Isiqingatha seengxaki zobomi sinokulandelwa ukuba sithi ewe ngokukhawuleza kwaye ungatsho kungekudala. -UJosh Billings
Ukuthi hayi ebantwini yenye yezona zinto zinzima ngamanye amaxesha-nokuba kungenxa yokuba awukwazi ukwenza into, sele unezicwangciso osele uzenzile, okanye awufuni kuyenza!
Sisoloko sibhukuda ndiziva ndinetyala malunga nokuthi hayi, kwaye unexhala lokuba iya kuchaphazela indlela abanye abasibona nabasiphatha ngayo.
Khumbula ukuba awunakuhlala usenza yonke into kwaye ufunde ukuthi hayi ngokuzithemba. Nantsi indlela:
Yiba Nengqiqo
Uthe hayi ngesizathu - mhlawumbi ayiloxanduva lwakho okanye awunalo ixesha lokwenza. Ukuba nengqiqo yeyona ndlela yokujongana nolu hlobo lwezinto, kwaye iyakukuyeka uzive unetyala.
Ukuba unokuzixelela ukuba unengqiqo (kwaye uyakholelwa), akunakufane uzive unetyala ngokuthi hayi.
Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nezibophelelo okanye izicwangciso esele zikho kwaye awukho ngqiqweni ngokungafuni ukuba utshintshe ezo zicwangciso. Awuzicingeli ngokungafuni ukubuyela kumalungiselelo angaphambili.
Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu unobomi obungaphandle komsebenzi - izihlobo, amaqabane, iintsapho, izinto ezithandwayo- kwaye kufuneka ubeke izinto ezithile kuqala ngamanye amaxesha.
Awunangqiqo ngokuba nezinye izibophelelo endaweni (nokuba ezo zibophelelo zibandakanya wena, ibhafu eshushu, kunye neglasi enkulu yewayini!) Okukhona unokuzixelela oku, kokukhona uya kuziva ngcono ngokuthi hayi.
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Nyaniseka
Ukuba kukho isizathu sokwenyani sokungakwazi ukwenza into, ichaze xa usithi hayi.
Zama ukwenza ukuba umntu aqonde ukuba ukuze umncede kulo msebenzi, ubenzele olu thando, okanye uphume nabo, uya kube uvumela omnye umntu ukuba anciphise okanye ancame ezinye izibophelelo.
Ngu ukunyaniseka nokwazisa umntu lowo ukuba ungaziva unetyala ukuba urhoxisile izicwangciso zakho, baya kuqonda ukuba unemfesane kwaye uzibophelele.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokuba kungalunganga kubo, kodwa baya kuba nakho ukuvelana nawe. Akukho mntu uthanda ukurhoxisa izicwangciso, ngakumbi ukuba kubandakanya ukwenza into abayithandayo, okanye ukubona umntu omkhathaleleyo, ke dlala kule.
Awudingi ukubenza bazive benetyala ngokukubuza, kodwa uthembeke kwaye uchaze ukuba awufuni kumlahla iqabane / umhlobo / umntwana wakho. Baya kuqonda kwaye baya kukuxabisa ukunyaniseka kwakho.
Yiba nengqiqo
Yintoni eyona nto imbi inokwenzeka ukuba uthi hayi? Mhlawumbi wakhe wakwenza oko kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye umntu wakukhathaza okanye wakrwada kuwe, kodwa ngekhe kuphele kakubi njengoko ubucinga.
Khumbula ukuba abanye abantu bathe hayi kuwe, kananjalo, ngaphambili - ngekhe ubambe ingqumbo kubo kwaye uyakuqonda ukuqiqa kwabo ngasemva kwayo. Khumbula oku xa uziva unetyala!
Awunakuba nomsindo emntwini ngokuba nezizathu ezivakalayo zokungakwazi ukwenza into, kwaye ngekhe babe nomsindo nakuwe.
Ukuhlengahlengisa iimeko kunokuba yinto enzima kakhulu ngalo mzuzu, ngakumbi xa kukho iimvakalelo ezinje ngokuba netyala.
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Zama ukucinga ngale meko kungekudala emva koko ngokubhala phantsi okwenzekileyo kunye nendlela oziva ngayo ngayo.
Oku kuyakunceda ekuphakameni kwakho kwixesha elizayo xa imeko efanayo isenzeka, njengoko uzokwazi ukuba ulindele ntoni kunye neendlela onokuthi usebenze kakhulu ngazo ngaphambili.
Yomelela
Okukhona ukholisa xa usithi hayi, kokukhona umntu ocela into kuwe uya kuyamkela.
Zama ukuthetha ngokuzithemba- khumbula ukuba awunasizathu sokuziva unetyala, kwaye uchaze ngokuzolileyo ukuba kutheni usithi hayi.
Ukuba ujongene nomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho, baya kukuqonda kwaye abayi kukutyhala. Ukuba incoko yakho ikunye nomntu osebenza naye okanye umphathi, khumbula indawo yakho yoxanduva kwaye uziqhelanise nokuthi hayi kwizinto eziwela ngaphandle kwale.
Ngokuxhasa ingxelo yakho nge amandla angaphakathi , Abantu banokuqonda ukuba uzimisele kwaye kunqabile ukuba bazame ukuqhubeka bekutyhala.
Bambelela kule nto uyithethayo kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ungabuyeli umva- oku kuya kuba lula kokukhona usenza njalo!
Ungamxelela njani umhlobo wenene kwizinto ezingezizo
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Lungela
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukusabela kwinto ngalo mzuzu, ngakumbi ukuba awuqhelanga ukuthi hayi.
Zama ukuba ezinye iimpendulo zilungiselelwe ukuze ungabanjwa ungalindelanga - kunokwenzeka ukuba uthi ewe kwizinto ukuba uziva uphantsi koxinzelelo olubophelelwe lixesha.
Fumana amabinzana ambalwa aziva endalo kwaye kulula ukuwakhumbula, anje ngala 'Makhe ndijonge kwidayari yam kwaye ndiza kubuyela kuwe.'
Yenza okusemandleni akho ukuvakala unyanzelekile kwaye unesibindi - awuthethi nto ngaphandle kwesiqhelo kwaye ulawula okwangoku. Le yimpendulo yokuqala eyamkelekileyo kwaye ithetha ukuba akunakufane uphume u 'ewe!'
Ukusuka apha, ungathumela i-imeyile okanye umyalezo uchaze ukuba kutheni ungakhululekanga, kuba oku kunokuziva kungoyiki kwaye kuyothusa kunokuba uthi hayi ebusweni bomntu.
ungaxelela njani ukuba umntu osebenzayo uyakuthanda
Qiniseka
Xa uchaza ukuba kutheni ungenakwenza nto, shwankathela ingxelo elula- 'ndiyaxolisa, sele ndinezicwangciso.' Oku kwamkelekile kwaye kulula ukukhumbula!
Xa umntu eqhubeka nokubuza, ungabambelela kwesi sivakalisi.
Qiniseka kwaye uzithethelele kwaye uziphindaphinde amaxesha afunekayo ukuze ulwazi lutshone. Awukrwada ngokwenza oku, uyenza ngokucacileyo kakhulu, icace gca ukuba awunakwenza le nto bayicelayo ngeli xesha.
Endaweni yokuphendula eminye imibuzo emitsha abanokuzama ukukuphosa kuyo, hlala ungazibandakanyi kwaye uphinde ingxelo yakho esisiseko.
Zama ukungazivumeli ukuba uphazamiseke, njengoko kunokwenzeka ukuba uzame ukuphendula imibuzo yabo, ufumane ukungcungcutheka kwaye uphele ngokuthi ewe.
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Yiba neqhayiya
Ngalo lonke ixesha ukwazi ukuthi hayi kwinto, bhala indlela oziva ngayo. Bhala phantsi iimvakalelo zakho neengcinga zakho malunga nokuthi hayi, kwaye ulindele ukuba kwenzeke ngoku.
Ekuqaleni, uya kuthi wenze amanqaku abandakanya ukuziva unetyala, unexhala lokuba uza kuthiywa okanye ugxothwe, ukothuka ukuba ungumntu ombi.
Emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa, yenza inqaku leziphumo- mhlawumbi omnye umntu uceliwe ukuba ahlale emva kwexesha emsebenzini, okanye umhlobo wakho ufumene omnye umntu oza kubaqhubela kwidinga.
Nokuba siyintoni na isiphumo, akukho ndawo ikufuphi kububi njengoko uqikelele.
Ngokubhala indlela oziva ngayo kwaye emva koko ulandele ezona ziphumo zezenzo zakho, uya kuqala ukuqonda ukuba ukuthi hayi akupheli kwintlekele!
Okukhona unokukuqhelisela oku, kokukhona uya kuziva ngcono xa usithi hayi. Ngokukhawuleza uyakuqonda ukuba ungayiphinda-phinda ingqondo yakho icinge ukuthi hayi njengento esempilweni, esengqiqweni, endaweni yendlela eya kwizinto ezoyikekayo ezenzekayo.
Xa usithi 'ewe' kwabanye, qiniseka ukuba awusatsho 'hayi' kuwe. -U-Paul Coelho
