Ngalo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane, akukho mntu ufuna ukukholelwa ekubeni ayinakuba yinto ephambili komnye umntu njengoko loo mntu ebaluleke kakhulu kubo.
Ukuba kwaye ufikelela nini ekufezekiseni okunjalo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ufune ukungahoyi imiqondiso okanye uzame ukuzilinganisa.
Ukuncamathela kwithemba lokuba umntu uya kuyitshintsha indlela akuphatha ngayo kwaye akwenze ube yeyona nto iphambili ebomini yinto engekhoyo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho kuphela kukwenza uzive ukhethekile ngezihlandlo ezibalulekileyo, ezinje ngoSuku lweValentines kunye nosuku lwakho lokuzalwa, emva koko ungonwabanga unyaka wonke, kuya kufuneka ukhumbule le miqondiso mikhulu mi-6 ebonisa ngokucacileyo indawo yakho ebomini babo.
1. Zonke iziCwangciso zikwiMiqathango yazo
Xa sibonana, amalungiselelo adla ngokwenziwa ngomzuzu wokugqibela. Oku kunokuthetha ukuba iqabane lakho liphelisa zonke ezinye iindlela ngaphambi kokuqinisekisa naziphi na izicwangciso kunye nawe.
Kubo, ukuxhoma kunye nawe yinto abayenzayo xa kungekho enye indlela ebhetele. Ngenxa yoko, niza kuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye kunye ngaphakathi, kunye nemisebenzi emangazayo imbalwa kwaye iphakathi kakhulu.
Ngexesha elifanayo, bahlala befuna ukwazi izicwangciso zakho, kodwa kunqabile ukuba bacebise izinto xa sele ubaxelele. Le yindlela yabo yokwazi ukuba banomnatha wokhuseleko ukuba konke okunye kusilele.
2. Uziva ngathi awubalulekanga kubo
Abaze bakuthathe njenge 'dibanisa enye' kwiminyhadala yabo ebalulekileyo okanye bapholise nabahlobo babo. Ukuba ububaluleke kakhulu, uya kuba ngumhla wabo kuyo yonke imicimbi, ukusuka kubusuku obulula kunye nabahlobo ukuya kumtshato womhlobo wabo osenyongweni.
Bahlala bebheyila / rhoxisa kwizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Umzekelo, emva kokuzibophelela ukuza kumsitho obalulekileyo wosapho lwakho, bayarhoxisa ngokungathandabuzekiyo kubusuku obungaphambili. Kuphela kamva ufumanisa ukuba bachitha imini yonke ekhaya bedlala imidlalo.
Kwaye bahlala belibala imihla kunye neziganeko ezibalulekileyo kuwe. Nguwe kuphela okhumbula isikhumbuzo sakho, imihla yokuzalwa, okanye amanye amaxesha abalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Iqabane lakho alisoze lenze okufanayo kuwe.
Qaphela ukuba abantu bahlala bekhumbula izinto ezibalulekileyo kubo !!
3. Wenza wonke umzamo kunye nokuhamba
Ukusuka okokuqala, ukuya kumhla wokuqala, ekuchazeni ubudlelwane, uhlala unguye owenza yonke imizamo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho lithatha ngonaphakade ukuphendula kwizicatshulwa zakho, azikhe ziququzelele naziphi na izicwangciso, kwaye zingaze zitsalele umnxeba okanye zithumele umyalezo kuqala, ke unezizathu zokothuka.
Okwesibini, baphendula kuphela okanye bafikelele xa befuna into. Ngenye indlela baxakeke kakhulu ukuba babuyele kuwe, kodwa bakunike isimo sengqondo esikhulu ukuba awuphenduli kwangoko kubo-nokuba ubotshelelwe ngokwenene ngumsebenzi.
4. Iqabane lakho likuphethe kakubi
Uhlala uzifumana kwiimeko apho kuya kufuneka uzithethelele kubahlobo bakho kunye nosapho ngokubhekisele kwindlela abakuphatha ngayo okanye abathetha nawe ngayo.
Kungaba neentloni, ngakumbi ukuba kuyabonakala, kodwa ukukhetha ukuzikhusela kwizenzo zabo kukukhetha ukwamkela isimilo sabo esibi.
Bakutyhola ngokuba uphambene nanini na xa uzimela kwaye uthethe phandle ngemicimbi yakho. Olu hlobo lokuxhaphaza ngokweemvakalelo luphawu olucacileyo lokuba iqabane lakho alinandaba okanye alihloniphi iimvakalelo zakho.
Akukho mntu unokukubeka ityala lokuthatha kakubi ulala phantsi. Iqabane elikukhathaleleyo liza kuthatha ixesha ukuzama ukuqonda apho uvela khona kwaye uxolise.
5. Uziva ungonwabanga ngokubanzi kwaye usetyenziswe gwenxa
Ukwenza ukuba uzive ungonwabanga, ungakhuselekanga kwaye usetyenziswa gwenxa. Kujikeleze bona, lonke ukhuseleko lwakho luyanda kwaye uziva udandathekile.
Ngaba ukuzibona akusakonwabisi okanye kuyonwabisa? Ukuba kuphela kwithuba lokuba wena, njengamaqabane, ungabi lusizi phakathi konyaka kukwiintsuku ezikhethekileyo ezinjengeeholide okanye imihla yokuzalwa, leyo yiflegi enkulu ebomvu.
Uhlala uziva uxatyisiwe. Yithembe intuition yakho kwaye ukuba uziva ngathi uhlala uncama ubomi bakho kunye namaphupha akho kwiqabane lakho, lixesha lokuba uphinde uvavanye ubudlelwane bakho ngokubaluleka.
buya phi obu buhlobo
Ubudlelwane benzelwe ukuba buxhamle kunye kwaye bonwabe, nangona ukungavisisani rhoqo emva kwexesha kuyinto eqhelekileyo.
6. Bahlala Bexoka
Ukuba uhlala ubamba iqabane lakho kubuxoki, nangona kungabalulekanga, oku kufanele kube sesona sizathu sokukhathazeka.
Ngaphaya koko, ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala lisenza izinto ngokukrokrela nangokufihlakeleyo ngezixhobo zalo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba lifihla okuthile.
Ubudlelwane kufuneka busekwe ekunyanisekeni nasekuthembeni, kwaye umzuzu ongenakuthemba iqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka ubuze ukuba ingaba ubudlelwane bakho buya naphi na.
7. Banomdla kakhulu Kwicala Lomzimba
Ngaba banomdla kakhulu kuwe xa befuna isondo? Xa becebisa ukuba badibane, ngaba bakuphatha ikakhulu njengesixhobo sokuphanga?
Ukuba beza ngeenxa zonke kwaye bafuna ukutsiba phakathi kwamashiti kwangoko, kunokuba kungenxa yokuba yile nto bakubonayo- njengomthombo wolwaneliseko ngokwesondo.
Ngaba emva koko bachitha lonke usuku / ubusuku bebukele iTV, befunda, Ukujonga iifowuni zabo , okanye ukunqanda nayiphi na incoko enentsingiselo nawe? Ukuba kunjalo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba bakufumene oko bakuzeleyo.
Yintoni Onokuyenza Ngayo?
Eyona mpendulo icacileyo iya kuba phelisa ubudlelwane kwaye ufunde kula mava xa ukhetha amaqabane exesha elizayo.
Kwaye, ukunyaniseka, leyo yeyona ngcebiso ilungileyo.
Kodwa masicinge ukuba uyalithanda iqabane lakho kwaye ufuna ukwenza izinto zisebenze. Ungayilungisa njani le micimbi ingasentla?
Buza ukuba uyayenza na le nto kwiqabane lakho.
Abanye abantu abayi kutshintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo ngaphandle kokuba baziva ukuba kufuneka benze njalo. Ukuba uvumela iqabane lakho ukuba lihambe nazo zonke ezi zinto zingacelwanga mngeni, baya kuqhubeka besenza njalo.
Ngaba uyayithetha into oyicingayo kwaye ubaxelele ukuba izenzo zabo zikwenza uzive njani, okanye ngaba ufuna ukukholisa iqabane lakho kwaye ubavumele ukuba benze eyabo indlela ngalo lonke ixesha?
Thatha isigqibo sokuba yintoni ebalulekileyo kuwe kwaye usete ezinye imida ecacileyo, eqinileyo . Xelela iqabane lakho ukuba ufuna bahloniphe le mida kwaye bachaze ukuba kutheni zithetha lukhulu kuwe.
Ngalo lonke ixesha bewela imigca yakho ebomvu, yenze icace kubo ukuba awonwabanga, kodwa zama ukungalahli msindo. Gcina unxibelelwano lwakho ngekristale lucacile kwaye uphephe ukuluvumela lube yingxabano.
Ukuba bahlala bengahloniphi imida yakho emva kwezilumkiso eziphindaphindiweyo, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuphelisa ubudlelwane. Baxelele ukuba uzixabise kakhulu ukuba uza kuphathwa okwe doormat.
Yehlisa ulindelo lwakho.
Ingavakala njengengcebiso embi, kodwa ndiphulaphule.
Buza ukuba ngaba ukhona ulindele lukhulu kakhulu kwiqabane lakho . Ngaba unayo ubomi ngaphandle kobudlelwane bakho obuzisa ulonwabo kunye nenjongo?
Ukuba akunjalo, zama ukwenza enye.
Thatha iindlela zokuzonwabisa ezintsha okanye ufumane kwakhona ezindala. Chitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabahlobo bakho (ayisiyiyo nje iseshoni yokuncwina malunga neqabane lakho). Funda isakhono esitsha.
Zonke ezi zinto zizenzo zokuzihlonipha kwaye xa uqala ukuzihlonipha wena kunye nexesha lakho, unokufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lenza okufanayo.
Xa ungafumaneki kubo ngalo lonke ixesha, kuya kufuneka benze ukhetho lokukubona ngokwemiqathango yakho njengoko ukuyo. Baza kuqala ukubeka ixabiso ngakumbi kwixesha lakho kuba ayiyonto oyinikiweyo yokuba uya kukhululeka.
Ngaphezulu, kuya kubakho uxinzelelo oluncinci kakhulu kulwalamano ukuze wonwabe. Uya kuba nezinye izinto ezenza oku kwaye ke ngokwendalo ungakhululeka ngakumbi kwaye uvumele izinto zihambe ngesantya sazo (ukuba, kunjalo, ulungile ngesantya esihamba ngaso).
Thetha nomcebisi kunye.
Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bunobuzaza ngokwaneleyo ukuba bube nesiqinisekiso, xelela iqabane lakho ukuba ungathanda ukuya kunyango lwezibini ukuze ufumane umntu wesithathu, uncedo lobuchwephesha ukujongana nemicimbi yakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba nomkhangeli ongathathi hlangothi kubonelela ngombono wabo kwiingxaki kubudlelwane kunokuba yinto enkulu yotshintsho.
Mhlawumbi iqabane lakho aliziqondi ukuba bakuphatha njani (okanye abakholelwa xa ubatshela).
andinakuthetha nomyeni wam ngayo nantoni na
Mhlawumbi umcebisi angafikelela kwingcambu yokuba kutheni besenza ngale ndlela bayenzayo kwaye bacebise ngeendlela zokutshintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo.
Mhlawumbi elona cebiso lokufumana unyango liya kubabonisa ukuba uzimisele kangakanani malunga nabo kunye nolwalamano lwakho, kwaye bakufutshane kangakanani ukuphulukana nawe.
Ewe kunjalo, ngekhe ihlale isebenza kwaye iqabane lakho linokuvala ngexesha leseshoni yakho, kodwa kufanelekile ukudubula.
Ngexesha elithile, emva kokuzama kwakho konke okusemandleni akho ukulungisa iingxaki kubudlelwane bakho, kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ukulungele ukuqhubeka nokukhetha ebomini babo.
Amathuba kukuba, impendulo iya kuba nguhayi kwaye uya kujongana nethemba lokungatshati kwakhona. Kulungile. Akukho ntloni ekupheliseni ubudlelwane kuba uzixabisile.
Isitshixo kukufunda kumava kunye nokubona indlela efanayo yokuziphatha ngaphambili kubudlelwane bexesha elizayo ukuze ubaleke ngaphambi kokuba ibe nzulu okanye thetha iimvakalelo zakho kunye nemida kwangoko.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenze ntoni ngeqabane elingakuphathi njengeyona nto iphambili?Le meko inokuba yimeko ephazamisayo kwaye inokwenza uzive ulilolo. Kodwa awunyanzelekanga ukuba uwenze lo mbandela uwedwa. Ingcali yobudlelwane inokumamela iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho kwaye inike iingcebiso ezithile malunga nokutshintsha izinto zibe ngcono.Ke kutheni ungaxoxi kwi-Intanethi kwenye yeengcali ezivela kwiQabane lobuhlobo ezinokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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