Uthando aluchazeki. Uthando luyamangalisa. Uthando yeyona njongo ibalulekileyo ebomini bethu.
Kodwa uthando luyinto yokwenene, luyabonakala, kwaye luyafikeleleka phantse kuye nabani na.
Icandelo elikhohlisayo likwazi ukuxela umahluko phakathi kothando kunye nokuthanda phakathi kothando nentabatheko phakathi kothando kunye ukuxhomekeka . Wazi njani ukuba uyathandana ngokwenene?
Onke la manqaku angezantsi enzelwe ukuba zibe ziindlela ezichazayo zokuba uthando lwakho luyinyani na kwaye xa lunomntu olungileyo. Nangona, ngenyaniso, awunakulubilisa uthando ukuya kumanqaku ali-10-okanye naliphi na inani lalo-kuba intsonkothe ngakumbi kunelo.
Okwangoku, ngethemba lokuba ezi zinto zili-10 ziyinyani kwaye zihamba indlela ende ekuchongeni uthando kwilizwe lokwenyani.
Uluhlu lwakho lweemeko lufutshane kakhulu.
Abanye abantu bacebisa ukuba uthando lwenene alunamida , kodwa abanye banokucinga ukuba oko kuyiphupha kwaye kuyinyani. Uninzi lwabantu mhlawumbi luya kuthi, xa lubonakalisa, lubeke iimeko ezithile kuthando lwabo, nangona xa uzifumanisa unomntu olungileyo, uluhlu lwakho luyehla lusezantsi.
Ungawubamba umgca wenzakaliso enkulu emzimbeni / engqondweni kuwe okanye komnye umntu, ukukrexeza, okanye ezinye izinto ezingenakuxoleleka, kodwa ubukhulu becala, uthando lwakho lunokunyamezela phakathi kobunzima nobunzima (qaphela u 'can' apha - oko akuthethi Kuya kufuneka okanye kuya kufuneka).
2. Unokuba ngabahlobo abakhulu, kodwa akudingeki ukuba ube.
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Umbono wokuba uthando lwakho lokwenene ngokuzenzekelayo lube ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni ayisiyonyani kwindalo iphela. Ngelixa ngokuqinisekileyo baya kuba kakhulu umhlobo olungile , kunokwenzeka kuwe okanye kubo ukuba nanobuhlobo obusondeleyo nabanye abantu.
Eyona nto inokwenzeka, aba iya kuba ngamanani osapho afana nabantakwenu okanye abazali, kodwa banokuba nomhlobo wobomi bonke abanolwalamano olunzulu ngokumangalisayo.
Inqaku apha kukuba, kwimeko yothando lokwenene, ngekhe uboyike okanye ubamonele abanye abantu, nokuba iqabane lakho libathatha njengomhlobo wabo osenyongweni. Uyaqonda ukuba oku akulunciphisi uthando eninalo kunye.
3. Uthi uyabathemba kwaye uyinyani.
Ukuthembela sesinye seziseko ezisisiseko sothando lokwenene, kodwa igama lihlala libotshelelwa malunga nokuba alivakali okanye alichazwanga.
Kwimeko yothando lokwenene, ukuthembela kuye kwanikezelwa. Ngokwendalo ubathembe kwaye awusoze uzibone ukuthandabuza oku nokuba bathini na abanye abantu okanye bacinga ntoni.
Oku akuthethi ukuba ukuthembana akunakwaphulwa-kunokuba- kodwa awunakuyicingela ukuba inokwenzeka kuwe.
Kubalulekile ukwahlula phakathi kwetrust yokwenene kunye nentembelo ngokwala. Ukuthembana kokwenyani kuyinkolelo onayo, ngelixa ukuthembela kokwala kukungahoyi ukungabikho kwale nkolelo inye.
4. Awuboni nje ikamva lakho kunye, uthatha inyathelo ngalo.
Uthando lokwenene kukuzibophelela ekugqibeleni komnye nomnye kwaye oku akuthethi nje ukuba kuthetha ukuba kuthetha ukuyibonisa.
Xa uthanda umntu ofanelekileyo, awucingi nje ngokuba ikamva lakho linganjani, uthatha amanyathelo afunekayo ukuze ujike ezo ngcinga zibe yinyani. Oku kunokuthetha ukucwangcisa iimali zenu kunye ukuze nibe nakho ukuthenga ipropathi, nincame umsebenzi ophumeleleyo ukuze nikhulise abantwana, okanye enye into ngokupheleleyo.
Nokuba yeyiphi na, anivumi kancinci ukuba niyakuyenza ngelinye ixesha kwixa elizayo nihlala kunye kwaye nixoxe ukuba kuya kwenzeka nini kwaye njani.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Amanqanaba ali-10 okuwa ngothando nomnye umntu
- Iimpawu ezi-6 eziNkulu zeQabane lakho likubona njengokhetho, hayi eyona nto iphambili
- Ngaba unokuLungisa ubudlelwane obuNye okanye ngaba kufuneka ubuphelise?
- Uthando lwenene alusoloko luhlala ubomi bonke (kwaye kulungile)
- Unokuba Nalo Njani Ubudlelwane Obusempilweni Ngamagama Asi-8
- Iimpawu eziqinisekileyo zothando olungafunekiyo (kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ngayo)
- Liphi ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthi 'Ndiyakuthanda' kubudlelwane?
5. Ufuna ukuphucula ngokwakho nangona bengakubuzanga.
Xa uzifumana ukuthandana nomntu ofanelekileyo, ufumanisa ukuba uzama ukuba ngowona 'wena' ubalaseleyo onokuba nguye. Oku kuthetha ukuchonga nokuthatha amathuba okunciphisa imikhwa emibi okanye imikhwa emibi (kwaye sonke sinayo), ngelixa ukhulisa icala lakho elilungileyo.
Mhlawumbi oku kubandakanya ukuphucula indlela ophila ngayo, ukunikezela ngento (umz.iigarethi okanye ukungcakaza), ukuziqhelanisa nobubele rhoqo, okanye ukufunda ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho ngendlela esempilweni.
Inqaku kukuba, kumntu olungileyo, uzimisele ukuzama ukuziphucula ngaphandle kokuba uyathandwa. Awuyenzeli bona, uyenzela wena.
Inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi kwevidiyo.
6. Uzimisele, kwaye wonwabile, ukufaka ufakelo olunzima kulo.
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Nkqu eyona inothando ubudlelwane budinga umsebenzi onzima Amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuzincama okungaqhelekanga okanye ukulalanisa akunakuphepheka kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba yirhafu.
Xa ufumana umntu olungileyo, ungazami ukuyibaleka le mingeni, kodwa endaweni yoko uzimisele ngokuzimisela nangokukholelwa ukuba banyanisile.
Nokuba oku kuthetha ukuba uyeke ukuya kubona iqela lakho lezemidlalo olithandayo lidlala rhoqo ngeempelaveki ukuze uzimase amaqela abo osapho, okanye unciphise ulindelo lwakho lweholide lokugcina kwingxowa yemini enemvula, ungangxola kwaye ukhukhumeze kancinane, kodwa uyayenza kunjalo.
7. Uyaphikisana, kodwa uqonde ukuba ukuxolelwa kwenyani kuthetha ntoni.
Zimbalwa kakhulu ubudlelwane ezikhululekile kwimpikiswano ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa uyazi xa ukunye nomntu olungileyo kuba unamava uxolelo lokwenene emveni koko (nangona akunyanzelekanga ukuba ikhawuleze).
Kuthetha ntoni ukuxolela ngenene? Ewe, awubambeleli kwimvakalelo yokuba woniwe okanye inkolelo yokuba ulunge ngokwenqanaba. Ungekhe uze kubona iliso ngeliso, kodwa ufikelela kwinqanaba apho umahluko kwimbono uphela ungabalulekanga kwaye ukhumbule konke okuhle ngaphakathi kwabo okusisiseko sothando lwakho.
8. Ubayeka balandele indlela yabo endaweni yokunyanzelisa ukuba nihambe kunye.
Sonke sihamba ngeendlela zethu ebomini kwaye ngelixa eyakho kunye neqabane lakho inokuhamba ngendlela efanayo, ayisayi kuhlala ihambelana ngokupheleleyo.
Xa uhlala phantsi naloo mntu ulungileyo, ngekhe uzame ukunyanzela iindlela zakho ukuba zidibane. Endaweni yoko, uya kuwuhlonipha umahluko onokubakho kwaye ukhumbule ukuba okulungeleyo akusoloko kufanelekile kubo.
Unokufumanisa ukuba indlela yakho iyatshintsha ngenxa yendlela yabo okanye ngokuchaseneyo, kodwa ezi nguqu azinakunyanzeliswa kufuneka zenzeke ngokwendalo.
Umzekelo inokuba yindlela yokuphila onqwenela ngayo phambi kokuba udibane nesiqingatha sakho inokuthi yahluke mpela kwinto eyiyo esekwe kwikhondo kunye nomvuzo wabo. Endaweni yokunyanzelisa ukuba bazityhale nzima ngakumbi ukuhlangabezana neminqweno yakho, loo minqweno iyatshintsha ukuhlangabezana nomvuzo wabo. Umendo wakho uhamba ngenxa yothando lwakho.
Okanye unokuba sisingenisi esiwela umntu onqabileyo, kodwa endaweni yokuthintela ubume babo obuphumayo, uyayamkela into yokuba ngekhe uhlale ufuna ukuphuma nabo nabahlobo babo kwaye oku kulungile. Alulunciphisi uthando onokuba nalo omnye komnye.
9. Uyayixabisa imiqondiso emincinane njengaleyo mikhulu.
Kukho ixesha elifanelekileyo lesenzo sothando esibonisa uthando kubudlelwane, kodwa ezi azinakwenzeka ngeveki, ngeveki, nokuba ungonwaba kangakanani.
Endaweni yokufumana uthando nomntu olungileyo kuthetha ukufumana uxabiso malunga nazo zonke izijekulo ezincinci eziboniswa liqabane lakho. Iintyatyambo ezingalindelekanga, umzamo owongezelelweyo abaya kuwo ukuze benze ubomi bakho bube lula, iihagi xa besazi ukuba ubenosuku olungqwabalala ezi yiglue ebopha isibini.
Ungabancama ubomi bakho ngenxa yabo, kodwa mhlawumbi bangakukhalimela xa usitsho.
Ukuba ungatsho, ngesandla sentliziyo, ukuba ungawenza umbingelelo wokugqibela kwiqabane olithandayo, ke oku luphawu olukhulu lokuba uthando lwakho luyinyani.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unokuze uthethe oku kwiqabane lakho, unokufumanisa ukuba bayakuxelela ukuba uphuphe into enjalo. Umntu olungileyo uya kubugcina ubomi bakho njengobabo njengoko bebambe eyabo kwaye ngekhe anqwenelele ububi ukuba beze kuwe nokuba imeko yabo imbi kangakanani.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lilungile ngokuzimisela kwakho ukuzincama, ungabuza ukuba kutheni.
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Wazi njani ukuba uyathandana? Zibuze ukuba zingaphi ezi zinto ziyinyani malunga nawe kunye nolwalamano lwakho. Amanqaku angaphezulu onokuwaphawula, kunokwenzeka ukuba into oziva luthando yeyona nto iligama.
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