Imbeko (isibizo): isimilo esihloniphekileyo nesicingela abanye abantu.
Izithethantonye: imbeko, imbeko, imbeko, imbeko, isimilo, isimilo, ubutshaba, ubukhali, ukulima, ubabalo, ubuchule, ubuchule, ingqwalaselo, ulwazelelelo, ulwazelelelo, ubulumko, ubuchule bokuthethathethana.
Kumaxhala ethu kwaye sihlala sithanda kakhulu 21stubukho benkulungwane, kulula ukucinga ukuba isimilo esihle esidala kunye nembeko zithunyelwe kwimbali.
Umxholo wentlonipho kunye nokuziphatha ngoqwalaselo awunikwa ngqwalaselo ininzi kwihlabathi apho kubonakala ngathi konke malunga 'nam' kunye nohlanga ukuya phezulu.
Abantu abachubekileyo, kubonakala ngathi, baba zizilwanyana ezisengozini yokuphela!
Nangona kunjalo, ngandlel 'ithile okuhlekisayo, sisenomdla wokuqhubeka gweba abantu indlela abachubeke ngayo (okanye hayi) kuthi.
Ukudibana apho sivakalelwa kukuba sithethwe ngokungenantlonelo okanye siphathwe ngokunganyanisekanga kunokusicaphukisa ixesha elithile.
Inokude ichaphazele imeko yethu kunye nendlela esisingatha ngayo ezinye iimeko njengoko usuku okanye iveki yethu iqhubeka.
Into yokuba la mava avakala ngokunzulu icebisa ukuba izakhono zentlalo 'ezithambileyo' ezinje ngesimilo sisidingo esisisiseko somntu.
Kwaye kuvela ukuba…
Yonke isekelwe kwindaleko yomntu.
Kukho isizathu esivakalayo sokuba le mithetho yokunxibelelana kwezentlalo yavela kwisithuba seminyaka eliwaka engenakubalwa yobukho bomntu.
Benza ukubambisana, iqela elidibeneyo lentlalontle kwaye banegalelo ekusindeni kweentlobo.
Zonke iinkcubeko, nokuba zikude kangakanani kwaye zahlukile kwezethu, zinemikhwa echazwe zizithethe zazo. Imigaqo inokwahluka, kodwa kuyakubakho ikhowudi engqongqo yokuziphatha kwindawo.
Oko kuthetha okuninzi malunga nokuba kufuneka ezi zinto zixabisekileyo ekugcineni uluntu, akunjalo?
Ke, inyani kukuba uyavumelana okanye awuvumelani nengcinga 'yesimilo' kwinqanaba eliphezulu, uya kugwetywa kubo kwaye uya kugweba abanye ngendlela efanayo.
Ungathandi okanye ungathandi, izakhono zethu zentlalo, okanye ukungabikho kwazo, yinxalenye enkulu yokuba singobani kwaye sibonwa njani ngabanye.
Imivumbo eyahlukeneyo yabantu abahlukeneyo.
Ngelixa sikumxholo wokugweba, ilizwi lesilumkiso malunga nokwenza uqikelelo kunye nokubhala indlela yokuziphatha komntu njengokrwada okanye ukunganyaniseki…
Sukucinga ngokuzenzekelayo, kula maxesha axhulumeneyo kwihlabathi liphela, ukuba abanye banemilinganiselo efanayo neyakho.
Into ocinga ukuba ichubekile, abanye banokuyidida, ikucaphukise, okanye ikhubekise.
Nanku umzekelo wobuqu: Ndingutitshala wesiNgesi kwizithethi zezinye iilwimi ezenze ixesha lakhe kwigumbi lokufundela elinenkcubeko eyahlukeneyo.
Ndifundile ukuba ukuthanda kwethu inkcubeko ngokuthi 'ndiyakucela,' 'enkosi,' kunye 'noxolo' (amaxesha amaninzi xa singaqondanga kwaphela), kujongwa ngabo basuka phesheya kwezilwandle ngezimvo ezisusela ekungakholelweni ukuya ekucaphukeni.
Ukanti ukusilela kwabo ukusebenzisa la magama ‘omlingo’ xa bethetha isiNgesi kubonwa njengokrwada.
Ke, into ehloniphekileyo yokwenza xa kufikwa kutshintshiselwano lwenkcubeko ayikokusebenzisa eyethu indlela yokuziphatha kubantu abavela kwiinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo.
Mncediswa Valela
Umbandela wesimilo esihle ekugqibeleni ubhekisa ekubonakaliseni ukuhloniphana.
ukuba wenzeni xa ungenabahlobo
Ukuba awubahloniphi abanye, ukubamba ucango oluvulekileyo lomntu okanye ukukhumbula amagama kukunxiba ifestile kwaye akuthethi nto. Usazobonwa ungenasimilo.
Ukuba u bonisa imbeko kwabanye , kunokwenzeka ukuba benze okufanayo ekubuyiseni.
Iprofayile yomntu oChubekileyo
Ukufundwa kwesimilo, ukuqaphela abanye, kunye nokuba nembeko kuqala kwabona bakwiminyaka yokuqala yokukhula kwethu.
Usenokuba uzifumene ubancoma abanye ababonakala ngathi baphuma imbeko ezingqondweni zabo kungabikho mzamo ubonakalayo.
Qiniseka ukuba ayizami. Yindlela yokuziphatha efundwe kubomi bonke kwaye ingene nzulu.
Mhlawumbi uziva ukuba isimilo sakho sinokukwenza kancinci ngokuxubha. Ukunyaniseka, ndicinga ukuba sonke singenza ngesikhumbuzo esincinci ngoku nangendlela elungileyo yokuziphatha!
Ke makhe sijonge ezinye zezinto abantu abachubekileyo abazenzayo nabangazenziyo - kungekho kulungelelwano oluthile.
1. Bona musa ukugweba abanye
Ke, ndilikhankanyile igama elithi 'J' amatyeli aliqela kwesi siqwenga, kodwa ukugweba yinto umntu onesidima angaze ayenze.
Kukangaphi usenza isigwebo esingaqhelekanga malunga nobuntu obutsha okanye iimeko kwaye kwafuneka wenze i-U-turn ekhawulezileyo xa sele ubazi ngcono?
Ilula kakhulu, kwaye inobubele, ukunqanda umnqweno wokugweba kwasekuqaleni.
2. Ababelani ngolwazi lomntu siqu
Umntu ophethe kakuhle uyayichasa iminqweno yabantu yokuba babelane ngeenkcukacha zobomi babo, nokuba ziyinyani okanye ziyingxaki nje.
Awusoze ubabambe bethetha malunga nokuba bafumana malini, umzekelo, kunye neenkcukacha ze-hemorrhoids zabo ziya kuthi ngenceba zihlale apho bahlala khona - bamshiya engabonakali!
3. Abasasazi okanye bamamele ukuhleba
Ukukwazi ukuveza ulwazi oluninzi malunga nomntu omaziyo okanye osebenza naye yindlela eqinisekileyo yomlilo yokuba yinxalenye yesihlwele 'esikhona'.
Kwaye ukumamela ngokuzimisela komnye umntu oxelela iintsomi kuthetha ukuba ukwindlela engaphakathi, uyanelisa iimfuno zabantu ukuba babe ...
Kodwa kuphela kwixesha elifutshane, kuba akukho mntu uyithembayo intlebendwane.
Abantu abahloniphekileyo abanamdla wokuziphatha gwenxa kwaye baya kuhlala beyiva iindlebe kwintlebendwane, nokuba zinomdla kangakanani.
Oku kubenza babe ngabahlobo abathembekileyo. Kungenxa yoko le nto behlala begcina izihlobo zabo ngelixa abanye behlawula ixabiso lokuhleba njengoko abahlobo babo bebashiya.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ungabamkela njani abanye ukuba bangoobani (endaweni yokuba ufuna babe banjani)
- Iimpawu ze9 zoBukrelekrele boLuntu oluPhezulu
- Ukujongana nabantu abangaze baXolise okanye bavume ukuba baphosakele
- Izizathu ezili-13 zokuba kutheni abantu bengakuphulaphuli
4. Abazityhali izimvo zabo kwabanye
Isandi esikhulu esivamileyo esityhala rhoqo iimbono zabo eziphikisanayo kwincoko nganye asinto ithandwayo.
Ezi zimvo zisiwa nokuba ziceliwe okanye hayi - ngesiqhelo akunjalo.
Uphawu lomntu ohloniphekileyo kunye nentlonipho kukuzibamba ekunyanzeliseni ezabo iingcinga kwabanye.
Ewe, kunjalo, ukuba baceliwe baya kwabelana ngezimvo zabo, kodwa baya kuvuleleka kwimibono eyahlukeneyo kwaye babe nengxoxo elungeleleneyo.
Abasoze banyanzelise ukuba uguqukele kwindlela yabo yokucinga.
5. Abazihlikihli kwimicimbi ebalulekileyo
Abanye abantu baya kwenza nantoni na ukunqanda ukungathandeki kwincoko nomntu osandul 'ukufelwa okanye ulwalamano olusandul' ukufakelwa okanye oye wanyamezela olunye uloyiko lomntu.
Abaziphethe kakuhle, kwelinye icala, baya kuyifumana indlela yokuwuphakamisa lo mbandela ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukunqanda ukuba inde ixesha lokuba neentloni okanye ukucaphuka njengoko umntu onelishwa elinda ixhala ngengxaki enameva okanye isiganeko esibuhlungu ukuba siphakanyiswe.
Ayisiyonto ilula ukuyenza, kodwa kulunge kakhulu ukuvuma ukuphazamiseka kubomi babahlobo okanye oogxa bethu kunokuba ungakuhoyi. Abantu abahloniphekileyo bayayihlonipha le nto.
6. Basoloko bevakalisa umbulelo wabo
Ukubonisa umbulelo ongazenzisiyo kwisenzo somzimba, isipho, okanye ukubuk 'iindwendwe yeyona nto iphambili kuluhlu lwezinto ezenziwa ngabantu abachubekileyo.
Awuyi kubafumana bedubula i-liner enye nge-imeyile okanye ngombhalo othi 'enkosi.'
Kananjalo abayi kwenza ingcinga yokuba umhlobo wabo okanye ulwalamano lwabo baya 'kwazi' nje ukuba babenexesha elimnandi okanye basixabisile isipho kuba bathethela amagama ambalwa kuloo nto.
Hayi, umntu ohloniphekileyo uya kuhlala ethatha ixesha ukubhala amagama ambalwa ekhadini aze alithumele ngendlela yakudala ngeposi yenkumba. Okanye baya yithi enkosi ngenye indlela enentsingiselo .
Ngokwenyani, oku kuthatha ixesha elincinci ukwenza kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ekuboniseni uxabiso lokwenene. Isitokhwe sakho siya kunyuka kakhulu emehlweni omamkeli, ngokuqinisekileyo!
7. Baya kubeka abanye ngokukhululeka
Xa ejongene nomzuzu ongaxakekiyo, umntu onembeko uya kuhlala efumana indlela emnene nefanelekileyo yokusasaza nakuphi na ukuqina, iintloni, okanye ixhala kwabanye.
Baya kuphuma kwindlela yabo ukunciphisa nakuphi na ukungakhululeki okuvezwa ngabanye nangasiphi na isizathu.
Kufuneka ube novelwano ukuze ubone imeko enjalo kwaye olu lolunye uphawu oluqhelekileyo lomntu ohloniphekileyo.
8. Bangabaphulaphuli abanomdla
Awuyi kubamba umntu ohloniphekileyo ejonge iwotshi yabo ngelixa uthetha nabo okanye, okona kubi, ujonge egxalabeni lakho ukubona ukuba umntu othile onomdla okanye 'uluncedo' ungene kwigumbi.
Awuyi kubona amehlo abo eqaqambile phakathi kwencoko. Ngokubanzi nje Ukujonga iifowuni zabo uhlaziyo lweendaba ezentlalo ngelixa uthetha? Akunakuze!
Abantu abachubekileyo banobuchule 'ekuphulaphuleni ngenyameko.'
Ayibonisi kuphela ingqalelo yabo epheleleyo ngokuthi ukugcina umjonga rhoqo , ziya kunqwala okanye zincume kwaye zivakalise ukuvuma okungaqhelekanga, ke isithethi siqinisekile ngokuqhubeka nokuthetha.
Ukuba umbandela awubonwabisi, ngekhe wazi, kuba banobuchule bokuphinda bathumele incoko ngobuqhophololo obunokuthi ungaze ububone!
9. Bayakuvumela uthethe ngawe
Ukongezwa kwendlela yokuphulaphula esebenzayo kukukwazi komntu ukubuza imibuzo ekrelekrele nefanelekileyo malunga nawe.
Masijongane nayo, ihlala isisifundo esithandayo.
Ukuba umntu othile ukuvumela ukuba uthethe iminyaka emininzi malunga nempumelelo yakho okanye amahla ndinyuka ebomini bakho kwaye abonakale enomdla, yincoko entle, akunjalo?
Kuphela kuxa ugcobe ekukhanyeni kokonwabela unxibelelwano naloo mntu ulunge kakhulu, apho uya kuqonda ukuba akukho nto uyaziyo malunga nabo ngelixa beve ibali lobomi bakho.
10. Abayi kulilibala igama lakho
Le yinto ebonakalayo. Sonke siyazi ukuba kukuziphatha okuhle ukubiza abanye ngamagama (ekunene!).
Abanye bethu basola inkumbulo engeyiyo ngokusilela kwethu ukwenza oku, kodwa, enyanisweni, akukho nzima ukuba sinikele ingqalelo xa kusenziwa intshayelelo.
Kulungile ukubuza kwakhona ukuba awukhange ulibambe igama okokuqala. Kungcono kunokuba ubanjwe xa kufuneka wazise loo mntu komnye umntu kwaye awunalo nofifi.
Mhlawumbi uya kuqaphela ukuba umntu onesidima uya kuliphinda igama lakho abuyele kuwe kwincoko.
Ayililo iqhinga lokusetyenziswa kakhulu njengoko linokucaphukisa, kodwa sisixhobo esiluncedo sokugrumba igama kwimemori yakho nangona kunjalo.
kwenzeke ntoni kujeff okrelekrele
Izinto ezintle ebomini zikhululekile.
Kukho umzekeliso ofanelekileyo waseSlovenia ecaleni kwemigca 'yokubek 'indleko akukho nto kodwa uvelisa kakhulu.'
Yinyani leyo.
Nangona isimilo esihle singadli mali, zinokwenza umahluko omkhulu kwindlela abanye abantu abavakalelwa ngayo ngawe.
Kwimeko yeshishini, nalo eliya kulo mbutho uwumeleyo, ngenxa yoko imivuzo evela ekubonakaliseni imbeko inokuba bobabini bobungcali kunye nobobuqu.
Kukude nengcinga ephelelwe lixesha.
Kula maxesha eyantlukwano, imbeko, imbeko, nazo zonke ezinye izithethantonye ezingasentla azizange zibaluleke ngaphezulu.
Ndikhankanyile ngentla kokudibana ne umntu okrwada kwaye ukungabinasimilo kunokukushiya uziva utyumkile.
Ungathini malunga nokujonga ukuba yintoni eyenza ukutshintshiselana nomnye umntu kungalibaleki ngendlela elungileyo?
Ewe, phantse kuhlala kunembeko, ukuqaphela, ukuhloniphana, ukucinga - ndingaqhubeka ...
Vuna izibonelelo zokubonisa imbeko.
Yonke le nto iza ngokulandela iingcebiso ezingaphelelwa lixesha 'zokwenza kwabanye njengoko ubuya kuthanda benze kuwe.'
Kwaye eyona nto intle malunga nokuba nembeko kunye nembeko kukuba abanye kunokwenzeka ukuba babe nesimilo kwaye babonakalise imbeko ekubuyeni, ke uyayivuna into oyihlwayeleyo.
Ndizakushiya igama lokugqibela kuRoy T. Bennett, umbhali wenkuthazo Ukukhanya okusentliziyweni :
Phatha wonke umntu ngesidima kunye nobubele, hayi kuba belungile, kodwa kuba ulungile.
