Ukuba nomtsalane yenye yezo zinto abanye abantu babonakala ngathi bazenza nzima.
Kwabanye, ngumzamo ophazamisayo.
Nokuba uphi na ukuya kwimfundo yesikolo sakho esinomtsalane, sinemikhombandlela emikhulu yokukhawulezisa inkqubo!
1. Nyaniseka.
Akukho ndawo ingako ukuba nomtsalane ukuba oko kuthetha ukuba ulalanise kubuntu bakho.
Ngelixa zikhona iindlela onokuthi wenze ngazo ukuphucula okanye ukuzithemba ngakumbi kwimiba yesiqu sakho, akufuneki nanini na ukuba utshintshe indlela ophelele ngayo.
Oku kukwathetha ukuba naziphi na iimpawu ezintsha ozivelisayo ziya kuba yinyani kuwe kwaye kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukuzigcina kwaye ukonwabele.
Baza kuziva bendalo kwaye kulula, ngenxa yoko awuzukuba naxhala malunga nokugcina nayiphi na imbonakalo engeyonyani.
Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba sele uyathandwa kwaye ukhathalelwe, ayisiyiyo ngokuzama ukukholisa abantu okanye ufumane ukungqinisiswa…
… Imalunga nokufunda izakhono ezitsha eziza kukunceda uzive kamnandi kwaye ngokuzithemba umtsalane.
2. Phucula ubuhlobo.
Ukwakha ubudlelwane nabantu sisakhono esihle kakhulu sokufunda, kwaye yinto oza kuphelela ukuyisebenzisa ngalo lonke ixesha!
Nokuba kukudibana nomntu osebenza naye, ukuchitha ixesha elinye kunye nomphathi wakho, okanye ukuncokola nomhla onokubakho, ukufumana indawo efanayo kunye nokwakha isiseko kubalulekile kwimpumelelo yakho.
Oku kubandakanya ukufumana izinto enifana ngazo kunye ukuze nive ngathi nazana ngcono.
Kwakhona, yinyani apha! Kunokuziva kulula ukuxoka kwaye uthi nawe ungumntu othanda ibhola okanye ungathetha iSpanish, kodwa loo nto iya kubuya ngomva ngelinye ixesha - thabatha ilizwi lethu.
Ngokuthatha ixesha lokwazi umntu othile, okanye ukomeleza ubuhlobo bakho obukhoyo / ubudlelwane, uya kudibana nomtsalane kwaye uthandeke.
3. Nxibelelana ngononophelo.
Unxibelelwano olunolwazi luthathela ingqalelo ngakumbi iindlela onxibelelana ngazo.
Oko kuthetha ukumamela, hayi ukuva nje!
Ngenisa ngokwenene kwiincoko kwaye uya kuthi ngokuzenzekelayo uvele njengomntu onomtsalane, nokuba awucingi ukuba iza kuwe ngokwendalo.
Gxila koko kuthethwayo kwaye uphendule ngokufanelekileyo. Khumbula ukuba xa umntu ethatha ixesha ukubamba incoko nawe, ubatyala ityala elifanayo.
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Isenokuba malunga nento engenamsebenzi okanye inokuba yinto enzulu kwaye inentsingiselo, kodwa dibana nomntu othetha naye kwaye baya kuphuma beziva ngathi badibene nomntu onomtsalane ngokwenene.
4. Izinto ezintle.
Iinkcukacha ezincinci ziyinto yonke!
Enye yezona ndlela zokulawula zibalaseleyo kukufunda inyani malunga nelungu ngalinye labasebenzi, nokuba libonakala lincinci okanye lingabalulekanga.
Xa umphathi wakho esiza, eyazi igama lakho, kwaye ebuza ukuba uqeqesho lwakho lwemarathon / umntwana omtsha / into oyithandayo yeebumbi lihamba njani, ukhawuleza uziva uxabisekile kwaye uhlonitshwe- kwaye uyathandeka!
Ngokufunda into ngaye wonke umntu onxibelelana naye rhoqo, uya kuqala ngokwakha ulwalamano esathetha ngalo ngaphambili.
Uya kunika umbono wokuba awazi kuphela abantu, kodwa unomdla kubo kunye nobomi babo- kwaye leyo yinkcazo yokuba nomtsalane.
5. Landela umzekelo.
Ukuba usasokola ukuba nomtsalane, unokujonga ngeenxa zonke kuwe ukuze ufumane inkuthazo.
Jonga indlela umphathi wakho asebenzisana ngayo nabasebenzi, okanye indlela iindwendwe kunye nabasebenzi abalindileyo abajonga ngayo abathengi babo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, kumalunga nokwenza ngokungathi useqongeni - usenguye, ungoyena mntu ufanelekileyo, unika olona phawu lubalaseleyo.
Funda ngokubukela abo bakungqongileyo, kunye nendlela abantu abakungqongileyo kubo phendula.
Iimpendulo zabantu kumabinzana athile okanye kwiindlela zokuziphatha zinokuqaqambisa into esebenzayo nengasebenziyo.
6. Yenza ixesha lokuba nesimilo.
Isimilo sihamba kakuhle, indlela ende ... umamakho ebengaxoki!
Ukuba ukuba nomtsalane akuyi kuza ngokwendalo kuwe, lixesha lokuba ubuyele kwiziseko.
iindlela zokwenza ubomi bakho bube ngcono
Gxila kwimiba ethile engundoqo yomtsalane- ukudibana kwamehlo, isimilo kunye nomdla.
Nika nabani na othetha naye ingqalelo yakho yonke ngokujonga emehlweni ngelixa uncokola.
Oku kubenza bazi ukuba ubeka ingqalelo kwaye yindlela elungileyo yokubonisa ukuba unomdla.
Imbeko inokufundwa nangaliphi na ixesha ebomini, ke ungakhathazeki ukuba awuzange ufundiswe njengomntwana.
Ngokusisiseko, yitya uvale umlomo, bamba ucango luvulelwe abantu, xhawula izandla xa udibana nomntu omtsha kwindawo esesikweni, kwaye ungaphazamisi okanye uthethe ngomnye umntu xa bethetha.
Ukuba nembeko ngenene ilula.
Kwakhona, jonga kwabanye ukuze ufumane isikhokelo ukuba awukho mhle kwizikhokelo zentlalo, baya kukunceda ufunde ukuba ungaziphatha njani esidlangalaleni kwaye ungafumana njani ukuba unomdla wokwenene.
Okokugqibela, bonisa umdla. Le yimikhwa elungileyo kwaye iya kwenza ukuba nabani na othetha naye ndiziva ndibalulekile kwaye inika umdla.
Uninzi lwethu lunoloyiko lokungonwabisi / smart / umdla ngokwaneleyo, ke inxenye yokuba ngumtsalane kukukhuthaza abantu ukuba bakholelwe oko malunga neziqu zabo.
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7. Bonisa intlonipho.
Oku kunxibelelana nokubuyela kwimikhwa elungileyo, kodwa kuhamba kancinci ngaphaya koko.
Ukuba uyasokola ukuba nomtsalane kwaye ungazi ukuba usilela phi, konke kunokuba kuhlonitshwe.
Kuya kufuneka ubonise omnye umntu ukuba ubalulekile kwaye uzukile ukuba kwinkampani yakhe.
Oko kunokuvakala kancinci ngaphezulu, kodwa kukho iindlela zokwenza ngokungakhathali.
Kwakhona, ukunxibelelana ngamehlo kunye nokuxhawulana okuqinileyo kubalulekile xa kusiza ekubeni ngumtsalane.
Unokubonisa imbeko ngokulandela ubukhosi - yinto endala, mhlawumbi, kodwa ezinye iimeko ziyayifuna.
Hlonipha umphathi wakho ngokunikezela ukunceda, ubaphathele ikofu, kwaye ngokubanzi ubekhona ukubanceda.
Oko akutsho ukuba kufuneka uthobele umsebenzi, kodwa kubonisa ukuba uyayiqonda 'ikhonkco lokutya' kwaye uzimisele ukubeka umsebenzi onzima.
Wonke umntu uyamthanda umntu owenza umgudu, kwaye uya kuthi ngokuzenzekelayo uhlangane nomtsalane kakhulu ukuba ufika kwintlanganiso ye-8 kusasa kunye nekofu kubo!
8. Coca umoya.
Ukuba kukho izizathu zokuba ungabonwa njengomtsalane, unokufuna ukuzilungisa.
Asicebisi uyaxolisa ngayo yonke into owakhe wayenza, kodwa ukulungisa izinto kuhamba indlela ende.
Ukuba uthethile okanye wenze into engathandekiyo, kuya kufuneka uyisombulule imeko.
Oku kuyinxalenye yomnye umntu, njengoko baya kukuhlonipha ngokwamkela iimpazamo zakho kwaye ufune ukuya phambili.
Oku kukwakho nawe - nantoni na oyenzile kwixesha elidlulileyo owaziyo ukuba yayingenabubele okanye inceba iya kukuxhoma.
Uya kuziqinisekisa ukuba awunamtsalane ngenxa yelo xesha wenze ukuba umhlobo wakho akhale / aphazamise entlanganisweni / ahlazise iqabane lakho emsebenzini.
Ngokufumana ezi zehlo kwaye uthathe ulawulo, unokuzivumela ukuba ube ngumtsalane ngokwendalo.
Sika iiqhina ezindala, ungakuthandi kwaye uzivumele uguquke ube kukutsha.
9. Yiba ngumntu.
Kukho umbono ongenguwo malunga nabantu abanomtsalane ekubeni bengaze benze nanye into ephosakeleyo, bahlala besazi ukuba bathini, kwaye bahlala bonwabile ukuba phakathi kwabo.
Xa ucinga ngayo, nangona kunjalo, uyakuqonda ukuba uninzi lwabantu abathandekayo bathembekile ngokungaqhelekanga.
Inxalenye yesibheno sabantu abathandekayo kukuba bayinyani - bavulekile kwaye bashushu kwaye aboyiki ukuba ngabo.
Yinto entle kakhulu ukuba ujolise kuyo njongo yobomi, kunye nenye onokuyifuna ixesha elifutshane.
Ukuba nomtsalane kukuzithemba kuwe njengomntu wokwenene, oko kuthetha ukuba uyavuma ukuba wenza iimpazamo kwaye ungoyiki ukuba nezakho izimvo.
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Bumnini ubuntu bakho kunye nokukhetha kwakho ebomini, projektha into yokuba ungumntu wokwenene, othembekileyo ongagqibelelanga 'ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye uyakubonwa njengomntu opheleleyo nonomtsalane ngokupheleleyo.
10. Yenze umkhwa wakho.
Ukuzama ukuba nomtsalane kunye nokwenza izigqibo ezahlukileyo suku ngalunye unokuziva ngathi uyothusa ekuqaleni.
Eyona ndlela yokuqhela kuyo kukuziqhelanisa!
Khangela amathuba okuba ube nembeko kwaye uphume, uhambe umgama ongaphezulu, kwaye wenze abantu abakungqongileyo bazive bexabisekile.
Thatha ngokuhlwa njengomzekelo- yenza umgudu kunye nabasebenzi abalindileyo abakhonza itafile yakho, banike iingcebiso, wenze incoko nabo.
Nokuba yintoni, yenze ngobubele bokwenyani kuba ungumntu obalaseleyo othanda ukwenza abantu bazive bonwabile.
Kwakhona, yile nto imalunga noku. Ukuba nomtsalane ayisiyiyo kwaphela ukuhlekisa kwaye inesisa, imalunga nokunceda abantu bazive benentembelo kwaye benomdla, kunye nokubaluleka nokunyanyekelwa.
Naluphi na uhlobo lwenkonzo oyifumanayo-ebharini, emnxebeni, evenkileni-lithuba elihle lokuba ufunde ebantwini abanomsebenzi wokuba nomtsalane, kwaye usebenzise ikhubalo lakho kwaye wonwabe ngalo.
11. Yiba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni.
Bona ingxelo yakho ofuna ukuba yiyo. Oku kuya kukunceda setha iinjongo ezicacileyo kwaye bakhulise nayiphi na imikhwa ngokukhawuleza nangokulula, ukuze bazive bendalo.
Cinga ngamandla aqhubela phambili umnqweno wakho wokuba nomtsalane ngakumbi. Ngaba kukwenzela umsebenzi, ngaba kukuba ngumhlobo ongcono, okanye kukuba nothando ngakumbi neqabane lakho, okanye nokufumana uthando?
Cinga malunga nokuba kutheni ufuna ukuba nomtsalane ngakumbi kwaye ujonge kuloo nto.
Yiba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wendlela ofuna unxibelelwano lwakho olulandelayo naloo mntu ubalulekileyo ahambe ngayo. Oko kusenokuthetha ukuba ucinga malunga neprojekthi oyenzayo yokuzithemba kwintlanganiso yakho elandelayo, okanye ukuba ungaba nesisa kangakanani kwixesha elizayo xa ubona umhlobo wakho, okanye nokuba unganomdla kangakanani kwaye wonwabe kumhla wakho wokuqala olandelayo.
Ngenene thatha ixesha lokucinga malunga neenkcukacha ezincinci, ukusuka kwindlela oqala ngayo incoko ukuya kulwimi lwakho lomzimba ukuya nakuphi na ukulandelelana onokukuthatha- ukuthumela isicatshulwa emva komhla ukuthi wonwabe kusoloko kunomtsalane kakhulu!
12. Cinga kwaye ubonakalise.
Singamakholwa amakhulu kumandla okubonakalisa - ukuba ugxila kwinto ethile kwaye ubeke amandla akho kuyo ukuba ibe yinyani, iyakwenza njalo.
Oku kudibanisa umbono kuba ubeka injongo kwaye emva koko uzibeke ngokwakho ukufezekisa.
Ukucamngca kunokunceda ukuthomalalisa ingqondo yakho kwaye kukugcine usemgangathweni ngeli nqanaba lotshintsho.
Kungaziva kunzima ngamanye amaxesha kwaye unokuba novalo okanye uzive ungonwabanga. Khumbula ukuba ukungonwabi kuhlala kuyisiphumo secala lotshintsho- ngaphakathi kwesizathu, kunjalo!
Ukuba uziva ngathi izinto ziyatshintsha, kungenxa yokuba uzenzile.
Unayo yonke into oyifunayo ukuze uzenze umntu onomtsalane ngakumbi, kufuneka ujolise kuyo kwaye uzenzele.
13. Yigcine iyinyani.
Ndiyathemba ukuba ezinye zezi ngcebiso ziya kukunceda uzive kwaye ube ngumntu onomdla ngokwendalo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlala unyanisekile kuwe ngolu hlobo lomsebenzi, njengoko besesitshilo ngaphambili.
Abantu ebomini bakho sele bekuthanda kwaye bakuhlonipha ngenxa yento oyiyo, kwaye ngekhe baphendule kakuhle ukuba ngequbuliso uba ngumntu owahluke ngokupheleleyo!
Kukho amanyathelo onokuwathatha ukuba ube nomtsalane ngakumbi ngaphandle kokusebenzisa igama elithi 'darling' ekupheleni kwesivakalisi ngasinye.
Cinga malunga nokuziphatha onokuyilindela kwaye ukulindele kwabo bakungqongileyo- konke kuya kuhlonipha iimvakalelo zokwenene kunye nokhathalelo.
Yiloo nto ebalulekileyo kwaye yile nto kufuneka uxhomeke kuyo. Sele ukrelekrele njengokuba unje yindlela nje yokukunika ukuzithemba ukubonisa abanye ukuba wena cala lakho.
Unokuziva ngathi uyinyani xa uqala ukusebenzisa amabinzana amatsha angahambelaniyo nobuntu bakho, okanye uqala ukunxulumana kwizangqa ezahlukileyo kwesiqhelo.
Musa ukuzinyanzela kuyo nayiphi na into engaziva ilungile.
Kwakhona, ukuba nomtsalane yinto edibene neemvakalelo zokwenene nenyaniso. Abantu bayakuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba uzama nje nzima kakhulu.
Yiba nguwe , hlala uthobekile, uphume uye uyokuthandeka kwihlabathi…
