Olunye uthando luziva luluqilima-iintsuku zokuqala zentabatheko, okanye ubudlelwane obude obuziva buxhomekeke ekuthumeleni imiyalezo engapheliyo, umzekelo.
Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa uthando lwakho lufumana kakhulu?
Ukuba iqabane lakho likhankanyile ukuba uyathandana ngokugqithileyo okanye ukuba uqala ukubathambisa, usenokuba ungene kwi-borderline obsession.
Yenziwe ngokulula, ngakumbi kwiintsuku zokuqala, kodwa zikhona iindlela onokuzinqanda ukuba zingadluli kunye nokuphuma esandleni.
Nantsi indlela yokuyeka ukutshayisa isithandwa sakho okanye intombi oyithandayo.
1. Thatha umoya.
Ukuba izinto ziya ziba nzulu kwaye usokola ukunika iqabane lakho isithuba, zibekele usukelo lokuphefumla.
Awudingi uthathe ikhefu kubudlelwane , kodwa licebo elihle ukuba uzinike iintsuku ezimbalwa ukuze uphole nje kwaye uyeke ukubathambisa.
Cwangcisa isikhumbuzi kwifowuni yakho ukuze sitsha engqondweni yakho yonke imihla ngaphambi kokuba ubabone.
Cwangcisa ialam ngokuhlwa ngalunye ukuze ungachithi ubusuku bonke ubathumela imiyalezo kungekho sizathu sokwenyani- xa ialam ikhala, uthi ulala kakuhle kwaye ubavumela babenendawo ethile.
Chitha ixesha elininzi wedwa.
Ukuba kubonakala ngathi uyabathanda kakhulu, usenokuziva unamathele ngakumbi mva nje kuba ulwalamano lwakho luthathe ubomi bakho!
Oku kwenzeka kweyona nto intle kuthi-sichitha lonke ixesha lethu kunye neqabane lethu kwaye sithembele kubo ngakumbi nangakumbi ukusizalisekisa, amaxesha amaninzi ngokufuna ukusondelelana rhoqo ngokweemvakalelo nangothando.
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Zama ukukhupha olu xinzelelo ngokufunda ukonwabela ukuchitha ixesha wedwa kwakhona.
Banike indawo kwaye uzikhuphele ikofu, okanye uchithe ubusuku ungahlali kunye rhoqo.
Fumana i-hobby entsha eyenzelwe wena kwaye ukongeza ixabiso kwixesha lakho lodwa. Akudingi ukuba yedwa okanye uyadika, kwaye unokuzigcina uxakekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba awuyi kuliphosa iqabane lakho okanye uhendeke ukuba ubaleke ubuye uzokubabona!
3. Qala ukuxhoma kunye nabahlobo ngakumbi.
Kwakhona, kuya kufuneka uthathe inyathelo ubuye kulwalamano kwaye uyeke ukuthanda iqabane lakho ngaphezulu.
Ukuhlala nabahlobo yindlela entle yokuziva wonwabile kwaye unomdla, ukuba neencoko ezinkulu, kunye nokuziva uxabisekile njengomntu.
Usanxibelelana kwaye uchitha ixesha kunye nabantu obathandayo, ayisiyiyo kuphela neqabane lakho.
Baza kuba nakho ukukugcina uxakekile kwaye uphazamisekile, kwaye banokukunceda ukunyanzelisa umthetho ongathumeli miyalezo ngelixa ukunye nabo, ukuze uqiniseke ukuba awuthathanga ukubambelela kwakho kumanqanaba amatsha, edijithali!
Chitha ixesha nezinye izibini.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba nothando olukhulu kunokuziva kuyinto eqhelekileyo - uhlala unje kwaye awucingi ukuba uyothusa ngokwenza oko.
Ukuchitha ixesha nesinye isibini kuya kukunceda uvavanye indlela oziphethe ngayo kwaye ubone ukuba ezinye izibini zijikeleza njani.
Unokuqonda ukuba ugcwele kakhulu kwiqabane lakho kwaye abanye abantu abayinyani le nto.
5. Cinga ngokuba ivelaphi lento.
Cinga ngesizathu sokuba uzive ufuna ukubonisa uthando lwakho kakhulu.
Mhlawumbi unexhala lokuba abavakalelwa ngendlela efanayo, kungoko ungxamile ukuzama ukubakhuthaza yiba nothando ngakumbi .
Mhlawumbi uzama ukubenza bakukhathalele ngakumbi, okanye ukhathazekile banokukukhohlisa ukuba awunalo uthando olwaneleyo.
Okanye mhlawumbi awukhuselekanga kuwe kwaye uzive uswele ngokwenene iqabane lakho.
Nokuba yeyiphi na, kufanelekile ukuba ucinge ngayo ukuze uhlakulele imikhwa emitsha, esempilweni kwaye usebenze kubudlelwane obulunge ngakumbi, obuqolileyo kunye.
6. Thetha neqabane lakho ngalo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho libonakalisile ukuba uyabathanda ‘kakhulu,’ kufuneka uzame ukuba nencoko evulekileyo nethembekileyo malunga noku.
Okukhona usazi malunga nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo, kokukhona kuya kukukhuthaza ngakumbi.
Kuya kufuneka uhloniphe iqabane lakho kwaye ubenakho ukulungelelanisa indlela oziphethe ngayo ukuze ube nobudlelwane obusempilweni, obusebenzayo kunye nomntu othile.
Asitsho ukuba kufuneka uyitshintshe ngokupheleleyo indlela oziphethe ngayo, kodwa wena neqabane lakho ninako ukwenza ulungelelwaniso ukuze nifumane indawo eyonwabisayo esebenzela wonke umntu.
7. Khawufane ucinge ukuba imeko ibibuyiselwe umva.
Zama ukucinga ukuba ungaziva njani xa iqabane lakho liqhubeka lisenza into elaziyo ukuba awukhululekanga ngayo, kwanasemva kokuba uyikhankanyile amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Mhlawumbi ungaziva ungahlonitshwa kwaye ngathi abakukhathalelanga okanye abalixabisanga uluvo lwakho.
Kunokuba yinkohliso ukubona ukuba kutheni ukuthandwa kunokucaphukisa umntu-kodwa kungaphezulu koko. Imalunga nokungahoyi iimvakalelo zabo kwaye wenze le nto uyifunayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, yinto leyo wena ucinga intle, kodwa umgaqo uyafana - awubaphulaphuli kwaye inokudibana ngokungathi awukhathalelanga ubudlelwane obaneleyo ukuzama ukutshintsha indlela oziphethe ngayo.
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8. Khumbula ixesha elide.
Unokuba nomsindo kwaye kunokuba nzima ekuqaleni ukulungelelanisa indlela owenza ngayo, ngakumbi ukuba ibingumkhwa onjalo kuwe.
Kodwa, kulungile ukugxila kwikamva kwaye ukhumbule ukuba kutheni usenza oku. Ufuna ubudlelwane buhlale kwaye ufuna ukuba bazi ukuba ufuna izinto zisebenze kangakanani.
Ukuzincama okuncinci rhoqo ngoku kuya kulunga - xhathisa umnqweno wokubanga okanye ubathumele imiyalezo rhoqo kwaye uyakhawuleza ungene kumkhwa wokuncipha.
Konke kungunobangela olungileyo kwaye ukwazi ukulalanisa sisakhono esihle esinokubakho ekwakheni nasekugcineni ubudlelwane obunempilo.
9. Khangela ezinye iindlela.
Ukuba uziva ngathi uthambisa iqabane lakho ngothando, kwaye ukuba sele beqalisile ukukhankanya ukuba iyabakhathaza, kufuneka wenze iinguqulelo ezithile.
Zama ukufumana iindlela ezintsha zokubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba uyabathanda kangakanani - akufuneki ukuba ugonane kwaye uthumele imiyalezo ngalo lonke ixesha!
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Unokwenza izinto ezincinci ukubazisa ukuba ubakhathalele kangakanani, njengokubukela imovie abayithandayo kunye nabo okanye ukubamangalisa ngokutya okumnandi.
Kukho iindlela zokubonisa uthando ngaphandle kokugungxula iqabane lakho, kungathatha ixesha ukufumana into esebenzayo kuni nobabini - kodwa iphilile kwaye iqhelekile!
Kusenokufuneka wenze ukulalanisa ukuze ugcine iqabane lakho liziva likhululekile, kodwa usenokubabonisa ukuba uyabathanda, ungakhathazeki.
10. Cinga ngeenjongo zakho.
Indlela elungileyo yokufumana ukubonakaliswa kothando okunempilo kukujonga ukuba kutheni uziva unesidingo sokwenza oko kakhulu.
Ngaba uzama ngokungazenzisiyo ukusebenzisa iqabane lakho ngokweemvakalelo, okanye ngaba uzama ukubenza babe netyala ukuze bakubonise uthando ngeendlela ezifanayo nangamandla afanayo nawokwenza kwabo?
Okukhona unokukhupha apho kuvela khona le ndlela yokuziphatha, kuya kuba lula ukubuyela umva kancinci kwaye ufumane iindlela ezintsha zokuchaza ngempilo yakho indlela oziva ngayo.
11. Yeka ukubakho.
Iqabane lakho lisenokusetyenziswa kuwe rhoqo ubekhona kwaye ubekhona. Basenokungayithandi, kodwa baya kuyisebenzisa kangangokuba indlela yokuziphatha yakho ingaqala ukuziva ngathi yinto eqhelekileyo njengomkhwa.
Asitsho ukuba ufuna ukuya kubanda ubusika, kodwa kuya kufuneka uzame ukuzigcina ungafumaneki.
Ukufumana umgama omncinci kuya kukuyekisa ukuba ufikelele kubo kwaye kuya kukunceda ufumane iindlela ezilungeleleneyo zokunxibelelana nokunxibelelana nomntu omthandayo!
12. Spice izinto phezulu.
Zama ukuyilahla kwakhona imbono yakho yothando. Kuyathandeka ukungaguquguquki kunye nokuhlamba iqabane lakho ngothando, kodwa kunokuba nzima kwaye kungabi nempilo!
Endaweni yokuzixelela ukuba kufuneka unciphise unxibelelwano kunye neqabane lakho, elinokuziva linomda kwaye lingalunganga, jolisa kwizinto ezintle.
Uza ukubamangalisa kwaye ube nokuzenzekelayo ngakumbi kumsa wakho! Le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokutshintsha utshintsho kwindlela oziphethe ngayo kwaye uyenze ibe ngathi yindlela elungileyo nenomdla endaweni yokuba ubambe umva.
Baya kuthanda izinto ezimangalisayo kwaye baya kuziva bonwaba ngakumbi ukuba nokugqabhuka kothando kunye nothando kunokujonga rhoqo.
13. Bathembe.
Ukuba uqaphele ukuba uninzi lwezenzo zakho zivela kukungazithembi kunye nokungabikho kokuthembela kwiqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka ujonge ukuba kutheni kunokuba njalo.
Ngaba bakunike isizathu sokuziva ulumkile kunye nabo? Ungathetha neqabane lakho malunga nale micimbi ibangela ukuba uzive uncamathele ngakumbi.
Usenokuziva ngathi ufuna ukumakisha ‘intsimi yakho,’ okanye ngokungathi kufuneka usoloko ubakhumbuza ngobukhulu bakho ukuze bangahendeki ukukhohlisa.
Zama ukubonisa uthando ngezizathu ezivakalayo, hayi ngenxa yokoyika.
Ukuziqhelanisa kwenza ugqibelele.
Zama ukuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye neqabane lakho kwaye uzicel 'umngeni ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba uhambe ixesha elide ngaphandle kokubamba okanye uncamathele.
Zama imizuzwana embalwa, emva koko ube nemizuzu embalwa. Okukhona unokwenza indlela entsha yokuziphatha (njengokuhlala ecaleni kwabo ungababethiyo), kokukhona kuya kuqala ukuziva.
Uya kukhawuleza uqaphele ukuba akukho nto imbi yenzekayo ukuba awuzange utyiwa yimizuzu embalwa!
Iqabane lakho linokuba nomdla ngakumbi ekuqaliseni uthando kuba baya kuba nendawo yabo.
Kungoyikisa ekuqaleni ukuzibamba, kodwa, sithembele, kufanelekile ukunika oku. Okukhona usenza, kokukhona uya kuziva ungakhathazeki, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uya kuqonda ukuba akukho miphumo mibi.
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Sonke siba namandla kakhulu kumaqabane ethu ngaxa lithile- nokuba kukubonisa uthando lwethu, ukufihla uloyiko lwethu, okanye ukukhumbuza abanye abantu ukuba iqabane lethu lithathiwe.
Ngokungena kwizizathu ezibangela ukubambelela kwakho, uya kuba kwindawo engcono kakhulu yokwenza uguquko olusempilweni kunye nentloko ebhekise kubudlelwane obulunge ngakumbi, obungenabungozi.
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