Ukufuna akusokuze kube ngumgangatho onomtsalane, kodwa xa uku ndisemathandweni , inokuba, kwabanye bethu, kube nzima ukuyiphepha.
Ukuziphatha kwe-Clingy kungonakalisa ulwalamano lwakho ukuba iqabane lakho alikwazi ukuyiphatha. Isenokuthetha ukuba ulahlekelwe yinkululeko yakho. Uyalibala malunga nokukwazi kwakho ukuzimela uze uphume phandle uye kwenza izinto.
Ngaphezulu, kunokuthetha ukuba ugxininiso lwakho luphelele kwinto oyithandayo kunye nolunye ulwalamano ebomini bakho luqala ukubandezeleka.
Ke, ndicinga ukuba sonke singavuma ukuba elinye okanye omabini amaqabane abambelele kwaye aswele ayisiyonto intle kulo naluphi na ulwalamano.
Kodwa ukutshintsha oko kuziphatha, wakuba ufundile, kulula ukutsho kunokuba ukwenzile.
Mna, ndedwa, ndibambe izandla zam ngamanye amaxesha ndiziphathe ngendlela endazi kakuhle ukuba ayinampilo kulwalamano lwam nakum. Ndiyazi ukuba bekungafanelekanga ukuba ndiziphathe ngale ndlela nangona ndisenza njalo, kodwa andinakubonakala ndizinceda.
Ngethamsanqa, nangona kunjalo, kukho amaqhinga amaninzi onokuthi uwadlale kwingqondo yakho ukuwayeka ekuqhubekekiseni isimilo esibi.
Konke malunga nokuphuhlisa imikhwa emitsha kunye nokusabela okungagqibekanga. Kuya kufuneka uzigcine uxakekile kwaye wonwabise ngokwaneleyo ukuze unqande iingcinga zakho ekuhlaleni kwiqabane lakho ngaphezu kokuba usempilweni kwaye uyindalo.
Ukuba uxelelwe ukuba unamathele ngokugqithiseleyo okanye uyazi nje ngaphakathi entliziyweni yakho, nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokunciphisa amanqanaba akho okufuna ukulawula, okanye nokuba awukho.
1. Yivume kuwe
Ukuba usakhanyela malunga nokubambelela kwakho, kwaye ufunda oku ngesigqubuthelo sokuthandabuza, ngekhe uyiphucule imeko, kwaye ubudlelwane bakho buya kusokola.
Inyathelo lokuqala kukwamkela ukuba unamathele kwaye yingxaki. Nje ukuba uqhubekise olo lwazi, uya kuba nakho ukuthatha amanyathelo okutshintsha indlela oziphethe ngayo.
2. Zibeke kwindawo yokuqala
Xa konke esinokucinga ngako kuyinjongo yethu, sihlala, ngokungazi, sibeka iimfuno zabo ngaphambi kwezethu.
Siyayeka ukwenza izinto esifuna ukuzenza kuba sinqwenela ukuchitha ixesha nesithandwa sethu.
Asinaso isibindi sokuxelela omnye umntu oko sikufunayo kubo, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokoyika ukuba baya kuthi yithi hayi .
Ngokuqinisekileyo anditsho ukuba indalo iphela kufuneka ijikeleze wena, kodwa mna Ndingu Ukuthi indalo iphela akufuneki ijikeleze ngokupheleleyo komnye umntu.
Qiniseka ukuba awuzincami ezakho iimfuno ngenxa yabo, njengoko ekuhambeni kwexesha oko kuya kubangela ingqumbo kwicala lakho, kwaye kugqithe kubo.
3. Hlonipha imida yabo
Abanye abantu bathanda ukunxibelelana rhoqo ngohlobo lokuwola, ukwanga, kunye nokuphululwa, kodwa abanye abantu abayenzi nje.
Ukuba iqabane lakho likuxelele, okanye ulwimi lomzimba luye lwenza kwacaca ukuba abonelisekanga sisixa uthando lomzimba ubanika, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ngakumbi indlela oziphatha ngayo nentlonipho imida yabo .
Khumbula, ngenxa yokuba bengachukumisi njengawe, oko akuthethi ukuba bayakuthanda naphantsi - banendlela eyahlukileyo yokuyibonisa.
4. Zigcine uxakekile
Ukuba ulungele ukubambelela, ke ukuba nexesha elininzi ezandleni zakho kuya kuyenza ingxaki ngakumbi, ngakumbi ukuba iqabane lakho lixakeke kakhulu kunawe.
Ukuba okwangoku awunacwangciso-simahla ubusuku obuninzi ngeveki kwaye banekhalenda epakishwe eluntwini, lixesha lokuba uxakeke.
Qiniseka ukuba unezicwangciso ubuncinci ezintathu ngokuhlwa ngeveki ukuze ngokwasemzimbeni ungabinalo ixesha lokuhlala uziphose okanye uzithumele imiyalezo rhoqo.
5. Fowunela abahlobo bakho
Ngaba wakha waba umsele umsele wena ulwalamano? Uyakhumbula ukuba kubi kangakanani oko? Musa ukuba ngulomntu.
Qaphela ngononophelo ubuhlobo obubalulekileyo ebomini bakho kwaye ubekele bucala ixesha lokuzinikezela kubo, njengoko usenza neqabane lakho. Khuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba lenze okufanayo.
6. Chitha ixesha nosapho lwakho
Abantu bahlala beyilahla usapho kunye nabahlobo babo xa bedibana nomntu omtsha.
Ugqibele nini ukufownela umama? Mnike umnxeba, kwaye, ukuba uyafuna, mxelele ngolwalamano lwakho. Usenokude umcele akucebise ngeendlela zokuba ungaswele kakhulu. Oomama bazi ngcono.
terry funk ngaphezulu
Emva koko, thetha ngezinye izinto. Kangangokuba inokubonakala ngathi ngamanye amaxesha, ulwalamano lwakho ayisiyiyo eyona nto ibalulekileyo eyenzekayo kweli hlabathi, kwaye kufuneka uzikhumbuze ngaloo nto.
7. Sebenza kwimicimbi oyithembileyo
Abanye abantu, ukubambelela kusekwe kukungathembani. Cinga ukuba ziphi ezo Imiba yokuthemba zivela, kunye nento onokuyenza ukuzilungisa… okanye ubuncinci ziphucule kuzo.
Ngelixa iqabane onokuthembela kulo iluncedo olukhulu lokoyisa le micimbi, nguwe ekufuneka wenze umsebenzi, hayi bona.
8. Funa ingcebiso kunye nezikhokelo kwingcali.
Utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha lunokwenzeka kuye wonke umntu, kodwa olo tshintsho lwenzeka ngokulula ngakumbi kwaye ngokukhawuleza xa kukho ingcali ebandakanyekayo. Kwimeko yakho, kuya kufuneka ulawule indlela oziphethe ngayo ngelixa usebenza ukufumanisa kwaye ujongane nezizathu zoko.
Ngale nto, sicebisa ngeenkonzo zokucebisa ezivela. Unokunxibelelana kwaye uthethe nengcali ejongene neemeko ezinje ngezakho ngalo lonke ixesha. Baya kuba nakho ukukukhokela, banike iingcebiso ezithile kunye neendlela zokuzama, kwaye bancede uqhubeke xa uziva ngathi ngumzabalazo. Ungathetha nomntu okwi-intanethi ukonwaba ekhayeni lakho.
Ukuba oku kuvakala njengenye into onomdla kuyo xa uzama, ukuthetha nomntu okanye ukulungiselela iseshoni.
9. Sukucinga malunga no'kuba ukuba '
Wakhe wazifumana uhla ngomngxunya omnyama othi 'uthini ukuba' uhleli ekhaya kwaye iqabane lakho liyokuphuza izihlobo zakho?
Uqala ukuzibuza, 'kuthekani ukuba udibana nenye intombazana?' okanye, 'uthini xa ethatha isigqibo sokuba akasandifuni…?'
Ukuthetha ngokungafihlisiyo, nantoni na inokwenzeka, kwaye awunakulilawula ikamva, kodwa akukho sizathu sokuba lusizi malunga nezinto zokucinga ezingenakulindeleka ukuba zenzeke.
Unganexhala malunga nabo ukuba bayakwenza nini kwaye nini, kodwa okwangoku, jolisa kwaye wonwabele izinto ezintle kubudlelwane bakho.
10. Qala umdlalo omtsha
Joyina iqela lomnyazi. Bhalisela iiklasi zeZumba. Qala iklasi yobumba. Bhalisela izifundo zaseSpain. Ndifumana izinto ezinobuchule ngakumbi ziluncedo xa ndincamathela kubudlelwane.
Kwiiyure ezintathu ndihleli kwiklasi yam yodongwe ifowuni yam igcinwe ikhuselekile kwaye andicingi nokuyijonga, ndingene kakhulu kwinto endiyenzayo ngezandla zam (ndingasathethi ke ngobumdaka obuya kubenza ).
11. Yiya eholideyini
Iiholide kunye neqabane lakho zinokuphupha, kodwa iiholide kunye nabahlobo okanye, ngenxa yoko, iiholide ngokwakho zikwangumbono omnandi.
Ngamava ahluke kakhulu, kodwa ungafumanisa ukuba okunene ubona indawo eninzi xa ungazisongelanga kwiqabane lakho.
Ukuhamba impela-veki ende okanye iiveki ezimbalwa yindlela emnandi yokufumana isithuba omnye komnye kwaye wonwabe kwakhona ngokubonana.
Ukungabikho, okoko kungagqithisi, kuyenza nyani intliziyo ikhule.
12. Camngca
Ukuba uyazi ukuba uyaswela, kodwa awungekhe uzinqande, ufuna ukuzilolonga ngengqondo ukukunceda ufumane iingcinga kunye nokuziphatha phantsi kolawulo.
Cinga ngokucamngca njengokuzilolonga kwengqondo yakho. Ukuba ufuna ukwenza utshintsho kwindlela ocinga ngayo, kuya kufuneka uziqhelanise nokuthatha ulawulo.
Zininzi ii -apps ezinokuzama okanye ufumane ukucamngca kwi-YouTube. Oku kuyakunceda ukucoca ingqondo yakho kunye nokubeka izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo, kwaye uzinike amandla wokuba unganikezeli ekuziphatheni okubambekayo.
13. Yenza izicwangciso kwaye unamathele kuzo
Nantoni na oyenzayo, musa ukulahla naziphi na izicwangciso ozenzileyo nabahlobo okanye usapho ukuba iqabane lakho licebisa ukwenza into.
Ukuzama kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ukulahla yonke into kwiqabane lakho kubathumela umyalezo ongalunganga, kwaye ngekhe kumchukumise umntu omshiya ephezulu kwaye womile.
14. Musa ukuthembela kwiqabane lakho kuyo yonke into
Uluvo lokuba iqabane lethu elithandanayo kufuneka libe sesinye isiqingatha okanye umdlalo wethu ogqibeleleyo uhlala ukhuthaza ukubambelela. Sifundisiwe ukuba iqabane lethu kufuneka 'lisigqibe,' elisikhuthaza ukuba sixhomekeke kubo ngokupheleleyo.
Kodwa inyani kukuba, iqabane lethu akufuneki likwazi ukuhlangabezana nazo zonke iimfuno zethu, kwaye akukho namnye oya kuhlala egqibelele ngandlela zonke.
Unokuba nezinto ezithile onomdla kuzo ngokufanayo, kodwa uya kuba nezinto ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba engathandi ukuya kwimiboniso yobugcisa kwaye uyayenza, oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uyeke ukuhamba.
Gcina inethiwekhi yakho yosapho kunye nabahlobo ukuze uqiniseke ukuba unabantu abohlukileyo onokubhenela kubo ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo, kwaye ungalindeli ukuba iqabane lakho libeyinto yakho yonke.
15. Nciphisa ixesha lomnxeba
Inyani yile, kulula kakhulu ukubambelela kwezi ntsuku. Kwixesha elidlulileyo, besingakwazi ukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni rhoqo. Besithi kusasa kusasa sibuye kunye ebusuku, sigcwele ngamabali osuku sokwabelana ngawo.
Okanye, kufuneka sixhomekeke kwiminxeba evela kumnxeba wasendlini okanye silinde ileta… ke kuye kwafuneka siqhubeke nobomi kwaye singachithi ixesha lethu sikhathazekile.
Ukufika kwemiyalezo ebhaliweyo kunye neWhatsapp ngezo mkhalane ziluhlaza, ngelishwa, kuthumele amanqanaba okuqina kuphahla.
Kungenxa yokuba sinokunxibelelana yonke imihla yonke imihla, oko akuthethi ukuba kufanelekile ukuba sibe njalo.
Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akufuneki sichithe ixesha lethu ukukhathazeka xa singafumani mpendulo ikhawulezayo, okanye ithoni yempendulo ivakala ngokungalunganga.
Zibekele imithetho eza kukunceda ugcine ixesha olichitha kwifowuni yakho, kwaye amanqanaba oxinzelelo lwakho kufuneka anciphise kunye nexesha lakho lescreen.
16. Khulisa ukuzithemba kwakho
Abanye abantu banamathela, ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni, kuba ababoni ukuzixabisa kwabo. Banengxaki uxinzelelo kubudlelwane kwaye baqinisekile ukuba iqabane labo linokuphakama lihambe nangawuphi na umzuzu.
Yenza izinto ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakho. Ziqhelanise nokuzikhathalela, nokuba kukuzilungisa ngaphandle okanye ukuphucula ingqondo yakho.
17. Yenza ixesha lodwa into ojonge phambili kuyo
Ixesha eliwedwa kufuneka libe yinto oyithandayo, kwaye ulisebenzise ngokupheleleyo.
Yitya ukutya okulingumlingani wakho, nyusa umculo, hlamba, khanyisa amakhandlela ambalwa… yenza nantoni na ongenakho ukuyenza ngesiqhelo xa ikufutshane, kwaye wonwabe!
18. Thethani ngayo nisebenze ngayo kunye
Ukuba uqaphele ukuba unamathele kakhulu, kunokwenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho liyazi kakuhle.
Khetha ixesha elilungileyo, xa nobabini nondlekile kwaye niphumle ngokwaneleyo, ninengqondo ecacileyo, ukuxoxa ukuba ucinga ukuba intswelo yakho ivelaphi kwaye uceba ukuyisebenza njani kwaye woyise.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga nokuziphatha kwakho okuncamathelayo? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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