Ngaba unengxaki yokulila xa ukhathazekile?
Ukuba uyayenza, AWUKHO wedwa.
Ukukhangela ngokukhawuleza kwiwebhu kuya kuzisa izithuba ezingenakubalwa kubantu abangakwaziyo ukukhala, nangona besentlungwini yentlungu enzulu.
Oku kubi ngelishwa, njengoko ukukhala yenye yeendlela ezisempilweni kunye necathartic yokukhulula iimvakalelo zokwakha, ukusuka umsindo kunye nokukhathazeka ukuvakalisa ukuphelelwa lithemba.
Nangona kunjalo abantu abaninzi baziva ngathi abanako ukulila.
Kutheni le nto isenzeka?
Kwaye umntu angadlula njani kwiibhloko ukuze avumele iinyembezi ukuba ziphinde ziphinde ziqhubeke?
Masiqale ngesona sizathu siphambili sokuba abantu abakwazi ukulila…
Ingcinezelo yafunda
Ukuba ukufumanisa kunzima ukukhala, nangona ufuna njalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ngaxa lithile ngaphambili, wafunda ukungakwenzi oko.
Ngokucacileyo oku asilulo uphawu esizelwe nalo, njengoko lonke usana emhlabeni lwazi ukukhala.
Bayakhala nakokucaphukiswa okuncinci, kwaye nangona olo phawu lubonakala luphela kancinci njengoko bekhula, abantwana abancinci baya kuhlala belila ngomnqwazi.
Xa belusizi.
Okanye ndidanile .
Okanye ukuba bayawa kwaye bazenzakalise.
Okanye kuba boyisiwe ngovuyo kwaye ayinakubanakho amandla eemvakalelo zabo.
Ngexesha elithile, abazali- kunye nootitshala, kunye noluntu ngokubanzi-babafundisa ukuba ukulila akulunganga.
Ayamkelekanga, nkqu.
Endaweni yokuba ibonwe njengevalve yokukhupha uxinzelelo, ithathelwa ingqalelo uphawu lobuthathaka , ukucinezelwa ngamaxesha onke.
Ngaba khange uqaphele ukuba ekuphela kwexesha uluntu lwaseNtshona lubona kwamkelekile ukuba abantu bakhale emingcwabeni, kwaye nalapho, kuphela iinyembezi okanye ezimbini zibonakala zilungile?
AmaStoyike ayanconywa kwaye anconywa. Ukuqaqambisa ubuso bakho ngenxa yokuba ulusu lujongelwe phantsi.
Ngenxa yoko, abantu kuyo yonke indawo banexesha elinzima kakhulu ukuzivumela ukuba bakhale.
Ukuba ungomnye wabo, kusenokwenzeka ngenxa yenani lezinto ezahlukeneyo.
Ingcinezelo yakho isenokuba yayilulawulo oluzilawulayo, apho uchithe ixesha elininzi uzimisele ukuba ungalili ukuba uvale iindlela zakho zangaphakathi zokulila.
Ngenye indlela, usenokuba ube neentloni, uthotyiwe okanye ubethwe ukuba uyalila.
Ukuba umntu omncinci ufunda kwangethuba ukuba ukukhala kuya kubangela iintlungu kunye nezohlwayo, baya kwenza nantoni na eyimfuneko ukuyiphepha, akunjalo?
Ixesha elingaphezulu, baya kuphuhlisa impendulo ekhawulezileyo kwisistim seemvakalelo apho utshintsho lwabo lwangaphakathi luya kuthi 'lucime' nanini na xa iimvakalelo zibaleka kakhulu.
Ke umntu angadlula njani kuloo nto kwaye afunde ukukhala kwakhona? Nazi izinto ezi-4 onokuzenza:
1. Bamkele ukuba sesichengeni
Uninzi lwabantu abaye bafunda ukucinezela iinyembezi zabo bakhulele kwiindawo ezinzima kakhulu.
Abanye basenokuba babekhe baphathwa gadalala ebuntwaneni, okanye iimeko ezabenza bazive bengenamandla.
Uninzi lwabo kusenokwenzeka ukuba luye lwenzeka ukungcatsha , Kwaye kwafuneka ndijongane nokuwa okulandelayo.
Xa umntu eziva engenamandla kwaye engcatshiwe-ngakumbi ukuba yenzekile kaninzi-bahlala zizivalele phantsi ngokwasemphefumlweni njengendlela yokuzikhusela.
Ngokusisiseko, bayazenza ukuba bangangeneleli ukuze bangaze baphinde bazive beboyikeka kwakhona.
Ingxaki ngokubeka iindonga ezijikeleze intliziyo yomntu kukuba ayigcini ngokunika intliziyo engenakoyiswa: iyayithiya.
Ezi ndonga zinokubonakala ngathi azinakudlula ngaphandle, kubonakala ngathi zigcina umntu “ekhuselekile” kwiimvakalelo ezingafunekiyo, kodwa intliziyo nayo ayinako bonisa iimvakalelo ukuba ifuna ukukhupha.
Ngokusisiseko, ezo ndonga ziye zaba yindlu yezilwanyana.
Inokuba nzima kakhulu ukuphuma kuyo.
2. Vula ibhokisi yePandora
Kukho umthambo abanye abantu abawusebenzisayo ukuthintela iimvakalelo ekubeni zibachaphazele, kwaye yile 'yokubeka izinto ebhokisini'.
Ngalo lonke ixesha imvakalelo abafuni ukuziva imithombo ngaphakathi kwabo, bacinga ukuba ukuziva (okanye ukucinga) kufakwa kwibhokisi enkulu, eyomeleleyo enesiciko esinzima, abangaze baphuncuke ngaphandle kokuba bakhethe ukuyikhupha kwakhona.
Uninzi lukhetha ukungakwenzi oko, kwaye ezo bhokisi zeemvakalelo ziphela zitywinwe ixesha elide kunokuba kufanelekile.
Kunokuba luncedo ukuseta iimvakalelo ezithile ecaleni ukuze udlule kwimeko enzima, kodwa ukuzipakisha ezibhokisini kwaye uzifake kwigunjana ngonaphakade ngekhe kukwenzele nto.
Ukuba uziva ufuna ukufikelela kwezo mvakalelo, kwaye ufunde ukukhala kwakhona, indlela elungileyo yokuqala yenkqubo kukwenza vula loo bhokisi kwakhona .
Khetha usuku xa uziva ukuzinza ngokweemvakalelo , kwaye ikwazi ukuqhubekeka neemvakalelo ezinokuba nzima.
Inamba yebhola enkulu yomdlalo wokuqala wenamba
Emva koko, khetha indawo apho uziva ukhuselekile kwaye unqabisekile. Zenzele ukhululekile, nangaso nasiphi na isidalwa esithuthuzelayo onokukufuna.
Eli ingaligumbi lokuphumla apho ukhanyise khona amakhandlela anevumba elimnandi kwaye uneekristale zokuphilisa ezikungqongileyo, okanye inokuba yindawo yangasese evaliweyo oyigcinileyo kunye neGatorade kunye nenkawu yesokisi efakiweyo oyithandayo ukusukela oko wawuneminyaka emithathu.
Akukho sigwebo . Ngaphandle kwemiqathango ukuzithanda nokwamkeleka.
Thatha ubunzulu, umhlaba imiphunga.
Emva koko, cinga ukuvula ikhabethe oyidalele ngaphakathi, ukufikelela ngaphakathi, kunye nokususa ibhokisi.
Hlala nayo imizuzwana embalwa, ucinga ukuba isezandleni zakho.
Awunamandla: unolawulo olupheleleyo lweemeko zakho, kwaye akukho mntu uya kukuhlaza, okanye akugwebe, okanye akwenzakalise ngenxa yokuziva uziva.
Xa uziva ukulungele ukwenza njalo, vula ibhokisi, kwaye ukhuphe inkumbulo.
Ukhetha ukuba yeyiphi imemori enzima ongathanda ukujongana nayo, kodwa ungafuna ukuqala ngenye engenamandla kakhulu okanye ebuhlungu.
3. Yiba Nobulali Nawe
Ukuphendula ekujonganeni nezi nkumbulo kuya kwahluka kuye wonke umntu.
Abanye abantu banokuthi babeke iindonga eziqinileyo kangangokuba baziva bengekho blip xa bekhupha la mava endaweni yokugcina.
Kwezo meko, imemori eyomeleleyo, inzima ngakumbi inokubanceda ukuba bagqobhoze iindonga zabo.
Abanye banokuziva ngathi bonyukelwe kwangoko ngokweemvakalelo, nto leyo enokuthi ixhase impendulo yamadolo kwingcinezelo kunye nokungahoyi, kuba oko kubuhlungu kakhulu kunakujongana nentlungu.
Ukuba le yimeko, zama ukuyamkela endaweni ye- ukubaleka kuyo .
Hlala kwimemori, kunye vumela imvakalelo ukuba ihambe ngawe .
Oku kuya kuba nzima, kodwa injongo kukukwazi ukusebenza ngezi mvakalelo ukuze ufunde indlela yokulila ngazo, kwaye ke uzikhulule, akunjalo?
Ayisiyonto ifuna ukulungiswa yonke ngexesha elinye.
Ngapha koko, akunakulindeleka ukuba ube nakho ukujongana neminyaka yoxinzelelo lwasemphefumlweni kwiseshoni enye.
Ukuba ukuzama kokuqala kukhulu kakhulu kuwe, ke ngoko yeka xa ufuna .
NGUWE olawulayo apha, ke uya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuziva kangakanani, kwaye nini.
Zama nje kwakhona xa uziva ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza njalo, kwaye uqhubeke nenkqubo ude uve ukuba idama liyaqhekeka ngokwaneleyo ukuze iinyembezi zikwazi ukuhamba.
Xa besenza (kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo baya kuthi), zama ukunqanda impendulo yakho yesiqhelo ukubamisa.
Akukho ntloni apha. Akukho buthathaka.
Akukho mntu ukugweba ngokungafanelekanga, okanye ucinga nantoni na embi ngawe.
Ujikelezwe ngu uthando olungenamiqathango , kunye nokwamkelwa, kunye nokukhanya.
Nokuba ulawula isnifu esincinci, inyembezi enye, okanye iseshoni enkulu yokuncwina, nceda uvuyisane nawe ngokuba namandla okutyhala uloyiko lwakho malunga nokuba sesichengeni.
Kungathatha ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba ukwazi ukukhulula ngokupheleleyo ukukhala kwentliziyo yakho, kwaye nangaphezulu koko kunokubonisa ukuba sesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo phambi komnye umntu.
Kwaye oko kulungile.
Thatha ixesha elininzi olifunayo, nokuba kungathatha iminyaka engama-50 okanye engama-60 elandelayo.
4. Ukunyusa uMqondiso
Ukuba uziva ukuba ufuna enye into eyongezelelweyo ukukunceda ekuphuculeni le mpendulo yeemvakalelo, zama ukuphinda ujonge iifilimu ukusuka ebuntwaneni bakho owaziyo ukuba ubukhala ngazo.
Ukufumana kwakhona la mava obuntwana kunokubangela iimvakalelo ezininzi, kwaye abanye abantu banokuziva bebubudenge ngokubukela iNgonyama yeKing okanye ezinye iimuvi ze-PG njengabantu abadala.
Kwakhona, akukho zigwebo.
Winnie the pooh intetho malunga nobomi
Esihogweni, ndaphinda ndafunda ibhulorho eya eTerabithia kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo kwaye ndaphela ndilila iyure elungileyo.
Xa kuziwa ekutshiseni ezo ndonga kunye nokufunda ukukhala kwakhona, imantra yokukhumbula nantsi Nantoni na esebenzayo.
Ukuba ubucinezela iimvakalelo zakho amashumi aliqela eminyaka, unokufuna i-jolt eyomeleleyo yokuqhekeza ezo ndonga zivulekileyo.
Yilungiselele nje ukuba intsholongwane yeemvakalelo enamandla inokuba namandla kakhulu.
Ukuba nomntu onokubhenela kuye xa ufumanisa ukuba unengxaki yokuphakuzela okanye uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo ngumbono olungileyo.
Ukuba kukho umntu omthembayo ngokungagungqiyo, vulela kuye malunga nokuba uzama ukusebenza ngantoni, kwaye usete inkqubo apho aya kuthi azi ukuba angenelele xa ufuna uncedo.
Nokuba ukhetha i-emoticon ukuze ubathumele umyalezo ukuze beze ne-ayiskhrim kunye nezicubu ngumbono olungileyo.
Le nkqubo yomhlobo isenokungaze ifuneke, kodwa kungcono ukuyiseka kwaye ungayidingi, kunokuba uyidinge kwaye ungabi nayo.
Qaphela: Amayeza amaninzi anokubala iimvakalelo
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba uninzi lwee-anti-depressants kunye neyeza ezichasayo (ezinje nge-benzodiazepines) zinokuqaqamba okanye zibangele iimvakalelo kakhulu.
Ayenzeki kuye wonke umntu obathathayo, kodwa yenye yeziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezinokubakho.
Olu luhlobo lwento abayenzelwe ukuba bayenze, kodwa inokuphazamisa xa wena Ndifuna ukulila, kodwa ngekhe .
Ukuba ukule ntlobo zamayeza kwaye uziva ngathi ziyaphazamisa amandla akho okukhulula iimvakalelo ngokulila, thetha nogqirha / nonyango lwakho.
Banokukwazi ukuhlengahlengisa idosi yakho ukunciphisa isiphumo sokuqaqamba, okanye babonelele ngeendlela zonyango zokukunceda ugqithe kule miqobo.
Iintsikelelo kuwe.
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