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Ungamelana Njani nokuba nevidiyo1. Ngomoya Wokunyaniseka
Masingabi ngabaphathi-ngelixa ubuhle buyinxalenye, kukho into ejolise kuyo nayo.
Ngamnye wethu ujongeka ngendlela ethile okanye engayi kuba yeyomntu wonke, kodwa ukuba ubunokucela abantu abali-100 ukuba babeke umlinganiso wobuhle nakowuphi na umntu kwabalishumi, ungabona amanqaku adibanisa amanqaku athile kwisikali .
Ke umntu omnye unokufumana amanqaku naphi na phakathi kwe-4 kunye ne-7, kodwa uninzi lwamanqanaba anokuba ngu-5 okanye u-6.
Mhlawumbi ufumana amanqaku phakathi kwe-1 kunye ne-4 ngenqanaba lokulinganisa wena njenge-2 okanye i-3.
Masingabethi sijikeleze ityholo. Ukuphela komgangatho ongathandekiyo kwisikali.
Kwaye uyakucaphukela xa abantu bezama ukukuqinisekisa ngenye indlela.
ukungatshati njani emva kobudlelwane obude kubafana
Bathetha izinto ezinje, 'Umhle ngendlela yakho' okanye ' Ukhethekile. '
Yonke into oyivayo kwezi clichés kukunganyaniseki okuguqulwe njengokubonisa imbeko.
Baxolele, kuba abayazi into abayithethayo. Masijongane nayo, ukuxelela umntu ukuba ayithandeki akukho lula…
Ngaphandle kokuba umazi nyani umntu kunye nendlela anokuthi asabele ngayo, kuyindalo ukuba wenze impazamo kwicala lokulumkisa.
Kodwa masikuthathe ngokwexabiso, ukuba uya kuxolela i-pun, kwaye wamkele ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ungumntu ombi ebusweni.
Umbuzo wakho wokuqala unokuba…
2. Kutheni Ndikhohlakele Kangaka?
Ndikuthiyile ukwaphula kuwe, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubenethamsanqa elibi kuphela kwimfuza xa kufikwa kwinkangeleko yakho.
Indlela okhangeleka ngayo ngokwenene ihla iye kuthi ga kubazali bakho. Bancinci abazali abanomdla bathambekele ekubeni nabantwana abathandekayo.
Umgca wakho womhlathi, impumlo, amehlo, kwanobunzima bakho buchatshazelwa yimfuza eyagqithiselwa kuwe.
Kwicala lokudibanisa, oku kuthatha uxanduva olukhulu emagxeni akho. Ayilotyala lakho ukuba ujongeke.
xa umntu ejonge kuwe ancume
Ewe imeko yendalo esingqongileyo njengokutya kunye nendlela okhetha ngayo inokudlala indima nayo, njengoko inokwenzeka nakwiziganeko zobomi bakho ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.
Kodwa imbonakalo yakho esisiseko ubukhulu becala iphantsi kwemfuza.
Kungenxa yoko le nto eyinxalenye yokujongana nobubi bakho kuku…
3. Yamkele into yokuba Ukhohlakele
Kwaye ayikokutsho nje ukuba uyaziqonda ngokusengqiqweni ukuba awunamtsalane.
Ukwamkelwa kuthetha ukuba ungasenayo ingqumbo okanye umsindo okanye ukungazithembi ngenkangeleko yakho.
Kuthetha ukuba seluxolweni nenyaniso yokuba ungoyena mhle kunenkoliso.
Akululanga, kodwa kunokwenzeka.
Njengazo zonke iindlela zokwamkelwa, isitshixo kukuqonda ukuba unamandla amancinci kwimeko enje, ngaphandle kwenyani yokwenziwa kotyando lwezithambiso (nangona oko kungasoloko kusenzeka okanye kunqweneleka).
Ewe ungazama ukwenza okusemandleni akho kwaye ukhethe iimpahla, iinwele, kunye nezinto zokuthambisa ezikulungeleyo…
..Kodwa kukho umda wokuba ezi zinto zinokukwenza zikunqwenele ngakumbi kangakanani.
Kwaye ukuba ukungathandeki kwakho ngokuyinxenye kungenxa yokukhetha indlela yokuphila, ezi zinokuqwalaselwa.
Ngokubanzi, nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uyamkele indlela ojongeka ngayo apha nakwangoku.
Nangona inokunceda kancinane, unokufuna ukukhumbuza ukuba…
4. Nabantu abanomtsalane baziva bebi
Ukwamkelwa malunga nendlela umntu ajongeka ngayo ayisiyabantu abanjengawe kuphela abaziyo ukuba babi.
Kuyavela ukuba ukungazithembi malunga nendlela esijongeka ngayo kuyinto eqhelekileyo.
Kwaye ngelixesha usenokuthi umntu onomyinge wamanqaku ama-5 okanye ama-6 kwabali-10 akazi nto imbi, awunciphisi indlela abaziva ngayo.
Ukuzibona komntu (inxenye yobubanzi babo izimvo zakho ) ngekhe ihlale ihambelana nenyani. Ayisiyonto ingaqhelekanga ukuba aba-6 bacinge ukuba bangu-2. Okanye abasi-8 bacinge ukuba bangu-4.
Ngapha koko, uninzi lwabantu kusenokwenzeka ukuba phantsi kwenqanaba lenjongo yabo yobuhle kakhulu.
Ke abo banomtsalane ngakumbi akukho mfuneko yokuba kube lula ngakumbi kwisebe lezengqondo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abanye abantu banokubajonga njengabanomdla kunawe, kodwa basenokubandezeleka njengawe ngaphakathi.
Ngapha koko, ukuba indlela abazijonga ngayo yahluke kakhulu kwindlela abanye abababona ngayo, banokuba nobunzima bokwamkela oku.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba awuthandeki ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ngokuqinisekileyo unokubambelela ngokuqinileyo kwinyani kunaye.
Gcina oku engqondweni kwaye…
5. Musa ukuba nomona okanye ubamonele abantu abanomtsalane ngakumbi
Kulula ukuphosa iliso lakho kubantu abangaphandle abahle kwaye uzive unomona nomona ukukubamba.
Kubonakala ngathi banalo lonke ithamsanqa, akunjalo?
Unikezwe ukuba sigweba abantu ngokwembonakalo nje ukuba sihlangane nabo , kungabonakala kusengqiqweni ukuba kokukhona umtsalane, kokukhona umntu enokuziva ngathi.
Kodwa ngaphaya kokugweba ngokukhawuleza, ukujonga kwethu kungasithatha kuphela ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Banokusinceda ukuba singene iinyawo zethu emnyango, kodwa abanakukugcina egumbini.
indlela yokulandela emva komhla
Ubuntu yinto abantu abayithandayo kwaye bayayithanda okanye abayithandi.
Kule nkalo, awukho nakuphi na ukungalunganga okucacileyo.
Kukho abantu abanomdla aboyikekayo xa usazi kwaye kukho abantu ababi abathandekayo kwaye iyabukeka.
Ukuba uhlala ujonge ngomona kwabo banokuthi bafumane amanqaku ngaphezulu kwakho kwisebe leenkangeleko, awusoze ukwazi ukuzamkela ngokwenyani ukuba ungubani.
Awungekhe uzithande kwaye uzihlonele ngelixa kwangaxeshanye unqwenela ukuba ungomnye umntu.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu xa kufikwa ku…
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iimpawu ezi-6 zaBantu abaNomdla ngokwenene
- Ukonwaba njani kulusu lwakho
- Yitsho ezi ziQinisekiso ezi-6 eziqinisekileyo zemihla ngemihla ukuzakhela ukuzithemba nokuzithemba
- Izizathu eziyi-8 zokuba nethemba ukuba ukhathazekile awusoze ulufumane uthando
- Kutheni Ndizicaphukela Kangaka? Ndinokuziyeka Njani Ezi Mvakalelo?
- Iimpawu ezingama-20 awuzihloniphi (kwaye ungayeka njani)
6. Ubudlelwane kubantu abakhohlakeleyo
Ngaba imeko yokuthandana inzima kubantu ababi?
Ngokunokwenzeka, nangona uninzi lwabantu kuwo onke amanqanaba omtsalane lusokola ukuthandana kunye nobudlelwane.
Kwakhona, kuya kufuneka uzame ukungaboni imbonakalo yakho njengomqobo kulonwabo kwaye ubudlelwane obuphilileyo .
Ke ujongana njani nokuba mbi nokuthandana?
Kuya kufuneka uphathe ulindelo lwakho kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba ukubukeka ayisiyiyo yonke into kwiqabane.
Ngamanye amagama, kufanelekile ukuba ujonge ukuthandana nomntu ohleli kumazantsi kwinqanaba lokutsala.
Asikokoyiswa oko. Yinyani leyo.
Kwenzeka nje ukuba uninzi lwabantu lutyekele ekupheleleni kubudlelwane nomntu okwinqanaba elifanayo lomtsalane.
Ngoko ke u-6 angaphela ngo-5 okanye ngo-7.u-8 usenokuthandana naphina phakathi ko-7 ukuya ku-10.
Ukuba ujonge u-2 okanye u-3, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kungcono xa ufuna iqabane eli-2, okanye u-3, okanye u-4.
Buza nabani na obesebudlelwaneni obuzinzileyo nobuzinikeleyo iminyaka emininzi ukuba yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kwiqabane kwaye i-100% ayizukuba yinkangeleko yabo.
Iya kuba bubuntu babo, ulonwabo onalo kunye nabo, izinto ezintle abazenzayo, nenkxaso abakunika yona.
Ukuba unexhala lokuba awuzukuzifumana ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwesondo zinomtsalane ngokwaneleyo, khumbula ukuba ezi zinto zikhula njengoko usiya umazi umntu.
Ke ngelixa ungajonga umntu ngomhla wokuqala kwaye unike ukuncwina okuncinci kwaye unqwenela ukuba bajongeke ngcono, sukubagxotha kwangoko njengabanamandla angalinganiyo njengeqabane.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uya kufuna ukuba abanye abantu bajonge ngaphaya kwenkangeleko yakho kwaye bakunike nethuba, kunjalo?
Umtsalane wakho kubo unokukhula kanye njengomtsalane wabo nakuwe unokwenza ngokufanayo.
Ukuthandana nabo ngokungathandekiyo ngokufanayo njengoko unokufumana esinye isibonelelo ...
Inokuthatha ezinye zokuzazi onokuthi ujonge ukujonga kwakho.
Uxinzelelo lokoyisa inkangeleko yakho ngokubonisa umfanekiso wokuzithemba nolonwabo luyancipha kuba nobabini niyayamkela into yokuba inkangeleko mhlawumbi ayizukuba yinto yokuqhuba nokuba umhla uqhubela phambili kwenye into.
Unokuziva ukhululeke ngakumbi kwaye uvumele ubuntu bakho bokwenyani kunye nobokwenyani ukuba bubonakalise endaweni yokuziva unesidingo 'sokwenza' ububi bakho ngokuzenza into ongeyiyo.
Esi sesinye sezizathu zokuba…
7. Yeka Ukujolisa Kwimbonakalo Yakho
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, ngakumbi ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba awuthandeki ngokwenyani kuninzi.
Kodwa ngokucinga malunga nokuba umbi kangakanani, kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nefuthe elibi kumanqanaba akho okwoneliseka bubomi.
Oku kungenxa yento ebizwa ngokuba yi kugxila inkohliso .
Ngokusisiseko, ngokucinga ngendawo yobomi bakho ongonwabanga ngayo, ungcolisa inkolelo onayo malunga nokuba ulunge kangakanani okanye mbi kangakanani ubomi bakho.
Oku kubonisiwe kwi isifundo esahlukileyo ebuza abantu imibuzo yemibuzo malunga nolwaneliseko ngobomi kunye nokwoneliseka komzimba.
Isiqingatha sanikwa iphepha lemibuzo lokwoneliseka komzimba kuqala laza elinye laphendula iphepha-mibuzo lokwanelisa ubomi kuqala.
Abo babuzwa kuqala malunga nolwaneliseko lomzimba wabo babonisa umahluko omkhulu ngokubhekisele kulwaneliseko lobomi.
Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba umntu othabatha inxaxheba wanelisekile ngenkangeleko yabo, babenokunika ingxelo yenqanaba eliphezulu lolwaneliseko ngobomi babo.
Kodwa ukuba umntu othatha inxaxheba akonelisekanga yimbonakalo yabo, banike uvavanyo olubi ngakumbi xa kufikwa kulwaneliseko lwabo ebomini.
Ukubeka ngokulula, ukuba awuyithandi indlela okhangeleka ngayo, ukucinga ngayo kunokubeka phantsi indlela oziva ngayo ngobomi bakho.
kunye nempi enkulu yasebukhosini abaphumeleleyo
Kwelinye icala, ukuba ucinga ngento oyithandayo ngawe okanye ngobomi bakho, inokukwenza uzive ungcono ngobomi bakho ngokubanzi.
Nokuba kunzima kangakanani, ukuba uzibhaqa ucinga ngenkangeleko yakho, zama ukuphazamisa ezo ngcinga kwaye utshintshe ingqondo yakho iye kwezinye izinto.
Okuncinci onokucinga ngako ukuba umbi kangakanani, kokukhona kuya kukuhlisa kwaye kokukhona unokuhlala ngakumbi ngobomi bakho bonke.
Ngapha koko, ukuba unokuziqhelanisa nombulelo suku ngalunye kwaye ucinge ngezinye zezinto onombulelo ongazenzisiyo ngazo, kunokukunceda ugcine umbono oqinisekileyo ngobomi.
Ukuthetha ngembonakalo, ukuba umncinci kwaye umbi, kufanelekile ukuthathela ingqalelo into yokuba…
8. Ububi bunokuba sisiGaba
Eli candelo ikakhulu lelaba bafundi bancinci kwaye abanomzimba nobuso obunokuthi busatshintsha ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.
Kuyinyani ukuba ngexesha lokufikisa kunye nokuba mdala komdala, sinokufumana imicimbi emininzi ngokubhekisele kwindlela esijongeka ngayo.
Ngamahormoni ahlasela imizimba yethu, sinokuba nolusu olubi, amabala, ukukhula, utshintsho lomzimba, ukukhula kwangoko okanye ukulibaziseka komzimba ...
… Singasathethi ke ngobuso obusafumana izikhundla ezifanelekileyo.
Kwaye iihormone ezifanayo zinokuthatha imeko yethu ukusuka phezulu ukuya ezantsi ngephanyazo. Oku kunokusenza sizive kakubi ngenkangeleko yethu kunokuba besinokwenza ngenye indlela.
Ngeli xesha lobomi, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba into oyibonayo esipilini ngoku ayinakuba yindlela izinto eziphela ngayo.
Unokuba uhamba nento abanye abantu abayibiza ngothando ngokuthi 'intshontsho ledada elibi' kwaye usenokukhula ube nomtsalane ngakumbi ngoku.
Heck, jonga nje eminye yale mizekelo yabantu abadlulileyo kweli nqanaba.
Ke ngeli xesha eli nqaku lithetha ngokunyaniseka kwaye lixela njengoko linjalo, usengayamkela imbonakalo yakho yangoku ngaphandle kokwamkela ukuba yindlela oza kujongeka ngayo xa sele ukhule ngokupheleleyo.
Kwaye ukuba uyakhula unganomtsalane kunontanga bakho, ungafuna ukukhumbula ukuba kukho…
9. Kukho izibonelelo zokuba ugly
Ungacinga ukuba ngenxa yokuba umbi, unesandla esibi ebomini…
… Kodwa kukho ezinye izinto eziphakamileyo zokuba ngomnye wabantu abangathandekiyo emhlabeni.
1. Ukwaluphala asiyonto uzikhathaza ngayo. Ijongeka ngathi iyaphela ngokuhamba kwexesha, kodwa eyakho ngekhe itshintshe njengoko uninzi lunjalo. Kwaye ngokuthelekisa abanye, unokufumana umhlaba kwiziteki zobuhle.
2. Akukho mntu ucinga ukuba udlula ngenkangeleko yakho. Bayazi ukuba ugwetyelwe kakuhle ukuba unokuninzi malunga nawe ukuba ukwazile ukuphumelela ebomini.
3. Abantu bathanda indlela oyiyo, hayi indlela okhangeleka ngayo. Oku kuya kufuneka uthethe into entle ngobuntu bakho (ucinga ukuba abayikho emva kwemali yakho!)
4. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uleqe ifashoni yakutshanje. Iimpawu ezinkulu zamagama kunye neendlela zakutshanje ezixabisa umhlaba azifanelekanga ukuzikhathaza ngazo. Ungathenga iimpahla oziva ukhululekile kuzo.
5. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uchithe iminyaka uthatha i-selfie efanelekileyo ye-Instagram.
6. Ukuba ungumfazi, abanye abantu basetyhini abakuboni njengesoyikiso sokuzithemba kwabo okanye ubudlelwane babo kwaye ke banokuziphatha ngcono kuwe.
7. Abantu ababi badla ngokujongelwa phantsi. Ke xa ubonisa ukuba unetalente engakanani, uye wonwabele inkangeleko yokumangaliswa ebusweni babantu. Ngaba uthandabuza? Ngokucacileyo khange uve USusan Boyle .
isoka landishiya lomnye umfazi liza kuhlala
8. Awunguye nzulu . Unokujonga ngaphaya kwembonakalo yabanye abantu. Awukhathali nokuba umntu umbi, uya kumnika amathuba afanayo nawo wonke umntu.
9. Ukuba ukwazisa , Kuya kufuneka ujongane nonxibelelwano olungenantsingiselo olungenantsingiselo nentetho encinci.
10. Ingqondo yakho sesona sixhobo sakho sinamandla
Inyani yento yile, ngelixa ububi bakho bunokuba lulusu olunzulu, bunokukuchaphazela kanye kanye.
Ewe, ukuba mbi kunokuba nefuthe kwindlela oqhubeka ngayo ebomini bakho nakwindlela abanye abakuphatha ngayo.
Kodwa eyona ndlela yokujongana nayo kukutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo.
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, ukucinga ngenkangeleko yakho ngendlela egwenxa kunokukwenza ungabi nathemba ngobomi bakho bonke.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ungayamkela indlela okhangeleka ngayo kwaye ubone izinto ezintle ezinokuthi zizise, inokuyiphucula imbonakalo yakho.
