Ukuba mhle kuthetha ukuba nguwe.
Awudingi ukwamkelwa ngabanye.
Kufuneka uzamkele ngokwakho- Thich Nhat Hanh
Isicatshulwa esingentla sinokubonakala ngathi siyinto elula, kodwa sinzulu kwinyani, kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukuyithobela. Yinto, nangona kunjalo, ngomnye wemigaqo ephambili yokuzithanda.
Usenokuba ulwa nokuzithanda ngoku, kodwa kweli nqaku, uya kufunda ubuchule bokukhuthaza le mvakalelo ihlala ingenakwenzeka. Yamkela le ndlela inye kwaye uya kubona umohluko wokwenyani kwindlela oziphatha ngayo.
Makhe ndichaze…
Yonke imihla, sixinekile yimilayezo evela kuzo zonke iindlela ezizama ukukhohlisa kuthiye into ethile kuthi. Ezi zinokuza ngohlobo lweemagazini okanye izibhengezo zikamabonwakude ezisikhuthaza ekudleni nasekuzilolongeni ukuze sibe 'nomzimba wolwandle' esiza kuwuthanda.
Okanye unokuva i-yoga gurus inyanzelisa ukuba okoko nje sisela i-smoothies eyaneleyo eluhlaza kwaye sitsho iziqinisekiso zemihla ngemihla, siyakuhlala kwimeko yolonwabo rhoqo kwaye ekugqibeleni sizithande kwaye siba thande bonke abanye abantu ngendlela i-Universe ebesoloko isithetha ngayo.
Ewe, hayi. Akukho namnye kule miyalezo othetha into egwetyiweyo xa kufikwa kuthando lokwenene, kuba zonke zijolise kutshintsho.
Xa kuziwa ekufundeni ukuzithanda, imfihlelo kukuba ukuthanda wena ngokunyanisekileyo kuthetha ukuzamkela ngaphandle kwemeko. Ukungathathi sigqibo sokuba uyayithanda imeko yakho ye-X ngaphandle 'kweziphene' zakho. Ngenxa yokuba awunazo naziphi na iziphene. Ungumntu okhulayo kwaye oguqukayo kwimizuzu yonke yemihla ngemihla.
Abazali babantwana abancinci babona ezi ntlobo zotshintsho rhoqo, kodwa endaweni yokuxakaniseka ngaba bantu bancinci ngenxa yokungabi ngabantu abafezekileyo, izinto eziguqukileyo abanakho ukuba nazo, abazali banomonde kwaye bathambile, besazi ukuba abantwana babo Ukukhula ngokucacileyo kumaxesha ngamaxesha bafunda izifundo, kwaye bazama ukufumanisa umhlaba ongaqhelekanga, odidayo.
Khawufane ucinge ukuba umonde kwaye uthando olungenamiqathango zajikwa zaya kwisiqu.
Zithande kwaye uzamkele njengoko unokwenza kumntwana wakho
Akukho mahluko mkhulu phakathi kwethu nabantwana xa kufikwa kuphuhliso lomntu, ngaphandle kwento yokuba sibophele uxanduva kunye neenwele zomzimba. Sisoloko kufuneka sifunde izakhono kunye neekhonsepthi ezintsha, sithethathethane ngomhlaba omtsha, kwaye silwe nokuhlaselwa kwemicimbi yeemvakalelo kuwo onke amacala.
Sigcwele ziindaba ezimbi ezivela kwihlabathi liphela, kufuneka sisebenze indlela yethu yokujongana nemicimbi yobudlelwane, inkxalabo yezempilo, kunye nomdlalo weqonga… ngalo lonke elixesha sizigweba ngayo yonke impazamo esiyibonayo.
Endaweni yokubona amaqhude njengamathuba okufunda kunye nokuzixolela ngokuba ngabantu ababuthathaka abazama ukukhangela ubomi kangangoko sinako, sihlala soyiswa ukuzicekisa kunye netyala lokungafezeki. Sinokwenza impazamo emsebenzini, silwe namaqabane ethu ngenxa yokunxibelelana gwenxa, sizithiye ngokufumana iipawundi ezimbalwa okanye ukuba nobugorha bokukhulisa imigca yokuhleka okanye amabala ebunzi.
Ngaba ukhona kuthi ongenakuxolelwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo kwabo sibathandayo njengoko sizithanda thina?
Cinga ngokuthetha gwenxa onokuthi uzenzele imihla ngemihla ungakhe uthethe izinto ezinjalo emntwaneni? Luhlobo luni lomntu onokuba ngqwabalala nonobukrakra kumntu ocekeceke ozama nje ukubhukuqa ngobomi kangangoko banako?
Oku kunokuba ngumbono onzima kwabo bangenabo abantwana, kodwa nabantu abangakhulisi abantu abancinci kusenokwenzeka ukuba banamava ngothando olungenamiqathango, olungenakugweba. Injana entsha eqhekeza phantsi emgangathweni ayenzi njalo ngenxa yobubi, kodwa ngenxa yokuba engekafundi imithetho yokuzikhulula ngaphandle. Uya kuba neengozi ngamanye amaxesha, okanye mhlawumbi achame phantsi xa esoyika okanye othukile, kodwa amathuba okuba yenzeke, akazukungxoliswa okanye abethwe, kodwa uya kuthuthuzelwa kwaye aqinisekiswe.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Iimpawu ezili-15 zoMntu oQolileyo ngokweemvakalelo
- Indlela yokuziqhayisa
- UngaziThoba njani kwezi zinto zine iindlela zokumisa
- Ungakholelwa Njani Kuwe Kwaye Woyike Ukungaqiniseki
- Ukuba Unosuku Olubi, Zikhumbuze Ngezi zinto zingama-20
Ukwamkelwa okungenamiqathango, ngaphandle kokuthelekisa nabanye
Akukho mntu ehlabathini ufana nawe, kwaye kwalapho kukho ubuncwane obungakholelekiyo. Ungubani, kwaye kufuneka unikele ngantoni yahluke ngokupheleleyo , kwaye ayinakuthelekiswa nomnye umntu. Ngonaphakade. Leyo yingcinga yotshintsho kwihlabathi elihlala lisithelekisa neembono abanye abaziva ngathi 'kufanele' ukuba sizabalazela ukufana nazo, kodwa uxolo, hayi. Akukho mntu umkhulu okanye ungaphantsi komnye umntu, kwaye asinakuze sizithelekise nabanye. Abangabo, asingabo.
ungamoshi njani umntu othandana naye
Ngamanye amaxesha singakhuthazwa ngabanye abantu ukuba bathathe inyathelo elithile kubomi bethu, kodwa hayi ngendlela eya kuthoba isidima sethu okanye isenze sicinge ukuba singonwaba ngakumbi okanye siphumelele ngakumbi ukuba besifana nabo.
Njengomzekelo, masithi uhlala ufuna ukuqala umbutho ongenzi nzuzo, kwaye umntu omthandayo wenze into efanayo. Ngazo zonke iindlela, jonga indlela abayilungiselele ngayo indlela yabo, kodwa ungazami ukubalingisa. Ungayixabisa impumelelo yabo kwaye uzame ukumodareyitha ishishini lakho kwezabo, okoko nje ungazigxeki ngokungahambi ngokuchanekileyo emanyathelweni abo.
Ngaba umhlobo wakho waphulukana nenqwaba yobunzima kwaye ngoku kubonakala ngathi banexabiso lokuzithemba? Kulungile ke. Ukuzama ukuya ejimini rhoqo ukuze womelele kwaye ube sempilweni kulungile, kodwa khumbula ukuba nantoni na oyibonayo kumajelo asekuhlaleni abantu abanyanzelekileyo babonisa ezona zinto zibalaseleyo esidlangalaleni, kwaye kunqabile ukuba kuphume konke ukungakhathali okujikelezayo ngaphakathi .
Kuwo wonke umba esiwubonayo ukuba siwutolika njengolungileyo, zininzi kakhulu izithunzi ezifihliweyo ezifakwe kwiikona. Bambalwa kakhulu abantu ababonisa iifoto zolusu lwabo olusemngciphekweni emva kokuphulukana nobunzima, okanye imifanekiso yabo kumazwe okudinwa okupheleleyo emva kokusebenza iiyure ezili-18 zeentsuku zenyanga ukuze bafumane ishishini labo emhlabeni.
Xa kufikwa kubudlelwane bethu nabanye abantu, sinokuzibek 'ityala ngokungabi ngabahlobo okanye iqabane elifanelekileyo, sinqwenela ukuba sifane nabanye esibaziyo.
Sinokuzicekisa kakhulu ngokuba nezithintelo ngokweemvakalelo ezinje ngoxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo, ezinokuthi ngamanye amaxesha zibangele ukuba sirhoxise imihla okanye siphoxe abahlobo. Nokuba abo sibathandayo bayasiqonda kuthi endaweni yokufumana konke Ukuba nomsindo kunye ne-trip-trippy, ukuziphindezela kunokukhaba kwi-hardcore, ebangela ukuba ukuzithemba kuphele.
Uninzi lwethu lunokuba nolindelo lohlobo lomntu esifanele ukuba lulo, kuba ngabazali bethu, abahlobo, okanye abantakwethu, kwaye bangcono kakhulu kunathi, akunjalo? Ufanele ngakumbi uthando? Imfesane? Ukuqonda?
Xa sizamkela ngaphandle kwemeko, ngobulali kunye noxabiso, sinokuba nombulelo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu. Ukuzithiya ngenxa yokuba ubuntu bethu, indlela esiziphatha ngayo, okanye iingxowa zenyama zethu zethutyana zingahambelani neminye imigangatho yabantu 'yokugqibelela' kubonakala ngathi kukuchitha ixesha namandla, akunjalo?
Kwakhona sijikela kumbono wokuzithanda ngokungathandabuzekiyo, njengoko sinokwenza kubantwana bethu. Ngamanye amaxesha kuyanceda ukuzijonga ngokwethu njengokuba sasinjalo xa sasibancinci, nokuba oko kuthetha ukumba iifoto ezindala ukusuka ebuntwaneni bethu kunye nokuthumela ezimbalwa zazo endlwini. Ngalo lonke ixesha uqala ukucinga kakubi ngawe, jonga ukuba wawungubani xa wawuneminyaka emithandathu okanye esixhenxe ubudala, kwaye ukhusele loo mntwana ungavumeli nabani na ukuba athethe okanye enze nantoni na ethoba isidima okanye ekhohlakeleyo kulowo mncinci, kuba loo magama angenza umonakalo ongaphezulu kunokuba uninzi lwazi.
Ubomi bunzima kwaye siyoyikeka kwaye sihle, kwaye ekugqibeleni, sinokuba kuphela ukuba singobani, kwaye senze konke okusemandleni ethu.
