala kude… nento omawuyenze ngazo.

1. Banefomu

Kulungile, ukuze ndikuve nikhala nonke, “kutheni ungahlangana nomnye umntu ukuba ubusazi ukuba wayekhe waqhatha ngaphambili?!” Kwaye, ewe, kwiingqondo zethu ezinengqiqo, sonke siyazi ukuba ayisiyiyo eyona ngcinga isengqiqweni. Ukanti uninzi lwethu belulapho, siziqinisekisa ukuba luyakwahluka ngeli xesha, kuba uthando lwethu luhlukile ngandlela thile kwaye lukhethekile. Abanye bethu bade bawele nabantu abasebudlelwaneni, ngakumbi xa bengonwabanga kwaye sixelelwa ukuba, 'Kugqityiwe phakathi kwethu ixesha elide' kwaye 'Ndizakubashiya.'



Nokuba iqabane lakho langoku laqhatha umntu phambi kokuba lidibane nawe, okanye ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buqale phambi kokuba obangaphambili buphele ngokusesikweni, kuqhelekile ukuzama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba, 'akakhohlisi,' ' / uyenze kuphela kuba ubudlelwane babo bebungonwabanga, 'kwaye,' kuyakuhluka nam kuba uyandithanda. '

Inyani erhabaxa, nangona kunjalo, yeyokuba ukuba bakulungele ukukopa xa ukuhamba kuya kuba nzima kubudlelwane obunye, ungaphantse uqinisekise ukuba kunjalo kumakhadi xa ubudlelwane bakho buhlasela umhlaba onamatye. Kwaye phantse izinto zihlala ziba namatye ngamanye amaxesha.

Kuyinyani ukuba abanye abantu banokutshintsha ngokwenene, kwaye akufuneki bohlwaywe ngonaphakade ngempazamo yangaphambili kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ungene nzulu kakhulu, zibuze ukuba ngaba lo ngumngcipheko olungele ukuwuthatha. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, mhlawumbi, buza ukuba uza kuba nakho ukumthemba lo mntu ngokwaneleyo ukuze ube nolwalamano olukhuselekileyo noluzinzileyo kunye nabo ukuya phambili.

2. Bayimfihlo malunga neephasiwedi zabo

Ewe kunjalo, kukho ixesha kunye nendawo apho sonke sidinga ukuba ngasese, kodwa ukuba ukhuselekile, ubudlelwane bokuthembana, kungekho nto uyifihlayo, akukho sidingo sakuhlala uyimfihlo malunga neepassword zakho. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuthembana kuhamba ngeendlela zombini ukuba iqabane lakho livulekile kuwe kwaye alinangxaki nawe ngokwazi iifowuni okanye iifaswedi zika-Facebook, emva koko akunakulindeleka ukuba ukrokre ngokwaneleyo.

Ukuba, endaweni yoko, bagcina iiphasiwedi zabo zifihliwe ngandlela zonke, kuya kubakho udonga lokungathembani, kwaye isilingo sokufuna ukukhula sinokukhula kwaye sikhule. Ukuba iqabane lakho li-cagey kakhulu malunga nefowuni, i-Facebook kunye neephasiwedi zekhompyuter, unokufuna ukuzibuza ukuba ingaba ikhona into abanokukhetha ukuba ungayiboni.

Kunokubakho isizathu sokwenyani sayo, ke cinga ngokubabuza malunga nayo ngendlela engenatyala. Ukuba bayazikhusela kwaye babuyele kuwe ngeengxelo ezinje, “Zizimfihlo, kutheni kufuneka ubazi? Awundithembi? ” okanye, 'Ngaba kufuneka uyazi yonke into? Kudala uzama ukujonga ifowuni yam? ” emva koko unokufuna ukuqaphela ukuba kukho okungakumbi kuyo.

3. Basoloko bethumela imiyalezo kwabanye abantu

Ngoku ngokucacileyo esi ayisosiqinisekiso se-100% sokuba abathembekanga, ngakumbi kweli xesha langoku apho uninzi lwethu lukhona zinamathele kwiifowuni eziphathwayo , kodwa ukuba iqabane lakho lichitha ixesha elininzi lokuthumela imiyalezo okanye ukuthumela imiyalezo kwabanye abantu (ngakumbi ukuba bakwabonisa uphawu lwenombolo 2), oko kunokuba sisikhombisi sokuba abalunganga.

indlela yokujongana nomntu ongenangqondo

Nokuba bathumela umntu ongafanelekanga, kubalulekile ukuba isibini sichithe ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye. Ke ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala lithumela imiyalezo xa nikunye, kutheni ungacebisi ukuba nobabini nizicime iifowuni (okanye ubuncinci nizibeke kwelinye igumbi) iiyure ezimbalwa busuku ngabunye. Ukuba babonakala benqabile ukwenza oku, ungafuna ukuzibuza ukuba kutheni.

4. Banomona ogqithisileyo

Ukuba iqabane lakho liba nomona ngokungekho ngqiqweni, kunokuba sisalathiso sokuba bagqithisela imvakalelo yokuziva benetyala kuwe. Olu hlobo lwe ingqikelelo yindlela yodidi abathi abakhohlisi bazame ukufihla ezabo iimpazamo. Ngokukubonisa indlela abakhathazeke ngayo ukuba ungabaleka nomnye umntu, bazama ukukuqinisekisa ukuba ngekhe babenakho ukwenza okufanayo.

Ewe, wonke umntu uziva engakhuselekanga amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala liphazamisekile kwaye linomona ngaphandle kwesizathu esivakalayo, unokufuna ukujonga ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha kwaye ubone ukuba akukho nto ingako kuyo.

5. Baphuma kakhulu ngaphandle kwakho

Kuza ixesha apho uninzi lwabantu kubudlelwane lungasaziva mnqweno wokuya kupati kunye nabahlobo babo abangatshatanga rhoqo ngeempelaveki. Amaqabane aza kuchitha uninzi lweempelaveki kunye kuba bonwabele inkampani yomnye nomnye - yinkqubela phambili yendalo kulwalamano oluninzi.

Ngelixa kubalulekile ukuba nabahlobo bakho kwaye uchithe ixesha lohlukene, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi ngokuzonwabisa ngaphandle kwakho, inokuba luphawu lokuba into iphakamile-ngakumbi xa befika ekhaya emva kwexesha, okanye ukuba bayahamba kunye neqela lezesondo elixubileyo labahlobo kodwa bangakumemi.

Ukuba ubukhe wakubudlelwane obumiselweyo okwethutyana, kwaye oku kuya kuba kukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo, chazela iqabane lakho ukuba uyakonwabela ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo, kwaye ubabuze ngendlela engagwebanga ukuba ngaba akukho sizathu Ukumenywa kwezi ziganeko. Kunokubakho inkcazo elula, kodwa ukuba iqabane lakho liyazikhusela kwaye linomsindo ngawe emva koko unokufuna ukuzibuza ukuba ingaba ikhona enye into eyenzekayo.

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6. Xa bephuma bayanxila kangangokuba balahle / balahle izinto / bangakhumbuli okwenzekileyo

Oku kudibana kwindawo yesi-5. Ukuba iqabane lakho liphuma ngaphandle kwakho kwaye lihlala linxila kangangokuba liyalahleka, liphulukane nezinto, kwaye / okanye lingakhumbuli okwenzekileyo, oko kungabonisa ukuba banengxaki yokulawula izenzo zabo.

Uninzi lwethu oluselayo luya kunxila kangangokuba silibale izinto ezimbalwa ubuncinci kubomi bethu, kodwa ngokubanzi siziva sineentloni emva koko kwaye sizama ukuzibuyisela kwixesha elizayo. Ukuba usebudlelwaneni apho oku kuyenzeka rhoqo, kunokuba kufanelekile ukuzibuza ukuba uyalithemba iqabane lakho xa linje, kwaye ukuba kukuziphatha okulungeleyo ukukunyamezela kwixesha elide.

7. Bahamba ngokukhawuleza kubudlelwane kwaye batshabalalisa izipho ezintle

Ukuba iqabane lakho lihamba ngokukhawuleza kubudlelwane kwaye lihlala lisasazeka ngaphezulu, izipho ezintle, unokufuna ukuzibuza ukuba ngaba unxibelelwano luyinyani ngokwenene. Ngelixa sonke sikonwabela ukonakala kwaye sive ukuba umntu usithanda kangakanani, kubalulekile ukuba ungakhohliswa ngamazwi aphantsi nezipho zexabiso.

Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, banokuba lilinge lokufihla iindlela zokuziphatha ezinqweneleka kakhulu . Ukuba ukhathazekile yile meko, cela iqabane lakho ukuba lithobe isantya kwaye uyeke ukutshiza imali okomzuzwana. Baxelele ukuba ufuna ukwazana ngaphandle kwazo zonke izinto ezibonakalayo kwaye ubone ukuba loluphi uhlobo lonxibelelwano onalo.

ukufuna rhoqo ukunconywa nokwamkelwa

8. Emva kongxamiseko lokuqala lonwabo, banyamezela ngokulula

Abo bahamba ngokukhawuleza kubudlelwane bahlala bebonakala njengabalingane abafanelekileyo ekuqaleni. 'Bafuna ukuzibophelela kum,' ucinga, xa bekuxelela ukuba bayakuthanda emva kweveki kwaye bacebise ukuba nihlale kunye emva kweenyanga ezi-3. Rhoqo, nangona kunjalo, olu hlobo lokuqina alunakuhlala kwaye ngokukhawuleza njengoko 'bethandana' baqala ukudikwa kukuzimana kobomi bemihla ngemihla.

Amehlo abo aqala ukubhadula, bekhangela umntu oza kulawula umlilo. Ewe unako, kwaye kufanele, uzame ukugcina i-spark iphila kunye neqabane lakho, kodwa kuza ixesha kubudlelwane bonke xa kukudibana okunzulu okuya kukudibanisa. Ukuba ukhawulezile wangena ezintweni, ungangabinalo ixesha lokuba ubone ukuba akukho nto iyenye kulwalamano kunomdla kunye nolonwabo lwento entsha.

Cinga ngononophelo xa usenza izigqibo ezinkulu malunga nokuba uye kwinqanaba elilandelayo neqabane lakho. Umzekelo, ukuba bayakucela ukuba nihlale kunye emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa, cinga ukubacela ukuba balinde ithutyana. Chaza ukuba uyonwabele yokwazana kwaye awufuni ukuyonakalisa ngokungxama kwezinto. Ukuba abakho nje kuyo kulonwabo lwangaphambili kwaye bacinga ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba banekamva kunye nawe, baya kukuvuyela ukulinda.

9. Baye bangathandi ngesondo

Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba rhoqo kunye nokuqina kobomi bakho bezesondo ukunciphisa ekuhambeni kwexesha kubudlelwane. Kwaye oku ngokwakho akufuneki kube sisizathu sokukhathazeka. Kodwa ukuba iqabane lakho libonisa uninzi lwemiqondiso ingasentla, kwaye iya ingabi namdla kwisini, kunokubakho ngaphezulu.

Zama ukubuyisela ilangatye kunye nabo - cebisa ubusuku kude, okanye uzenzele isondo ngokunxiba into owaziyo ukuba bayayifumana. Ukuba abakabinamdla, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nabo ngaphambi kokuba ufikelele kwizigqibo- kunokubakho ingxaki yokwenyani ebenexhala kakhulu okanye eneentloni zokuza nayo. Ukuba bakunika izizathu ezingacacanga kwaye bengenzi nzame zokuphucula imeko, nangona kunjalo, unokufuna ukugcina iliso ujonge ezinye iimpawu zokuba bayayifumana kwenye indawo.

10. Ababonisi zimpawu zokuzibophelela

Ukuba ubuhleli neqabane lakho okwethutyana kwaye bayabonisa akukho miqondiso yokufuna ukuzibophelela , emva koko unokufuna ukuzibuza ukuba ngaba bazimisele ngokwenene ngobudlelwane, okanye bahamba nje de kufike omnye umntu.

Andicebisi ukuba kufuneka beguqe ngamadolo, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuzibophelela kubo ngelinye ixesha kwixa elizayo kwaye abathethi ngako, kuya kufuneka ufumanise ukuba uku iphepha elinye.

Le ngongoma ibaluleke ngokukodwa ukuba ikwabonisa uphawu lwe-5, kwaye ayibonisi zimpawu zokucotha. Ukuba ubunobudlelwane obumiselweyo okwethutyana kwaye ufuna ukwazi ukuba iqabane lakho liziva lifana nawe, ungababuza ukuba babona phi nina nobabini kwiminyaka emi-5. Ukuba bayaphendula, 'Khange ndicinge ngayo,' okanye 'Andicwangcisi kude ngaphambili,' ungafuna ukuqaphela ukuba bayaluthatha nzulu ulwalamano lwakho okanye ukuba bathengisa ixesha labo ngelixesha bonwabele okona kulungileyo kuwo omabini amazwe.

Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba nokuba yonke le miqondiso ikhona, oko akuthethi ukuba iqabane lakho belikhona, okanye liza kuthembeka. Kubalulekile ukuseka, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukulungele na ukunyamezela ezi ndlela zokuziphatha nokuba ziyimveliso yokukhohlisa na okanye hayi.

Abanye abantu banokungabinangxaki ngayo nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha elapha ngasentla, kodwa abanye banokuzifumanisa bengahoywanga, bengonwabanga kwaye bengathembi, kwaye ngaphandle kokuthembana ubudlelwane akunakulindeleka ukuba buphile kwixesha elide.

Ke ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nayiphi na into oyibonayo ngasentla, zibuze ukuba ukuhlala kubudlelwane kulungele usizi, ukungazithembi kunye nokuthandabuza. Awusoze wazi ukuba iqabane lakho liyakopela okanye akunjalo, kodwa mhlawumbi urhano lwakho kuphela luphawu olomeleleyo ngokwaneleyo lokuba ubudlelwane abulunganga ncam?

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