Wakhe weva umntu esebenzisa ibinzana elingafuniyo 'ukubamba iimvakalelo' ngomntu othile?
Yimbono yokuba abafuni ukuphuhlisa naluphi na unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo okanye uncamathiselo komnye umntu.
Rhoqo kunokuba kunjalo, isetyenziswa xa kubhekiswa kumntu abandakanyeka naye ngokwesondo.
Ukuba bayakonwabela ukuchitha ixesha kunye nalo mntu kwaye basondelelene ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa abafuni naluphi na uhlobo lokuzibandakanya ngokweemvakalelo.
Eli nqaku liza kuqala liqwalasele ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuvalwa ngokweemvakalelo. Emva koko iya kubuza ukuba kutheni umntu enokungabikho ngokwasemoyeni. Okokugqibela, iya kwabelana ngendlela yokunqoba lo mgama weemvakalelo kwaye uvuleke.
Kuthetha Ukuthini ukungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo?
Ngendlela elula, oko kuthetha ukuba awukhululekanga ngokubandakanyeka ngokweemvakalelo.
Ungaziva ungakhululekanga xa abantu bekuxelela ukuba bakukhathalele okanye bayakuthanda.
Usenokuphazamiseka xa ucinga ukuba uqala ukuba neemvakalelo zomnye umntu ongaphaya kokufuna ukwaba ipizza kunye nabo.
Unokufumana izizathu zokuphepha ukuchitha ixesha nomntu ngaphandle kokuba liqela okanye kukho icebo lokuphuma elicacileyo.
Umzekelo, usenokuxoka uxelele isithandwa ngaphambi kwexesha ukuba awungekhe ulale ngenxa yokuba kufuneka uvuke kwangoko entlanganisweni.
Endaweni yokuvuma ukuba unoxinzelelo okanye iintlungu malunga nemeko, unokuyibhuqa ngesiqhulo okanye utshintshe isihloko.
Okanye unokuthintela naluphi na uhlobo lokunxibelelana kwezentlalo kude kudlule ixesha le-X kwaye ungaqhubeka ngokungathi akwenzekanga nto.
Yintoni Ebangela Umgama Wakho Weemvakalelo?
Ukuba ufunda eli nqaku, mhlawumbi uyazi kakuhle ukuba awufumaneki ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane bakho, kwaye unethemba lokwenza into ukuyitshintsha.
Into leyo, kuhlala kukho isizathu sokungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye kuhlala kwahlukile kuye wonke umntu.
Akukho sisombululo sisinye, kuba zininzi izizathu.
Cinga ngomntu oya kugqirha okanye kwixhwele lendalo kuba banerhashalala.
Umphilisi akabaniki ngokuzenzekelayo i-cream okanye i-salve-babuza umbuzo olula kuqala: 'Uyazi ukuba ibangelwe yintoni?'
Kungenxa yokuba ukhilimu oya kunciphisa i-eczema awuyi kwenza okuninzi kwi-poison ivy, njl.
Kuyafana nakwimiba yeemvakalelo.
Ihlala iyimvo yokoyika kunye / okanye ukungafaneleki okuhlakulela ukungazithembi komntu kunye nokuthandabuza ukuvumela nabani na asondele kakhulu.
Abanye abantu abafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo ngenxa yokuba benamava abuhlungu ebuntwaneni. Bafunde kwangethuba kakhulu ukuba abanakubathemba abantu okanye babe sesichengeni kubo, ke bagcina umgama ukuzikhusela.
Abanye benzakaliswa kulwalamano lwangaphambili kwaye bazimisele ukunqanda amava olo hlobo lwentlungu kwakhona. Ke bayazibandakanya kulwalamano olusenyongweni kwaye bayarhoxa baye kumgama okhuselekileyo kwakamsinya nje ukuba izinto zibe mbi kakhulu.
Uloyiko kunye nokuba semngciphekweni
Kwiimeko ezininzi, eyona nto ibangela umgama womntu ngokweemvakalelo luloyiko.
Banako uloyiko ukwaliwa , okanye ukuba ngandlela thile 'abalunganga ngokwaneleyo' okanye abayi kuphila ngokulindelwe liqabane labo.
Abanye banokoyika ukulahlekelwa ngabo basondele kubo, ke benza konke okusemandleni abo ukunqanda ukwenza iziqhotyoshelweyo.
Oku kuhlala kusenzeka kubantu abaphulukana nomzali okanye umntakwabo kwasebutsheni. Intlungu kunye nosizi olunxulunyaniswa nolo hlobo lwelahleko lubenza babe madolw 'anzima ukwenza izibophelelo eziqinileyo zeemvakalelo kwimeko apho banokuphinda beve khona.
Imibuzo eli-10 yokuzibuza yona
Xa ukwimo efanelekileyo yengqondo ukwenza njalo, bamba ijenali yakho kunye nepeni, kwaye ubhale phantsi le mibuzo.
Thatha ixesha lakho kunye nabo, kwaye uzame ukubaphendula ngokunyaniseka ngokusemandleni:
1. Ngaba uyoyika ukukhula iimvakalelo ezinzulu emntwini kuba uyazi ukuba kuya kubabuhlungu kangakanani xa bephelisa ubudlelwane? (Okanye woyika ukuba bazokulahla?)
2. Ngaba unayo ubunzima bokuthemba abantu ?
3. Ngaba usoloko ulindile, ulinde esinye isihlangu siwe?
4. Ngaba uhlala unxibelelana ngentliziyo elula (umzekelo, ukwenza iziqhulo, ukubalisa amabali ahlekisayo) endaweni yokuvula malunga neenkcukacha zobomi bakho?
5. Ngaba aninakulalanisa kubudlelwane benu? Ngaba ulindele ukuba omnye umntu atshintshe ukuze ahambelane neemfuno zakho, kodwa wale ukwenza naluphi na utshintsho lomntu kuye?
6. Ngaba unengxaki zokubonisa ukuba sesichengeni okanye ubuthathaka?
7. Ngaba uhlala ujonga iimpazamo okanye ukungafezeki kwelinye iqabane lakho njengesizathu soku phelisa ubudlelwane ?
8. Ngaba uyakuphepha ukusondela kakhulu kuba uziva ngathi ulindele umntu ongcono?
9. Ngaba usebenzisa iintlobano zesini njengendlela yokuphepha ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho okanye apho ubudlelwane buya khona?
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10. Unobunzima ekuchazeni iimvakalelo ezinzulu? Okanye ngaba unokukwenza oko kuphela xa / xa udakiwe?
Le yimibuzo enzima ukucinga ngayo, kodwa zama ukunyaniseka kangangoko.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, eyona mibuzo inzima ithande ukuba yeyona ibalulekileyo sizibuze yona.
Ewe, oku kuya kuncanca, kodwa kuya kunceda.
Ungafumaneka njani ngokweemvakalelo
Nje ukuba uthembeke ngesiqu sakho malunga nomthombo wokungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo, ungathatha inyathelo ukulungisa le ndlela yokuziphatha.
1. Ziqhelanise nokuzazisa
Enye yezona ndlela zibaluleke kakhulu ukoyisa ukungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo kukubona xa ukude.
Oku kuyakufuna ukuba uqaphele indlela ophendula ngayo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, kwaye unyaniseke malunga nokuba kutheni uziphethe ngale ndlela uqhuba ngayo.
Kwakhona, ukuba ufunda eli nqaku, mhlawumbi uyazi kakuhle ukuba ugcina abantu ubude bengalo kwaye ungathanda ukugqitha koko, kwaye uhlakulele ubudlelwane obomeleleyo nabanye.
Umzekelo, ukungafumaneki kwakho ngokweemvakalelo kunokubonakalisa njengokuzimela kanzima.
Usenokuba ufundile kwakudala ukuba awunakuxhomekeka kwabanye abantu, ngenxa yoko uye wazinyanzela kwaye wazinyamekela yonke into ngokwakho, njalo.
Ukuba kwaye xa uzifumana ukwimeko apho ufuna abanye abantu, njengokuzenzakalisa okanye ugula ngokwenene, usenokungavumi ukuba ubuthathaka kwaye wazise abanye ukuba uyabafuna.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba uyafikelela kwaye ucele uncedo, unokugqibela ndidanile kwakhona.
Impendulo yakho esemgangathweni ukuza kuthi ga ngoku inokuba kukuzikhathalela ngokwakho ukuze ungabinakho ukujongana nethuba lokuphoxwa okanye ukwenzakaliswa ngabo bathi banenkathalo.
Ukuchonga le ndlela yokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha linyathelo lokuqala lokutshintsha.
Zibandakanye ekuzibonakaliseni rhoqo, kodwa ngakumbi xa uzifumanisa urhoxa emntwini.
Cinga ngento (s) ekhokelele ekubeni ubeke izithintelo ngokweemvakalelo okanye wenze umgama weemvakalelo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iindlela ezi-7 zokuBonisa ngokukhuselekileyo ukuba semngciphekweni ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane
- Wenze Ntoni Ngolwalamano Olungenalo Ulwalamano kunye noQhagamshelo
- Iimpawu ezingama-20 Umntu othile unemicimbi yokuShiya
- Kutheni abantu beshenxisa bemke?
- Indlela yokuchonga nokujongana nexhala lobudlelwane
- Ungabathanda njani ngakumbi kwiQabane lakho
2. Thatha Amanyathelo oSana usinge kuMngcipheko
Into kukuba, rhoqo kunoko, xa unika abantu ithuba lokuba boyike, eneneni bayenyuka kunye nobuhle babo.
Kodwa oko kufuna inkalipho kwicala lakho.
Endaweni yokuzama ukutyhoboza zonke iindonga zakho zokukhusela ngaxeshanye, cinga ngokuzikhupha kancinci kancinci.
Thatha amanyathelo amancinci kumhlaba osengozini kwaye unike abantu abakuthandayo ithuba lokukubonisa ukuba banyanisekile, kwaye banokuthenjwa.
Ngaba uthanjisiwe ngumkhuhlane? Ndibheja umntu othandana naye (okanye umhlobo osenyongweni, okanye ilungu losapho) unikezele ngokujija ngesuphu kunye ne-lozenges yomqala.
Kwaye ukhawulezile kwangoko ngenxa yokuba:
- Awufuni ukuba bakubone ukwimeko yokuba sesichengeni.
- Ukhangeleka njengesihogo kwaye awukwazi ukuhlakulela i-facade yakho eqhelekileyo ephosiweyo.
- Unokuziva ubonwa kubo ngandlela thile.
… Kodwa kuya kuba kuhle kakhulu ukubayeka bakukhathalele, nokuba kukancinci, akunjalo?
Bayeke.
3. Nxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka
Ukuba uzama ukubakho ngokwasemphefumlweni-nokuba ngaba liqabane lakho, abantwana, amalungu osapho, okanye abahlobo abasenyongweni-baxelele loo nto.
Bazise ukuba uyazi indlela oziphethe ngayo, kwaye ucele uncedo lwabo ekuzitshintsheni.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba yeyiphi indlela yokunxibelelana esebenzela wena?
Ukuba kunjalo, xelela abantu obathandayo ukuba ungathanda ukuba bakuxelele xa ukude nabo okanye ubavalela ngaphandle.
Bazise ngeyona ndlela yokunxibelelana nawe ukuze ufumane igalelo labo ngokufanelekileyo endaweni yokuzikhusela ngokukhawuleza okanye uqhubele phambili.
Nanku umzekelo: masithi uyavala kwaye uthule xa uxinezelekile ngomsebenzi.
Usenokungabi luhlobo lomntu oya kusabela kakuhle ukuba iqabane lakho linyuse eso sihloko ukuba sithethe malunga nesidlo sangokuhlwa, okanye xa uzama ukulala ubuthongo.
Chonga elona xesha lililo kunye nendlela yokunxibelelana, nokuba kungeleta ebhalwe ngesandla onokuyifunda ngexesha lakho, okanye ixesha elimiselwe kwangaphambili onokulisebenzisa ukuxoxa ngezinto.
Bazise ngethoni oyikhethayo, kwaye uya kuphendula kweyona nto intle, njengokuqonda ngobumnene ngokuchasene nezityholo kunye neenyembezi.
Ngokusisiseko yenza indawo engathathi cala apho omabini amaqela anokunxibelelana ngaphandle kobundlobongela.
Uya kuba kwisakhelo esifanelekileyo sokumamela kubo, kwaye baya kuziva beqinisekisiwe malunga nenyaniso yokuba bemanyiwe.
Ngapha koko, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba aba ngabantu abakuthandayo, kwaye abafuna ukunxibelelana nawe kwinqanaba elinzulu.
Ngenxa yoko, banokuba nomdla kwaye bakulungele ukunxibelelana nawe ngeyona ndlela isebenzayo yokukunceda woyise imiqobo yakho yeemvakalelo- ngobunono, kunye uthando olungenamiqathango , inkxaso, kunye nokuqonda.
4. Vula i-Bit By Bit
Uyayikhumbula loo nto ngokungangqubeki phantsi zonke iindonga zakho zokukhusela ngaxeshanye?
Ukuthatha amanyathelo amancinci kukufikelela okukhulu kwiimvakalelo kukuvumela ukuba uzive ukhuselekile. Ikwabonelela ngethuba leethenda ezincinci zonxibelelwano ukufikelela kuzo.
Masithi ubugcina izinto zilula kwaye ziyonwabisa kunye nomntu othandana naye, kodwa ufuna ukunxibelelana nabo kwinqanaba elinzulu.
Mhlawumbi sele bekhankanyile ukuba bayafuna yazi ngcono , kodwa uzive ngathi uzigcina kubude bengalo.
Xa ukwimo efanelekileyo yengqondo yokwenza njalo, mabazise ukuba uyazi ukuba awufumaneki ngokwasemphefumlweni, kwaye uzama ukufunda indlela yokuvula ngakumbi.
Yabelana ngento enye ngawe ukuba ubugcina kubo.
Nje enye.
Oku kunokuba yinto enzima ohamba kuyo, okanye into embi eyenzekileyo kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo, okanye nokuba lolunye uphawu lomntu oziva usisiyatha ngalo.
Babonise eyona nto incinci yokuba sesichengeni kwaye ubavumele ukuba banyuke kwaye bakwamkele.
Kwaye ndikuxhase.
Kwaye unamathele.
Ke, xa uziva ukhuselekile kancinci, phinda wenze enye into ngolwazi.
Kancinci kancinci, ezo ntshukumo zincinci ziya kufikelela kancinci kwaye uya kuziva ukhululekile nokuba sesichengeni kwalo mntu.
Uya kuqonda ukuba bayakuthanda kwaye bayakwamkela njengokuba unjalo, kwaye ulufanelwe luthando lwabo.
5. Ukuba Ngokwenene Uhleli, Cinga Ukufumana Uncedo
Ukucela abahlobo bakho kunye namalungu osapho ngoncedo lokoyisa umgama wakho weemvakalelo kulungile, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha uncedo oluncinci lweengcali luyafuneka.
Akunokwahluka ekufumaneni i-physio emva kokulimala kakubi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokwenza umsipha kwaye uphilise kwi-back back yakho, kodwa izinto ziya kuhamba kakuhle (kwaye ziphilise ngokukhawuleza) ukuba i-physiotherapist ikunceda kunye, kunene?
Ukuba ubulwela ukoyisa ukungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo, kunokubakho imiba ehleli nzulu ofuna uncedo ukuba ifikelele kuyo.
Kwaye oko kulungile. Akukho namnye kuthi ongenayo imicimbi, kwaye yile nto yonyango kunye nabacebisi.
Ukufumaneka ngokweemvakalelo emva kweminyaka, okanye amashumi eminyaka, yomgama kuthatha isibindi esikhulu.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kukho ithuba lokwenyani lokuba xa uthatha inyani ukuba ubekhona ngokwasemphefumlweni, unokupheliswa kwaye / okanye wenzakalise kwakhona.
Inqanaba elithile lentlungu alinakuphepheka kubudlelwane bobuqu, kodwa ukukwazi ukuziva unzulu, uthando olunyanisekileyo- kwaye uthandwe ngokulandelelana- kufanelekile ukuba ubungozi.
Eli nqaku likuthathe kuhambo lokuphonononga ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukungafumaneki ngokwasemphefumlweni, izizathu zokuba ungaba yile ndlela, kunye nendlela onokuvula ngayo ngakumbi.
Ngoku lithuba lakho lokuba uthathe uhambo lwakho. Uya kujongana nemiceli mngeni, kodwa ungoyisa ngokunyamezela nangokuziqhelanisa.
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