'Imida.'
Igama lishiya ii-icicles ezintliziyweni zabathandi.
Sixelelwe uthando ukuba lube yindawo engabhalwanga, evulekileyo apho ii-unicorn kunye neefiriyisi zenza iitapeestries ezintle zothando lwethu ngeswekile kunye nokuthembana kwangoko.
Kuyinyani, okukhona igumbi lihamba lingaphazanyiswa, kokukhona siya kukhubeka size siwe phantsi ngobuso.
Imida iyimfuneko, kwaye akukho nto malunga nayo ethi ayinakutshintsha.
Akufuneki bacingelwe njengezinto ezixineneyo eziyilelwe ukuthintela ubudlelwane.
Kufuneka, banako, kwaye batshintshe, yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuxoxa ngazo.
Nazi iintlobo ezili-12 zomda omele ukuthathela ingqalelo ukuseta kubudlelwane bakho.
1. Okulindelwe Lilonke
Okokuqala, kuya kufuneka usoloko uxoxa ngento oyilindeleyo emntwini, kunye nento olindele ukuyifumana.
'Ukulindelwa' kufumana i-rap embi eRomanceville, kodwa ukuba umntu ucinga ngokulindelweyo njengemigangatho yokuziphatha, ukwamkela imida eza nayo kuba lula.
Uninzi lwabantu lungena kubudlelwane lubeka umthwalo wokuphilisa / ukulugcwalisa komnye umntu.
Akukho namnye kuthi, nangona kunjalo, unguthixo, uthixokazi, okanye i-totem yokugqitywa.
Singathi, siyinyani, kwaye sineemfuno ezilula ukungahoywa ngomnye umntu ukuba umntu lowo usibeka kumanqwanqwa.
Ubudlelwane kufuneka bube ngumlinganiso wokupha kunye nokuthatha, ungathathi kude kungabikho nto ishiyekileyo umntu ukuba ayinike.
Qiniseka ukuba uxoxa malunga nokuba uzimisele kangakanani ukuya ekubeni 'kukuzaliseka' komntu kunye nendlela ongathanda ukuba izaliswe ngayo.
2. Ukunyamezelana
Wonke umntu unemingcele eyahlukeneyo yentlungu yomzimba.
Kuyafana nakwiimvakalelo.
Yazisa umntu omthandayo kukho izinto ezithile ongazukuzinyamezela: ukhwazwa, uxokile , bathulisiwe, okanye baphazanyiswa-nokuba yeyiphi na, yazise ukuba ukudlula kule mida luhambo abanokungafuni ukuluthatha.
3. Ukubonakaliswa kwezesondo
Abanye abantu bathanda isondo rhoqo kusasa. Abanye abantu bayayithanda kwiindawo ezingaqhelekanga. Abanye bakwenza ngeeholide kuphela. Ezinye zezasendle, ezinye ziyacotha kwaye zinomzimba.
Ukuba wena kunye nesithandwa sakho anazi apho imida yakho yesini ikhoyo, omnye okanye nobabini ninokuchitha ixesha elixabisekileyo ngokungonwabisi ngenzondelelo ngesini, nto leyo eluphawu olucacileyo lwenkathazo nakweyiphi na imbonakalo yolwalamano.
Vumela iimfuno zakho kunye nezinto ozikhethayo zaziwe, kunye nokuba lingakanani igumbi lokulinga elikhona ngaphakathi kwabo.
4. Ezemali
Imali ngokubanzi ithathwa njengetyhefu kwimicimbi yentliziyo, kodwa imali (ebhetele okanye embi inikwa ngokubi ngakumbi) yinxalenye engenakuphepheka yokunxibelelana kwabantu nokuba ukunye nomntu okanye akunjalo.
Kwakukho ibala elikhulu elinxulunyaniswa nokwahlulwa kwemali 'yothando', kodwa uninzi lwezibini ezitshatileyo ngoku zigcina ngokucacileyo iiakhawunti zebhanki.
Ayisiyongxaki yokungathembani okanye ulindelo lobudlelwane obungaphumeleliyo yinto elula.
Xoxa ngemida yakho yezemali kwangoko ukunqanda ukubambeka ngokuqinileyo kamva.
5. Ubomi obudlulileyo
Ukubeka nje, eyakho eyadlulayo yeyakho.
Uninzi lwabantu ngokungalunganga luvakalelwa kukuba lilungelo labo okanye luxanduva lwabo ukwahlulahlula ixesha elidlulileyo lomthandi ukuze yonke into malunga nesithandwa ibekwe ecaleni njengezinto zoviwo.
Wena, nangona kunjalo, awuyomoto akukho sihloko kunye nokubhaliswa epokothweni yakho yangasemva ukuze unikezele kumntu ongenawo amavili okukhaba.
Yazisa abantu ukuba into oyikhethayo ukuyiveza-ngaphandle kokuba ukungazivezi ibonakalisa umngcipheko ngqo kwezempilo okanye isoyikisa-ikukuqonda kwakho.
Unxibelelwano lubalulekile kulo naluphi na ulwalamano , kodwa ubudlelwane abuyongqengqelo yonyango. Ngaphandle kokuba ude ukhululeke ukwenza njalo, awunyanzelekanga ukuba uzenzele incwadi evulekileyo.
6. Usapho
Ubudlelwane buhlala buhlala ngaphakathi kwamehlo 'weNkanyamba uFamilia,' oko akuthethi ukuba ukuhlangana kosapho koyikeka, kodwa nje kukuba iimfuno zeentsapho zombini ziya kuhlala zijikeleza imiphetho yobudlelwane bakho.
Ukuseta imida esisiseko kubungakanani bokunxibelelana kosapho kunye nefuthe kubudlelwane kuya kuthintela ukubuyiselwa okungxamisekileyo kamva.
7. Ubuhlobo
Isithandwa sakho asisoze sabathanda bonke abahlobo bakho, okanye wena, kodwa loo nto ayithinteli abantu abaninzi ukuba bazame ukumisela ukuba ngubani omnye onokuthi abe nakho ukuba nabahlobo.
Misela imida yokuhloniphana enokuthi omnye enze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo malunga nokuba ngubani na obavumelayo ukuba abachaphazele kwaye, ngokongeza, ngubani abavumela ukuba baphembelele ubudlelwane.
8. Iinjongo
Akukho mntu usixelelayo ukuba amaphupha ethu axabisekile, nokuba bacinga ukuba benza ngobubele ngentliziyo yethu.
Cwangcisa umda: Nantsi into endifuna ukuyenza / endiza kuyenza inkxaso ivumelekile, ukuyisingela phantsi akunjalo.
9. Ukongezwa
Ngaba uzimisele ukuzisa abantwana kulwalamano? Izilwanyana zasekhaya?
Le yimida ngokubanzi enzima kwaye ekhawulezayo wonke umntu uzisa kubuhlobo, kodwa abavumi ukukhulisa ngaphandle kokuba kunyanzelekile.
Ukongeza kwiyunithi yolwalamano yinto enkulu kwaye akufuneki ishiywe kwithuba.
Thetha malunga nabani kunye nento ozimisele ukuyivumela idlule imida yakho kubudlelwane.
10. Ukuthabatha
Njengokunyamezelana, ingxoxo kwangethuba malunga nento esiza kuyenza nesingayi kuyenza xa izinto zingasebenzi zingasindisa iintlungu kunye nomdlalo weqonga ekugqibeleni.
Oku kunokubandakanya ukupholisa amaxesha, amathuba yesibini , amalungiselelo okuphila, yonke indlela eya 'masihlale singabahlobo… ngezibonelelo' ukhetho.
Nokuba yintoni, ukuba umntu esimthandayo uyayazi indawo esimi kuyo, sobabini singabuphelisa ubudlelwane ngokuthula, nangamazwi angxolayo.
11. Ixesha
Ixesha, naphakathi kwabathandi, liphelile, ke imibuzo iba:
Athini amaxesha akho emida?
Ngawuphi umzuzu uziva uthambile?
Ufuna ukuvuselelwa ixesha elingakanani?
Zonke ezi zinto zizinto ekufuneka umthandi azazi- kwaye uya kufuna ukuzazi- ukuze nobabini ningaziva nizolile kuphela kwizikhumba zenu, kodwa nijikeleze enye kwenye.
12. Ubukho beDijithali
Kwiminyaka ye-iPhones kunye nemithombo yeendaba zentlalo, kunyanzelekile ukuba uxoxe ngokufikelela kumthandi kubukho bakho bedijithali.
Ii -apps zonxibelelwano, ii -apps zokulandela umkhondo, ii -apps zekhalenda, ubuhlobo be-Facebook (kunye nobuhlobo babahlobo): yonke le nto yimimandla ethwele imida.
Uthando alunakuhlala luhleli , kodwa imithombo yeendaba zentlalo, ngelixa ingekho ngonaphakade, kunzima kakhulu ukuyicombulula.
Uyicwangcisa njani imida kubudlelwane
Ngoku ukuba uyazi ezinye zeendlela eziphambili zomda onqwenela ukuseta kuzo kubudlelwane bakho, wenza njani ngalo?
Akufanele kusimangalise ukufunda ukuba unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo sisitshixo ekuvuleni ukubekwa kwemida ngempumelelo kunye nokuhlonipha loo mida.
Kulula njengokulandela la manyathelo.
Inyathelo 1-Yazi imida yakho
Mhlawumbi ufumene ukukhuthazwa koku kungasentla kwaye unoluvo oluthile lokuba yeyiphi imida ongathanda ukuyibeka.
Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kufanelekile ukuthatha ixesha lokuchonga ukuba ume phi kuluhlu lwemicimbi ekuthethwa ngayo, kwaye ucinge ngezinye iindawo apho unemigca ebomvu iqabane ekufuneka linamathele kulo.
Kuphela kuxa imida yakho yaziwa nguwe, apho uya kuba nakho ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho.
Inyathelo 2-Khetha ukuba uza kuxoxa nini ngazo
Ezinye izinto kufuneka zixoxwe ngokufanelekileyo kwangethuba kubudlelwane kuba zinokudlala indima enkulu kulonwabo lwakho kunye neqabane lakho kunye nempilo yomanyano lwakho.
Xa uziva ukuba ixesha lifikile lokuxoxa ngomda othile, qiniseka ukwenza njalo xa ukhululekile ekuphazanyisweni kwaye xa nobabini nikhululekile kwaye nivulelane umbono womnye nomnye.
Ezinye izinto zinokulinda de zifuna ukuphakanyiswa.
Akukho mfuneko, umzekelo, ukuchaza ngokucacileyo ukuba awuyi kukunyamezela ukukhwazwa kude kube / ngaphandle kokuba uzifumana ukuloo meko.
Nangona kunjalo, kungcono ukuba ulinde izinto ezizolileyo ukuze wena neqabane lakho nibe nakho ukuthetha kunye namandla amancinci emvakalelo ukudida izinto.
Inyathelo 3-Benze bacace
Ukuba ufuna iqabane lakho lihlale kwimida yakho, kufuneka ubenze bacace kwaye baqondakale ngokulula.
Kukho indawo encinci yokungaqondakali kunye neendawo ezingwevu ukuba ezi zinto zithetha lukhulu kuwe.
Yenza iqabane lakho ukuba liphinde libuyele oko bacinga ukuba ngumda wakho. Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba uqiniseke ukuba baqondile.
Xa ubeka imida yakho, sebenzisa 'mna' iingxelo endaweni yokuba 'wena' iingxelo.
Yithi:
“Ndingathanda ukuba uMama wakho afowune kuqala ngaphambi kokuba eze.”
Ngaphandle kwe:
'Kufuneka uxelele umama wakho ukuba atsalele umnxeba phambi kokuba eze.'
Inyathelo 4-Vumela ezinye zoLwaphulomthetho oluncinci
Akukhomntu ogqibelele.
Abantu bayazenza iimpazamo.
Ngelixa ezinye zikhona ukujongana nabaphuli awunakuyamkela, kuya kufuneka unike iqabane lakho inkululeko xa bewela eminye yemida yakho…
… Ingakumbi xa ubuthethe nabo okokuqala.
Mhlawumbi abawukhathaleli umnqweno wakho wokuba wedwa ukuze uphumle kwaye uphinde uzihlaziye. Yimpazamo engenacala ukuyenza, kwaye bayenza kuba bengaziqondi iimfuno zakho.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ayisiyonto yokwenza ingxwabangxwaba enkulu… ngaphandle kokuba bayaqhubeka nokungahoyi iimvakalelo zakho amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Ngaba umnumzana irhamncwa uyayixhasa ixilongo
Qhubeka ubakhumbuza ngezinto ozithandayo kwaye ekugqibeleni kufuneka beze babahloniphe kwaye babahlonele.
Inyathelo 5-Yazi ukuba uyenza nini kwaye njani indlela yokunyanzela
Kungafika inqaku xa omnye wemida yakho engqongqo uwelekile…
… Okanye iqabane lakho lisenokuhlala lisenza iimpazamo ezincinci kwizinto ezingabalulekanga kangako kuwe.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, kuyakufika ixesha apho kuya kufuneka ubonise ukuba kukho iziphumo kwizenzo zabo.
Ukuba awukwenzi njalo, baya kuqhubeka nokungahoyi imida yakho.
Kwezinye izinto, iqabane lakho kufuneka lazile iziphumo ngaphambi kokwenza kwakho okokuqala.
Ukuba, umzekelo, ngekhe wamkele nayiphi na uhlobo lokukopa nantoni na, kuya kufuneka uyicacise ukusuka nokuhamba ukuba uyakubuphelisa ubudlelwane ukuba oku kunokwenzeka.
Ngamanye amaxesha, kuya kufuneka uxoxe ngeziphumo zokwaphulwa okuphindaphindiweyo komda obaluleke kangako.
Ke ukuba bahlala kude kube ngoku kunye nabahlobo ngaphandle kokubonisana nawe, unokucacisa ukuba ukuba baphinde baphinda, kufuneka balindele ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nosapho lwakho ngenxa yoko.
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Abantu bayatsintsha. Ubudlelwane buyatshintsha. Imida iyatshintsha.
Ukunxibelelana ngokucacileyo, imida esempilweni izisa izibini kunye kulwazi lokuba zingathetha ngaphandle koloyiko lokukhuzwa okanye ukugwetywa ngokungafanelekanga.
Xa sikwazi ukubona ukuba ukuseta imida kubudlelwane akuyikuthinteli kodwa kuyabomeleza, intelekelelo yolutsha yokuba umntu kufuneka avuleke kwaye yeyethu ngokupheleleyo inika indlela yokuxabisa kwabantu abadala esibathandayo njengabantu ngabanye.
Ukubuza kunye nentlonipho zizinto eziphambili kulo naluphi na ulwalamano, kwaye inyani kukuba sonke sinemida, asisoloko sisombulula ukuyichaza okanye, ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba sivavanye.
Ukuxoxa ngemida akufuneki kubonwe njengengqikelelo yeengxaki, kodwa endaweni yoko ubeke ithemba kunye nokholo kwinyani ehlala ixesha elide kunefantasy engenamda.
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