Ukunkqonkqoza phantsi kweendonga ezikhuselayo ezingqonge intliziyo yakho kwaye uvumele umntu ukuba angene yinto enkulu kuye nabani na. Nangona kunjalo, abanye bethu bakufumanisa kunzima ngakumbi kunabanye ukuvula amaqabane.
Ngamanye amaxesha siyasokola ukungenisa abantu kuba sizalwe sinjalo ngokwemvelo. Ngamanye amaxesha kusisiphumo sobudlelwane bethu bosapho okanye ubuntwana bethu. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sisiphumo sokuvumela unogada wethu ngaphambili kwaye iintliziyo zethu zophukile.
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Ukuba uye wakha iqokobhe elilukhuni elijikeleze intliziyo yakho kwaye ukhathazekile ngokuvumela ukuba iqhekeke nje kancinci ukuvumela iqabane lakho lingene, kuya kuba nefuthe elibi kulwalamano lwakho.
Ukuba iqabane lakho alisokoli ekubeni sesichengeni ngokwasemphefumlweni, banokufumana kunzima ukuqonda ukuba kutheni bengakwazi ukufikelela kulowo bamthandayo.
Uninzi lwabantu luyasokola ngenxa yokuba sesichengeni kuba, ezingqondweni zabo, yinto efanayo nobuthathaka. Bacinga ukuba ukuba bavumela umntu aqonde ukungazithembi kwabo okanye iindawo ezibuthathaka, baya kuthi bajongwe njengabantu abangaphantsi.
Bakholelwa ukuba baya kuphulukana nentlonipho yamaqabane abo, bagwetywe, okanye bazivulele ukuhlasela kwaye babe semngciphekweni omkhulu wokonzakala.
Bonwabile ukwabelana ngeenkcukacha zomhlaba malunga nabo - izinto ezingabalulekanga ezinje ngebhanti abayithandayo okanye apho bangathanda ukuya khona - kodwa bayangxama xa kuphakanyiswa imiba enzulu. Izinto ezinje ngendlela abonzakele ngayo ngaphambili kunye noloyiko lwabo malunga nokwenzakala kwixesha elizayo.
Bafuna intlonipho yamaqabane abo, ke babeka ngaphambili kwaye benze njengomntu owomeleleyo abacinga ukuba kufuneka babe yiyo ukuze bafumane loo ntlonipho. Kodwa, abaqondi ukuba umntu obathandayo uya kwazi kuphela kakuhle xa bengengokwenyani.
Endaweni yokuba umntu owomeleleyo bacinga ukuba iqabane lakhe liza kubona, lonke iqabane labo libona ludonga lwezitena, olungeyonto imema kakhulu.
Ukuba unale ngxaki kubudlelwane obudlulileyo okanye ngoku uhlangabezana nayo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo uyazi ukuba ukubonisa ukuba sesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo kubalulekile kubudlelwane bezothando.
Ubudlelwane bakho bangaphambili bungade buphele ngenxa yokuba ungakwazi ukuvula, kodwa awukaqiniseki ukuba ungakwenza njani oko ngaphandle kokushiya uvulelekile kwintlungu yentliziyo.
Kukho, nangona kunjalo, iindlela onokuthi uzibonakalise kwiqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ukubangenisa, nokuba uyasokola ukwenza njalo. Kwaye iindlela onokuziqeqesha ngazo, kancinci kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuze thembela kwiqabane lakho -Kwakho nakuwe-okwaneleyo ukuvula.
1. Bazise Ukuba Uyasokola Ukuba Sesichengeni
Izinto zokuqala kuqala. Inyathelo elibalulekileyo ekubonakaliseni ukuba sesichengeni ngakumbi kubudlelwane bakho kukwazisa iqabane lakho ukuba uyasokola nalo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo baya kuba sele bezisebenzele ngokwabo, kodwa inokuthi ibeke ingqondo yabo ekukhululeni ukwazi ukuba ayingabo, nguwe.
Bazise ukuba uyazi ngokubaluleka kokuchaphazeleka ngokweemvakalelo kwaye uya kwenza konke okusemandleni akho, kodwa awuyi kuhlala uphumelela.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ungene kwiinkcukacha ezininzi ukuba awuziva ukhululekile, kodwa kulungile ukubanika umbono wokuba ucinga ukuba imiba yakho ivele phi.
2. Xa Babuza Ukuba Unjani, Thetha Inyaniso
Ukunyaniseka yinxalenye enkulu yokuba sesichengeni, kodwa sonke sisetyenziselwa ukufihla iimvakalelo zethu.
Impendulo esemgangathweni kumbuzo othi 'Unjani?' 'Kulungile,' kwaye konke kulungile kwaye kulungile xa ugxa wakho ekubuza. Alithandabuzeki elokuba bangothuka ukuba ubabaxelele ukuba unjani.
Kodwa xa iqabane lakho likubuza, zama ukuthembeka ngakumbi. Ukuba umkhulu, baxelele, kwaye ubaxelele ukuba kutheni. Ukuba uziva uphantsi, nokuba awunako ukubeka umnwe wakho kwisizathu, yabelana nabo.
Ngokunyaniseka kwinto ebonakala ngathi ayibalulekanga njengokuba unjalo, ubeka indlela yokunyaniseka okukhulu kulwalamano lwakho luphela. Ukuba unokubaxelela ukuba ubenosuku olubi kwaye uqonde ukuba awugwetywa, ukuzithemba kwakho kubo kuya kuqala ukukhula.
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3. Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho
Akukho ndlela oya kukwazi ngayo ukwabelana nokusebenza kwangaphakathi kwengqondo yakho kunye nomlingane ukuba awukwazi ukunyaniseka kuwe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo siphumelele ekuqinisekiseni ukuba iphambili esiyibekayo kwabanye abantu iyinyani.
Ijenali yindlela emangalisayo yokufumanisa ukuba uziva njani. Vumela iimvakalelo zakho ziphume ephepheni kumjelo wokuqonda, kwaye ungakhathazeki malunga namagama okanye igrama. Zama ukuzibamba xa unganyanisekanga ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuchaza indlela oziva ngayo kuwe kukunika ithuba elingcono kakhulu lokukwazi ukuvula iqabane.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Kutheni ubudlelwane bungumsebenzi onzima kangaka?
- Iimpawu ze-3 zeMicimbi yokuThembela kunye nendlela yokufumana ngaphezulu kwazo
- Iinjongo ezi-9 zobudlelwane Wonke umntu otshatileyo kufuneka azibekele
- Iindlela ezili-9 zokujongana nokuNgcatshiswa kunye nokuPhiliswa kwiNtlungu
- Iimpawu ezingama-20 zoMntu oNemicimbi yokuShiya (+ Indlela yokoyisa)
4. Yabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye namaphupha
Ukuba semngciphekweni ngokweemvakalelo ayisiyiyo yonke into eyokwabelana neenkxalabo kunye noloyiko. Imalunga nezinto ezintle nazo!
Indlela elungileyo ukuqala ukuvula ngokwabelana ngamaphupha onawo onokuthi uthandabuze ukuthetha ngawo. Mhlawumbi unexhala lokuba abantu baya kubahleka okanye bacinge ukuba bayazihlekisa okanye abakho ngqiqweni kwaphela.
Ukuba unomsebenzi wokuzilibazisa, ukuthanda, okanye injongo oyifumana inomdla kodwa awuzange uxelele nabani na, kutheni ungavumeli iqabane lakho lingene kuloo mfihlelo
Baza kuziva ngathi bafumene ukuqonda okwenyani kwihlabathi lakho, kwaye uyakuqonda ukuba ukwaba izinto nabo ayothusi kwaphela!
Hlala phantsi, Thetha, kwaye ubeke imida
Ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba kukho into ngokukodwa ofuna ukwabelana ngayo neqabane lakho, qiniseka ukuba uhlala phantsi ukuze uncokole nabo ngalo mzuzu xa kungekho ziphazamiso kwaye kungekho xinzelelo lwexesha.
Ngaphambi kokuba uhlale phantsi, misela entlokweni yakho kanye le nto ungathanda ukuthetha nabo ngayo. Zama ukugxila kumcimbi omnye ngengxoxo nganye, kunokuba ubabhombise ngemicimbi eliqela okanye ukungazithembi ngaxeshanye.
Xa uthetha, baxelele ukuba kukho imida ungathanda ukuba bakuhloniphe, njengokungazami ukukunika naliphi na ingcebiso malunga nengxaki yakho okanye ukugxeka, nokuba kungenjongo.
Xa ufumene yonke into isesifubeni sakho, qiniseka ukuba ubazise ukuba unombulelo ngenkathalo yabo, inkxaso kunye nentlonipho yabo.
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6. Musa Ukoyika Ukulila
Ukuba iinyembezi ziyazehlela, ungazibambi. Ukulila kuhlambuluke ngendlela emangalisayo kwaye ukuba kukho iinyembezi emehlweni akho, zingcono ngaphandle.
Musa ukucinga ngezinyembezi njengophawu lobuthathaka, kodwa njengophawu lokuba awoyiki ukuqaphela kwaye ube neemvakalelo zakho kwaye wabelane ngazo neqabane lakho.
Umntu ongoyikiyo ukulila kwaye amvumela ukuba azive ngokwenyani ukude enomtsalane ngakumbi kwabanye ngaphandle komntu ongavumiyo ukuvula.
7. Thatha kancinci kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo
Ukuba ufunda le nto, sele wenze isiqalo esimnandi. Uye waqaphela ukuba uyasokola nokuba sesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo. Elo linyathelo lokuqala lokwenza iinguqu kunye nokuqala ukwakha ulwalamano olomeleleyo, oluthembekileyo, noluvulekileyo olufunayo.
Musa ukuzityhala kude kakhulu. Qhubeka uthatha amanyathelo omntwana, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba wazi, uya kuba lapho ufuna ukuba lapho.
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