Ulwalamano olomeleleyo, olusempilweni yinto entle. Nangona ubudlelwane obulungileyo bungaze bube ngumzabalazo omkhulu, ukuba kungoku okanye ukhe waba kubudlelwane obukhulu, obuzinikeleyo, uya kwazi ukuba kubandakanya umsebenzi omninzi.
Ukukhawuleza kokuqala kwamahomoni kunye nolonwabo kunokubonakala ngathi kuya kuhlala ngonaphakade, kodwa kuyakufika indawo apho idangatye liya kuqala ukucima ukuba awufaki ngabom umlilo.
Kwelinye icala, kuyinyani ukuba akukho ubudlelwane babini buyakuze bujonge ngokufanayo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umntu ngamnye wahlukile kwaye uneemfuno neemfuno ezahlukeneyo.
Kwelinye icala, kungenxa yokuba umbono wabantu ababini wokugqibelela usenokungaqondakali kwesinye isibini, oko akuthethi ukuba azikho iinjongo ezithile zohlobo oluqhelekileyo esingenako ukuzinqwenela zonke iinjongo ezigcina ubudlelwane buqhubela phambili kwaye buvela kunokuba bume.
Ndithetha iinjongo zeenjongo zokwenyani zobudlelwane obudlula ngaphaya kwangaphandle. Izinto onqwenela ukuzenza njengesibini esihamba nzulu kunokuthatha ifoto efanelekileyo ukuyilayisha ku-Instagram kunye negama elithi #couplegoals.
Nangona kungekho nto iphosakeleyo ngokwabelana ngothando lwakho kwimidiya yoluntu ngokufuthi, eyona nto kugxilwe kuyo kubudlelwane bakho akufuneki ibe ngamathuba amahle ezithombe.
Kodwa yintoni eyona nto iphambili ekufuneka ijolise kuyo?
Ukuba uzimisele ngokukhulisa ubudlelwane bakho ngaphaya kwesigaba sokuqala sasemva komtshato , Nazi iinjongo ezimbalwa nina nobabini enicinga ukuba nizibekele ukuziqinisekisa ukuba ziyaqhubeka nokukhula kwaye zikhule iminyaka ezayo.
1. NinokuPhila ngaphandle komnye nomnye
Uyazi ezo zibini ezenza yonke into kunye? Ungabi ngomnye wabo!
Kulula ngokumangalisayo ukungena kubudlelwane kwaye ngequbuliso uqaphele iinyanga ezimbalwa (okanye iminyaka!) Ezantsi komgca wokuba awunabomi ngokuzimeleyo kwiqabane lakho.
Esinye sezihluthulelo zokondla ubudlelwane bakho obuthandanayo kukuba ungayivumeli ukuba ityhalele ubudlelwane bakho nosapho lwakho, abahlobo bakho , nkqu nakwelakho icala. Ukuba wenzayo, ubeka emngciphekweni wokuphazamisa ubudlelwane.
Ngelixa kunokubonakala kungaqhelekanga ukuba ndiqale olu luhlu ngokukuxelela ukuba ucinge ngolunye ulwalamano lwakho kunye nawe kunokuba ube liqabane lakho, kubalulekile ukuba ungaxhomekeki kumntu omnye (okanye ukuxhomekeka kwelinye kwelinye ukuba nobabini niyayeka olunye ubudlelwane buwele ecaleni kwendlela).
Akukho mntu ubanoxanduva lokonwaba kwakho konke ngumthwalo onzima ukuwuthwala. Lowo ngumsebenzi wakho.
Ukuba ubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kwiqabane lakho, kuya kubangela iingxaki emgceni. Uya kuba nezinto ezinomdla ngakumbi ukuba ungathetha ngazo ukuba ungabuyela omnye komnye emva kwexesha ngaphandle kwamabali onokubalisa kunye nolwazi olutsha olufumanekileyo lokudlulisa.
2. Kodwa usabeke phambili ulwalamano lwakho
Xa sele uyithethile yonke loo nto, ngelixa ungaze ugqithise ulwalamano lwakho, kufanelekile isengumba ophambili kuni nobabini .
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Zikhumbuze ukuba ungathathi ubudlelwane uthatha nje unganaki nanini na, kwaye zibekeleni ixesha lokuba nichithe kunye.
Ukujonga indlela obuxakeke ngayo ubomi bethu kwezi ntsuku, ngakumbi xa abantwana okanye abanye abantu abaxhomekeke kuwe bephoswa kumxube, ukuba awucwangcisi ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye, ngekhe uphele sele unayo.
Nenjongo yokunxibelelana yonke imihla enye ngexesha elinye. Gxila ngokupheleleyo komnye nomnye, nokuba yimizuzu nje eli-15 ngaphezulu kwekomityi yeti, kwaye ulungiselele ubusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla okanye iintsuku apho unokuchitha iiyure ezimbalwa uyonwabele inkampani yomnye nomnye.
Kunokuba luncedo ukubona ubudlelwane njengeziko elahlukileyo elifuna ukutya okunesondlo. Umlilo, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uya kuthi ekugqibeleni ucime xa utshisiwe kuwo onke amafutha akhoyo. Ixesha elidibeneyo lilingana nokustobha okanye ukuphosa ilog kwilangatye.
3. Nizonwabele kunye
Ndiyazi, ibinzana elithi 'ukusebenza kubudlelwane bakho' alivakali liyonwabisa. Kodwa kufanelekile!
Qiniseka ukuba kunye nokuba iincoko ezinzulu , nenza ixesha lokuzonwabisa kunye.
Cinga emva kwezinto ozenze kunye ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho kwaye uphuphe izinto ezintsha onokuzama zona.
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Zama ukungabuthathi ubomi ngokubaluleka kwaye ungoyiki ukuba sisidenge kwaye uziphathe njengabantwana kwakhona. Hlaziya iziqhulo zakho kwaye uthathe iMickey kwenye. Yonwabela inkampani yomnye nomnye!
4. Nityhilana
Ubudlelwane obufanelekileyo abufanelanga ukuba yinto ekubambezelayo kwaye kuthetha ukuba umile kufuneka ukutyhalele phambili.
Ngaba ukhe wayibona enye yazo Ukwahlukana okanye uqhawulo-mtshato apho elinye okanye omabini amaqela eya kuhlaziya ngokupheleleyo ubomi babo? Apho bathi ekugqibeleni benze zonke izinto ababehlala bephupha ngazo, kodwa zange baziva ngathi banokuzenza ngelixesha kubudlelwane.
Yiba sisibini esenza ezo zinto kunye, siyatyhalana kwaye singazinzisi kulamlo.
Wena neqabane lakho nifanele nenze konke okusemandleni enu ukuba nikhuthazane ukuba nizabalazele ukufikelela kwiinjongo zobomi, nokuba zezobungcali okanye zezobuqu. Yiba ngoyena mntu uchwayita kakhulu kwiqabane lakho kwaye ubakhumbuze ukuba banokwenza nantoni na abamisa iingqondo zabo kuyo, kwaye baya kwenza okufanayo nakuwe.
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5. Nikhuthazana Omnye Nomnye Ngokwengqondo
Ngelixa kunganyanzelekanga ukuba uthathe umdla wobukrelekrele kuzo zonke izinto ezifanayo, kufuneka ube nomdla wokwenene ezingqondweni zabanye.
Omnye wenu angathanda ukuphuma kumyuziyam okanye afunde incwadi elungileyo ngeCawa emva kwemini enye inokuba yeyona nto iphambili kwifilimu.
Kodwa, ngeli lixa kulungile ukuba unomdla ohlukileyo, kufanelekile ukuba ube neencoko ezigqitha ngaphezulu kokuzenzisa. Nokuba uxoxa ngenkcubeko, ezopolitiko, okanye kwanentsingiselo yobomi, kuya kufuneka unomdla wokungena nzulu kwiingcinga zomnye.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba oku kuyasilela kubudlelwane bakho, zama ukucima umabonwakude ngoku, ugqithise intetho encinci, ubabuze malunga nokuziphatha, abaphambukeli, isini, inkolo, iinkwenkwezi, ukungazithembi kwabo…
Xa umba nzulu kwi-psyche yomntu omthandayo, uya kufumana ubuncwane obungcwatyiwe.
6.… Nokwabelana ngesondo
Kuninzi lwabantu, isini siyinto ebalulekileyo nakweyiphi na into yokuthandana. Ekupheleni kosuku, sonke siyizilwanyana ezinesondo sendalo.
Kukwindalo ngokwentelekiso, nangona kunjalo, ngesondo kubudlelwane bexesha elide ukuba buthathaka kancinci kwaye omabini amaqela aphulukane nomdla, ngakumbi xa ubomi buxakekile kwaye bunoxinzelelo.
Into efunekayo apha kukuzimisela ukwenza izinto zisebenze. Njengokuba kufanelekile ukuba ubeke amakhadi akho etafileni malunga neemfuno zakho kwezinye iinkalo zobudlelwane, iingxoxo malunga nesondo kufuneka zingafihlisi, zivuleke kwaye zingabi nazintloni.
Kuya kufuneka uzive ukhululekile ngokwaneleyo kunye neqabane lakho ukuze ukwazi ukunxibelelana ngeemfuno zakho kwaye ubabuze malunga nezabo (ngelixa ukuhlonipha imida yomnye nomnye ngamaxesha onke).
Ukuba ubeka umgudu wokugcina umlilo uvutha kwaye uzimisele ukuzama izinto ezintsha, akukho sizathu sokuba isondo singakwazi ukuqhubeka sibangcono njengoko ulwazi ngemizimba yomnye nomnqweno luye luye lusiba nzulu kule minyaka idlulileyo.
7. Ubeka Onke Amakhadi Akho Etafileni
Ukunyaniseka phantse kube ngumgaqo-nkqubo ogqwesileyo. Ubudlelwane obusempilweni akufuneki busekwe kwizinto enicinga ukuba nobabini nicingelwe ukuba 'zinikwe' kwinkangeleko okanye kwindlela enika ibinzana ngayo into.
Ngelixa iingxoxo malunga nobudlelwane zinokuba yinkohliso yokuxoxisana, ukuba nobabini niyasondela kuyo ngenjongo yokwenza izinto zicace gca phakathi kwenu, intetho ezinje ngale ziya kuhlala zilungile kwaye zomeleze ubudlelwane benu.
Nokuba yincoko malunga nolwalathiso lwexesha elizayo lobudlelwane okanye intetho yeminqweno eyimfihlo yokufudukela kwelinye ilizwe, eyakho kunye nolindelo lweqabane lakho kufuneka ichazelwe ukuthintela nakuphi na ukudideka.
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8. UliQela
Ukuba ungenile ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo Kuya kufuneka ujonge iqabane lakho njengeqabane. Ukuba nabelana ngendlu okanye ninabantwana okanye izilwanyana ndawonye, kuya kufuneka nithembele omnye komnye.
Ngelixa iintsomi zingayikhankanyi le nxalenye, iinyani zokuhlalisana zithetha ukuba nobabini kufuneka nidlale indima yenu ukugcina umboniso usendleleni.
Ngamaxesha athile, omnye wenu uyakufuna omnye ukuba athabathe i-slack kancinci, kodwa kufuneka ihlale iphindisiwe. Xa ufuna inkxaso ethe kratya, kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuyicela, kodwa uhlala uhlala uzimisele ngakumbi ukubuyisela inceba.
Xa ulilungu leqela, uhlala unemqolo omnye nomnye kwaye uyazi apho ukuthembeka kwakho kulele khona.
9. Ngaphezu kwako konke, Usoloko Unobubele
Kungaba lula kakhulu ukuzifumana ukukhwaza iqabane lakho . Kukangaphi uqhekeza kwaye uthetha izinto ongazithethi nyani xa usiva ubuhlungu ngento abayenzileyo okanye abangayenzanga?
Kunokuhenda kwaye kube lula ukuvumela into egxalathelayo, kodwa xa uziva ulingeka ukuba uphume, yigcine. Ukuziphatha ngokungakhathali , ukukhohlisa, kunye nezimvo ezihlekisayo owaziyo ukuba ziya kugoduka azisoze zincede nayiphi na imeko.
Baza kukhonza kuphela ukuqhuba isinqe phakathi kwakho kwaye kuya kuthetha ukuba iqabane lakho liza kuqala ukubeka iindonga zokuzikhusela ngokuchasene nawe, zingafuni ukuphinda ziphinde zenzakaliswe.
Awusoloko uvumelana omnye nomnye - kwaye oko kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye kusempilweni- kodwa yenze eyona nto iphambili ukulungisa naziphi na ukungavisisani ngokuthe ngqo, ngokukhawuleza nangokuzolileyo, uhlala ubambe injongo entliziyweni yakho yokungonzakalisi iqabane lakho nangaliphi na igama elihlabayo.
Ubazi kakuhle kangangokuba uyazi ukuba ubabetha njani apho kubuhlungu khona, kodwa ngokuzibophelela kuwe, bayakuthemba ukuba ungalusebenzisi olo lwazi ngokuchasene nabo.
Yiba nobubele nothando ngentliziyo yakho yonke, kwaye awuyi kuhamba kakhulu.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba zeziphi iinjongo onokuzibeka kubudlelwane bakho? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
Eli phepha linamalungu onxibelelwano. Ndifumana ikhomishini encinci ukuba ukhetha ukuthenga nantoni na emva kokucofa kuyo.
