Udibana nomphefumlo wakho, ibasemathandweni , kwaye sihlale sonwabile emva koko.
Ewe, kumaphupha akho.
Ulwalamano lokwenyani alusoze lube luncumo oluhle, ukwangana okufudumeleyo kunye neengcinga ezimnandi.
Ubudlelwane bokwenyani ngamanye amaxesha bunokuba ngumsebenzi onzima ngokweemvakalelo, ubunzima bengqondo, kwanobunzima bomzimba.
Kutheni le nto kufuneka babe ngolu hlobo? Kutheni le nto singenakonwabela ukonwaba okungapheliyo kwesiphelo saseHollywood?
Zininzi izizathu.
Ubudlelwane bunzima kuba…
1. Kuya kufuneka uthathe izigqibo njengeCandelo
Umntu ongatshatanga ubhaka indlela yakhe kwihlabathi liphela kufuneka acinge ngeziqu zakhe. Banokukhetha indlela yabo, bayeke nakweyiphi na indawo kunye nokubona abakuthandayo, kwaye bachithe ixesha elide bafuna endaweni enye.
Yongeza iqabane kumxube kwaye ngequbuliso kuya kufuneka uvumelane ukuba uyaphi, uza kubona ntoni, uza kutya ntoni, uza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani, kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi.
Ubomi bokwenyani bufana nolo hambo lobhaka, kuphela kuya kufuneka wenze uhlobo lwesicwangciso sokubambisana malunga nendlela oza kuyithatha kunye ebomini.
Uyafuna ukutshata? Ngaba ufuna abantwana? Zingaphi? Ufanele uhlale phi? Ufanele ukuchitha ntoni ngeempelaveki uzenza? Ufanele uyisebenzise njani imali yakho? Ufanele ugcine malini?
Kwaye kuyaqhubeka.
Awusenayo inkululeko yokwenza njengoko unqwenela ngalo lonke ixesha. Abanye izigqibo ziya kufuneka zithathwe kunye.
Kwaye oku kunokuba nzima xa sele uqhele ukwenza unothanda. Ihlala ikhokelela kulungelelwaniso, inokukhokelela kwimpikiswano, kwaye isenokukhokelela kwinzondo xa ungazifumani izinto kanye ngendlela othanda ngayo.
uyeke njani ukuba ngumntu onetyhefu
Ingavakalelwa ngokungathi ubomi bakho bunyanzelekile, ngakumbi ukuba ungumntu okhululekileyo okhe wanandipha ukuzimela geqe.
Kungenxa yoko le nto abanye abantu bekufumanisa kunzima ukutshintsha ukusuka kwi-singleton ukuya kwisibini.
Ubudlelwane bunzima kuba…
2. Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngomnye umntu
Umhlaba wakho uphindwe kabini ngobukhulu xa wena ngenisa ubudlelwane . Awusenakho ukufikelela ekuqwalaseleni kuphela ubomi bakho, iingcinga zakho, iimvakalelo zakho, iminqweno yakho kunye neminqweno yakho.
Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngeqabane lakho. Kuya kufuneka ubazi, iimvakalelo zabo, iingxaki zabo, iminqweno yabo, izimvo zabo.
Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule izinto malunga nazo ukuze ubenokwenza ngeendlela zokukuzisa Zombini uxolo nolonwabo.
Ngaba i-ayisikrimu ayithandayo i-mint choc chip okanye i-chocolate fudge brownie? (Ukuba ungathandabuzeki, zithenge zombini.)
Ngaba bathe bafuna ukubona imovie kaRyan Reynolds yamva nje? Ibonisa nini kwaye phi? Ngaba ungawathenga amatikiti ngobusuku bokuvula?
Ngaba zikhona izikhumbuzo ezikhathazayo ezibalulekileyo kubo njengokufa komntu omthandayo?
Ubudlelwane sesinye sezixhobo zokukhumbula ezinokubakho kuba kuya kufuneka umamele ngononophelo kwinto ethethwa liqabane lakho ukuze bazive bexabisekile.
Oku kubeka uxinzelelo kuwe ukuba ukhumbule zonke ezi nkcukacha ukuze ungafaki unyawo lwakho kuyo kwaye uthethe okanye wenze into eya kubenzakalisa nangayiphi na indlela.
Oku kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu kwabanye abantu kunabanye kwaye kungakhokelela kukuziva ungaphaya, ngakumbi kwiinyanga zokuqala xa uku ukwazana .
Kuya kufuneka uphinde wenze ngendlela ehlonipha iqabane lakho kunye nobudlelwane bakho.
Awunakho nje ukuya kusela emva komsebenzi ngaphandle kokubonisana nabo kuqala.
Awungekhe uthenge izinto ezinkulu ngaphandle kokufumana isivumelwano / intsikelelo (ucinga ukuba uyidibanisile imali yakho).
Awunakho ukuziphatha ngendlela engalunganga xa ujikeleze usapho lwabo kwaye ungalindeli ukuba ichaphazele indlela abaziva ngayo.
Kwakhona, oku kubuyela kukhetho olwenzayo kunye nesidingo sokujonga iqabane lakho xa usenza.
Ubudlelwane bunzima kuba…
3. Abahlali bedibana nolindelo lwakho
Ungakholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane obulungileyo kufuneka bube lula obuza kusombulula zonke iingxaki zakho eziza kukuzisela ulonwabo obukade ulufuna.
Kuphela, akukho lula, ayizukusombulula zonke iingxaki zakho, kwaye ayizukuzisa ulonwabo kwangoko nangonaphakade.
Ubudlelwane buhlala bunzima ngokwenziwa kwethu kuba singena kubo silindele imimangaliso kwaye singalindelanga ukuba sisebenze kuyo.
Bonke ubudlelwane budinga ukhathalelo kunye noqwalaselo ukuze bakhule babeyinto esempilweni kwaye ehlala ixesha elide.
Kwaye ngelixa iqabane linokuba ngumthombo olungileyo wokuxhasa xa usokola, ngekhe ibe nguwe othwala imithwalo yakho.
Oku kunokuba nzima ukuba ukwamkele kuba uye wamfanyekiswa ngamabali othando kunye nomfanekiso ogqibeleleyo wemifanekiso yokuvisisana kwimidiya yoluntu.
Kodwa iintsomi ziyile nto kanye kwaye awuyiyo eyomsebenzi kunye nemizabalazo engena kulo lonke ubudlelwane obubonayo ngeenxa zonke kuwe.
Ukuba unayo ulindelo olungeyonyani kulwalamano lwakho , wenza kube nzima kuwe ukonwaba kuyo.
Ubudlelwane bunzima kuba…
4. Abantu beza nemithwalo
Unokudlulileyo. Qikelela ukuba? Unjalo ke wonke umntu kunye neqabane lakho.
Kwaye izinto ezithile ezivela kwiipaski zethu zisenempembelelo ngokweemvakalelo kuthi namhlanje.
Oku kunokuba yingxaki kuwe kuba ziziganeko ezenzeke ngaphambi kokuba ubekho. Awunamava okuqala kwabo.
Kwaye ke kunokuba ngumceli mngeni kuwe ukuba uqonde ngokwenene ukuba kutheni besabambe njalo kwiqabane lakho namhlanje.
Ngamaxesha athile, indlela abaziphethe ngayo inokubonakala ngathi ayinangqondo kwaye ichasene neempawu zabo eziqhelekileyo. Ingakushiya udidekile kwaye ungakwazi ukunceda.
Unokuthi okanye wenze into ephosakeleyo kuba awuyazi ngokupheleleyo eyona ngxaki oyibonayo.
Nokuba uthethile ngemicimbi ebangele ezi mvakalelo kwiqabane lakho, ukuqonda kwakho kunokulinganiselwa kulwazelelo, umbono oqinisekileyo.
Awuyi kuba nakho ukuqonda iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zeqabane lakho ngenxa yokuba ungakhange uphile kumava abo.
Nokuba iqabane lakho lahlukumezeka ebuntwaneni, lalinomlingani owayengathembekanga, okanye lalibandakanyeka kwisehlo esibuhlungu esifana nengozi yemoto okanye uhlaselo lobunqolobi, uxelelwa ngalo akufani nokuphila.
Kwaye kukho iindlela ezisebenzayo zemithwalo ezinje ngabantwana abasuka kubudlelwane obudlulileyo, iingxaki zemali ezinje ngamatyala, kunye nemicimbi yezempilo (nangona zonke ezi zinto zinempembelelo yeemvakalelo nazo).
Ke xa udibana nomnye umntu ukwenza ubuhlakani, kuya kufuneka wamkele ukuba ixesha labo elidlulileyo liza nabo, njengokuba nexesha lakho elidlulileyo liza nawe.
Ubambe isandla seqabane lakho ngesandla esinye kwaye uphathe imithwalo yakho kwesinye.
Ubudlelwane bunzima kuba…
yeyiphi intlawulo elandelayo esiyibonayo ngombono ngamnye
5. Sonke Sifuna Ixesha Eledwa
Abantu zizidalwa zentlalo, kodwa kuye kufike ixesha apho sonke kufuneka siphume siye kwintlango eyedwa (ukuthetha ngokuzekelisayo) kwaye sibe kunye nathi. Yedwa.
Kuphela, xa ubudlelwane bufikelela kwinqanaba elithile, eli kuphela kwexesha liba lilinganiselwe.
Unokuhlala kunye neqabane lakho kwaye uchithe ixesha lakho elininzi ukhululekile kunye nabo. Ukurhoxisa uxolo kunye nokuzola akukho lula.
Ayisiyongxaki yomzimba kuphela ngenxa yokusondela komnye nomnye, kodwa iqabane lakho lisenokungadingi xesha lodwa njengawe, kungenjalo.
Ukuba bafuna ukuba nawe, kodwa ukhetha ukuhlala wedwa, ujongene nengxaki: unikezele ngexesha lakho wedwa okanye umngcipheko wokucaphukisa umntu omthandayo.
Akukho khetho inomdla kakhulu, yiyo loo nto esi sizathu esinye ubudlelwane kunokuba nzima ngamanye amaxesha.
Okukhona uhamba ixesha elide ngaphandle kwamaxesha owandisiweyo wedwa, kokukhona liya kuba likhulu ithuba lokuba udikwe yinkampani ebonelelwa liqabane lakho kwaye kokukhona kunokwenzeka ubafumane becaphukisa.
Unokuqala nokubacaphukisa ngokuthatha ixesha lakho lasimahla.
Ama-introverts afumana lo ngumzabalazo othile kuba bafuna ixesha kunye nendawo kubo ukuze baqokelele iingcinga zabo, bafumane iziko labo, kwaye bahlaziye iibhetri zabo.
Ngaphandle kwayo, baphela engqondweni nangokweemvakalelo, okubeka uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kubudlelwane.
Ubudlelwane bunzima kuba…
6. Kuya kufuneka utyhile ubungozi bakho
Ubomi bakho bonke, uya kuzifihla izinto ezikuxhalabisayo, izinto ezikuxhalabisayo kunye noloyiko kwabanye abantu.
Oogxa bakho, abahlobo bakho, kunye nosapho lwakho abanokwazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni ngaphakathi kwentloko yakho (kuxhomekeke kuhlobo luni lobudlelwane onalo naba bantu).
Kodwa ubudlelwane obuphilileyo budinga ukungafihli, ukuba sesichengeni ngakumbi kunokuba ubuqhele.
Ukunikwa ixesha eloneleyo lokuba ubudlelwane buphuhle ngokupheleleyo, iqabane lakho liya kuba lelona mntu wabelana naye kakhulu.
Uya kwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho, uya kwabelana ngeengcinga zakho, uya kwabelana ngamaphupha akho kunye nokoyika kwakho kunye nokukhathazeka kwakho kunye nokungaqiniseki kwakho.
Kwaye ukuvuleka komnye umntu akusoloko kulula. Kwaigama elithi 'ukuba sesichengeni' libonisa ukuba uzibeka esichengeni sokwenzakala kunye nentlungu.
Usenokungafumani mpendulo ungathanda. Unokuchitha amathumbu akho kwaye iqabane lakho linokujonga ngaphandle, lingazi ukuba lithini okanye lenze ntoni.
Uninzi lwabantu luswele ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo bokuqonda into oyifunayo kubo kwezi meko. Ayilotyala labo, kodwa uya kuziva uphoxekile, ucaphukile, kwaye unomsindo.
Kwaye kukho icala elisezantsi. Unokufuna ukuba iqabane lakho livuleke ngakumbi kwaye libe sesichengeni, ukuba babelane ngokusebenza kwabo ngaphakathi, kodwa basenokungavumi kangako.
Ukungalingani kolu hlobo kunokuba ngumceli mngeni kumaxesha amahle. Inokuba ngumqobo kunxibelelwano kwaye inokukhokelela kulo naliphi na inani leengxaki.
Unakho (ngokuchanekileyo okanye ngokungalunganga) ukholelwa ukuba bafihla into ethile kuwe. Imiba yokuthemba inokuvela kumacala omabini. Ukungabikho kokuvuleka kunokuqhuba ukudibanisa phakathi kwabantu ababini.
ungamncoma njani umfana omthandayo
Ke, nokuba uyabonisa ukuba sesichengeni kwakho okanye uyabufihla, umphumo awuyi kuba kukuhamba epakini.
Ubudlelwane bunzima kuba…
7. Azizintsha kwaye zinomdla ongunaphakade
Iintlantsi zokuqala zobudlelwane obutsha zizisa uchulumanco, amabhabhathane, kunye nolindelo lokuba ekugqibeleni ufumene uthando lwakho lokwenene kwaye ubomi buya kuba ngcono ukusukela ngoku.
Uphefumla umoya omtsha, ubona izinto ngamehlo ahlukeneyo, kwaye nobabini nifunxa kwaye nikhanyisa amandla ahlukileyo.
Kuphela, oku akuhlali.
Izinto ziya ziqheleka, ziqhelekile, ziphindaphindwe. Yindalo nje yendaleko yalo naluphi na ulwalamano olunzulu.
Ngokukhawuleza uyaqonda ukuba ukugcina loo nto iqhina lothando kufuna umgudu namandla. Kuya kufuneka usebenze kubudlelwane.
Onke amanqaku adlulileyo-ukusuka ekucingeni omnye umntu ukuya ekujonganeni nemithwalo-kufuna iinzame ezizinzileyo zokukhula kokubini njengabantu kunye nokubambisana.
Abanye abantu abatshatileyo bakufumana kulula kunabanye, kodwa bonke bafuna ukhathalelo nokhathalelo ukuze baphumelele.
Kungekudala ukungavisisani, ukungavumelani kunye nokudana kuya kuvela. Unokungazifuni okanye uzilindele, kodwa akukho buhlobo bungekho ngaphandle kokuhla nokuhla.
Isitshixo kukujongana nokujongana needes, sixhasane xa ubomi buphosela ispani kwimisebenzi, kwaye wonwabe kwaye wandise phezulu.
Ubudlelwane bunzima kuba…
8. Bakhethe
Uthando luyimvakalelo kwaye lukhetho . Xa ungena kubudlelwane nomnye umntu, umkhetha njengeqabane lakho ebomini (okanye, ubuncinci, eso sisicwangciso).
Kodwa njengalo naluphi na ukhetho, izinto zokuthandabuza zinokungena.
ubude bunjani ubumnandi be-alexa
Ngaba lo mntu ukufanele? Ngaba uzibona kunye kunye nobomi bakho bonke? Ngaba uyafuna ukuhlala phantsi ngoku? Ngaba ukhona umntu 'ongcono' phaya kuwe?
Awuyi kuba nazo zonke iimpendulo zale mibuzo kwaye oku kuyakoyikisa.
Ukungaqiniseki kubudlelwane phantse kuyo yonke indawo ngexesha elithile. Mhlawumbi kwenzeka kwezi veki zimbalwa zokuqala kunye neenyanga zokuthandana, okanye emva ixesha lasemva komtshato liyaphela kwaye uqala ukuzinza kwisiqhelo, okanye nasemva kweminyaka nikunye.
Xa ubetha amaqhuqhuva endleleni, ujongene nolunye ukhetho: ngaba phelisa ubudlelwane kwaye uhambe ngeendlela zakho ezahlukileyo, okanye uphinda-phinda kabini kwaye ubeke konke okusemandleni akho ukuze udlule kwesi siqwengana somqolo?
Ukujongana nezi ntlobo zeefolokhwe endleleni kunzima. Ukwazi ukuba ubomi bakho bunokutshintsha ngenye indlela okanye ngokusekwe kwisigqibo sakho yinto eyoyikisayo. Inokubangela uxinzelelo kunye nokucoca ngokwengqondo ukuya ngaphezulu kwentloko yakho rhoqo kwaye kwakhona.
Akufani nosapho lwakho apho ungenakho ukubakhetha, kwaye akufani nabahlobo bakho apho unokuba baninzi, kuya kufuneka ulungele ukuzibophelela kulo mntu ungomnye kwaye uthethe oko.
Ubudlelwane bunzima, kodwa…
Kukho ubunzima, kwaye kukho 'nzima'
Nangona kunjalo ufumene eli nqaku, mhlawumbi unethemba lokuba liza kuthi ulwalamano olufanelekileyo aluyi kuba nzima. Ukuba xa ufumana umntu olungileyo, izinto ziya kuba lula.
Uxolo ngokugqabhuza iqamza lakho
Kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke intshabalalo kunye nesithokothoko. Ngelixa olona lwalamano lubalaseleyo lunokuba ngumceli mngeni ngamanye amaxesha, zikwapakishwe zizele kukuhleka kunye novuyo kunye namaxesha amnandi.
Kwaye lo ngumahluko phakathi kobudlelwane obunzima ngengqondo yokuba ingayi umzabalazo kunye nobudlelwane obunzima apho bakhoyo njalo umzabalazo.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uninzi lweentsuku luzisa ubunzima kunye nokuxabana kunothando nothando kunye nobunye, akukho ngqiqweni ukubuza ubudlelwane obukubo.
Awunakuze uyeke ngokulula kubudlelwane obuthulule intliziyo yakho kunye nomphefumlo wakho, kodwa akufuneki nokuba unyamezele kulowo obekukuzisela iintlungu noxinzelelo ixesha elide.
Ngamanye amagama, ukuba kukho ithuba lokuba izinto zingabuyela kwinqanaba apho uvuyo noxolo zilawula kubudlelwane bakho, zilwele.
Ukuba awusayiboni loo nto inokwenzeka okanye ithemba, okanye ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba ukhona ayihambelani neqabane lakho , kulungile ukuyiphelisa.
Kukho nzima kwaye kukho 'nzima' kwaye ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buwela kokugqibela, ulungile ukuba uxhalabe.
Ubudlelwane obulungileyo, obusempilweni kufuneka bukunike inzuzo obunokukunika yona ngakumbi kunokuba ithatha kuwe amaxesha amnandi okubagqitha kakhulu.
Oko kufanelekile ukukhumbula ixesha elizayo xa ukhalaza ukuba ubudlelwane bakho ngumsebenzi onzima.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga nemicimbi yakho yobudlelwane?Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ufumane yonke into wedwa. Ukuthetha nengcali yobudlelwane, nokuba nguwe okanye njengesibini, kunokunceda ukucacisa ukuba yeyiphi imiba kwaye ufumane izisombululo kuyo.Ke kutheni ungaxoxi kwi-Intanethi kwenye yeengcali ezivela kwiHelshipship Hero ezingakunceda usebenze kwezi ngxaki. Ngokulula.
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